Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Hum jo umeed lekar jaate hain, wo jo sunte hain use rang deti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye saath-saath naape jaane se shuru hua: darwaze ki chaukhat par pencil se kheenchi oonchaiyan, ek hi saal kharidi gayi do cycles, sports day par rishtedaar ka poochna ki kaun tez bhaaga.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bhai-behen ek hi team mein hone chahiye,” ya “Agar wo mere liye khush hote to barabar karne ki zaroorat na padti.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Apni khabar tab tak roke rakhna jab tak unki baat ka apna pal na ho jaaye
- Apni khabar sabse chhote roop mein batana, ki jawab dene ko kuch na bache
- Unke barabar karne ko ek aur byora jod dena, phir pachhtana
- Unki update dekhna aur chupchaap hisaab rakhna ki kaun aage hai
- Jaayaz chot apne paas rakhna, kahin use jalan na keh diya jaaye
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Aapki 10 km, uski half marathon
Diwali ki jutan, Bhopal mein Mummy-Papa ka ghar. Aap batate hain ki aapne daudna shuru kiya hai aur apni pehli 10 kilometre poori ki. Bhai hanskar kehta hai ki pichhle saal usne half marathon ki thi, “Par badhai ho.” Phir baaki khane bhar wo apni training ki baat karta hai. Aap chup ho jaate hain, aur ghar lautte hue lagta hai jaise us daud mein sabse peeche aaye jismein naam hi nahi likhwaya tha.
Har baat muqabla na ho
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bhai ko har cheez muqabla banana band karna chahiye.” Ye theek lagta hai. Har baat mein jeetne wala nahi chahiye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapko bhi muqable ke andar rakhta hai. Har parivarik khana ek match ban jaata hai jiske liye kamar kasni padti hai, aur aapki khabar ab poori kehne se pehle hi uski khabar se napne lagti hai. Jo muqabla hatana chahte the, wo ab aapke andar rehta hai.
Bhai-behen saath-saath kyun naape gaye
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki bhai-behen aksar shuru se saath-saath naape jaate hain: report card, chaukhat par oonchai, kisne pehle cycle chalana seekha. Shayad aap chhote the, hamesha barabari ki koshish mein. Shayad muqabla kabhi aapki pasand thi hi nahi. Jo bhi ho, iska rukna chaahna chidchidapan nahi hai. Ye barabari par hone, ek hi taraf hone ki chaah hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Apni khabar apne paas rakhna
Har daur aapko thoda aur satark kar jaata hai. Aap apni khabar rok lete ho, ya use bada sunane ke liye rehearse karte ho. Dekhte rehte ho ki wo kya kar raha hai. Khane khel jaise lagte hain. Aur jab aap achha karte bhi ho, to mann ka ek hissa uske jawab ka intezaar karta hai jo use chhota kar de. Aapka chain us khel se bandh jaata hai jo aap kabhi khelna nahi chahte the.
Kya ye muqabla khelna theek hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya uske jawabon ka hisaab rakhne se kabhi muqabla khatam hua? Ya zyadatar aapko khelte rakha? Ek-doosre ko peeche chhodne ke peeche kya hai, ye uske siwa koi nahi jaanta. Kuch muqable tabhi chalte hain jab dono hisaab rakhte rahein. Jo bhi ho, uski half marathon aapki 10 kilometre ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadne ki keemat us se zyada hai jo ye deta hai, har khane ke saath.
Bina kisi ko haraye jeet
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki uske munh se bas “Badhai ho” sunne ki chaah chhoot jaaye. Matlab ye ki aapki uplabdhiyon ko ginaa jaane ke liye uski se jeetna zaroori na rahe. Aapki 10 kilometre kathin thi aur aapki apni. Agli tulna sunkar bhi apne mann ke bheetar daud se bahar nikla ja sakta hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki zindagi muqabla nahi rehti, bas aapki apni ho jaati hai.
