Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Aisi tulna aksar kisi aur ki sabse chamakti jhalak ko sunne wale ke poore aam hafte ke bagal mein rakh deti hai, jisme dheemi subahein hain aur adhoore plans hain.
Kuch logon ke liye ye feeta bahut purana hai: bhai-behen ka report card sabse pehle padhkar sunaya jaata tha, padosi ke bachche ka naam har khaane par aata tha, koi rishtedaar ginta rehta tha ki kisne kis umar mein kya kar liya.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main jahan hona chahiye, usse peeche hoon,” ya “Baaki sabko sab samajh aa gaya hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Usi raat us insaan ko phone par khoj lena, ek se zyada baar
- Badhai dekar baaki poori daawat mein chup ho jaana
- Apni khabrein thodi jaldi-jaldi gina dena
- Jalan ki ek lehar aana, aur phir usi par bura lagna
- Aise faasle ko paatne ke liye hafte bhar der tak kaam karna jiska kisi ne naam tak nahi liya
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Sagai mein classmate ki badi job
Ghaziabad mein cousin ki sagai hai. Stage par ring badli ja rahi hai, aur khaane ki qatar mein kisi purane classmate ki baat chal padi hai: badi job, nayi gaadi, shehar mein flat. Chachi aapki taraf mudkar kehti hain, “Dekho aaj kahan pahunch gaya wo.” Sab aapko dekhte hain. “Arre wah” nikal jaata hai, par ghar lautte hue apni zindagi chhoti lagne lagti hai, jaise saare kadam milkar bhi jagah par hi khade the.
Aapko aur aage hona chahiye
Ye shabd ek niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Main jahan hona chahiye, usse peeche hoon.” Ye mahatvakaanksha jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki poori zindagi ko kisi aur ki sabse chamakti jhalakon se naapta hai. Aur koi na koi hamesha aur aage hota hai. Achha mehsoos karna ab aisi tulna par tika hai jo aapne chuni nahi, sagai ki qatar mein hui.
Tulna se kaamyaabi kyun napi
Ye niyam isliye pakda kyunki kaamyaabi aksar tulna se naapi jaati thi. Shayad bachpan bhar doosron ke bachchon ki baatein sunin. Shayad chaha ki gharwalon ko aap par naaz ho. Jo bhi ho, niyam bewajah nahi. Ye chaahne se aata hai ki aapki zindagi achhi jaye. Shayad aapne apne dhang se bahut koshish ki, aur chaha ki uski ginti ho. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Apne kadam chhote dikhna
Har tulna aapke apne kadam thode chhote dikhati hai. Ohdon ka hisaab lagne lagta hai. Function se katrane ka mann karta hai. Sab sahi chal raha ho, tab bhi lagta hai ki peeche hain. Phone kholte hi tulna saamne aa jaati hai. Dheere-dheere apni zindagi aisi kahani lagne lagti hai jise koi aur jeet raha hai, aur apni achhi cheezein bhoolne lagti hain.
Kya ye daud iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: usse apni tulna karne se kabhi apni zindagi behtar lagi? Ya zyadatar chhoti hi lagi? Uski zindagi uski hai, aur tulna Chachi ki thi. Jo bhi ho, kisi aur ki kaamyaabi aapki kaamyaabi ka paimana nahi. Uske raaste mein bhi apne mod the jinka khaane par kisi ne zikr nahi kiya. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai?
Apni kahani, koi daud nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki apni zindagi se chaahna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapka raasta kisi aur se mel khaye, ye zaroori nahi. Aap dekh sakte ho ki aapne kya banaya hai, aur apni raftaar se agla kadam le sakte ho. Aapke kadam asli kadam hain. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: zindagi phir aapki apni kahani banti hai, kisi daawat ki qatar mein lagi daud nahi.
Pressure that comes with threats, being hurt or frightened, or money used to control you is something else, and worth taking seriously; going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMain jahan hona chahiye, usse peeche hoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri zindagi meri apni kahani hai, daud nahi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Teen cheezein ginie jo aapne banayin aur jinse khushi milti hai
- Kadam 2
Tulna laute to ek dheemi gehri saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Is hafte apni chaahi cheez ki taraf ek chhota kadam lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kiska naam aapke bagal mein sabse lambe samay tak raha, aur usne aapse kya dekhne ko kaha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kisi aur ki khabar, aapke bagal mein rakhi hui #
Ghaziabad mein cousin ki sagai hai. Stage par ring badli ja rahi hai, aur idhar Chachi ne phone aapki taraf badhaya: “Dekh, tere saath ka hi hai na? Dekho aaj kahan pahunch gaya!” Kabhi “pahunch gayi”, kabhi “pahunch gaye”; vaakya ka dhaancha wahi rehta hai.
Ismein aapke baare mein kuch nahi kaha gaya, aur kehne ki zaroorat bhi nahi. Ek ka raasta doosre ke bagal mein rakhna tulna ka nyota hai, aur sunne wala vaakya khud poora kar leta hai, aksar apne khilaaf.
