Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Bahar rehne wale kai log paate hain ki ghar mein jitni taareef badhti hai, koi mushkil baat batana utna kathin hota jaata hai.
Bahuton ke liye kaam ya padhai ke liye nikalna kabhi sirf unki apni kahani nahi tha.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe tasveer banaye rakhni hai, taaki wo mujh par garv karte rahein.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Weekend ki achhi photos hi bhejna, thake hue working days ki kabhi nahi
- Har call hansti-khilti rakhna, mushkil khabar kisi ko na dena
- Poochhna khatam hone se pehle hi “sab badhiya, sab badhiya” keh dena
- Taareef aane par ek halki chubhan mehsoos karna, aur muskurakar nikal jaana
- Ghar jakar usi roop mein rehna jaisa bataya jaata hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Shaadi ki table par taareef
Durgapur mein chachere bhai ka reception, do saal baad ghar ki pehli chhutti. Khane aur gaanon ke beech Bua aapka haath pakadkar poori table se kehti hain, “Arre, inki to life set hai, Dubai mein rehte hain!” Sab sir hilate hain. Aap muskurakar “shukriya” kehte ho. Mann mein shared flat, chhah din ke hafte aur phone ke saamne akele khaye dinner ghoomte hain.
Tasveer ko chamakta rakhna hai
Pehle seedhi baat: garv sachcha hai, aur jis zindagi ko wo sarahte hain usme mushkil din hona aapki galti nahi. Par aise palon se ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur aapka ho jaata hai: “Mujhe tasveer banaye rakhni hai, taaki wo mujh par garv karte rahein.” Ye shukraguzaari jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har thaka hafta chhipana padta hai.
Aapke suitcase mein ghar ki ummeed
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki bahar jaana aksar ghar ki ummeed saath le jaata hai, aur use chamakta rakhna kuch lautane jaisa lagta hai. Apne ghar ko garv karne dene ki chaah bevakoofi nahi. Wo unse pyaar se, aur unka bharosa sahi saabit karne ki chaah se aati hai. Use narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi. Bahar rehne wale bahuton mein iska koi roop hota hai.
“Sab badhiya” se bhari call
Keematein chhoti hain, aur judti jaati hain. “Sab badhiya, sab badhiya” se bhari call. Family group mein bas weekend ki sabse achhi photo. Koi akela mahina jiska zikr tak nahi. Ghar ki chhutti wahi banakar beeti jo wo batate hain. Unka pyaar aap tak nahi, tasveer tak pahunchne lagta hai, aur garv bhari call shuru se bhi door par khatam hoti hai. Barson tasveer thaamna thakata hai.
Kya tasveer banaye rakhna sahi hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi mushkil hafte halke hue? Ya zyadatar akele? Bua ko us insaan par garv hai jo gaya aur daata raha. Us insaan ki thaki shaamein bhi hain, aur wo kuch radd nahi kartin. Chahein to ek pal is par rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke layak hai, ghar ki har call par aapke sukoon ki keemat par?
Garv bhi, aur insaan bhi
Chhodne ka matlab har rishtedaar ko sahi karna nahi, na ye ki garv galat jagah tha. Matlab ye ki aap unke garv ka maza le sakte ho aur ek aam, mushkil Tuesday bhi bita sakte ho, bina iske ki iska matlab nikle aapne kisi ko nirash kiya. Ek call mein, asli din ka thoda hissa tasveer ke bagal mein reh sakta hai. Wahin thoda sukoon lautta hai: aap garv kar sakte ho, aur insaan bhi reh sakte ho.
If life away ever comes with someone holding your papers or pay, threats, or being frightened or watched where you live or work, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe tasveer banaye rakhni hai, taaki wo garv karte rahein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleWo mere mushkil dinon mein bhi mujh par garv kar sakte hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte jo ek mushkil cheez sambhali, use ginye
- Kadam 2
Ghar ki call ke baad asli din ko bhi wahan rehne dijiye
- Kadam 3
Jawab chamkane ka pal pakadiye, aur muskura dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bahar ki aapki zindagi ki kaun si ek baat ghar mein sabko chaunka deti?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Garv bhari baatein jo aadhi kahani chhod deti hain #
Chachere bhai ki shaadi, padosi ki baithak, ya gharwalon ki lambi video call. Bua aapka haath thaamkar poori mehfil ko sunati hain: “Arre, inki to life set hai, bahar rehte hain!” Sir hilte hain. Koi jod deta hai ki ye to hamesha se hoshiyaar the.
