“is umar mein jahan hona chahiye, wahan nahi hoon” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Time-table pakadne ke liye koi bada faisla jaldbaazi mein le lena. Un jamghaton se bachna jahan umar aur plan poochhe jaate hain. Chupchaap ginte rehna ki hamumr logon ne kya-kya kar liya. Apni tarakki ko taal dena kyunki wo list mein nahi hai. Kisi ke poochhne se pehle hi apne raaste ki safaai dena.

Agle 3 din kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Teen cheezein ginye jo aap aaj kar sakte ho, paanch saal pehle nahi. Kisi ki badi khabar par ek nazar ke baad scroll rok dijiye. Is hafte apni chahi cheez ki taraf ek chhota kadam lijiye.

“is umar mein jahan hona chahiye, wahan nahi hoon”: kyun…

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Dimaag tarakki ko dikhne wale padaavon se naapta hai aur andekha chhod deta hai: jo seekha, jo mushkil mausam paar kiye, jinki dekhbhaal ki, ye dheere-dheere samajhna ki insaan ko asal mein kya jamta hai.
Kuch logon mein ye jaldi sunne se ugta hai: “Tumhari umar mein toh hum...”, har jamghat mein cousins ki uplabdhiyon ki list, padosiyon ke job aur shaadi ke sawaal, school ke saal jahan har kadam ki taareekh tay thi.
Aksar “Jahan hona chahiye, wahan nahi hoon” ke neeche ek shaant niyam baitha hota hai: “Zindagi tabhi ginti hai jab chalan ke kram mein chale,” ya “Log mujhe is par aankte hain ki main kahan tak pahunch paya/payi.”

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Log aksar kya karte hain #

Time-table pakadne ke liye koi bada faisla jaldbaazi mein le lena
Un jamghaton se bachna jahan umar aur plan poochhe jaate hain
Chupchaap ginte rehna ki hamumr logon ne kya-kya kar liya
Apni tarakki ko taal dena kyunki wo list mein nahi hai
Kisi ke poochhne se pehle hi apne raaste ki safaai dena

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

Sabke padaav scroll karte hue
Raat ko scroll karte hue: school ke ek dost ne flat le liya, doosre ki sagai ho gayi, teesri ne apni company khol li. Ikatis ki umar mein aap Pune mein kiraye ke kamre mein ho, ab bhi soch rahe ho ki karna kya hai. Phone ulta rakhkar aap chhat taakte ho. Wahi jaana-pehchana bhaari, chup khayal aata hai: “Main jahan hona chahiye, wahan se bahut peeche hoon.”
Aapko aur aage hona chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Ab tak toh mujhe aur aage hona chahiye tha.” Ye mahatvakanksha jaisa lagta hai, behtar karne ka dhakka. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki zindagi ko us time-table se naapta hai jo aapne chuni hi nahi, aur doosron ki chamakti jhalkiyon se. Aap theek ho ya nahi, ye ek aisi daud par tik jaata hai jiski na asli shuruaat hai, na tay ant.
Time-tables hum par kyun jamin
Ise hum isliye pakadte hain ki hum time-tables ke beech bade hue. Shayad aapke ghar mein saaf vichaar the ki kab tak kya ho jaana chahiye, aur baar-baar kahe jaate the. Shayad school ne sikhaya ki aage hona achha hai, peeche hona bura. Ye niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye chaah se aata hai ki zindagi achhi jaye aur matlab rakhe. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Apni zindagi ka chhota lagna
Har tulna aapki apni zindagi ko chhota kar deti hai. Parivaarik jamghaton mein aap chhipane lagte ho ki kya kar rahe ho. Apne kadam kam aankte ho kyunki wo dheemi dikhte hain. Raat ko jaagkar umar aur tarakki ka hisaab lagate ho. Dheere-dheere jo zindagi aapke paas hai, apne sachche achhe hisson ke saath, us zindagi ka waiting room lagne lagti hai jo aapko lagta hai honi chahiye thi.
Kya saath-saath chalna zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya peeche feel karne se kabhi aage badhne mein madad mili? Ya zyada-tar har kadam chhota laga? Zindagiyan bahut alag raftaar se khulti hain, aur log aksar wahi hisse dikhate hain jo tarakki jaise lagein. Jo bhi ho, time-table aapki qadar ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko utna nahi deta jitna leta hai.
Apni raftaar par apna raasta
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap apni zindagi ke liye cheezein chahna band kar do. Matlab ye ki aapke apne raaste ko kisi aur ke saath kadam milana zaroori nahi. Aap dekh sakte ho ki asal mein kitna chal aaye ho, aur apni raftaar se agla kadam le sakte ho. Yahin kuch chain lautta hai: aapki zindagi aapki lagti hai, har raat dimaag mein haari jaati daud nahi.
If a low patch goes on a long time, or anyone threatens or frightens you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleAb tak toh mujhe aur aage hona chahiye tha.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere raaste ki apni raftaar hai.

