Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Pench ye hai ki ye kabhi keemat nahi batati.
Kuch gharon mein apnapan zyadatar kaam aur nateejon se dikhaya jaata tha, aur wajahein alag-alag ho sakti hain.
Kuch logon ko neeche ek aur dheema vaakya sunayi deta hai, kuch aisa: “Jab tak kuch diya jata rahega, tabhi meri jagah rahegi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jaldi pahunchna, sabse aakhir mein nikalna, aur kabhi poori tarah na baithna
- Har atirikt kaam par haan kehna, khaaskar nayi jagah ke pehle mahino mein
- Madad, tohfa ya chhota-sa ehsaan lene mein atpata lagna
- Chupchaap ginte rehna ki kya diya aur kya utarna baaki hai
- Chhutti ke din bechain rehna, jaise jagah wapas li ja sakti ho
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Dost ke dinner par plates uthana
Dost ke Jaipur wale flat par dinner hai, aur aapse baitha nahi jaata. Aap plates uthate ho, glass dhote ho, paani bharte ho, logon ko chhodne ki peshkash karte ho. Baaki sab sofa par baaton aur hansi mein hain. Dost kehte hain, “Arre baitho na, aaram se!” Aap muskurate ho, par lage rehte ho. Lautte waqt dhyan aata hai ki aapne kisi se theek se baat hi nahi ki, aur ajeeb-sa khaalipan hai.
Apni jagah kamani padti hai
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Apni jagah mujhe kamani padti hai.” Ye vinamra aur mehnati lagta hai, aur doosron ki madad karna sundar baat ho sakti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: apnapan aisi cheez bana deta hai jiski kist hamesha bharni pade. Aapka swagat kaam ke hone par tik jaata hai, isliye jis pal aap rukte ho, lagta hai shayad kahin bhi aapki jagah nahi.
Kaam ka hona kyun mehfooz laga
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki kabhi kaam ke hone se hum mehfooz ya chahe hue rahe. Shayad aap aise mahaul mein bade hue jahan pyaar sharton ke saath aata lagta tha, to paas rehne ke liye aapne haath bantana seekha. Shayad kahin naye the aur madad karna hi ghul-milne ka raasta tha. Jo bhi ho, ye niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye apna banne ki chaah se uga hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har jamavda ek kaam ki paali
Har jamavda ek kaam ki paali ban jaata hai. Aap logon ke saath kabhi poori tarah aaram nahi karte. Koi madad kare to bechaini hoti hai. Koi tohfa ya meethi baat bina chukaye nahi le paate. Dheere-dheere dostiyan naukri jaisi lagne lagti hain, aur aap wo saada apnapan chookne lagte ho, jisme bas wahan hona hi suhata hai, aapke kaam se nahi, aapki wajah se.
Kya apni jagah kamana theek hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochhiye: kya jagah kamane ki koshish se aap kabhi zyada apne ghar jaise mehsoos hue? Ya zyadatar zyada thakan aur chaukannapan? Shayad bahut log aapko bas aapke saath ke liye bulate hon; ye wahi jaante hain, par madad akeli wajah nahi hoti kisi ko bulane ki. Jo bhi ho, kaam ka hona ye tay nahi karta ki aap apne hain ya nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadne ki keemat uski den se zyada hai.
Bina keemat chukaye apnapan
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap madad karna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapka swagat ab us par tika nahi. Jahan surakshit lage, aap baith sakte ho, hansi mein shaamil ho sakte ho, aur ek baar kisi aur ko plates uthane de sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aap jaise hain waise pasand kiye ja sakte ho, aur madad tabhi karein jab sach mein mann ho, apni jagah ki keemat chukane ke liye kabhi nahi.
