Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Baat kisi bhi cheez ki ho, sunne wale ko lagne lagta hai ki ise khatam karna uski zimmedaari hai, jaise poori gali ya khaandaan ki shaanti aapke agle kadam par tiki ho.
Kuch logon mein ye darshak chhoti umar mein aa gaye: koi mummy ya papa jo report card, baal katwane, der se ghar lautne ya kisi rishtedaar ki khabar par poochhe ki padosi kya sochenge, khabar jo lunch se pehle har ghar pahunch jaati thi.
Neeche-neeche ek manyata ban sakti hai: “Log kya sochte hain, usi se tay hota hai ki mera haal kaisa hai,” ya “Sabke saamne parivar ko neecha nahi dikhana.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Kuch samay ke liye function ke bulaave taal dena
- Har sambhavit sawaal ka shaant, taiyaar jawab bana lena
- Pichhla jamavda dohrana, ye samajhne ko ki kisne kya kaha
- Muskurana aur chup rehna, phir lautte hue sab dobara sochna
- Faisla jaldi nipatane ki kheench mehsoos karna, bas isliye ki baatein tham jaayein
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Gaya se mummy ka phone
Gaya wale ghar se mummy ka phone. Roz ke sawaalon ke baad wo awaaz dheemi karke kehti hain, “Log baatein banane lage hain, samajh rahe ho na?” Wo nahi batatin ki kaun. Aap shishtata se call rakhte ho, phir chupchaap baithe rah jaate ho, un anjaane chehron ki bheed sochte hue jo aapki zindagi dekh rahi hai aur kam paa rahi hai. Baad mein nukkad ki dukaan par sochne lagte ho ki dukaandaar bhi to unmein nahi.
Aise jeena ki baat na bane
Sabse pehle saaf baat: aapki zindagi koi show nahi hai jiske darshak hon, asli ya kalpanik. Par aise palon se ek niyam ban sakta hai, jo phir aapka apna ho jaata hai: “Mujhe aise jeena hai ki koi baat na bana paaye.” Upar se ye bas samajhdaari lagti hai. Zyada-tar log haami bharenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ek adrishya bheed aapke faisle karne lagti hai.
Parivaaron mein izzat kyun maayne rakhti hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki kai parivaaron mein izzat maayne rakhti hai. Zyada-tar log iska koi roop dhote hain, aur ye sabse aam fikron mein se hai. Shayad aapne zindagi bhar “Log kya kahenge” suna. Shayad parivar ko chinta nahi dena chahte. Jo bhi ho, unki parwah galat nahi. Ye pyaar se aati hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Badhti hui ek anjaani bheed
Har “Log baatein bana rahe hain” bheed ko aur bada kar deta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap aisi baatcheetein kalpana karte ho jo kabhi suni nahi. Baaton se bachne ko plans badalte ho. Har jagah nazar mein hone jaisa lagta hai. Bheed jitni oonchi hoti hai, aapki apni chaahein utni chhoti, aur zindagi ek pradarshan-si lagne lagti hai.
Kya bheed aapki zindagi se badi?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: is niyam ko pakadne se kya bheed kabhi shaant hui? Ya zyada-tar aapke sir mein aur oonchi ho gayi? Koi insaan aise nahi jee sakta ki koi baat hi na kare. Kalpanik darshak aapki zindagi ka paimana nahi. Ise bina dosh ke, narmi se poochhna theek hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Jo sahi lage, us hisaab se jeena
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap parivar ki parwah chhod do. Matlab ye hai ki ek adrishya bheed ab aapke faisle nahi karti. Aap us hisaab se jee sakte ho jo aapko sahi lage. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Chhoti shuruaat ho sakti hai, ek pal mein ek. Wahin se thodi shaanti lautti hai: zindagi phir aapki banti hai, kisi ke liye show nahi.
Being pushed or pressured to marry, threatened, frightened, watched or kept from people is something else, and worth taking seriously; going along for now can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe aise jeena hai ki koi baat na bana paaye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri zindagi koi show nahi hai; jo sahi lage wahi hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Mann mein us ek faisle ka naam lijiye jo aapko sahi lagta hai
- Din 2
Jab kalpanik bheed oonchi ho jaaye, ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Din 3
Aaj ek kaam sirf isliye kijiye ki aapko wo pasand hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab aapne suna “Log baatein banane lage hain”, to sabse pehle mann mein kiska chehra aaya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Nijee maamle mein ek bheed bula li gayi #
Gaya se phone par mummy, awaaz dheemi karke: “Log baatein banane lage hain.” Kabhi gate par padosi chachi ka ishaara, kabhi kisi cousin ki sagai ke baad buaji ki tippani, kabhi kisi shaadi mein aage badhayi gayi baat. Vaakya mein shayad hi kisi ka naam aata hai, aur zaroorat bhi nahi padti.
Ye ek nijee maamle mein bheed bula laata hai. Achanak kab, ya kabhi, ya kisse wala sawaal jaise tamashaiyon ke saamne khada ho, jinka na koi chehra hai, na ginti, na ant. Ye darshak asli hon ya kalpanik, farq nahi padta.