Teen chhote din

3 din try kijiye #

Din 1
Teen cheezein ginye jo aap aaj kar sakte ho, paanch saal pehle nahi
Din 2
Kisi ki badi khabar par ek nazar ke baad scroll rok dijiye
Din 3
Is hafte apni chahi cheez ki taraf ek chhota kadam lijiye

Is par baat karni hai?

“Kis padaav par aapko sabse zyada peeche lagta hai, aur wo time-table kahan se aayi?”

Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.

Dr. Thoughts ke saath baat kijiye

Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai

Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Ek vaakya jisme andekhi time-table hai #

“Is umar mein jahan hona chahiye, wahan nahi hoon.” Chupchaap kahi jaati hai birthday par, form mein umar ka khaana bharte hue, jab koi chhota saathi promotion pa jaye, jab Mausi phir shaadi ki baat chhedein, ya ghar lautkar bachpan ke kamre ke dibbe kholte hue.

Ye shaayad hi dramatic lagti hai. Seedhe hisaab jaisi lagti hai: “Is umar tak toh...” Umar aur list har kisi ki alag hai, par ehsaas wahi: kahin ghadi chal rahi hai, aur lagta hai gaadi late ho gayi.

Aakhri baar khud se ye kab kaha, chupke se hi sahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

“Ab tak toh hona chahiye” ki list mein kya tha, aur wo list sabse pehle kisne likhi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Aankde ke saath aati kasak #

Kuch logon ko umar ka zikr aate hi seene mein kasaav lagta hai, koi poochhe “Ab aage kya?” toh chehra tapne lagta hai, ya shaadi, naamkaran, griha-pravesh se lautte waqt mann bhaari ho jaata hai.

Ye nishaanon par chalu hota hai: birthday, new year, purane doston se milna, result ka mausam, doosron ke bade din. Kuch ko nishaan pehle dikhta hai, aur ek pal baad vaakya aata hai un sab baaton ki list ke saath jo ab tak nahi hui.

Baatcheet mein aapki umar aati hai toh sharir kya karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Saal ke kaun se din ya nishaan ye ehsaas sabse kareeb le aate hain?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Ek daud jisme utarna kisi ko yaad nahi #

Is maanyata ke neeche zindagi ek time-table par chalti hai: is umar tak degree, us umar tak job, phir shaadi, ghar, bachche, sab apne tay waqt par. Time-table aur asli zindagi ke beech ki doori ko late maana jaata hai, kabhi ye nahi ki bas raasta alag hai.

Dimaag tarakki ko dikhne wale padaavon se naapta hai aur andekha chhod deta hai: jo seekha, jo mushkil mausam paar kiye, jinki dekhbhaal ki, ye dheere-dheere samajhna ki insaan ko asal mein kya jamta hai.

Isiliye ye itna pakka lagta hai.

Agar is maanyata se poochhein ki kiske hisaab se, kis time-table par, aur use banaya kisne, toh wo kya kahegi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Hisaab karne wali awaaz #

“Ab tak toh shaadi ho jaani chahiye thi.” “Plan se der ho gayi.” “Socha tha aur aage hounga/hoongi.” Ye awaaz seedhe ganit jaisi lagti hai, aur birthday, shaadi-byaah aur raat ko der tak jaagne par bolti hai.

Kuch log dekhte hain ki ye ulti ginti hai. Har saal ko is se naapti hai ki usme kya nahi hua, aur jo hua use chhod deti hai, toh seekhne, badalne aur sab kuch sambhale rakhne wala saal bhi khoya hua waqt likh diya jaata hai.

