Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Wo kisi aur ki zindagi ka ek chamakta pal uthakar aapki poori zindagi ke baghal mein rakh deti hai, beech ke uljhe hisson samet.
Khaane ki mez par padhe jaate report card, class mein pukaare jaate number, kisne kis college mein naam likhwaya aur kaun bahar gaya.
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Ginti tabhi hai jab aage rahoon,” ya “Ghar mein apni jagah kamaani padti hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Muskurakar sar hilana aur baat khaane, cricket ya mausam ki taraf ghuma dena
- Chup ho jaana, aur ghar lautte hue wo line behtar jawabon ke saath dohrana
- Baad mein us insaan ki profile kholkar baareekiyan milana
- Kuch hafte jaan-jee se pakadne mein lag jaana, aur phir us koshish se thak jaana
- Apni khabar kam karke batana, taaki wo kisi aur ki khabar ke baghal mein na rakhi jaye
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Offer letter aur cousin
Aap utsaah se Mummy-Papa ko apna naya offer letter dikhate ho, Mirzapur ki baithak mein. Mummy sar hilakar kehti hain, “Wo Chacha ka beta dekho, itni kam umar mein manager.” Papa bhi haami bharte hain. Aap muskurakar letter wapas lifaafe mein rakh dete ho. Baaki shaam aapki khabar chupchaap sikudti jaati hai, jab tak bag mein na sama jaye, aur kisi ko batane layak bhi na rahe.
Aage rahoon tabhi kaafi
Ye shabd ek niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se aapke andar hai: “Main tabhi kaafi hoon jab doosron se aage rahoon.” Ye mahatvakaanksha jaisa lagta hai, ek achha, kaam ka dhakka bhi. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki poori zindagi ko ranking bana deta hai. Aap jo kar rahe ho uski khushi is par tik jaati hai ki is saal kaun aapse zara behtar kar raha hai, aur aisa koi hamesha hota hai.
Tulna se naape jaane ki aadat
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki bade hote hue humein aksar tulna se hi naapa gaya. Shayad jab se yaad hai, cousin ke number ya padosi ke bete ki baatein sunte aaye. Shayad ghar mein aage rehne par hi aap dikhayi dete the. Jo bhi ho, ye niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye un logon se qadar paane ki chaah se aata hai jinhone aapko bada kiya. Ye narmi ka haqdaar hai, dosh ka nahi.
Aapki khabar ki utarti chamak
Har tulna aapki apni zindagi ki chamak thodi kam kar deti hai. Aap achhi khabar tab tak chhupate ho jab tak wo jeetne layak badi na ho jaye. Parivaarik mauqon se pehle dekhte ho ki cousin kya kar rahe hain. Kisi bhi sahi naap se achha karte hue bhi peechhe mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere jin cheezon par garv tha, wo apni nahi lagtin, kyunki wo tabhi ginti jaati hain jab kisi aur ki cheezon ko hara dein.
Kya ye muqabala iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: doosron ko haraane ki zaroorat ne kabhi aapki apni khabar ko achha mehsoos karaya? Ya zyadatar chhota? Tulna kiya jaana jaayaz nahi, aur usse aapki qadar ka kuch pata nahi chalta; unke shabd unke chune hue the. Jo bhi ho, aapke cousin ki zindagi aapki zindagi ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itne kaskar pakadna iske layak hai?
Aapki khabar jaisi hai, waisi ginti jaye
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tulna jaayaz thi, ya aapko usse sahmat hona hai. Matlab ye ki aapki apni khabar ko gine jaane ke liye kisi muqable mein jeetna zaroori nahi. Apne job offer par aap garv kar sakte ho, jaisa wo hai, apne liye jo uska matlab hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki zindagi ranking nahi rehti, phir se aapki apni kahani ban jaati hai.
If comparisons come with threats, being hurt or frightened, or being kept from people, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMain tabhi kaafi hoon jab doosron se aage rahoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri zindagi muqabala nahi. Meri khabar jaisi hai, ginti jaati hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apni ek achhi khabar ka poora din maza lijiye
- Kadam 2
Tulna aaye to ek aisi cheez ka naam lijiye jisse khushi ho
- Kadam 3
Ek cheez sochiye jo aapko pasand hai aur jeetne se judi nahi
Is par baat karni hai?
“Tulna kisse thi, aur uska kaun sa hissa sabse zyada aapke saath reh gaya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Baatcheet mein uchhla ek naam #
Mirzapur ki shaam, baithak mein chai. Kabhi cousin ki Dubai wali job ka zikr, kabhi padosi Sharma ji ke bete ki rank, kabhi kisi ka promotion. Sunday ke family call par ya chai ki mez par baat chhidti hai, aur kamre ki nazarein dheere-se aapki taraf mudti lagti hain.