Aakhri baar “Log baatein banane lage hain” aap tak pahuncha, to kaun laya tha, aur aap us waqt kya tay kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kamra sikudta-sa kyun lagta hai #
Kuch log ise gardan ke peeche garmi ki tarah mehsoos karte hain, kandhe ke upar se jhaankne ki ichchha, deewarein thoda kareeb aati hui. Kuch saapat aur shisht ho jaate hain, aur baat aage badh jaati hai isse pehle ki kuch theek se mehsoos ho.
Ye sunna ki logon ka koi samooh aapki baat kar raha hai, ek second mein darj ho jaata hai, sochne se pehle. Soch aksar baad mein aati hai, raat ko, pichhle jamavde ke chehre chhaantte hue ki unmein se kaun-kaun “log” the.
Ye sunne ke baad pehle second mein aapke shareer ne kya kiya, aur chuppi bharne ko aapne kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bina naam ki baat ka koi kinara nahi #
“Aapki chachi ne aapke baare mein poochha” ek insaan aur ek sawaal ki baat hai. “Log baatein banane lage hain” mein kisi ka naam nahi, to mann khaali jagah bharta hai, aur kuch log dekhte hain ki wo use apni jaani-pehchani sabse kadi awaazon se bhar deta hai.
Ye bojh bhi khisaka deta hai. Baat kisi bhi cheez ki ho, sunne wale ko lagne lagta hai ki ise khatam karna uski zimmedaari hai, jaise poori gali ya khaandaan ki shaanti aapke agle kadam par tiki ho.
Jab baat par koi naam nahi, to aapka mann bheed mein kin chehron ko bithata hai, aur unhein hi kyun chunta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab bheed ghar ke andar aa jaaye #
Baar-baar suno to bheed ghar ke andar aa jaati hai. “Sab meri hi baat kar rahe honge.” “Agli shaadi mein kya kahenge?” “Main wahan chehra kaise dikhaun?” Kabhi-kabhi kisi function ki ghoshna hone se pehle hi ye shuru ho jaata hai.
Darshakon ko sunne ke liye maujood hona zaroori nahi. Photo daalne se pehle jaancha jaata hai ki doosron ko kaisi lagegi, plan taula jaata hai ki dobara sunane par kaisa sunayi dega, shaant Sunday bhi safayi dene layak lagne lagta hai. Ye aapki hi awaaz mein bolti hai, isliye samajhdaari lagti hai.
Jab sir ki kalpanik bheed bolti hai, to uski aguwai kiski awaaz karti hai, aur wo awaaz aapne pehli baar kahan suni thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye bheed bachpan se thi #
Kuch logon mein ye darshak chhoti umar mein aa gaye: koi mummy ya papa jo report card, baal katwane, der se ghar lautne ya kisi rishtedaar ki khabar par poochhe ki padosi kya sochenge, khabar jo lunch se pehle har ghar pahunch jaati thi.
Kuch gharon mein doosron ki raay ka zikr aksar hota tha; doosron mein shayad hi kabhi, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nishkarsh nikal sakta hai ki paas mein kahin ek gallery baithi hai, aur uski raay ka vote ginaa jaata hai.
Aapke aaspaas ke badon ko koi faisla is hisaab se taulte hue aapne pehli baar kab dekha ki doosre kya kahenge, aur wo faisla kis baare mein tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baith sakne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek manyata ban sakti hai: “Log kya sochte hain, usi se tay hota hai ki mera haal kaisa hai,” ya “Sabke saamne parivar ko neecha nahi dikhana.” Kuch log halka roop dhote hain: “Agar log baat kar rahe hain, to zaroor mujhse kuch galat hua.”
Aisi manyata manyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo cheezein kaise chalti hain, iski samajh lagti hai, jaise nikalne se pehle aasmaan dekh lena saamanya samajhdaari hai. Isiliye kabhi-kabhi ise dhoop mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi ke kin kamron mein “doosron ki baatein mere faisle tay karti hain” ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Bheed ko saath dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai kisi cousin ke sangeet mein na jaana, naukri ki achhi khabar daba lena ki kahin doosri baat na khul jaaye, ya har paarivarik dinner ke raaste mein jawab ratna. Kuch log bina tay kiye photo daalna band kar dete hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Zindagi ke sabse bade faisle kisi aisi committee ke lagne lagte hain jise kisi ne chuna nahi, aur bheed ke liye liya gaya faisla apna ghar nahi lagta. Saal bhar mein ye doosron ki sambhavit raay par bitayi kai shaamein ban sakti hain.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Har jagah darshak saath dhona asli mehnat hai.
