Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jab koi nahi batata ki kaun sa badlav, ya wo achha hai ya bura, to kuch log wo jagah khud bhar dete hain, aksar sabse kadwe andaaze se: ki naya roop purane se kam pasand hai.
Kuch log ghar mein ek tay jagah ke saath bade hue: chup rehne wala bachcha, kehna maanne wala, sabko hansane wala, kabhi behas na karne wala.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe sabmein ghul-milkar rehna hoga,” ya “Badlav aaya to unke beech meri jagah chali jayegi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chhuttiyan khatam hone tak purana wala roop nibhate rehna
- Har badlav ki lambi safayi dena, is ummeed mein ki manzoori mil jaye
- Nayi raay, nayi aadatein aur naye dost har baatcheet se bahar rakhna
- Palatkar teekha jawab dena, phir lagna ki isi se unki baat sahi saabit ho gayi
- Dheere-dheere kam ghar aana, bina kabhi ye tay kiye
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Poha ke thele par purane dost
Pune ke hostel mein pehla saal poora karke Indore ghar aaye hain. Shaam ko school ke purane doston ke saath usi poha-jalebi wale thele par, jahan hamesha milte the. Ek dost aapko dekhkar kehta hai, “Tere to rang-dhang hi badal gaye.” Baaki chup ho jaate hain. Aap hanskar poochhte ho, matlab? Koi theek se jawab nahi deta. Raat ko ghar lautte hue, apni hi gali mein ajnabi jaisa lagta hai.
Purane doston ke liye pehle jaise rehna
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Jo mujhe pehle se jaante hain, unke liye mujhe pehle jaise hi rehna hai.” Ye wafadaari jaisa lagta hai. Bahut log bina soche isi par chalte hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: badhne ko dhokhe jaisa bana deta hai. Har nayi aadat, nayi raay, bolne ka naya dhang maafi maangne ki cheez ban jaata hai, aur aap wo chhipane lagte ho jo ab ban chuke ho.
Hum unhein khona kyun nahi chahte
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki purane rishte khona nahi chahte. Bahut log is niyam ke kisi roop ke saath bade hote hain, aur us waqt iska matlab bhi banta tha. Shayad aap ghar se door chale gaye ho. Shayad aap aise badhe ho ki aapko garv hai. Jo bhi ho, qareeb rehna chahna galat nahi. Ye us jagah ke pyaar se aata hai jahan se aap aaye. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har taunt ke saath thoda guilt
Har “Pune ki hawa lag gayi” thoda-sa guilt jodta hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par andar feel hota hai. Dheere-dheere sab judta jaata hai. Ghar par aap khud ko dheema kar lete ho. Naye shauq chhipa lete ho. Jo the aur jo ho, unke beech phanse lagte ho. Ghar aana purana role nibhane jaisa lagne lagta hai, aur lautte waqt is adla-badli ki thakaan saath aati hai.
Kya pehle jaise rehna is layak?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya pehle jaise bane rehne ki koshish se purani nazdeeki kabhi bachi? Ya zyadatar aap khud ko do hisson mein bante feel karte rahe? Waqt ke saath sab badalte hain, aur purane doston ko aaj wale aapko jaanne mein waqt lagta hai. Chahein to iske saath ek pal rukiye. Jo bhi ho, badalna wafadaari ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske layak hai?
Badhte hue bhi apnon mein
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap bhool jaao ki kahan se aaye. Matlab ye hai ki aap badh bhi sakte ho aur apnon mein bhi reh sakte ho. Jo ab ho, usi ko us purane thele tak le ja sakte ho, pehle kuch aur badle bina. Ye ek saath nahi hota, aur zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: do roopon ke beech bhaagna rukta hai, aur aap jahan bhi jaao, ek poore insaan rehte ho.
If being changed is ever met with threats, being frightened, or pressure to change back, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJo mujhe pehle se jaante hain, unke liye mujhe pehle jaise rehna hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleBadhna bhi mera haq hai, aur apnon mein jagah bhi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Mann mein ek baat ka naam lijiye jisme aap badhe hain
- Kadam 2
Us ek purane dost par gaur kijiye jo aaj wale aapko apnata hai
- Kadam 3
Agli baar ghar jaayen, to apna ek naya hissa saath le jaaiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab unhone wo kaha, aapne theek pehle kya kaha ya kiya tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Khane ki table par chaar shabd #
Pune ke hostel mein pehla saal, phir Indore ghar wapsi. Khane ki table par aapne bas itna kaha ki ab subah poha ki jagah oats khate ho, aur Bua hans padin: “Pune ki hawa lag gayi hai.” Chhappan Dukan par school ke dost bhi: “Tere to rang-dhang hi badal gaye.” Aur sab khate rahe.