If the rivalry ever turns into being put down, threatened or frightened, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleWo har baat muqabla banana band kare.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri jeet kisi ko haraye bina bhi ginee jaati hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte ki ek cheez ka maza bina tulna ke lijiye
- Kadam 2
Jab tulna aaye, ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Bhai ya behen ki ek pasand ki baat sochiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aap aur aapke bhai ya behen aakhri baar kab sachmuch ek taraf mehsoos hue, aur tab kya kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Aapki khabar, aur phir unki #
Bhopal mein Arera Colony ke ghar par Sunday ke khane mein aap nayi bhumika ka zikr karte hain, aur vaakya khatam hone se pehle bhai apni team, apne promotion aur uski yatra ki baat karne lagta hai. Baat mud jaati hai, aur ek khayal peeche reh jaata hai: “Mere bhai-behen ko mujhse hod karna band karna chahiye.”
Zor se kahein to baat aksar sookhe se “Haan-haan, bilkul” ya table ke us paar cousin ki taraf ek nazar se aage nahi jaati. Andar aisa lag sakta hai ki har khabar ko pehle ek muqable se guzarna padta hai, tab jaakar aapki hoti hai.
Bhai-behen aur hod ke baare mein ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur abhi kaun si khabar baanti gayi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Batane ke baad ki jhilmilahat #
Kuch logon ko jhat se ek giraavat lagti hai jab unki khabar ka jawab kisi bade sanskaran se aaye: chehre par muskaan tiki rehti hai jabki andar kuch baith jaata hai, ya haath bas kuch karne ko glass ki taraf badh jaata hai.
Kuch ko ulti khinchaav lagti hai: ek aur baat jodkar daav ooncha karne ki ichha, isse pehle ki ye socha jaaye ki hod chal bhi rahi thi ya nahi. Sharir us daud mein utar jaata hai jiske liye mann ne kabhi haami nahi bhari.
Pichhli baar jab bhai ya behen ne aapki khabar ka jawab apni khabar se diya, to koi jawab aane se pehle aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek hi taraf hona, chaahne layak hai #
Is umeed mein sachchi samajh hai. Bhai ya behen akela wo insaan ho sakta hai jo jaanta hai ki aap ek hi shuruaati lakeer se kitni door aaye hain, aur unhein apne saamne nahi, bagal mein chaahna utni hi aam umeed hai jitni umeedein hoti hain.
Hum jo umeed lekar jaate hain, wo jo sunte hain use rang deti hai. Bhai-behen ki khushi ki umeed lekar khane par jaayein, to unke apne saal ka jawab, unki mansha jo bhi ho, muqable jaisa gir sakta hai.
Agar aap aur aapke bhai ya behen khabar ke maamle mein ek hi taraf hote, to agla parivarik khana kaisa sunayi deta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Daud chaalu rakhne wali awaaz #
“Kya ek achhi baat bina unki baat bane nahi ho sakti?” “Phir wahi.” “Kuch kaha toh baat jalan ki thehregi.” Ye awaaz aksar khabar baantne ke theek baad bolti hai, ya ghar lautte hue, ye dohrate hue ki kisne kya pehle kaha.
“Jalan” jaisa shabd parivaar mein ek baar chal nikle to barson kamre mein tika reh sakta hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo ek jaayaz chot isliye daba lete hain ki kahin use isi shabd ke khaane mein na rakh diya jaaye, aur ek ki jagah do baatein dhote hain.
Jab awaaz bhai ya behen ke saath parivarik khane ko dohrati hai, to wo kis pal par lautti hai, aur us waqt aap kya chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Daud ki lakeer pehli baar kahan kheenchi #
Kuch logon mein ye saath-saath naape jaane se shuru hua: darwaze ki chaukhat par pencil se kheenchi oonchaiyan, ek hi saal kharidi gayi do cycles, sports day par rishtedaar ka poochna ki kaun tez bhaaga. Chhoti tulnayein bhai-behenon ko aisi jodi bana sakti hain jiski rank tay ki jaaye.