Aksar ye halke mein kahi jaati hai, ek baat se doosri baat ke beech, aur baatcheet aage badh jaati hai jaise kuch hua hi nahi.
Line chhoti hai, par chupchaap ek zindagi doosri ke baghal mein rakh deti hai aur poochti hai: barabari hui ki nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke naam ke saath sabse zyada kiska naam rakha gaya hai, aur uske kahe jaane ke baad wale second mein aapko kya laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kamra achanak chhota kyun lagne lagta hai #
Kuch logon ka chehra sapaat ho jaata hai aur ek shisht muskaan aa jaati hai jo unhone chuni nahi thi. Pet mein kuch dhans sakta hai, kaan garam ho sakte hain, aur achanak chai ke cup ya phone ki screen mein badi dilchaspi jaag uthti hai. Isme zaroorat se zyada nazuk hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Kisi apne se naape jaane ki baat sochne se pehle hi lag jaati hai. Body ek-do second mein jawab de deti hai, aur kuch logon ke liye soch bahut baad mein aati hai, ghar lautte hue ya jaagte hue.
Body ka jawab aksar us muskaan se zyada imaandaar hota hai.
Pichhli baar jab yun kisi ka naam uchhla, to body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Mehnat chhoot jaati hai, nateeja ginaa jaata hai #
Tulna mein shayad hi kabhi ye baat aati hai ki kitna kaam kiya gaya, bas ye ki doosra kahan pahuncha. Der raat ki padhai, chhoti jeetein, kathin saal aur us waqt ke sahi lage faisle, ye vaakya mein hote hi nahi.
Wo kisi aur ki zindagi ka ek chamakta pal uthakar aapki poori zindagi ke baghal mein rakh deti hai, beech ke uljhe hisson samet. Kuch log dekhte hain ki unhein aage dikhne wale zyada dikhte hain aur peechhe wale kam.
Aur kyunki ye ghar se aati hai, ye aisa lag sakta hai jaise un logon ki nazar mein aapki jagah ka faisla ho jinki raay sabse purani chali aa rahi hai.
Kya scoreboard kisi ke bolne se pehle hi jhuka hua hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar tulna ne lagbhag sab chhod diya, to wo naap kya rahi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tulna khud chalti rahe #
Ise baar-baar suno to scoreboard bina kisi ke bole chalne lagta hai. “Sab mujhse aage hain.” “Main hi hamesha peechhe kyun?” “Ye dekhenge to kya kahenge?”
Ye ajeeb waqton par chaalu ho sakta hai: kisi dost ki sagai ki photo, batchmate ka naya title, family group mein cousin ki chhuttiyon ki tasveerein. Call ghanton pehle kat chuki hai, par sar mein chalti awaaz usi jaisi lagti hai, aur ab wo aapki apni imaandaar raay lagti hai.
Sar mein scoreboard kiski awaaz mein bolta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi parivaarik mez par barson pehle thamayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ye bahut pehle shuru hua #
Khaane ki mez par padhe jaate report card, class mein pukaare jaate number, kisne kis college mein naam likhwaya aur kaun bahar gaya. Kuch log har jamaave mein chalte ek chup scoreboard ke saath bade hue, chahe kisi ne uska naam na liya ho.
Kuch gharon mein tulna bachchon ke baare mein baat karne ka bas ek tareeka thi, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag hain. Bachche ke mann mein jo reh jaata hai wo chupchaap nikla nateeja hai: ki shaabaashi rank mein milti hai, aur rank khisak sakti hai.
Sage ya cousin bhai-behen ke baghal mein khud ko parakhna aapne pehli baar kab dekha, aur tab kamre mein zyadatar kaun hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche banta ek chup niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Ginti tabhi hai jab aage rahoon,” ya “Ghar mein apni jagah kamaani padti hai.” Kuch ke paas naram roop hai: “Meri zindagi utni hi achhi hai jitni doosron ko dikhe.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi nahi lagti. Seedhi haqeeqat lagti hai, jaise cheezein bas aisi hi hoti hain, aur isiliye ise kabhi-kabhaar nikalkar dhoop mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise aaj ke logon aur faislon ke saath dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Scoreboard uthane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai wo chunna jo achha dikhe, uski jagah jo sahi lage, mushkil mahine ko chhupa lena, ya jeet ka maza na le paana kyunki kisi aur ki jeet badi lagti hai. Achhi khabar bhi is hisaab ke saath aa sakti hai ki kisne behtar kiya.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki pehle pasand aane wale jamaavon se pehle bechaini hoti hai, ya apni update is tarah rat lete hain ki jawab kaafi prabhaavshali lagein. Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai: jab zindagi daud jaisi lage, to kahin pahunchna khushi ki jagah raahat laata hai.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Har waqt hisaab rakhna bahut maangta hai.
