Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jo tasveer aap andar rakhte ho, wahi tay karti hai ki har pal kaisa lagta hai.
Kuch logon ke liye ye un report cards tak jaata hai jo family get-togethers mein haathon-haath ghoomte the, Nani ka poochhna ki kiska bachcha first aaya, ek hi umar ke cousins photo aur sawaalon ke liye saath khade kiye jaate hue.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar Mummy-Papa mujhse khush hote, to kisi aur ka naam lene ki zaroorat hi nahi padti,” ya “Har cousin ki kamyabi mere baare mein ek ishara hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Un get-togethers se bachna jahan cousin ki khabar table par ghoomegi
- Family group mute karna, phir raat ko chupke se khol lena
- Ghar par achhi khabar tabhi batana jab wo kisi cousin ki khabar ke bagal mein tik sake
- Chupchaap hisaab rakhna ki kaun cousin kab kya kar raha hai
- Table par hanskar taal dena, phir poori shaam wahi line mann mein dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Diwali lunch aur Riya ka beta
Diwali ka lunch, Indore mein Mummy-Papa ke flat par. Thaaliyan bhari hain, ghar mein ghee ki khushboo hai, aur tabhi Mummy kehti hain: “Riya ke bete ka pehli baar mein nikal gaya.” Papa sar hilakar aapki taraf dekhte hain. Muskaan ke saath raita aage badh jaata hai. Kisi ne kuch aur nahi kaha, par khaane ka swaad badal gaya, aur lautte hue mann mein wahi ginti chalti rehti hai ki kya-kya kiya aur kisi ne nahi ginaa.
Unhein aap dikhne chahiye, cousin nahi
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mummy-Papa ko mujhe dekhna chahiye, kisi aur ke bagal mein khade mujhko nahi.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har family get-together ko aapko number dene ki taaqat de deta hai. Cousin ki khabar aapka report card ban jaati hai. Aur apni zindagi ke baare mein aapka ehsaas is par tik jaata hai ki lunch mein kiska naam aaya aur Mummy-Papa ne aage kya kaha.
Mummy-Papa ki nazar itni gehri kyun
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki Mummy-Papa ki nazar mein dikhne ki chaah bahut gehri hoti hai. Shayad ghar mein taareef tulna se hi hoti thi, aur aapne barson pehle aane ki koshish ki. Shayad aap chamakdaar cousin ke bagal mein shaant wale rahe, hamesha naap-jokh mein. Jo bhi ho, ye chaah naazuk-mizaaji nahi hai. Ye chaah hai ki Mummy-Papa aapko jaanein, bas aapko. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Mulaqaat se pehle cousins ki khabar
Har tulna aapke saath ghar lautti hai. Family mulaqaat se pehle cousins ki khabar khangaalne ki aadat pad jaati hai. Apni achhi khabar tab tak ruki rehti hai jab tak wo takkar na le sake. Aapki uplabdhiyan ek aise scoreboard ki entry ban jaati hain jiske liye aapne kabhi dastkhat nahi kiye. Aur aapka chain uske haath mein chala jaata hai jo lunch ki table par aakhir mein bola.
Kya ye daud keemat ke laayak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya cousins se apne ko taulne se kabhi tulna ruki? Ya zyadatar family mulaqaatein bhaari hi hui? Kai gharon mein tulna bas khabar pahunchane ka tareeka hoti hai, aur wo aapse zyada aadat ke baare mein kehti hai. Jo bhi ho, kisi cousin ka result aapki zindagi ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadne mein jitna milta hai, usse zyada jaata hai.
Cousins se koi daud nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap chahna chhod do ki wo aapko aapki apni shartein par dekhein. Matlab ye ki aapki zindagi ko number paane ke liye kisi family lunch ka intezaar nahi karna padta. Jo aapne banaya hai, us par bharosa aap pehle kar sakte ho, kisi ke tulna karne se pehle. Agli tulna ko dekhkar thaaliyon ke saath rakha ja sakta hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki zindagi ko phir aap hi naapte ho.