Kuch mein ye chalte-chalte kahi gayi baaton se aaya: “Tumhare bhai ko maths mein kabhi madad nahi chahiye thi,” ya “Apni behen jaisi bano.” Kuch parivaaron mein tulna hi khabar ki baat karne ka tareeka hai, aur bachche har taraf se ye aadat pakad lete hain.
Bade hote hue kaun sa pal pehli baar aapko aur bhai ya behen ko saath-saath khada karke taulne laga, aur taulne wala kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Parivarik khabar ke neeche ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bhai-behen ek hi team mein hone chahiye,” ya “Agar wo mere liye khush hote to barabar karne ki zaroorat na padti.” Pehla umeed hai; doosra tay karta hai ki unki har khabar kaise suni jaaye.
Dono mein ek jaayaz chaah hai. Par kasakar pakadein to har baatcheet imtihaan ban jaati hai, aur bhai ya behen ki apne hafte ki aam update bhi score ke liye padhi jaati hai, aur padhna unka vaakya khatam hone se pehle shuru ho sakta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Bhai ya behen ke saath kin palon mein “ek hi team” wala niyam fit hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Hod ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki promotion ki baat colleagues ko hafton pehle pata chale aur parivaar ko baad mein, chhutti ki tasveer daali aur phir archive ki gayi, birthday ka lunch har vaakya chunte hue beeta. Aam khabar, nazuk cheez ki tarah sambhali gayi, poore saal bhar.
Jab har khabar khel ki chaal lage, to khabar ka swaad hi kuch feeka pad sakta hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki unke apne achhe din tabhi poore lagte hain jab bhai-behen ke din se naap liye jaayein.
Apni kisi aisi khabar ko sochiye jo tulna ki wajah se chhoti lagi: usse pehle usmein aapko kya achha laga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, roki hui khabron ke #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Bhai-behen hod karna band karein” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad office ka ek achha nateeja apne paas rakha hua jab tak bhai ya behen ki khabar ka jashn na ho jaaye, unki update do baar padhi hui ki uska kya kon hai, weekend ka lunch jismein chhode jaane wale vishay pehle se chune hon.
Ismein kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi, aur ye tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: khabrein, family group, lunch ki yojanayein, roki hui baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya baanta jaata hai, aur kya baad ke liye rukta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ek hi parivaar, alag-alag patriyan #
Jo ek kursi se muqabla lage, wo doosri kursi se seedhi-saadi barabari ki baat lag sakti hai. Hum sochte hain ki doosre humein jitna dekhte hain usse zyada dekhte hain, aur bhai-behen ka apne saal ki baat karna bas apne saal ki baat ho sakta hai, ya nahi bhi. Bahar se batana kathin hai.
Umar, vishayon ya kshetron mein paas ke bhai-behenon ke peeche tulna ghoomti rehti hai chahe shuru koi bhi kare. Rishtedaar, school aur family group ek daud chalaye rakh sakte hain jise do log bina chune daudte rahein.
Agar aapki khabar ko bhai ya behen ki khabar ke bagal mein rakhna hi na padta, to uska kaun sa hissa aapko sabse zyada bhaata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Ye bhai ya behen pehle se kya laate hain #
Jis ek-taraf hone ki aapne umeed ki, uske bagal mein ye dekhna achha ho sakta hai ki is bhai ya behen se pehle se kya aata hai, chahe kitna bhi mila-jula: parivarik lunch par koi purana mazaak, koi mauka jab unhone kisi rishtedaar ke saamne aapki tarafdaari ki, table ke paar ek saajhi nazar jab koi aur tulna chhede.
Ye dekhne se hod theek nahi lagne lagti, aur badle mein kisi ka kuch bakaya nahi banta. Jalan aur lagaav, dono ek parivaar mein, ek hi dopahar tak mein, reh sakte hain. Bina maange aaye chhote, thos pal aksar sabse aasaani se thaame jaate hain.
Aaj kuch na soojhe to bhi theek hai.
