Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Beech wale ko is kaam ka shukriya shayad hi milta hai.
Bahut logon ne beech ki ye jagah bachpan mein hi seekh li, un gharon mein jahan bado ki kabhi-kabhi bolchaal band rehti thi.
Beech se ek chupchaap niyam ug sakta hai: “Main sabko shaant rakhun, tabhi ghar juda rahega.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Dono se thoda-thoda sehmat ho jaana, aur baad mein khud ko domunha mehsoos karna
- Har sandesh itna naram kar dena ki uska matlab hi na bache
- Doosre ka naam aate hi ekdam chup ho jaana
- Aise function se bachna jahan dono honge
- Us pal kisi ek ki side le lena, phir hafton guilt mein rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Khaane ki table par daakiya
Raat ka khaana, TV par news wale chilla rahe hain. Mummy ne mama ko paise bheje, papa ko pata chal gaya, aur ab dono ki bolchaal band. Mummy roti rakhte hue: “Apne papa se keh do, gas ka bill bhi bharna hai.” Papa, remote uthakar: “Apni mummy se keh do, paise ped par nahi ugte.” Aap sandesh idhar se udhar le jaate ho. Phir papa aapki taraf mudte hain: “Waise tu hai kiski taraf?”
Sabko shaant rakho, ghar juda rahe
Pehle saaf baat: side chunne ko kaha jaana unke jhagde ko aapka nahi bana deta, aur ye is baat ka imtihaan nahi ki aap kisse kitna pyaar karte ho. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo aapka apna ban jaata hai: “Main sabko shaant rakhun, tabhi ghar juda rahega.” Ye parwah jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: unki shaanti aapki duty ban jaati hai, aur aapka apna chain intezaar karta hai.
Beech wali jagah apni kyun lagti hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki humein dono se pyaar hai, aur apnon ko aapas mein khinche dekhna saha nahi jaata. Shayad bachpan se aap hi band kamre tak chai aur khabar le jaate the. Shayad laga ki aur koi ye nahi karega. Dono tarah se, ghar ko juda chahna bewakoofi nahi. Ye poore ghar ka hissa hone ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Do paaton ke beech ka kaam
Ye niyam chupchaap bahut kuch maangta hai. Khaane par baithne se pehle mann mein tatasth jawab rate jaate hain. Har sandesh naram kiya jaata hai taaki aaram se baithe. Dono ke aage sir hilta hai, dono se thodi-thodi haami, aur uthte waqt sir-dard. Kisi shaam ghar lautne ka mann hi nahi karta. Chakki ke do paaton ke beech pisna kisi ko nahi dikhta, par kandhon mein raat bhar mehsoos hota hai.
Kya sab dhona iske laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: sandesh dhone se kya kabhi jhagda khatam hua? Ya zyadatar bas do kamron ke beech thakaan hi mili? Unki anban unki hai, aur sulah bhi unhi ki. Dono se pyaar karna kabhi dono ko sudharne jaisa nahi tha. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Unke bachche, unke daakiye nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki dono mein se kisi se pyaar kam ho, ya parwah chhoot jaaye ki baat kaise khatam hogi. Matlab ye hai ki unka jhagda ab aapki chhaati mein na rahe. Aap unke bachche reh sakte ho, daakiye nahi, aur sandesh ko usi kamre mein rehne de sakte ho jahan wo shuru hua. Shuruaat ek khaane se ho sakti hai. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aap bas wahan ho sakte ho.
If being in the middle comes with threats, someone being hurt or frightened, or money or papers held over you, that is not everyday and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMain sabko shaant rakhun, tabhi ghar juda rahega.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleUnka jhagda unka hai. Dono se mera pyaar apni jagah.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Mann mein pehchaniye kab koi sandesh aapka dhone ka nahi
- Din 2
Khaane par baithne se pehle ek dheemi saans, bas apne liye
- Din 3
Aaj ki apni ek zaroorat ka naam lijiye, bas apne aap se
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapke ghar mein shaanti banaye rakhna pehli baar kab aapka kaam ban gaya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek sawaal, aur do log intezaar mein #
Mummy-papa jinki bolchaal band hai, shaadi ke jhagde ke baad do behenein, saas aur bahu, do dost jinki anban ho gayi. Har koi apni side sunata hai, aur phir koi poochhta hai: “Tu kiski taraf hai?” Ya bas: “Apne papa se keh do.”
Sawaal seedha lagta hai, par maangta kuch aisa hai jo namumkin lag sakta hai: usi waqt un do logon mein se ek chunna jinse aap pyaar karte ho, ek aise jhagde mein jo aapke bina shuru hua aur jise suljhane ki haami aapne kabhi bhari nahi.
Aakhri baar aisa kuch kab poochha gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jawab ka intezaar kaun kar raha tha, aur aapne asal mein kya kaha, uske muqable jo kehna chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Do logon ke beech jam jaana #
Koi muskurakar baat badal deta hai, koi TV ki taraf dekhne lagta hai, koi gol-mol kuch keh deta hai aur baad mein khud par kheejhta hai. Isme koi kamzori nahi.
