Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Haath mein jaankari bhi bahut kam hoti hai.
Kai logon ke liye ye purani baaton ki goonj hai: poori class ko pata birthday party, cousins ki trip jo bina poochhe ban gayi, hostel ka kamra jahan baaki sabke paas pehle se ek joke tha jisme aap shaamil nahi the.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Agar mujhe nahi joda, to mujhse hi kuch galat hua hoga,” ya “Shayad meri hi galti hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Purani chat khangalna, ki badlaav kahan se shuru hua
- Saamne sab sahi dikhana, phir kai din baatcheet mann mein dohrana
- Group ke sabse thoda door ho jaana, bas ehtiyatan
- Agle plan mein shaamil hone ke liye dugni koshish karna
- Khud se kehna ki farq nahi padta, aur phir bhi farq mehsoos karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo “naya group” jisme aap nahi
Sunday shaam Agra ki tapri par dost ke munh se nikal jaata hai: “Wo toh naye group mein tay hua tha.” Usme aapka naam nahi tha. Phir sab kisi aise joke par hanste hain jo aapne suna hi nahi. Chehre par muskaan rehti hai, munh se kuch nahi nikalta. Raat bhar purani chat khangali jaati hai ki kya hua tha, aur barson ke dost us kamre ke anjaan lagne lagte hain jisme daakhila nahi.
Bahar rahe to meri galti
Ye ek purane niyam par girta hai: “Agar mujhe nahi joda, to galti meri hi hogi.” Ye zimmedari lene jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: doosron ke faisle ko aapke khilaaf saboot bana deta hai. Jabki chat bina zyada soche banti-badalti rehti hain. Ab aapka apnapan is par tik jaata hai ki har chat, har plan mein aapka naam ho.
Ek baar chhootna itna kyun chubha
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki ek baar chhoot jaana sach mein chubha tha. Shayad school mein team chunte waqt aakhir mein naam pukara gaya, ya koi dosti bina wajah bataye thandi pad gayi aur aaj bhi sawaal baaki hai. Niyam bewajah nahi, apnaye jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Purani baaton mein galti dhoondhna
Har baar naya group bane aur aap na hon, to khud par shak badhta jaata hai. Purani baaton mein galtiyan dhoondhi jaati hain. Un doston se mann thoda door hone lagta hai. Bheed mein bhi akelapan lagta hai. Chat baar-baar khulti hai, aur lagta hai kahin ye dosti dikhawa toh nahi thi. Barson ki dostiyan nazuk lagne lagti hain.
Kya ye baar-baar dhoondhna theek hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: khud ko dosh dene se kya kabhi zyada shaamil mehsoos hua? Ya zyadatar aur akela? Group kyun bana, ye sirf wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, ek chat dost ke roop mein aapki keemat ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada.
Chubhan hai, par saboot nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki chubha nahi, ya dikhana hai ki sab chalta hai. Matlab ye ki chhoot jaane ka matlab aap mein kami hona zaroori nahi. Aap chubhan mehsoos kar sakte ho, khud ke saath naram reh sakte ho, aur un doston ke paas tik sakte ho jo saath rakhte hain. Wahin se chain lautta hai: aapki keemat aapki rehti hai, chat mein hon ya bahar.
Where someone really does react badly to a question, with threats or fear, or anyone keeps you from other friends, that is worth taking seriously, and saying nothing for now is allowed.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar mujhe bahar rakha gaya, to galti meri hi hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleChhootna chubhta hai. Ye mere khilaaf saboot nahi.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Kisi ek aise dost ko yaad kijiye jo hamesha saath rakhta hai
- Din 2
Ek shaam phone door rakh dijiye
- Din 3
Bas apne liye ek pasand ki cheez kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Theek kis pal aapko samajh aaya ki chat aapke bina chal rahi thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chaar shabd, jaise koi baat hi na ho #
Agra mein Sanjay Place ki chai ki tapri. College wala dost kisi joke par hansta hai, “Group wala” kehkar ruk jaata hai, phir halke se: “Arre, tu us group mein nahi hai? Humne naya group banaya hai.” Kabhi yahi baat cousin ke screenshot mein dikhti hai, upar ek naam ke saath jo aapne pehle kabhi nahi dekha.
Kehne wale ke liye ye bas yunhi ki baat hai: “Arre, chhota sa group hai.” “Tujhe add karna bhool gaye.” “Socha tu toh waise bhi busy rehta hai.” Baat aage badh jaati hai, par shabd poori tasveer laate hain: haftom se chal rahi baatcheet, plans, joke, aur ek naam jo usme nahi.