Jab ye hisaab lagati hai toh ye kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya ye aapki apni chaah hai, ya kahin aur se thamayi gayi time-table?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Time-table aksar kahan se aati hai #

Kuch logon mein ye jaldi sunne se ugta hai: “Tumhari umar mein toh hum...”, har jamghat mein cousins ki uplabdhiyon ki list, padosiyon ke job aur shaadi ke sawaal, school ke saal jahan har kadam ki taareekh tay thi.

Kuch parivaaron mein time-table bachche ke bhavishya ki ummeed jatane ka tareeka thi, aur wajahein alag-alag hoti hain. Bachcha chupchaap maan sakta hai ki har kadam waqt par rakhna hi zindagi ko achhi ginwata hai.

Time-table kab pehli baar aisi lagi ki usse late bhi ho sakte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›

Tab aap kiske padaav sun rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Time-table ke neeche ka niyam #

Aksar “Jahan hona chahiye, wahan nahi hoon” ke neeche ek shaant niyam baitha hota hai: “Zindagi tabhi ginti hai jab chalan ke kram mein chale,” ya “Log mujhe is par aankte hain ki main kahan tak pahunch paya/payi.” Pehla vaakya wahi hai jo sunayi deta hai; neeche ka niyam chalata hai.

Aise niyam tathya jaise lagte hain, maanyata nahi, zameen ke zameen jaisa lagne ki tarah. Ye dekh lena ki ye niyam hai, aur kahin seekha gaya hai, aksar wahan se log ise narmi se dekhna shuru karte hain.

Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak pahuncha lete hain, kuch nahi. Jo bhi ho, ise dekha ja sakta hai, us zindagi mein jo aise mod le sakti hai jo time-table ne socha hi nahi tha.

Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit hota hai, kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Ghadi se hod ki keemat #

Iska matlab ho sakta hai kaagaz par theek dikhne wali galat job ko haan keh dena, career badalne se bachna kyunki ab der ho gayi, har birthday se darna, ya cousin ki shaadi bhar ek hi sawaal ka jawab tani hui muskaan se dena.

Ye vartamaan ko waiting room bana sakta hai, jahan asli zindagi tabhi shuru hoti hai jab agla khaana bhar jaye. Kuch log lagaataar pakadne ki bhaagdaud ko khud thakau batate hain, aur kuch dekhte hain ki wo jahan hain wahan kam hi khush hote hain, kyunki wo wo jagah nahi jahan hona chahiye.

Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Ye us time-table ka bojh hai jise kisi ne poori tarah chuna hi nahi.

Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: ginte hue beeta birthday, jaldbaazi mein hua faisla, taali hui nayi shuruaat?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

Kuch saal baad, ek aam mangalwar #

Kuch saal aage ka ek aam mangalwar sochiye, jab “Jahan hona chahiye, wahan nahi hoon” zor se bol raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.

Shayad kisi bhai ka birthday-message, umar ke khaane wala koi form, lunch mein scroll hui koi profile, koi course-page jo khula aur band hua. Shayad dost ke saath ek shaam, koi plan bana ya nahi bana. Bas din, jaisa chalta hai.

Yahan kisi cheez ka jawab abhi nahi chahiye, aur kuch bhi dekhna zaroori nahi.

Usme kya hai: kaam, baatcheetein, wo cheezein jo aazmayi nahi gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us mangalwar ko dekhkar, agar kuch bhi dikhe, toh kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Aakhir kiski time-table se peeche? #

Zindagiyan kam hi ek kram par chalti hain. Log chaalees mein career badalte hain, pachaas mein padhte hain, der se shaadi karte hain ya nahi karte, ghar lautkar phir shuru karte hain. Unmein se kuch palatkar us mod ko zaroori hissa paate hain; kuch nahi.

Time-table ek sambhavit zindagi ki tasveer hai, har zindagi ka paimana nahi. Alag raaste par hona, usi raaste par der se hone jaisa nahi, bhale hi khane ki mez par sawaal ek-sa lage.

Is maanyata se poochkar dekhiye: kiski time-table se peeche, theek-theek?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aur jo aaj main jaanta/jaanti hoon, uske baad kya wahi time-table aaj chunoonga/chunoongi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise jaldi pehchanna

Jaanchne par log kya paate hain #

Gaur se dekhne par kuch log paate hain ki maanyata sirf list ke padaav ginti hai aur baaki sab chhod deti hai: ek mushkil saal jo nikal gaya, maa-baap ki dekhbhaal, dheere-dheere banaya hunar, iski saaf samajh ki wo asal mein kya chahte hain.