Where someone really does react badly, with anger, threats or fear, when the giving stops, that is worth taking seriously, and going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleApni jagah mujhe kamani padti hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri jagah bina keemat chukaye bhi hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Agli mehfil mein bees minute baithkar bas baatein kijiye
- Din 2
Is hafte ek cheez mein kisi ko apni madad karne dijiye
- Din 3
Ek meethi baat bina kuch lautaye le leejiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapko apni jagah kamane ka ehsaas sabse zyada kahan hota hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Mehnat jaisa lagne wala ek niyam #
“Apni jagah mujhe kamani padti hai.” Ye bahut kam zubaan par aati hai. Ye mama ke ghar sabse pehle plates uthane jaisi lagti hai, Gurgaon ke naye office mein pehle mahine roz der tak rukne jaisi, ya dost ke flat par bin maange mithai ka dibba le jaane jaisi, “khaali haath kaise jaate.”
Ye achhe sanskaar ya mehnat ki aadat jaisi dikh sakti hai, aur aksar dono hoti bhi hai. Fark bheetar ke ehsaas mein hai: jaise baith jaana, kuch paa lena, ya bas wahan hona, iski keemat abhi chukayi nahi gayi.
Ye aapko aakhri baar kahan feel hui, ek pal ke liye bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us waqt aapke haath kya kar rahe the, aur ruk jaana kaisa lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ye shuru hoti hai body mein, darwaze par hi #
Kuch logon ko ye pahunchte hi dikhta hai: kamre mein nazar daudakar koi kaam dhoondhna, kaam aane ki bechaini, aur jab koi kahe “arre baitho na, aaram se” to ek kasaav. Mann ke pakadne se pehle haath kaam maangne lagte hain.
Kuch logon mein koi nayi jagah, nayi team ya bada parivarik jamavda ek chup-si chaukasi chalu kar deta hai. Mann naapta hai ki yahan kitna swagat hai, aur vyast rehna us sawaal ka sabse mehfooz jawab lagta hai jo kisi ne zor se poochha hi nahi.
Aise kamre mein ghuste hi pehle minute mein, jahan aapki jagah saaf nahi hai, aapki body kya karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo kiski taraf haath badhati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye insaaf jaisa lagta hai, isliye jaancha nahi jaata #
Ye maanyata insaaf ki bhasha udhaar leti hai: apna hissa nibhao, jo diya nahi wo mat lo. Ye bhale usool hain, isliye is par kam hi sawaal uthta hai. Ye kisi achhi cheez ke andar chhipi baithi hai.
Pench ye hai ki ye kabhi keemat nahi batati. Raqam kabhi kahi hi nahi jaati, isliye poori chukti bhi nahi, aur har naya kamra, nayi naukri ya parivarik mauqa jaise hisaab phir shoonya se shuru kar deta hai.
Jahan koi sach mein bura bartaav karta hai jab dena ruk jaata hai, wahan ise gambhirta se lena zaroori hai, aur wahan saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki mehnat se mila thehraav tikta nahi, isliye kal phir kamana padta hai.
Kis kaam se kamana hai, aur kitna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kisi jagah ko roz phir se kamana pade, to wo kab jakar pakki lagegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo hisaab rakhti hai #
“Kuch kaam kar loon, yun baithna theek nahi.” “Abhi baithne jitna kiya hi kahan hai.” “Unke kehne se pehle khud aage badho.” Awaaz shaant aur vyavaharik hai, aur seedhi samajhdaari jaisi lagti hai.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki ye unhi palon mein sabse zor se bolti hai jo aasaan hone chahiye: birthday ka lunch, kisi dost ke yahan aaram ki dopahar, promotion ke baad ka pehla hafta, jab achanak saabit karne ko kuch nahi aur awaaz wo khaali jagah bhar deti hai.
Jab ye ginti karti hai ki aapne kya diya, to kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke apne insaaf ke ehsaas jaisi, ya kahin se uthaye ek niyam jaisi jise kabhi parakha nahi gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Aksar ye niyam kahan se aata hai #
Kuch logon mein ye jaldi shuru hota hai: wo bachcha jiski taareef zyadatar haath bantane par hoti thi, naya bachcha jo kaam aakar hi ghul-mil paya, ya jo kisi parivaar, school ya shehar mein baad mein aaya aur khud ko aasaan banana seekh gaya.