Aapko ye pata kaise chala, aur sabse pehla khayal kya aaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Koi sawaal, koi chubhan, ya purane plans par ek jhatpat nazar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Muskaan se pehle ki chhoti si giraavat #
Kuch log batate hain ki muskaan ek pal zyada der chehre par ruki rahi, aur achanak chai ke cup ya phone mein badi dilchaspi aa gayi. Kuch log halke se kuch poochh lete hain aur baad mein sochte hain ki poochha kyun, kyunki jawab bhi utna hi halka tha.
Kisi cheez ka baad mein pata chalna sochne se pehle hi asar kar jaata hai.
Sawaal aksar baad mein aate hain, scooter par lautte hue ya der raat chhat par: kab se chal raha hai, aur kaun-kaun hai usme?Is par baat kijiye ›
Shuru ke kuch second mein aapne kya kiya: hanskar taal diya, chup ho gaye, kuch poochha, baat badli?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo pehli harkat is baare mein kya batati hai ki wo log aapke liye kitne maayne rakhte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek message nahi, poori chat khatakti hai #
Ek bulava chhootna ek shaam ki baat hai. Poori chat ka pata chalna un sab shaamon ki baat hai jinmein wo chalti rahi. Mann us khaali jagah mein wo saare message bhar deta hai jo shayad gaye honge, aur har ek chhote darwaze ki tarah band lagta hai.
Haath mein jaankari bhi bahut kam hoti hai. Chat ke bahar se wajahein dikhti nahi, aur khaali jagah ko sabse bura andaza bhar deta hai. Wo andaza jaankari jaisa lagta hai, jabki bana lagbhag kuch bhi nahi se hai.
Agar sirf tathya dekhein, andaze nahi, to aap asal mein kya jaante ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur bojh kitna tathyon ka hai, kitna us tasveer ka jo mann ne unke aaspaas kheench li?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab andaze apni hi awaaz mein aayein #
Baat lag jaaye to mann wajahein likhne lagta hai. “Main hi shayad boring hoon.” “Pichhli baar kuch galat bol diya hoga.” “Kuch toh gadbad hai.” Har andaza tathya ki tarah sunai deta hai.
Dost shayad cricket ya kisi trip ki baat kar rahe hon, par andar ki chat chalti rehti hai, aur uska vishay ek hi hai. Andaze aapke apne shabdon mein aate hain, isliye wo andaze kam aur imaandaari zyada lagte hain.
Ye andaze kiski awaaz mein bolte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya wo aap jaise hain kisi achhe din par, ya kisi kadi awaaz jaise, kisi aur group, kisi aur saal se aayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Daayre se bahar hone ka ehsaas #
Kai logon ke liye ye purani baaton ki goonj hai: poori class ko pata birthday party, cousins ki trip jo bina poochhe ban gayi, hostel ka kamra jahan baaki sabke paas pehle se ek joke tha jisme aap shaamil nahi the. Chat nayi hai, bahar hone ka ehsaas aksar nahi.
Kisi bhi umar mein apne bina bana daayra chubh sakta hai, aur bachchon ke chhoot jaane ki wajahein bahut alag-alag hoti hain. Ek-do baar aisa hone par bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki kisi toli ka hissa bina bataye khatam bhi ho sakta hai.
Aapne pehli baar kab gaur kiya ki aap kisi group mein hain ya nahi, ye jaanch rahe hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kahan the, kitni umar thi, aur wo group kinka tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Agar mujhe nahi joda, to mujhse hi kuch galat hua hoga,” ya “Shayad meri hi galti hai.” Kuch logon mein iska shaant roop hota hai: “Sabke jaisa banna padega, warna phir mujhe bahar rakha jayega.”
Aisa niyam niyam jaisa lagta hi nahi. Wo mahaul ko sahi padhne jaisa lagta hai, jaise band darwaza apne aap mein koi sandesh ho. Isiliye use kabhi-kabhi dheere se dobara dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein use dekha ja sakta hai: bahar reh gaya to wajah main hoon.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Chhooti hui chat ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har plan mein doosre plan ke nishaan dhoondhna, kisi ki der se aayi reply ko saboot maan lena, ya pehle hi mana kar dena taaki chhootne ko kuch bache hi nahi. Kuch log khud plan banana band kar dete hain, jabki saath chahna band nahi hua hota.
Ek chupchaap keemat aur bhi hai. Group mein bahar dhakele jaane ke nishaan dekhte rehna bahut dhyaan maangta hai, aur doston ke saath ka aam waqt bhi imtihaan jaisa lagne lagta hai.
Ye kamzori nahi hai. Har waqt chhootne ki aahat sunte rehna thakata hai.