Kuch ye bhi sochte hain ki jin logon se wo khud ko peeche feel karte hain, unki bhi apni kamiyan ho sakti hain jo bahar se nahi dikhtin. Door se jaanne ka koi tareeka nahi, aur maanyata us jagah ko pakke yakeen se bhar deti hai.

Pichhle paanch saalon ka imaandaar hisaab kya hoga, agar har bina-list wali cheez bhi gini jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›

Unmein se kaun si cheezein aap “waqt par” hone ke liye sachmuch laauta dete?Is par baat kijiye ›

Isse sulah

Pehle pakadne ki zaroorat nahi #

Maanyata se samjhaute ka matlab ye dikhawa nahi ki list ki cheezein chahiye hi nahi. Chahna theek hai. Matlab ye ki aaj kaisa lage, aur kaun se faisle jaldbaazi mein hon, is par time-table ki baat kam chale.

Purani ghadi peeche tik-tik karti rahe, aur phir bhi ye saal jiya jaye, agla kadam apni raftaar se liya jaye, shaadi mein utha sawaal sachche, shaant jawab paye. Kuch logon ko ye bhaagne se aasaan lagta hai.

Ghadi ko tikne dena aur use faisla na karne dena kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›

Is saal ka kaun sa faisla alag hota, agar time-table ka sirf ek vote hota?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Paas rakhne layak ek zyada sachchi line #

“Jahan hona chahiye, wahan nahi hoon” se bahas karne ki jagah kuch log ek zyada sachchi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Main wahin hoon jahan mera raasta mujhe laya hai, aur wo abhi chal raha hai.” Purani line se seedha ladne ki zaroorat nahi.

Ye shuru mein sach na lage toh chalega. Ise bas purani se zyada sateek hona hai, aur kuch log paate hain ki baar-baar kehne par nayi line us jagah mein thodi baith jaati hai jo purani bharti thi.

Aapke apne shabdon mein zyada sachchi line kya hogi, jo is baare mein imaandaar ho ki aap ab bhi kya chahte ho, par ab tak ke saalon ko bekaar na kahe?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch din ghadi zyada tez tikti hai #

Birthday par, shaadi mein ya koi rishtedaar phir poochhe toh purana vaakya saamanya se zyada zor se aa sakta hai. Ye soch ki purani aadat hai jo guzar rahi hai, jaise purana gaana bina chune laut aata hai, aur bina bhaashan diye dekha ja sakta hai.

Kuch logon ko bas dekhna aur naam dena kaam aata hai: “Lo, ghadi phir aa gayi.” Din ab bhi apni raftaar se jiya ja sakta hai, vaakya peeche rahe, aage nahi.

Ghadi ko ek shaam ke liye rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki baat sahi thi, ya ki tay ho gaya. Bas itna ki aaj baaki cheezon mein ye aapke peeche-peeche na chale.

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar maanyata thodi bhi dheeli pade #

Kalpana kijiye, bas ek tasveer ki tarah, ki time-table zara dheemi ho gayi. List ki cheezein ab bhi chahiye ho sakti hain, aur unka na hona der nahi, ek raasta lagta hai.

Chhoti baatein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise ginti ke bina manaya birthday, poora padha hua course-page, ya aisi saadhaaran shaam jo asli zindagi ka hissa lage.

Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo saamne aaye wo aapka hai, aur dekhne layak hai. Theek se dekhna ho toh ek chat bas ek tap door hai.

Sabse pehle kya alag feel hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti baat kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch baatein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #

Khayal aaye toh poochhiye: kiski time-table se peeche?
Ek aisi cheez sochiye jo aapne seekhi ya paar ki, jo koi list nahi dikhati
Parivaarik jamghat se pehle ek shaant, sachcha jawab mann mein taiyaar rakhiye
Aaj ki ek chaahat notice kijiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Kisi aise insaan ko sochiye jise aap saraahte hain aur jisne lamba raasta liya

Chhoti baatein, aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, chuniye.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.

Mann mein baar-baar “is umar mein jahan hona chahiye, wahan nahi hoon” kyun aata hai?