Ye sachche garv se kaha jaata hai, aur poori tarah galat bhi nahi. Aapne kuch banaya hai. Phir bhi bahar rehne wale bahuton ko ye shabd ajeeb lagte hain, kyunki jo tasveer wo banate hain, wo us zindagi ka bas chamakta aadha hissa hai jisme lambe hafte, chhote kamre aur khamosh shaamein bhi hain.
Aisa kuch aakhri baar kab suna tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne kaha, kaun sun raha tha, aur jis pal aap muskuraye aur “shukriya” kaha, tab aapke mann mein kya chal raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Bahar muskaan, andar ek faasla #
Kuch logon ko muskaan ke peechhe kasaav mehsoos hota hai, taareef se mel khata chehra banaye rakhne ki mehnat. Kuch ko bhari mehfil ke beech ek pal ka akelapan. Kuch hanskar baat badal dete hain, isse pehle ki koi asli sawaal poochhe. Isme nashukrapan kuch nahi.
Sarahna ek saath garm bhi ho sakti hai aur bhaari bhi. Sharir ek hi pal mein taareef aur faasla dono sunta hai: jis zindagi ka zikr ho raha hai, aur jisme aap roz uthte ho, unke beech ki doori. Bahuton ko dono mehsoos hote hain, aur pata nahi chalta kiska jawab dein.
Shabd sunkar aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Thoda seedhe khade hue, farsh dekha, ya mazaak ka sahara liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur wo pehla reaction aapki zindagi ke un hisson ke baare mein kya batata hai jo tasveer mein kabhi aate hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye us zindagi ki baat hai jise aap aadha hi pehchante ho #
“Life set hai” ek poori ho chuki kahani batata hai: pahunch gaye, sab sahi, ab koi fikr nahi. Bahar ki zyadatar zindagiyan abhi jee jaa rahi hain, mushkil hafton aur akele Fridays ke saath. Jab taareef aasaan aadhe hisse ki hi baat kare, to mushkil aadha hissa dikhna band ho sakta hai.
Bahar rehne wale kai log paate hain ki ghar mein jitni taareef badhti hai, koi mushkil baat batana utna kathin hota jaata hai. Thaka dene wala mahina ya kadak boss aisi baat lagne lagti hai jo tasveer bigaad degi, ya jo log garv karte hain unhein nirash karegi.
Agar gharwale aapka ek aam din dekh paate, to kaun sa hissa unhein sabse zyada chaunkata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapki zindagi ka kaun sa hissa aap chahte hain ki achhe hisson ke saath tasveer mein hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tasveer khud aapki taraf se bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ek dheemi line andar bajne lagti hai: “Unhein nahi batana chahiye ki mushkil hai.” “Wo sochte hain mere liye sab aasaan hai.” “Mere pareshan hone ka matlab unhein nirash karna hai.” Ye usi pal chalu ho sakti hai jab koi rishtedaar kahe ki sab kitne garv mein hain.
Bua shaadi ke khane ki taraf laut chuki hain, par vaakya chalta rehta hai, aur seedha farz jaisa sunayi dene lagta hai. Isi wajah se ise pehchanna kathin hai: mushkil baatein chhipana dayalu lagne lagta hai, aur jaise yahi ikalauta sahi tareeka ho.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki tasveer chamakti rakhni hai, to kiski awaaz hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sach mein gharwalon ki, ya wo jo aapne khud bana li, unhein kuch achha thamane ki chaah mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bahuton ke saath ghar ki ummeed bhi safar karti hai #
Bahuton ke liye kaam ya padhai ke liye nikalna kabhi sirf unki apni kahani nahi tha. Usmein ghar ki ummeed thi, mummy-papa ki padosiyon ko sunayi baatein, darwaze par Dadi ka sir par rakha haath. Jo bahar gaya, wo chupchaap ghar mein ek kirdaar ban sakta hai, jiske bolne ke liye lines tay hain.