Shabd chhote hain, aur inke kai matlab ho sakte hain: sawaal, mazaak, ya shikayat ke qareeb kuch, aur lehja padhna aksar mushkil hota hai. Kuch logon ko isse lagne lagta hai ki badlav hi koi aisi cheez hai jiski safayi deni padegi.
Aakhri baar ye, ya isse milta-julta kuch, kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapne theek pehle kya kaha, pehna, chuna ya kiya tha, aur aapko laga unka ishaara kis badlav ki taraf tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ye pakde jaane jaisa kyun lagta hai #
Kuch logon ke pet mein achanak kuch dhans-sa jaata hai, chehra garam ho jaata hai, aur baaki chhuttiyon ke liye purane roop mein simat jaane ka ajeeb-sa mann karta hai. Koi hanskar taal deta hai, koi chup ho jaata hai. Isme zaroorat se zyada nazuk hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Jin logon ne hamein sabse pehle jaana, unki baat bahut jaldi lagti hai, sochne ka waqt milne se pehle. Kai logon ko saaf baat baad mein soojhti hai, Pune lautti bus mein ya train ki upar wali berth par, wo saare jawab jo diye ja sakte the.
Wo sunte hi aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Safayi dene ka mann hua, maafi maangne ka, behas karne ka, ya bas baat khatam karne ke liye haan mein haan milane ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo pehla khinchaav kya batata hai ki us pal khatre mein kya laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye bade hone ko hi kathghare mein khada kar deta hai #
Badalte sab hain. Naye shehar mein nayi aadatein lagti hain, college mein naye shabd, naye doston aur naye kaam se nayi raay. “Pune ki hawa lag gayi” is aam-si badhat ko aisa ilzaam bana sakta hai jiska jawab dena pade, chahe kisi ne kuch khaas bataya bhi na ho.
Ye ek khaali jagah bhi chhod jaata hai. Jab koi nahi batata ki kaun sa badlav, ya wo achha hai ya bura, to kuch log wo jagah khud bhar dete hain, aksar sabse kadwe andaaze se: ki naya roop purane se kam pasand hai. Wo andaaza bhi chubhta hai.
Aapka mann sabse pehle kis badlav par gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kya wo badlav kisi ke saath kiya gaya kuch tha, ya bas wo jo zindagi jeete-jeete apne aap ho gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal apne aap chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Kya unhein ab mera ye roop pasand nahi?” “Ghar par thoda kam dikhana chahiye.” “Ab main hoon kaun?” Ye ghar ki video call se pehle, Indore ke liye bag pack karte hue, ya school wale purane group mein shuru ho sakta hai.
Kehne walon ko shayad ye dobara yaad bhi na aaye, par sawaal chalta rehta hai, aur ab aapki apni awaaz mein. Isiliye ise pakadna mushkil hai: ye unki baat nahi lagti, apna hi shak lagta hai.
Jab ye poochhti hai ki kahin aap bahut zyada to nahi badal gaye, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya wo jo barson pehle kisi khaas ghar mein mili thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye purana roop ek role tha #
Kuch log ghar mein ek tay jagah ke saath bade hue: chup rehne wala bachcha, kehna maanne wala, sabko hansane wala, kabhi behas na karne wala. Ghar chhodna, chahe hostel hi kyun na ho, wo role dheela kar deta hai, aur lautna aisa lag sakta hai jaise purane kapde phir pehanne ho.
Kuch gharon mein waise hi bane rehna chupchaap wafadaari ki nishani maana jaata hai, aur iski wajahein har ghar mein alag hain. Kuch log isse ek nateeja nikaal lete hain: ki apnapan is par tika hai ki aap pehchane jaate rahein, aur badalne ki keemat nazdeeki se chukani pad sakti hai.
Bade hote hue ghar mein aapka role kya tha, aur uske kaun se hisse ab bhi aap par fit baithte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun se hisse bas wo kapde lagte hain jo ghar aane par chaar din ke liye pehan lete hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe sabmein ghul-milkar rehna hoga,” ya “Badlav aaya to unke beech meri jagah chali jayegi.” Kuch log iska halka roop dhote hain: “Bahar jaise chahun rahun, ghar par to purana roop hi chalega.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Bas ye lagta hai ki ghar-parivar aise hi chalte hain, aur isiliye ise kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dhoop mein dekhna theek hai, khaaskar ghar se lautne ke baad.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai: agar ghul-milkar rehne se nazdeeki bachi rehti hai, to ghul-milkar raho.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Do roopon mein jeene ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai Pune ke naye doston ka ghar par kabhi zikr na hona, table par apni raay kabhi na rakhna, phone par poori college life bas “chal raha hai” mein samet dena. Kuch log dheere-dheere do insaan ban jaate hain: ek us shehar ke liye jahan rehte hain, ek us ghar ke liye jahan bade hue.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai: khud ki kaat-chhaant karte rehna.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Do roopon ke beech aana-jaana mehnat maangta hai.