Jinse hum jude hain, wo do taraf kheenchein, to apnepan ka hi koi purana alarm baj sakta hai, isliye sharir sochne se pehle react karta hai. Saaf aur naram jawab aksar baad mein aata hai: bartan dhote hue, ya light band hone ke baad, jab wo pal ja chuka hota hai.
Bahut logon ke andar pehle kuch kas jaata hai, phir tez hisaab shuru hota hai: kya kahun ki kisi ko bura na lage?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab sawaal aaya, aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Baat sambhalne ka mann hua, chhipne ka, ya kamre se nikal jaane ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo khinchaav kya kehta hai ki wo dono aapke liye kitne maayne rakhte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye pyaar ko ek chunaav bana deta hai #
Beech mein phansna isliye chubhta hai kyunki ye pyaar ko ek chunaav bana deta hai. Jin do logon ki aapko parwah hai, dono chahte hain ki aap unki taraf hon, aur har jawab kisi ek ki keemat par lagta hai. Jhagda unka hai, par uska bahut-sa bojh aap par aa girta hai.
Beech wale ko is kaam ka shukriya shayad hi milta hai. Har sandesh naram karna, har mood bhaampna, dono ko apne se baat karte rakhna: ye mehnat kisi ko nahi dikhti, aur jab koi sandesh galat baith jaaye, to aksar daant daakiye ko hi padti hai.
Isiliye ye itna bhaari lag sakta hai, tab bhi jab jhagda chhota ho.
Sandeshon ke neeche, asal mein baat kis par atki thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kab wo unki na rehkar aapki lagne lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab beech-bachaav wali awaaz andar se bole #
Kaafi baar ho to ek awaaz andar bas jaati hai aur ye kaam chalati rehti hai. “Aisa kuch mat kehna jisse wo bhadkein.” “Maahaul shaant rakhna mere zimme hai.” “Jo bhi kahun, koi toh naraz hoga.” Phone par dono mein se kisi ka naam chamke, aur ye shuru ho jaati hai.
Agle tyohaar tak dono shayad aage badh chuke hon, par ye awaaz gol-mol lines ratti rehti hai aur mood bhaampti rehti hai. Kyunki ye aapki apni samajhdaari jaisi lagti hai, ye dikhna mushkil hai ki ye us jagah ne di thi jise aapne kabhi chuna nahi.
Jab ye awaaz andar bolti hai, to kiski lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya us chhote bachche ki jo do kamron ke beech darwaaze par khada rehta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bahut logon ke liye beech ki jagah purani hai #
Bahut logon ne beech ki ye jagah bachpan mein hi seekh li, un gharon mein jahan bado ki kabhi-kabhi bolchaal band rehti thi. Koi wo bachcha tha jo chup kamre tak chai le jaata, koi wo jisse mummy bhi dil ki baat kehti aur papa bhi, koi sabse bada jo chhoton ko isse door rakhta.
Us jagah baitha bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikaal sakta hai ki ghar ki shaanti uski zimmedaari hai, ki ghar mein tanaav hai to kisi ko sambhalna hoga, aur wo koi wahi ho. Ghar aise kyun chalte the, iski wajahein alag hain; par wo jagah ghar badalne ke baad bhi bani reh sakti hai.
Pehli baar kab aap do logon ke beech kuch dho rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapko wahan kaun bithata tha, aur aapne kya karna seekha: baat sambhalna, ekdam tatasth rehna, ya khud ko chhota kar lena?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Beech mein palta ek chupchaap niyam #
Beech se ek chupchaap niyam ug sakta hai: “Main sabko shaant rakhun, tabhi ghar juda rahega.” Kuch log iska seedha roop dhote hain, “Jo bhi kahun, koi mujhse naraz hoga,” aur kuch naram: “Meri baat tab tak ruk sakti hai jab tak dono ki sulah na ho.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Ye bas achha beta, beti, behen ya dost hona lagte hain, aur isiliye ye saalon chal sakte hain, bina kisi ke, aapke bhi, rukkar poochhe ki inki keemat kya hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: anban unki hai, to suljhana mera kaam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya suljhana kabhi poori tarah aapke haath mein tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ye niyam kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Beech ka bojh uthane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har baar ghar jaane se pehle jawab ratna, har phone ke baad ek thaki, kasi-si feeling, aur kisi ka naam screen par aate hi bhaari hota mann. Kuch logon ko wo function aur tyohaar darane lagte hain jo kabhi achhe lagte the, kyunki dono wahan honge.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab saara dhyaan do logon ko sambhalne mein jaaye, to jhagde par aapki apni feeling, aur us hafte ki aapki apni zindagi, ankahi reh jaati hai. Kuch logon ko achanak dikhta hai ki unhone bahut dinon se apne mann ki baat kahi hi nahi.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Ek saath do logon ko thaame rakhna thaka deta hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi tyohaar jisse dar laga, koi baatcheet jo chhoti rakhi, apni koi baat jo ankahi reh gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, beech mein rehte hue #
Kisi aam Sunday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “main sabko shaant rakhun, tabhi ghar juda rahega” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad lagataar do phone, dono naram kiye hue. Ek function jiski planning is par tiki ho ki kaun kahan baithega. Ek message jo teen baar dobara likha gaya taaki kisi ko bura na lage. Aur shayad aapki apni koi khabar, kisi shaant hafte ke liye rakhi hui, jo aata hi nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur ye tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: phone, ghar ke chakkar, sambhalkar chune gaye shabd?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Jhagda asal mein kiska hai? #
Jhagda do logon ke beech shuru hua tha, aur unhi ke beech rehta hai. Dono ke kareeb hone se wo aapke kandhon par nahi aa jaata. Taali do haath se bajti hai, aur sulah bhi. Baat kaise khatam ho, iski parwah ek cheez hai; uska zimmedaar hona bilkul doosri.