Pichhle saal doosron ki baaton ke bojh ne aapse kya liya: chhoote jamavde, dabi khabrein, mude plans?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, gallery ki nazar mein #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Doosron ki baatein mere faisle tay karti hain” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ghar se call jo baar-baar usi vishay par laut aati hai, ek photo jo daali nahi gayi, weekend plan jo is par badla ki wahan kaun hoga, mahinon door kisi function ke liye ratta hua jawab. Kuch baithega, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Gallery ke shor wale Tuesday mein kya hai: call, plans, wo baatein jinhein is hisaab se taula gaya ki dobara sunane par kaisi lagengi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Gallery ki nazar wale us aam Tuesday ko dekhkar aapko, agar kuch, to kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kaun se log, theek-theek? #
“Log” bada shabd hai. Todkar dekhein to nikal sakta hai ki do rishtedaar hain, ya ek padosi, ya teen baar aage badhaya gaya ek vaakya, ya shayad zyada. Kuch logon ko bas ye dekhna sukoon deta hai ki bheed ka aakaar abhi tak pata nahi.
Baat aur zindagi alag cheezein hain. Baat tez aur oonchi chal sakti hai, jabki uske beech ka insaan hi subahon, saalon aur ghar mein us faisle ke saath jeeta hai. Kuch ko dono ko alag rakhna kaam ka lagta hai, ye tay kiye bina ki baat sahi hai ya nahi.
Agar “log” shabd ki jagah asli naam rakhne hon, to kitne naam honge, aur unmein se kitne aapko achhi tarah jaante hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log pichhle jamavde ko kareeb se dekhte hain, to notice karte hain ki uska kitna hissa unke bina kendra mein chal raha tha: khaana, sangeet, bachche jo kursiyon ke beech daud rahe the, ek boodhe chacha jo apna pasandida kissa phir suna rahe the.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo kabhi baat aage nahi badhate: ek dost jo naye shauq ke baare mein poochhta hai, ek cousin jo gaane bhejti hai, ek padosi jo bas cricket ki baatein karte hain. Kabhi baat sunayi dene se chhoti nikli, aur kabhi darr us kamre ke baare mein sahi tha.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun log aapke baare mein nahi, aapse baat karte hain, aur wo baatcheetein aam taur par kis baare mein hoti hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Bina chehre ki bheed ko jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki baaton ko ginaa jaana chahiye, na ye dikhana ki wo chubhti nahi. Matlab bas itna ki bina chehre ki ek bheed ka is par kam chale ki koi din, koi phone call ya koi function kaisa lage.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab ve us darshak ko khush karne ki koshish chhod dete hain jo kabhi saamne nahi aata. Aisa darshak keh nahi sakta ki wo khush hai, isliye mehnat ki koi manzil nahi, aur bheed har kamre ke kendra mein bani rehti hai.
Kuch baatein achhi wajahon se, suraksha samet, chup rakhi jaati hain, aur ye theek hai.
Agar kalpanik bheed ko table par chhoti kursi mile, to parivar ka ek function kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Sab meri hi baat kar rahe hain” mahinon se baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Baatein to baatein hain; meri zindagi wo hai jo mere ghar ke bheetar chalti hai.”
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise kisi jamavde se pehle aazmate hain, aur kehte hain ki dheere se dohrane par ye bheed ki bhari jagah ka thoda hissa le leti hai.
Doosron ki baaton ke baare mein aapke shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kaisa hoga, jo chubhan ke baare mein imaandaar ho, par faisla bheed ke haath mein na de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein darwaaze par utari ja sakti hain #
Baaton ki har khabar ko uske srot tak khojna, har rishtedaar ke liye jawab banana ya agle function ka plan banana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur jooton ke saath darwaaze ke paas utara ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un logon ke liye jagah bachti hai jo unse baat karte hain, aur zindagi ke un hisson ke liye jinka kisi ki raay se koi lena-dena nahi.
Baat ko shaam ke liye utaar dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya maamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki bina chehre ki bheed ko baaki raat mein aapke peeche nahi aana padta.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar bheed zara dheemi pad jaaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai: baat bolne walon ki hai, aur faisle uske, jo unhein jee raha hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ek photo jo isliye daali ki pasand thi, weekend jo apni pasand ka rakha, ya paarivarik function jiska khaane aur sangeet ke liye maza liya.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Ek aam hafte mein sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun si chhoti, aam cheez aap is soch ke bina karna chahoge ki dobara kaise sunayi jaayegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi bheed”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: is baar “log” mein theek-theek kaun hai?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada zor kiska hai: baat ka, ya use aap tak laane wali awaaz ka
- Is mahine ka koi ek faisla yaad kijiye jo aapka apna laga, bhale chhota
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi
Chhote, private aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab aapne suna “Log baatein banane lage hain”, to sabse pehle mann mein kiska chehra aaya?
- Jab baat aap tak pahunchi, aap kaun sa maza lene ya kaun sa faisla karne wale the?
- Kaun sa jamavda ya phone call baar-baar yaad aata hai, aur uske kis hisse par aap lautte hain?
- Jis aam din doosron ki baatein bhaari lagein, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar doosron ki baaton ka bojh zara halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?