Hanste hue mann mein chhota sa sawaal rehta hai: ye joke kahin doosri chat ka toh nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhle saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi plan jo nahi bataya, koi shaam jo andazon mein gayi, koi dosti jo bas ehtiyatan door rakhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, daayre ki jaanch karte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Agar mujhe nahi joda, to wajah main hoon” tez baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad group photo jise is nazar se dekha gaya ki usme kaun-kaun hai, ek plan jo sujhaya aur jhat se wapas le liya, kisi dost ka der se aaya jawab jiske teen matlab nikale, ek weekend jo bas ehtiyatan khaali rakha. Kuch baatein jaani-pehchani lagengi, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein neeche rakh sakte hain.
Usme kya hai: message, plan, wo baatein jo sujhayi hi nahi gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Group kis liye bana, aakhir? #
“Naya group” ka matlab bahut kuch ho sakta hai: kisi ek trip ki chat, ek khel, ek office, ek saajha masla.
Log kai daayron mein ek saath hote hain, aur zyadatar daayron ki apni chat hoti hai. Ek chat ke bahar hona us chat ki baat hai. Baaki dosti ke baare mein wo kuch kehti hai ya nahi, ye alag sawaal hai, aur uska ek hi jawab nahi hota.
Agar maqsad ka naam liya ja sake, to kya wo chat in logon ki saari baaton ke baare mein hai, ya unke ek tukde ke baare mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar koi dost aapko bataye ki use abhi-abhi kisi chat ka pata chala jisme wo nahi tha, to aap usse pehle kya poochna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya aap bhi wahi andaza lagate?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log chat nahi, dosti ko dobara dekhte hain, to unhein wo dikhta hai jo ab bhi hai: seedhe message, wo plan jinmein wo shaamil the, us group ke wo log jo aaj bhi haal poochte hain.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki chat ne sach mein kuch badla, aur doori unke pata chalne se pehle ki thi. Kabhi darr tathyon se bahut bada nikalta hai, aur kabhi us group ke baare mein sahi bhi tha.
Dosti ke kaun se hisse pata chalne ke baad mann mein chup ho gaye hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar unki awaaz bhi chat jitni tez hoti, to wo is baare mein kya kehte ki baat asal mein kahan khadi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Aaj raat sab kuch suljhana zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki sab sahi tha, na ye dikhana ki chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek chat ka is par kam chale ki poori dosti kaisi lagti hai, aur ye hafta kaise guzarta hai.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo theek-theek wajah dhoondhna chhod dete hain. Wajahein doosron ke mann mein hain, aur khoj gol-gol ghoomkar kahin pahunchti nahi, bas chhooti hui chat ko har shaam ke beech mein rakhe rehti hai.
Agar koi sawaal par sach mein buri tarah react kare, to use gambheerta se lena theek hai, aur abhi kuch na kehna bhi chalega.
Jo tathya haath mein hain unhein rakhkar andaze jahan hain wahin rehne dein, to kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Har baar bahar mujhe hi rakha jaata hai” barson se baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Main us chat mein nahi hoon. Ye ek tathya hai, in dostiyon ki poori kahani nahi.”
Shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki dheere aur baar-baar kahi jaaye to andazon ki thodi jagah le leti hai, khaaskar jab phone chamke.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chubhan ke baare mein imaandaar ho, par aaj raat hi ye tay na kar de ki iska aapke aur unke baare mein kya matlab hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har chhoote bulave ko jawab, padtaal ya zyada pasand aane ki nayi yojana nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise din ke aakhir mein bag darwaze ke paas rakh dete hain.
Ye kisi ko chhodna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un baatcheeton ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinmein wo hain, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath abhi aaram hai.
Shaam bhar ke liye chat ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo har doosre message, har doosre plan aur aaj ke baaki hisse tak saath na jaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya. Kisi chat se bahar hona ab bhi achha nahi lagta, par wo ek chat ki baat hai, aapke baare mein faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kisi ek dost ko bas gaana share kar dena, kisi shaam ka maza bina ginne ki aur kaun tha, ya group photo ko ek baar dekhkar rakh dena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi chhoot jaane wala ehsaas”
- Chupchaap chhaantiye: kya mujhe pata hai, aur kya sirf andaza hai?
- Khud se poochiye: group kis liye, aakhir?
- Is hafte ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jiske saath aaram rehta hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Sab apni marzi se aur nijee. Ek chun lijiye, ya koi nahi.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Theek kis pal aapko samajh aaya ki chat aapke bina chal rahi thi?
- Us group mein kis naam ne aapko sabse zyada chaunkaya, aur wahi kyun?
- Phone ke aakhirkar shaant hone par kaun sa sawaal baar-baar laut aata hai?
- Jis aam din ye bahar-chhootne wala niyam tez bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar wo niyam thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?