Kai families mein bahar wale ko kaamyaabi ki misaal maanne ki purani reet hai: jiski photos ghoomti hain, jiske tohfe shaadiyon mein aate hain. Wajahein alag-alag hain, aur bahut pyaar bhari hain. Koi isse ye nateeja nikaal sakta hai ki uska kaam is kahani ko chamakta rakhna hai.
Aapne pehli baar kab gaur kiya ki bahar ki aapki zindagi ghar mein ek kahani ban gayi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use sabse zyada kaun sunata hai, aur sunate waqt kya chhod deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche baith sakne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe tasveer banaye rakhni hai, taaki wo mujh par garv karte rahein.” Uska ek bhaari roop kehta hai, “Agar yahan mere paanv dagmagaye, to sabko nirash kar diya.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise nahi lagte. Wo ek achhe bachche ke bartaav jaise lagte hain, zameen ke zameen hone jaise. Isiliye inhein shaadi ke hall se door, kisi shaant pal mein halke se nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko un ummeedon tak le jaate hain jinke saath wo ghar se nikle the, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai: agar unka garv tasveer par tika hai, to har mushkil din chhipana padega.
Ye kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Tasveer ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aisi calls jinme sab baatein hoti hain siwa uske jo asal mein mann mein hai. Kuch log mushkil mahina, akela daur ya kaam ki fikr batana chhod dete hain, kyunki har baat us cheez mein daraar jaisi lagti hai jis par poora ghar tika hai.
Ek chup keemat bhi hai. Jab aapko sabse zyada chahne wale sirf chamakta aadha hissa jaante hain, to unka pyaar aap tak nahi, tasveer tak pahunchta hai. Call bahut garv aur bahut kam nazdeeki ke saath khatam ho sakti hai, aur wo bina call se bhi zyada akela kar sakti hai.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Barson tasveer thaame rehna thakata hai.
Pichhle saal mein iski kya keemat rahi: koi mushkil hafta jo akele rakha, ghar ki koi chhutti jo adakaari mein beeti, koi pal jab chaha tha ki koi thaam le aur muskura diye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, tasveer banaye rakhte hue #
Kuch saal baad ke kisi aam hafte ki tasveer banaiye, us hafte ki jab “unka garv bana rehna chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki nahi.
Shayad ek call jisme “sab badhiya” baarah baar kaha gaya, ek kharab mahina jiska kabhi zikr nahi, family group ke liye sabse achhi photo sambhalkar chuni hui, aur ghar ki chhutti jo usi roop mein beeti jo wo batate hain. Shayad ek mushkil shaam akele dhoyi, ki kisi ko fikr na ho.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: calls, photos, ghar ki chhuttiyan, shaamein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Tasveer par garv, ya aap par? #
“Kuch ban gaye” ko ek paimane ki tarah bhi suna ja sakta hai, jis par khara utarna hai. Use ek aur tarah bhi suna ja sakta hai: unhein aap par garv hai, us insaan par jo gaya, koshish ki, aur daata raha. Us garv ka bada hissa photo se pehle ka hai, aur har din achha guzarne par tika nahi.
Bahut parivaaron mein garv nateeje jitna himmat aur mehnat ka bhi hota hai. Log us insaan par bhi garv kar sakte hain jo thaka hai, kabhi akela hai, aur abhi raasta nikaal raha hai.
Dheere se poochhiye: tasveer se pyaar hai, ya usme khade insaan se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar koi qareebi dost bataye ki wo ghar se har mushkil din isliye chhipata hai ki gharwalon ka garv bana rahe, to aap use kya sunana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tasveer banaye rakhne ko kahenge, ya kuch naram?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Qareeb se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log taareef ko gaur se dekhte hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo aksar kisi asli cheez ke baare mein hai: jaane ki himmat, barson ki mehnat, doosron ka khayal rakhne ka tareeka. Tasveer chamakdaar ho sakti hai, par uske neeche ka garv aamtaur par unke apne hone ka hai.