Pichhli baar kisi ki kaamyaabi “dekho kahan pahunch gaya” kehkar saamne rakhi gayi, to wo kiske baare mein thi, aur usne aapko kiska raasta dekhne par majboor kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Zameen thodi jhuki-si kyun lagti hai #
Kuch logon ko ek jhatka-sa lagta hai, jaise zameen zara jhuki ho. Chehre par muskaan chadh jaati hai, “Arre wah, badhiya!” nikal jaata hai, aur andar kuch bujh jaata hai ya chubh jaata hai. Kuch ko jalan hoti hai, aur phir us jalan par bura lagta hai.
Kisi aur ke bagal mein rakh diye jaane par mann turant hil jaata hai, sochne se pehle. Sochna aksar baad mein aata hai: raat ko uski profile scroll karte hue, saalon ka hisaab jodte hue, do zindagiyan milate hue jo alag-alag jagah se chali thin.
Jab us insaan ki kaamyaabi aapke bagal mein rakhi gayi, to sabse pehla ehsaas kya aaya, aur aapne uska kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Vaakya ka wo aadha hissa jo bola nahi gaya #
“Use naya role mila hai” ek insaan ki khabar hai. “Dekho kahan pahunch gaya” khabar ko feete mein badal deta hai, aur sunne wala ek doosra hissa sun leta hai jo kabhi bola hi nahi gaya: “Aur ek aap hain.”
Aisi tulna aksar kisi aur ki sabse chamakti jhalak ko sunne wale ke poore aam hafte ke bagal mein rakh deti hai, jisme dheemi subahein hain aur adhoore plans hain. Dono tasveerein kabhi ek roshni mein nahi khinchin, par mann unhein ek jaisa maan sakta hai.
Jab kisi aur ki ek jhalak aapke aam hafte ke bagal mein rakhi jaati hai, to tulna dono taraf kya chhod deti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tulna apne aap chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to tulna apne aap chalne lagti hai. “Dekh, wo kahan hai, aur main kahan.” “Ab tak to mujhe aur aage hona chahiye tha.” “Humare batch ke sab log aage nikal gaye.” Kabhi ek post se shuru hoti hai, kabhi khaane par liye gaye ek naam se.
Chachi to shayad mithai par pahunch gayin, par naapna andar chalta rehta hai: purane classmate ki photos ghoori jaati hain, apna achha mahina chupchaap chhota kar diya jaata hai, har plan isse tola jaata hai ki wo kaisa dikhega. Kyunki ye aapki apni awaaz mein bolta hai, ye goonj nahi, hausla lagta hai.
Jab ye tulna wali awaaz mann mein bolti hai, to sabse pehle kiska naam leti hai, aur usi naam tak kyun pahunchti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch ke liye ye feeta bahut purana hai #
Kuch logon ke liye ye feeta bahut purana hai: bhai-behen ka report card sabse pehle padhkar sunaya jaata tha, padosi ke bachche ka naam har khaane par aata tha, koi rishtedaar ginta rehta tha ki kisne kis umar mein kya kar liya. “Sharma ji ka beta.”
Kuch gharon mein tulna hi hausla badhane ka tareeka thi, aur kuch mein kabhi nahi, aur iski wajahein ghar-ghar alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki achha karna is par tika hai ki kamre mein aur kaun hai.
Bachpan mein kiska naam aapke bagal mein rakha jaata tha, aur tab aapne uska kya matlab nikala?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche baith sakne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main jahan hona chahiye, usse peeche hoon,” ya “Baaki sabko sab samajh aa gaya hai.” Kuch log iska dheema roop dhote hain: “Mera raasta tabhi ginega jab wo unke jaisa dikhe.”
Aisi maanyataayein maanyata jaisi lagtin hi nahi. Wo imaandaar nazar rakhne jaisi lagti hain, jaise bagal ki lane ki gaadi par ek nazar daal lena saamanya samajhdaari lagta hai. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi dekh lena theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Jab tak main unse aage nahi, main theek nahi” aaj ki zindagi ke kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Feete ke bagal mein jeene ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai der raat tak purane classmate ki updates scroll karna, gharwalon ke phone ke baad feeka-sa lagna, ya apni achhi khabar rok lena kyunki wo kisi aur ki khabar ke bagal mein chhoti lagti hai. Kuch logon ko apni tarakki mein maza aana band ho jaata hai, kyunki wo kabhi pehle nahi pahunchti.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab zindagi kisi aur ke raaste se naapi jaye, to apne meel ke patthar nazar nahi aate: dheere seekha hua koi hunar, nibhayi hui koi dosti, paar kiya hua koi mushkil saal. Saal bhar mein bahut asli cheezein bina gine nikal jaati hain.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi: feete ke bagal mein jeene mein mehnat lagti hai.
“Dekho kahan pahunch gaya” ne pichhle saal aapse kya-kya liya: shaamein, garv, ya apne khud ke plans?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, raaste naapte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “jab tak main unse aage nahi, main theek nahi” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad usmein lunch ke beech kisi purane classmate ki post par nazar hai, apni achhi khabar baad ke liye roki hui, ghar ke phone mein kisi aur ke promotion ki baat, aur aisa plan jo bas isliye parkha gaya ki wo impress karega ya nahi. Kuch baith sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch tay nahi.