Kuch gharon mein apnapan zyadatar kaam aur nateejon se dikhaya jaata tha, aur wajahein alag-alag ho sakti hain. Ek bachcha chupchaap maan sakta hai ki kaam ka hona hi jagah ko mehfooz banata hai. Kuch log is niyam ko aise saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Kab pehli baar kaam aana wo cheez lagne lagi jo aapko kamre mein rakhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kaun dekh raha tha, aur un dino kya hota tha jab aapke paas dene ko kuch nahi hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Wo chup niyam jo steering thaame hai #
Kuch logon ko neeche ek aur dheema vaakya sunayi deta hai, kuch aisa: “Jab tak kuch diya jata rahega, tabhi meri jagah rahegi.” Pehla khayal wahi hai jo log notice karte hain; neeche ka niyam chupchaap tay kar deta hai ki aage kya hoga.
Aise niyam maanyata jaise nahi lagte. Aise lagte hain jaise duniya bas isi tarah chalti hai, aur isiliye inhein gaur se dekhna zaroori hai. Jo niyam tathya jaisa lage, wo barson bina jaanche chalta rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan ke saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise aaj ke logon aur jagahon ke saath dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya aisa koi vaakya baithta hai, ya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ye kin kamron mein aaj bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Hisaab ki chup keemat #
Iska matlab nayi naukri mein trial khatam hone ke baad bhi zaroorat se zyada kaam karna ho sakta hai, aakhri tukda kabhi na lena, bahut bojh dhote hue bhi madad thukrana, ya chachere bhai ki shaadi rasoi mein nikaal dena, mandap ki baithak mein baithne ke bajaye.
Ek aur dheemi keemat hai: kisi jagah ka maza lena mushkil hota hai jab mann ka ek hissa duty par hai. Kuch log batate hain ki wo mehmaan ki tarah rehte hain jo chain se baith nahi paata, un jagahon par bhi jinhein barson se jaante hain.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Ye ek aisa bill chukane ki mehnat hai jo kisi ne bheja hi nahi.
Pichhle saal mein isne kya liya: ek khana jiska swaad nahi liya, ek ehsaan jo thukraya, ek Sunday jo kuch saabit karne mein nikla?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday #
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday sochiye, jab “apni jagah mujhe kamani padti hai” zor se bol raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad office mein ek aur kaam le liya, weekend ke lunch ke liye kuch le aane ka message, kisi ko poochhe bina lift ki peshkash, chai ka cup jo thanda ho gaya. Shayad thodi der baithna, shayad nahi. Bas wo din, jaisa chalta hai.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur kuch ‘sahi’ dekhna zaroori nahi.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, baatein, aur jo aazmaya nahi gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kisse kamana hai, theek-theek? #
Naam lekar dekhiye ki hisaab kaun rakh raha hai. Kabhi-kabhi koi nahi gin raha. Kabhi koi gin raha hota hai, aur wo uske baare mein kuch kehta hai, aapke qarz ke baare mein nahi. Dono haal mein hisaab par ek nazar daalne layak hai.
Kuch aam jagahon mein, ek dosti, ek team, ek parivarik dastarkhwan, log isliye bhi chahe jaate hain ki wo hain, sirf isliye nahi ki wo kya laate hain.
Yogdaan mayne rakhta hai, par kya wahi kisi ke paas bulaye jaane ki poori wajah hai, ya bas ek hissa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ye maanyata kisse darti hai ki wo aapki jagah chheen lega, aur kya usne kabhi aisa kaha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost sirf kamre mein bane rehne ke liye itni mehnat kare, to aap uske baare mein kya sochenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par log kya paate hain #
Gaur se dekhne par kuch logon ko wo pal milte hain jo ye maanyata chhod deti hai: wo dost jisne bulaya jab unke paas dene ko kuch nahi tha, wo sahkarmi jisne unki jagah sambhal li, wo rishtedaar jisne unke liye jagah rakh chhodi.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki jin dino unke paas dene ko kuch nahi tha, tab bhi jagah kabhi-kabhi wahin thi, aur kabhi-kabhi darr us insaan ya kamre ke baare mein sahi nikla. Ye maanyata sirf ek tarah ke din ginti hai.