If being compared at home ever comes with shouting or threats, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein mujhe dekhna chahiye, kisi aur ke bagal mein khade mujhko nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri zindagi cousins se koi daud nahi hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is saal ki ek baat sochiye jis par aapko garv hai
- Kadam 2
Agli tulna aaye to use guzar jaane dijiye
- Kadam 3
Agli family mulaqaat se pehle apni ek jeet yaad kar lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bachpan mein kis cousin ke sabse kareeb the, aur saath milkar kya-kya shararatein ki?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Cousin ki khabar, aur uske baad ki chuppi #
Indore mein Nani ke ghar Sunday ka khaana hai. Mausi phone par kisi cousin ka message padhkar sunati hain, “Dekho, pehli baar mein nikaal liya!” Aur sabki nazar usi taraf ghoom jaati hai. Uske baad ki chhoti-si chuppi mein mann kehta hai: “Mummy-Papa ko meri tulna cousin se karna band karna chahiye.”
Zyadatar ye thakaan ki tarah nikalti hai: table par ek aur cousin ki khabar, ek aur “dekho kitna achha kar raha hai”, aur bas ek baar aisi baatcheet ki chaah jismein aapke naam ke bagal mein kisi aur ka naam na ho.
Ghar mein aapke naam ke saath kisi cousin ka naam aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur us din khabar kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Khabar pahunchne se pehle ki jakdan #
Kuch logon ko Mummy-Papa ke munh se cousin ka naam sunte hi pata chal jaata hai: seene mein kasaav, nazar phone par, aur muskaan ek second zyada tiki hui, jab tak kisi ka pehli baar mein selection ya nayi job ki baat chal rahi ho.
Ye ehsaas tulna ke shabd aane se pehle hi aa jaata hai. Kabhi khabar seedhi-saadi sunayi jaati hai, aapke baare mein ek shabd nahi, phir bhi wo aap par tippani jaisi lagti hai, kyunki ye purani dhun kai baar suni ja chuki hai.
Pichli baar jab Mummy-Papa ne kisi cousin ki khabar sunayi, to aapke baare mein kuch kahe jaane se pehle aapne kya feel kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Apni tarah se dekhe jaane ki chaah #
Apni tarah se dekha jaana, kisi aur ke number ke bagal mein ek aankda banakar nahi, Mummy-Papa se chahne laayak baat hai. Kuch log ummeed karte hain ki ghar mein, kam se kam yahin, unki zindagi ko usi ke paimane par aanka jaaye, kisi cousin ke nahi.
Jo tasveer aap andar rakhte ho, wahi tay karti hai ki har pal kaisa lagta hai. Agar tasveer hai “ghar mein main bas main hoon”, to baatcheet mein giraya gaya har cousin ka naam us tasveer mein ek aur daraar jaisa lag sakta hai.
Agar Mummy-Papa ek poori shaam aapko sirf aap ki tarah dekhein, to aap sabse pehle kya chahoge ki unki nazar mein aaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Cousins ka scoreboard rakhne wali awaaz #
“Haan-haan, uski nayi job ka zikr to hona hi tha.” “Lo, phir ek cousin ki kahani.” “Mere baare mein poochh kyun nahi lete?” Ye awaaz tab bolti hai jab family group mein badhaiyan bharti hain, ya khaane par phone ulta rakh diya jaata hai.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki ye awaaz khud gharwalon se zyada tulna karne lagti hai: family call se pehle cousin ki profile dekh lena, apni khabar ko itna chamkana ki wo tik jaaye. Ginti ke neeche, kuch ke liye, ghar mein bina kisi naap-jokh ke apnaye jaane ki chaah hoti hai.
Jab ye awaaz aapko kisi cousin ke saamne khada karti hai, to pehle kise chunti hai, aur uske baare mein kya kehti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Barabari ki qataar kahan se shuru hoti hai #
Kuch logon ke liye ye un report cards tak jaata hai jo family get-togethers mein haathon-haath ghoomte the, Nani ka poochhna ki kiska bachcha first aaya, ek hi umar ke cousins photo aur sawaalon ke liye saath khade kiye jaate hue. Kai gharon mein cousins lagbhag ek hi badi class ki tarah bade hote hain.