Pichhle saal mein scoreboard ne kya liya: koi faisla jo is hisaab se liya gaya ki kaisa sunayi dega, koi achha pal jo manaya nahi, naapa gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, score rakhte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab scoreboard zor se baje. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad nashte par kisi batchmate ka naya title, family group ki photo par zoom, shaam ki call se pehle ratayi gayi update, apni ek chhoti jeet jo chupchaap rakhi gayi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur iski wajah se kuch badalna bhi zaroori nahi.
Usme kya hai: messages, calls, scrolling, wo chhoti ichchhayein jo aazmayi hi nahi gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya chhoot jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Tulna kya chhod deti hai #
Doosre insaan ka jo humein dikhta hai wo zyadatar highlight hai: offer letter, chhuttiyon ki photo, Pune ka naya flat. Shak, karz, namanzoor arziyan aur bure mahine family group tak bahut kam pahunchte hain. Doosre ki thaali mein ghee zyada dikhta hai.
Do zindagiyon ki shuruaat alag hoti hai, dabaav alag, waqt alag, aur nishana bhi alag. Saath-saath rakhne se isme se lagbhag sab chhip jaata hai, aur bas ek surkhi doosri surkhi ke baghal mein bachti hai.
Ek aur raasta: aage kisse, kis baat mein, kiski ghadi se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar daud is par naapi jaye ki aap apni zindagi se asal mein kya chahte hain, to kya aage ab bhi wahi insaan hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab log kisi tulna ko dheeme se dekhte hain, to kai ko dikhta hai ki dono zindagiyon mein se kitna kam usme tha: ek surkhi, ek pal, doosre ke baghal mein.
Kuch ko apne raaste ke wo hisse dikhte hain jinhein koi tulna nahi ginti: chupchaap banaya gaya hunar, kisi ki dekhbhaal, aisa faisla jo andar se hi samajh aata hai. Scoreboard mein unka koi column nahi tha.
Vaakya ko dheema karke dekhein to usme asal mein kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo chhoota hua column agar hota, to usme aapke liye kya jaata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhle kuch barson ki kaun si cheezein ek sahi ginti mein aatin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Scoreboard se sulah #
Sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki chubha nahi, ya ye maan lena ki doosra insaan chupke se pareshaan hi hoga. Matlab ye ki tulna ka is par kam chale ki shaam kaisi lage aur aage kya chuna jaye.
Kuch logon ko ye halka lagta hai ki line ko ek dopahar ki ek baat maanein, poori zindagi par faisla nahi. Cousin apni achhi khabar rakh sakta hai, aur wo achhi khabar ho sakti hai, bina kisi aur ke liye paimana bane.
Kaisa lagega agar tulna ko kisi ka bola hua ek vaakya hi rehne dein, aur usme se bas wo hissa rakhein jo aapke kaam ka hai, agar koi hissa hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Main peechhe hoon” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajay “Mere raaste ki apni raftaar hai” jaisi line taiyaar rakhte hain.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki wo pehli baar mein sach lage, zaroori nahi, aur apni line, dheere se aur baar-baar kahi gayi, purani wali ki thodi jagah le leti hai, khaaskar ghar ke phone ke baad. Kuch ko aisa nahi lagta.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapki abhi ki zindagi ke baare mein sahi ho, bina kisi tarah ki tulna ke?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har tulna ko jawab, palatwaar ya pakadne ke plan ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise bhaari bag kuch der farsh par rakh dein.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un cheezon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo ve sach mein chahte hain, un cheezon ki jagah jo agli call par achhi lagtin.
Shaam bhar ke liye tulna neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi thi, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki aaj wo baaki har cheez mein saath nahi chalegi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar scoreboard thoda bhi dheela ho #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki scoreboard ek darja dheema hai. Cousin ki khabar ab bhi khabar hai, par unki hai, aapke upar faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kisi photo ko bina tees ke aage scroll kar dena, chhoti jeet ko poori shaam manana, ek ghanta kisi aisi cheez mein bitana jo family group mein kabhi na jaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna nahi hai. Jo bhi aaye, aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Theek se dekhna chahein to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jis pal dimaag tulna karne lage, use chupchaap naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi scoreboard”
- Aaj ki ek chhoti cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Agli scroll se pehle gaur kijiye ki aap kya paane ki ummeed mein the
- Baad mein sochiye ki aane wale saal se aap asal mein kya chahte hain
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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