Bhai ya behen parivaar ki zindagi mein pehle se kya laate hain jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Apni khabar ke saath sulah #
Is umeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo zyada maang thi, ya ye ki sahi thi. Matlab hai ki jis bhai-behen se aapne khushi ki umeed ki thi aur jo table ke us paar hai, unke beech ka faasla ye tay karna band kar de ki aapki khabar kab aur kahan tak batayi jaayegi.
Ismein jo uchit hai wo reh sakta hai: apni jeet apni rakhna, bhai ya behen ka saath chaahna. Jo dheeli pad sakti hai wo pakad hai, taaki unki khabar unki rahe aur aapki aapki, har ek apne din par achhi hone ki ijaazat paaye.
Buniyadi izzat aur hifazat kabhi “zyada umeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur aapke bhai ya behen ke liye bhi. Agar ye hod kabhi neecha dikhane, dhamki ya daraane mein badalne lage, to wo kuch aur baat hai aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Aur jahan koi bhai ya behen, ya parivaar mein koi bhi, aapki khabar par sachmuch buri tarah pratikriya kare, wahan kuch samay use apne paas rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Is umeed se sulah wale ek achhe hafte ki tasveer banaiye: sabse pehle aap kya chakhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle parivarik khane ke liye ek pankti #
“Mere bhai-behen ko mujhse hod karna band karna chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log aisi pankti taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unki khabar unki hai, aur meri apni jagah par ginee jaati hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purani ke bagal mein khada rehna hai.
Shuru mein ye thodi banawati lag sakti hai, khaaskar khane ke beech mein. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apni banayi pankti istemaal se shaant aur sthir hoti jaati hai; kuch doosri dhoondhne lagte hain. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek sachchi pankti kya hogi, jo bhai ya behen ke aage kuch bhi kehne par bhi aapki khabar aapki hi rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch khane table par hi khatam ho sakte hain #
Har baatcheet ko dohrana ya jeetna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai aur wahin chhoda ja sakta hai jahan huin, jaise lambe parivarik lunch ke baad tah kiye napkin, ya group photo jise zoom karke dekhna nahi padta.
Jahan koi bhai ya behen, ya parivaar mein koi bhi, aapki khabar par sachmuch buri tarah pratikriya kare, use gambhirta se lena chahiye, aur kuch samay apne paas rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai. Ek hi taraf hone ki chaah jitni der chahein nijee reh sakti hai.
Aaj shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki ye theek tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ki raat aapki apni khabar ki ho sakti hai, kisi se naapi hui nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar daud thodi bhi dheemi ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye umeed ek darja dheemi hai. Ek hi taraf hone ki chaah bani hai, par unki khabar bas unki khabar hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: achhe nateeje ka usi din maza lena, kisi dost ko sabse pehle batana kyunki din usi ka hai, ya apni khabar ek shaam apne paas rakhna kyunki use rakhna achha lagta hai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, dekhne ke liye. Aage, is umeed se sulah kaisi dikh sakti hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab table par khabar bante, to dekhiye kya ho raha hai: sunna ya naapna
- Kisi aur ke sunne se pehle apni achhi khabar kaisi lagti hai, is par dhyaan dijiye
- Aaj aapne jo chaha, ek chhoti si cheez bhi, us par dhyaan dijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: ye daud kiski hai, aur kya maine kabhi iske liye haami bhari thi?
- Bhai ya behen ki ek aisi khoobi dekhiye jiski barabari karne ki aapki koi chaah nahi
Chhote, nijee, aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aap aur aapke bhai ya behen aakhri baar kab sachmuch ek taraf mehsoos hue, aur tab kya kar rahe the?
- Aapki kaun si jeet yaad karke aaj bhi achha lagta hai, aur sabse pehle kise bataya tha?
- Bhai ya behen ki kaun si baat aap chupchaap saraahte hain, bina uski barabari chahe?
- Agar bhai-behen se hod rokne ki chaah thodi dheeli pade, to aap sabse pehle kya dekhenge?
- Bhai ya behen parivaar ki zindagi mein pehle se kya laate hain jiska aap maza lena chahein?