Kuch ke liye ye alag-alag vaakyon se aaya jo atak gaye: “Tumhare Bhaiya ko to kabhi tuition ki zaroorat nahi padi”, kisi school-uniform wale saal mein yoon hi kaha gaya, ya Mausi se phone par baat karte hue Mummy ki awaaz ka achanak khil jaana. Kuch ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Kis family get-together mein pehli baar laga ki aapko cousin ke saath qataar mein rakh diya gaya hai, aur bagal mein kaun sa cousin tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baitha chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar Mummy-Papa mujhse khush hote, to kisi aur ka naam lene ki zaroorat hi nahi padti,” ya “Har cousin ki kamyabi mere baare mein ek ishara hai.” Pehli line wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki ghar ki har khabar kaise padhi jaayegi.
Aise niyam kabhi elaan karke nahi aate. Wo bas apne ghar ko jaanne jaise lagte hain, aur kabhi-kabhi jo kaha jaata hai usse mel bhi khaate hain. Isiliye inhein dekhna banta hai, Mummy-Papa aur cousins ke aaj ke roop ke bagal mein, sirf barah saal ki umar wale roop ke nahi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak khoj lete hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Cousins wala ye niyam aaj ki kin family baaton par ab bhi baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein tulna ki keemat #
Ye kisi cousin ke griha-pravesh mein na jaana ho sakta hai, apni achhi khabar rok lena taaki wo unki khabar ke bagal mein na baithe, ya Mummy-Papa se lambi call jismein bas kisi khaas naam ke aane ka intezaar chalta rahe. Kuch bhi oonchi awaaz mein nahi, aur phir bhi sab wahin hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi judi ho sakti hai. Jo cousins kabhi chhat par patang udane ke saathi the, wo ek chalte hue jod-ghatav mein badal sakte hain, aur kuch log dekhte hain ki wo kisi aise cousin se door ho gaye jo unhein sach mein pasand tha, kuch aaspaas ki tulna ki wajah se.
Is saal ko sochiye: kis cousin se, agar kisi se, ghar ki tulna ki wajah se doori ban gayi, aur uski kya kami khalti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Agli photo ke intezaar ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mummy-Papa ko tulna band karni chahiye” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, sudharne ki nahi.
Shayad group mein kisi cousin ki photo aur pet pehle se kasa hua, Mummy-Papa se ek call jo naam aane se pehle hi chhoti kar di gayi, apni ek chhoti jeet jo kisi behtar hafte ke liye rok li gayi.
Yahan kuch bhavishyavani nahi hai, aur tasveer ko kabhi bhi neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: messages, ghar ki call, family group, jo baatein ankahi reh gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar kar raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar agar kuch alag se khada hota hai, to wo kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Tulna, ya bas batayi gayi khabar? #
Cousin ka har zikr tulna nahi hota. Kuch khabrein bas khabrein hoti hain, jaise Mummy-Papa mausam ki baat sunate hain; kuch sach mein aapke aur unke beech lakeer khinchti hain. Barson baad dono ek-si sunayi de sakti hain, aur kis din kaun si thi, ye bas aap jaante ho.
Family ke kareeb hona aur apna insaan hona, dono ek hi zindagi mein sama sakte hain. Kisi cousin ki achhi khabar aur aapki apni zindagi ek hi family group mein reh sakti hain, aur koi doosre ka paimana nahi, table par chahe jo kaha jaaye.
Agar cousins ke pichle kuch zikr aap do dheron mein baantein, saadi khabar aur asli tulna, to kaun sa dher bada niklega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se sirf aapka hai #
Jis tulna ke rukne ki aap chaah rakhte ho, uske bagal mein shayad Mummy-Papa ki kuch baatein pehle se hain jo sirf aapke baare mein hain, chahe kitni bhi chhoti ya tedhi-medhi: aapke apne hafte ke baare mein ek sawaal, purane ghar ki forward ki hui photo, aap aayein to aapki pasand ka khaana banna.