Usmein kya hai: scroll karna, phone call, kisi naam se naape gaye plans?Is par baat kijiye ›
Raaste naapte hue us aam Tuesday mein aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Do raaste door se hi ek jaise dikhte hain #
Do raaste door se hi barabar dikhte hain. Paas jaane par har ek ki apni shuruaat hoti hai, apne mauke aur apni rukaavatein, aur wo cheezein jo wo dhota hai aur kisi ko nahi dikhtin. Tulna nateeje saath rakh deti hai aur zyadatar wo chhod deti hai jisse wo bane.
Sagai ki qatar mein jo kaamyaabi sunayi gayi, wo us insaan ki zindagi ka bhi ek pal hai, jise sunane ke liye chuna gaya. Kuch logon ko ise thaamna aasaan lagta hai jab wo dekhte hain ki tulna dono raaston se zyada feete ke baare mein kuch kehti hai.
Agar aapke apne raaste ko utne hi dhyaan se bayaan kiya jaye jitna us doosre insaan ki kaamyaabi ko, to sabse pehle kya zikr karne layak hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Paas se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log peeche mudkar dheere se dekhte hain, to samajh aata hai ki us doosre insaan ke dinon ke baare mein unhein kitna kam pata tha: ghante, samjhaute, wo cheezein jo kabhi post nahi hui. Kaamyaabi sachchi thi, aur wo bas ek frame bhi thi.
Kuch ko apne raaste ki wo cheezein dikhti hain jinhein kisi ne saamne nahi rakha: dheere seekha hua koi hunar, bure mahine mein sambhala hua koi dost, wo faisla jisme himmat lagi. Kabhi wo paas se badi lagti hain, aur kabhi chubhan kisi asli cheez ki taraf ishaara karti hai jo dekhne layak hai.
Pichhle kuch saalon mein aapne aisa kya kiya hai jise ghar ki kisi bhi mez par kabhi ginte hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Daawat mein daud jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki doosre ki kaamyaabi sachchi nahi, ya tulna chubhi nahi. Matlab ye ki ek rakha hua naam is par kam chale ki aapka apna hafta, aapka kaam aur aapke plans kaise lagein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har khaane par liye gaye har naam ki barabari ki koshish chhod dete hain. Agli daawat mein koi aur naam aa jayega, aur ye daud har kamre ke beech mein ek hi feeta rakhe rehti hai.
Kuch jagahein tulna karna band nahi karengi, aur wahan kisi ko jeetna zaroori nahi.
Agar aapka raasta sirf isse naapa jaye ki aap kahan se chale the, to wo kaisa dikhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Phone ke baad ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar “sab mujhse aage hain” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unka raasta unka hai; mere raaste ke apne meel ke patthar hain.”
Iska shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log ghar ke phone ke baad aazmate hain, aur kuch kehte hain ki chupchaap dohrane se feete ke aaspaas thodi jagah ban jaati hai.
Apne raaste ke baare mein sachchi line aapke shabdon mein kaisi lagegi, jiske bagal mein kisi aur ka naam na rakha ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein ulti karke rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “dekho kahan pahunch gaya” ko jawab, apni uplabdhiyon ki list ya barabari ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur alag rakha ja sakta hai, jaise phone ko ulta karke mez par rakh dena.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse apne plans ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai, aur un logon ke liye jo aapke raaste ke baare mein utsuk hain.
Tulna ko shaam bhar ke liye ek taraf rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki kisi aur ki kaamyaabi ko aapki baaki raat mein saath baithna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar feeta thoda dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Kisi aur ki kaamyaabi uske raaste ki khabar hai, aur aapke raaste ke apne meel ke patthar hain.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: purane classmate ki khabar padhkar phone rakh dena, usi din apni kisi chhoti jeet ka maza lena, ya ghar ki daawat ko khaane ki wajah se yaad rakhna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Ek aam hafte mein sabse pehle kya alag lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jis hafte mein feeta na ho, usmein aap sabse pehle kya dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann hi mann naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi feeta”
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: kis cheez mein tulna, aur kis shuruaat se?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada zor kiska hai: us insaan ki kaamyaabi ka, ya use saamne rakhne wali awaaz ka
- Apne raaste ki ek aisi cheez sochiye jisme sach mein mehnat lagi thi
- Aaj ki ek chhoti cheez par gaur kijiye jo aapne chaahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kiska naam aapke bagal mein sabse lambe samay tak raha, aur usne aapse kya dekhne ko kaha?
- Aapne aisa kya kiya hai jo kisi ne nahi gina, kyunki wo kisi list mein nahi aata?
- Agar aapki aur unki kahani saath-saath sunayi jaye, to aap apni mein kya shaamil karna chahenge?
- Jis aam din tulna wala niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye feeta kam kheenche, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?