Sirf swagat paane ke kaun se pal ye maanyata chhodti aayi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhli baar jab aap kuch dene ko liye bina pahunche, tab kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Yogdaan dena chhodna nahi hai #
Is maanyata se sulah ka matlab mehnat ya dariyadili chhodna nahi hai. Haath bantana, ji-tod kaam karna aur apna hissa nibhana sab reh sakta hai. Badalti bas wajah hai: isliye dena ki mann hai, isliye nahi ki kisi jagah ka tikna isi par hai.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo maanyata ko dekhein par use faisla na karne dein. Bartan tab bhi saaf ho sakte hain, aur kisi aur ke unhein maanjte hue chai ka cup lekar baitha bhi ja sakta hai.
Jahan koi sach mein bura bartaav karta hai jab dena ruk jaata hai, wahan ise gambhirta se lena zaroori hai, aur wahan saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Baaki jagah, bina ginti rakhe dena kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ek sachchi line, paas rakhne ko #
“Apni jagah mujhe kamani padti hai” se ulajhne ki jagah kuch log ek zyada sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Madad mann se karoon, tab bhi, aur aaram karoon, tab bhi, meri jagah yahin hai.” Purani line se seedhi ladaai zaroori nahi.
Abhi sach na bhi lage, chalega. Bas purani se zyada sahi hona chahiye, aur kuch log paate hain ki baar-baar kehne par wo purani line ki kuch jagah le leti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo theek ho par khushamad na kare, aur beete kuch aam hafton par baithe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch din purana niyam laut aata hai #
Thake dino mein, nayi naukri mein, ya kisi bade parivarik mauqe par, purana niyam phir aa sakta hai aur rasoi ya atirikt kaam ki taraf kheench sakta hai. Ye purani aadat hai jo guzar rahi hai, aur bina bhashan ya din par faisle ke bhi dekhi ja sakti hai.
Kuch logon ko madad milti hai jab wo use dekhein, naam dein, aur phir chunein. Kabhi haath bantana hi chunav hota hai, aur wo bhi achha chunav hai. Baat bas itni hai ki wo chunav ho sakta hai, qarz nahi.
Ek shaam ke liye niyam ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi tha ya tay ho gaya. Bas itna ki use poori shaam nahi chalana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam zara dheela pad jaye #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek paaydaan dheema ho gaya. Madad karna ab bhi achha lagta hai, par kisi jagah ka tikna us par thoda kam lagta hai.
Chhoti baatein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise plates uthte waqt ek minute aur baithe rehna, chai garm-garm pi lena, ya kisi dost ki di hui lift le lena.
Yahan kisi ko kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye wo aapka hai, aur dekhne layak hai. Agar aap use theek se dekhna chahein, to ek chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka-sa alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch cheezein jo logon ke kaam aati hain #
- Jab uth padne ki hadbadi aaye, pal bhar rukkar pehle use notice kijiye
- Madad ki ek chhoti peshkash seedhe “shukriya” kehkar leejiye, aur fauran chukane mat daudiye
- Dekhiye ki koi gin bhi raha hai ya nahi. Agar koi gin raha hai, to wo uske baare mein kuch kehta hai, aapke qarz ke baare mein nahi
- Kisi jaani-pehchani jagah par paanch minute kuch bhi kaam ka kiye bina bitaiye
- Aaj ki ek cheez gaur kijiye jo aapko chahiye thi, kitni bhi chhoti
Chhoti baatein, aur sab aapki marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapko apni jagah kamane ka ehsaas sabse zyada kahan hota hai?
- Jab koi kehta hai “arre baitho na”, tab bheetar kya hota hai?
- Iske neeche kaun sa ehsaas hai: darr, apradh-bodh, bechaini, ya kuch aur?
- Kisi aam din jab ye niyam zor se bolta hai, tab aap kise taalte rehte ho?
- Agar ye thoda narm pade, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?