Jab ghar jaane se pehle aaj ka roop edit hota hai, to us nazdeeki ka kya hota hai jise bachane ke liye editing ki gayi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo mazboot lagti hai, patli, ya kuch aur?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: ghar par koi ankahi baat, koi chhutti jo bahut bhaari padi, zindagi ka koi hissa jo baatcheet se bahar hi raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, do roopon mein #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “apnaye jaane ke liye ghul-milkar rehna hoga” andar zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad family group par likha aur baar-baar mitaya gaya ek message, ek shehar mein college ka din aur shaam ko doosre shehar ki ghar wali call, bus mein socha gaya koi naya plan. Shayad agli baar ghar jaane ke baare mein koi faisla, ya naye doston ke saath ek shaam.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur ye tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, baatein, plan, jo aazmaya hi nahi gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Badle, par theek-theek kaise? #
“Badal gaye” ek shabd hai, par bahut-si cheezon ke liye: bolne ka naya lehja, naya course, naye kapde, nayi raay, ghar kam phone karna. Inmein kuch chhoti hain, kuch badi, aur sabka wazan ek jaisa nahi, chahe ek hi shabd sabko dhak le.
Jawab aksar koi khaas cheez hoti hai, aur khaas cheez ko alag se dekha ja sakta hai. Kuch rakhne layak hongi, kuch par sochne layak, aur inmein se koi ye tay nahi karti ki khane ki table par kiski jagah hai.
Poochhiye: badle, par theek-theek kaise?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar koi qareebi dost bataye ki bahar jakar unmein badlav aaya hai, to kya aap use kami ki tarah sunte, ya bas zindagi jeete ek insaan ki tarah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap unse kya poochhna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log dheere se dekhte hain ki kya badla, to kuch ko wo hisse bhi dikhte hain jo waise hi hain: hansne ka andaaz, ghar aate hi mummy ke haath ke dal-bafle ki farmaish, chhote bhai-behen ka dhyaan rakhne ka tareeka.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki kaun se badlav unhone soch-samajhkar chune aur jin par unhein chupchaap garv hai, aur kaun se bas waqt ke saath ho gaye. Dono ek aam zindagi ka hissa hain, aur ye farq dikhne se wo ek shabd faisle jaisa kam lagta hai.
Aapmein badlav ke saath-saath kya tika raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Apne kaun se badlav sabse zyada aapke apne lagte hain, jinhein aap rakhna chahenge chahe koi gaur na kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapke kaun se hisse shuru se bilkul waise hi rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Purana roop phir se odhne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye manna nahi ki badalna galat tha, na ye dikhana ki baat chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki un shabdon ka is par kam chale ki aap apne kaun se hisse ghar lekar aayen, aur chhuttiyon ka kitna waqt unhein sambhalne mein jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo ye saabit karna chhodte hain ki wo badle nahi, ya ye ki badlav sahi tha. Kuch baatein achhi wajahon se chup rakhi jaati hain, suraksha bhi unmein se ek hai, aur iski ijazat hai.
Kaisa lagega agar unki baat unhi ki rehne dein, usmein se jo sochne layak lage wo rakh lein, aur phir bhi aaj wale aapko khane ki table tak le aayen?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar andar “ab wo mujhe pehchante hi nahi” baar-baar baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhmein kuch naya aaya hai, aur main ab bhi main hi hoon.”
Zaroori nahi ki ye abhi sach lage. Bas purane vaakya se zyada sahi hona kaafi hai, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki dheere se aur baar-baar kehne par, khaaskar ghar jaane se pehle, ye us purane shak ki thodi jagah le leta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo badlav ke baare mein imaandaar ho, bina uski maafi maange aur bina use bada banaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “rang-dhang badal gaye” ko safayi, bachaav ya agli baar waisa hi dikhne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe safar ke baad ghar pahunchkar bhaari bag farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse chhuttiyon ke un hisson ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo unhein sach mein achhe lagte hain, aur un logon ke liye jo jaanna chahte hain ki wo ab kaise hain.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Gharwale ab bhi maayne rakhte hain, aur badlav bas badlav hai, koi kami nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: koi nayi aadat jo bina dobara soche ghar par bhi chalti rahe, kisi aise dost ke saath shaam jo aaj wale aapko jaanta hai, ya koi badlav jise mann mein dekhkar rehne diya jaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi badal-gaye wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mujhe kya laga, unka ishaara kis badlav ki taraf tha?
- Ek badlav yaad kijiye jo karke achha laga, aur use apna rehne dijiye
- Apni ek baat par gaur kijiye jo bilkul nahi badli
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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