Inmein se kisi ko chukana nahi padta, aur inse aapki chaah naajaayaz nahi ho jaati; sachchi chot aur ye chhoti baatein, dono sach ho sakti hain. Sirf aapke liye kahi baatein family group mein kisi cousin ki khabar ke neeche dab jaana aasaan hai.
Kisi bhaari family-group wale hafte mein shayad inmein se kam hi mile, aur koi baat nahi.
Mummy-Papa pehle se aapko aisa kya dete hain jo sirf aapke baare mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Apni zindagi, apne paimane par #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki tulna theek hai, ya ki uska rukna chahna bahut zyada hai. Matlab ye hai ki kisi cousin ki khabar aapki poori shaam, ghar ki pheri ya aapke apne achhe hafte ka mood tay karna band kar de.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: apni tarah se dekhe jaane ki chaah, apni zindagi ki baat apne paimane par hone ki chaah. Jo dheela pad sakta hai wo ye hai ki cousin ka naam kitna tay karta hai, taaki cousin ki photo bas cousin ki photo rahe, aur aapki subah aapki subah.
Ghar mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Agar tulna ke saath chillana ya dhamkiyan bhi aati hain, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne laayak ek sachchi line #
“Mummy-Papa ko meri tulna cousin se karna band karna chahiye” se ladne ki jagah kuch log ek aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unki khabar unki hai, meri zindagi mere apne kadmon se chalti hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purani wali ke bagal mein khade hona hai.
Shuru mein ye feeki lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apni line utni jagah thodi le leti hai jo tulna gherti thi; kuch ko nahi lagta, aur ye bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek sachchi line kya hogi, jo cousins ko aage badhne de aur aapki apni zindagi ko poori rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein group mein hi reh sakti hain #
Har cousin ki kahani ka jawab dena zaroori nahi. Kuch ko ek baar padhkar, pal bhar feel karke, wahin chhoda ja sakta hai jahan wo aayi, jaise Mausi ke fridge par chipka akhbaar ka cutting, ya kisi ke ghar ki almaari par tiki chhapi hui photo.
Cousins ki khabrein aati rahengi, aur kisi par bhi aapko jawab nahi dena. Agar ghar mein tulna ke saath chillana ya dhamkiyan bhi aati hain, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai. Apni tarah se dekhe jaane ki chaah nijee reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi sach hai.
Aaj ki shaam ke liye ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki cousin ki khabar ko din ke baaki hisse mein aapke peeche nahi chalna padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar pakad zara bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Apni tarah se dekhe jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par cousin ki khabar bas cousin ki khabar hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: group mein ek photo par angoothe ka nishaan aur aapki apni subah chalti hui; ek achha hafta jise tulna jaanche bina jiya jaaye; ya family lunch jiska swaad liya jaaye, pehre mein baithkar nipataya na jaaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, is par nazar ki isse sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle thoda-sa bhi alag kya lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Dhyaan dijiye ki kis cousin ka naam sabse zyada chubhta hai, aur kiska lagbhag nahi
- Cousin ki khabar aaye to gaur kijiye ki sabse pehle kaun sa ehsaas aata hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez gaur se dekhiye jo aapne bas apne liye chahi
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mujhse kya poochha jaana mujhe achha lagega?
- Ek minute ke liye kisi cousin ko purane khel ke saathi ki tarah yaad kijiye, paimane ki tarah nahi
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bachpan mein kis cousin ke sabse kareeb the, aur saath milkar kya-kya shararatein ki?
- Pichli baar jab table par cousin ki khabar bhari thi, to aap kya chahte the ki Mummy-Papa aapse poochhein?
- Mummy-Papa sabse zyada kis cousin ka naam lete hain, aur uske baad kaun si line sunayi deti hai?
- Agar Mummy-Papa ki tulna band hone ki chaah thodi dheeli ho jaaye, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Mummy-Papa pehle se aapki apni zindagi ke baare mein kya poochhte hain jise aap aur gaur se dekhna chahoge?