Kuch ko wo mauqe yaad aate hain jab asli kahani chhalak gayi, call par thaki awaaz, chalte-chalte bataya mushkil mahina, aur gharwalon ne chahna kam nahi kiya. Kisi ko mummy ya papa milte hain jinhone chupchaap kaha, “Jab mann kare aa jaana beta.”
Kaun sa pal yaad aata hai jab ghar mein kisi ne asli din ki thodi jhalak dekhi aur phir bhi paas raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapki zindagi ki ek sahi tasveer kaisi hoti, agar usme achhe hisson ke saath mushkil hisse bhi hote?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Poori tasveer akele thaame rakhna zaroori nahi #
Kaamyaab maane jaane se sulah ka matlab har rishtedaar ko sahi karna, ya sabko batana ki kitna kathin hai, nahi hai. Matlab ye ki tasveer unki kahani rahe, aur aapki zindagi poori rahe, achhi bhi, thakane wali bhi, kam se kam apne mann mein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo tasveer par khare utarne ki koshish chhod dete hain, aur use pyaar se kahi gayi meethi badha-chadha baat rehne dete hain. Pyaar se kahi Bua ki baat ka anand liya ja sakta hai, bina use har hafte ki duty banaye.
Kaisa lagega agar garv ko garmjoshi se apnayein, aur ek mushkil Tuesday bitane ka haq bhi rakhein, bina iska matlab nikle ki kisi ko nirash kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Taareef ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “tasveer chamakti rakhni hai” barson se andar chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine kuch asli kiya hai, aur kuch din ab bhi kathin hain.”
Iska abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane se zyada sahi hona chahiye. Kuch log paate hain ki garv wali call ke baad dheere se kaha jaye, to ye us jagah ka thoda hissa le leta hai jo tasveer gherti thi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo garv ko bhi rakhe aur thaki shaamon aur aam hafton ke liye bhi jagah chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Tasveer ka kuch hissa bas unka reh sakta hai #
Rishtedaar ki har garv bhari baat ko sudharna, samjhana ya us par khara utarna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal achha lag sakta hai, aur wahin chhoda ja sakta hai jahan kahi gayi, jaise shaadi ka gaana bajta rahe aur aapko saath gaana na pade.
Ye dikhawa karna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki energy kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse unki asli zindagi ke liye jagah bachti hai: wo kaam jo wo sach mein karte hain, yahan ke dost jin par tikte hain, wo din jo na chamakdaar hain na bure.
Aaj shaam ke liye tasveer ko unki rehne dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi hai, ya kuch suljh gaya. Bas itna ki wo aaj raat aapke saath aapke kamre tak na aaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya. Unhein ab bhi garv hai, aur kathin hafta ab usme daraar jaisa nahi lagta.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: aisi call jisme thake din ko thaka rehne diya jaye, ek photo jo bas isliye bheji gayi ki wo sach hai, ya taareef ko muskaan ke saath lena, bina andar ki sihran ke.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #
- Jis pal jawab chamkane lagein, use notice karke mann mein naam dijiye: “Phir wahi tasveer”
- Ghar ki call ke baad teen dheemi saansein lijiye, aur asli din ko bhi wahan rehne dijiye
- Koi ek mushkil cheez yaad kijiye jo aapne yahan sambhali, aur use kaamyaabi ka hissa maniye
- Apne hafte ki ek chhoti sachchi baat chuniye, aur use poori tarah feel kijiye
- Sone se pehle ek baat ginye jis par aapko garv hai aur jo kabhi photo mein nahi aayi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bahar ki aapki zindagi ki kaun si ek baat ghar mein sabko chaunka deti?
- Kis baat par aapko chupchaap garv hai jo kabhi kisi photo mein nahi aayi?
- Ghar mein kaun aapke asli roop ko sabse zyada pyaar se apnata?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda dheela ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?