Ye dekhna madad kar sakta hai ki “tu kiski taraf hai?” aksar dukh se nikalta hai, is asli chaah se nahi ki aap chunein. Bahut log ye tab poochhte hain jab jhagde mein akela mehsoos karte hain. Ye sawaal aapki wafadaari se zyada unki chot ke baare mein bata sakta hai.
Ek aur nazar: agar aapka koi kareebi dost apne mummy-papa ke beech phansa hota, to aap chahte ki wo kya neeche rakh de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Har sandesh dhoye, ya bas wahan rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab log gaur se dekhte hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki unke dhoye sandeshon se dono ke beech shayad hi kuch badla. Jhagda apni raftaar se chala, aur zyadatar suljh gaya, ya nahi suljha, beech wale ki zyada madad ke bina.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki har ek ke saath unka kitna waqt doosre ki baat mein jaata hai. Milna jhagde ke baare mein, phone jhagde ke baare mein, aur saath bitaya wo seedha-saada waqt, jo shayad dono chahte hon, kahin kho gaya.
Aakhri baar kab aapne dono mein se kisi ke saath aisa waqt bitaya jo doosre ke baare mein nahi tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo kaisa tha, aur uska kya yaad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Dono se pyaar, suljhana kisi ka nahi #
Beech se sulah ka matlab kisi ki side lena nahi, aur kam parwah karna bhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki jhagde ko aapke andar kam jagah mile, aur aap har ek ke saath khud ki tarah reh sakein, daakiya ya judge bankar nahi.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo anban un dono ki hi rehne dete hain, aur bina kuch idhar-udhar dhoye dono se apnapan rakhte hain. Koi perfect tatasth vaakya dhoondhne ki zaroorat nahi. Aksar wo hota hi nahi, aur use dhoondhna jhagde ko aapke dimaag mein banaye rakhta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar dono mein se kisi ek ke saath ek ghanta bas unka bachcha, bhai-behen ya dost bankar bitayein, doosre ka naam kamre se bahar chhodkar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “sabko jode rakhna meri zimmedaari hai” saalon se andar chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachcha vaakya paas rakhte hain: “Dono se mera pyaar apni jagah, aur unka jhagda unka apna.”
Iska abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purani line se zyada sahi hona kaafi hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki dheere se aur baar-baar kehne par ye us jagah ka thoda hissa le leta hai jo pehle beech-bachaav bharta tha.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo dono ke liye aapka pyaar rakhe, par suljhane ka bojh nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har jhagde ko khatam hone ke liye aapki madad nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise seedhiyon par kisi ka thamaya bhaari thaila, jo kabhi aapka tha hi nahi.
Ye parivar ya doston se haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse har insaan ko waisa hi apnane ki jagah bachti hai jaisa wo hai, kisi masle ka aadha hissa banakar nahi.
Aaj raat ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki jhagda theek hai, ya suljh gaya. Bas itna ki sote waqt ye aapki chhaati par na baitha rahe.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Aapko ab bhi parwah hai ki baat kaise khatam ho, par jhagda dhona unka kaam hai, aapka nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: dono mein se kisi ek se phone jo aapke hafte par hi rahe, ek khaana jisme aap sandesh dhone ke bajaye bas khayein, ek function jiska phir se intezaar ho.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein pehchaniye ki kab koi sandesh aapka dhone ka nahi hai
- Ghar jaane se pehle ek dheemi saans lijiye jo sirf aapke liye ho
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: is baare mein meri apni raay asal mein kya hai?
- Dono mein se kisi ke saath bitaya ek ghanta yaad kijiye jiska jhagde se lena-dena nahi tha
- Is hafte ki apni ek zaroorat ka naam lijiye, bas apne aap se
Chhote, personal aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapke ghar mein shaanti banaye rakhna pehli baar kab aapka kaam ban gaya?
- Agar koi na sun raha ho, to unke jhagde ke baare mein aap asal mein kya sochte ho?
- Agar jhagda kal khatam ho jaaye, to dono ke saath kya karne ki kami khalegi?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya dho rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?