Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
In dinon ummeed chhipakar bhi rakhi jaati hai.
Kai log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan birthday ya toh bada jashn tha ya mushkil se yaad raha, aur dono apna nishaan chhodte hain.
Feekepan ke neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Sach mein parwah hoti, toh bina bataye yaad rehta.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Kehna “arre koi baat nahi, ek din hi toh hai” aur aadha hi mann se maanna
- Poori shaam phone dekhte rehna, aur phir dekhne par bewaqoof jaisa lagna
- Apna jashn khud plan karna, phir sochna ki kahin zyada toh nahi ho gaya
- Yaad rakhna ki kise yaad nahi raha, aur chupchaap uska hisaab rakhna
- Tay kar lena ki agle saal ummeed hi nahi karenge, taaki phir chubhe nahi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Der se aayi wish, Hubballi ki subah
Hubballi mein birthday ke agle din ki subah. Kal der tak office ka kaam chala, phir kamre mein akele chhota-sa cake, aur phone par nazar har kuch minute mein. Kuch wishes aayin. Wo nahi aayi jiska intezaar tha. Ab college ka sabse kareebi dost phone karta hai, chahakkar: “Arre yaar, kal tera birthday tha na? Sorry-sorry!” Aap hanskar kehte ho, “Arre chhodo, koi baat nahi.” Andar kuch chup ho jaata hai.
Parwah hoti toh yaad rehta
Pehle saaf baat: bhooli hui tareekh aap par koi faisla nahi hai, aur garmjoshi bhare birthday ki ummeed karna aapke baare mein kuch bura nahi kehta. Par neeche ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo phir aapka apna ban jaata hai: “Parwah hoti toh bina bataye yaad rehta.” Ye dosti samajhne jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har bada din imtihaan ban jaata hai, aur ek na aayi wish das par bhaari pad jaati hai.
Yaad rakha jaana pyaar kyun lagta
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain ki yaad rakha jaana pyaar jaisa lagta hai. Shayad ghar par birthday garmjoshi bhare aur bhare-poore hote the, aur wahi dobara chaha. Shayad aapka din aksar bhool jaata tha, aur aapne chupchaap ummeed karna seekh liya. Jo bhi ho, apna din mayne rakhe, ye chahna bewaqoofi nahi. Ye apnepan aur gine jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Birthday jo phone dekhte beeta
Har imtihaan ki thodi keemat hoti hai. Birthday ghanton ka maza lene ki jagah phone dekhte beette hain. Kisne wish kiya aur kisne nahi, iski chupchaap ginti rehti hai. Jo garm message aaye, wo us ek ke neeche dab jaate hain jo nahi aaya. Kuch saalon mein tareekh batana hi chhoot jaata hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho, aur apna din apna nahi lagta.
Kya birthday ka imtihaan is layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se koi birthday kabhi zyada garm laga? Ya zyadatar intezaar raha, aur thodi chot? Log tareekhein kai aisi wajahon se bhoolte hain jinka aapki ahmiyat se koi lena-dena nahi. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein toh ek pal is par rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai jo ye aapse leta hai?
Aapka din aapka rahe
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki der ki wish nahi chubhi, ya bade din mayne nahi rakhte. Matlab ye ki bhooli tareekh bas bhooli tareekh hai. Jo wishes aayin unhein ginne dijiye, aur din ka ek chhota hissa khud banaiye: ek nashta, ek sair, ek call jo aap karein. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek bade din se. Wahin thoda chain lautta hai: aapka din aapka reh sakta hai.
If someone close uses your birthday or big days to frighten, threaten or shut you out on purpose, again and again, that is not an everyday slip and is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleParwah hoti toh bina bataye yaad rehta.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleBhooli tareekh bhoola dost nahi. Mera din ab bhi mayne rakhta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek aise insaan ko ginye jise aapka din yaad tha
- Kadam 2
Khud se kahiye: “Zyada ki ummeed thi, aur ye theek hai”
- Kadam 3
Agle bade din ki ek chhoti pasandida cheez sochiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Din aane se pehle aapne chupchaap kis cheez ki ummeed ki thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek khushmizaaj sawaal, ek din der se #
Hubballi, agli subah. Office mein koi colleague, group mein koi cousin, ya flatmate jo bacha hua cake dekh le: “Arre yaar, kal tera birthday tha na? Sorry-sorry, dimaag se nikal gaya!” Hansi ke saath kaha gaya hai. Phir bhi andar kuch girta hai, kyunki kal aap theek isi insaan ka intezaar kar rahe the.
Bade dinon ke saath ek chhoti-si ummeed judi hoti hai jise apne saamne bhi maanna mushkil hai: ki jinke liye aap mayne rakhte ho, wo bina yaad dilaye yaad rakhenge, aur ye din aam dinon se thoda bada lagega. Jab din chhota nikalta hai, toh ummeed aur din ke beech ki daraar chubhti hai.
Aakhri baar kab koi birthday ya bada din ummeed se zyada khamosh guzra?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kiska intezaar kar rahe the, aur ye intezaar aapko kab mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Der se aayi mubarakbaad zyada kyun chubhti hai #
Kuch logon ke pet mein halka-sa dhak hota hai, phir jaldi se muskaan: “Arre koi baat nahi, ek din hi toh hai.” Kuch ki baaki subah feeki rehti hai. Kuch ko chubhan hoti hai, phir chubhan par sharm. Isme zaroorat se zyada nazuk hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Apnon ko yaad rehna hamesha se apnepan se juda raha hai. Isliye jab koi khaas din chupchaap nikal jaye, toh mann sochne se pehle hi use dosti ka ishaara maan leta hai, isse pehle ki khayal aaye ki log kitne vyast ya bhulakkad hote hain.
Der wali mubarakbaad sunkar aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Hanskar taal diya, chuppi odh li, ya chubhan kahin utar gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Is reaction se pata chalta hai ki wo din aapke liye kya mayne rakhta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Is din ko kehna tha: aap mayne rakhte ho #
Bhoola hua birthday isliye chubhta hai ki bada din kabhi sirf cake ya tohfe ka nahi hota. Ye un gine-chune dinon mein hai jo ek khamosh sawaal ka jawab dete lagte hain ki kya aap apnon ke liye mayne rakhte ho. Shaant phone jawab jaisa lag sakta hai, jabki wo hota nahi.
In dinon ummeed chhipakar bhi rakhi jaati hai. Bahut log khud se kehte hain ki zyada ummeed mat rakho, toh jab din kam padta hai, chubhan ke saath ummeed rakhne ki sharmindagi ki ek aur parat aa jaati hai, jo pehli se bhi zyada chubh sakti hai.
Agar din aane se pehle aap zor se keh paate ki aapko kya chahiye, toh wo kya hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek call, ek plan, kisi khaas ka message, ya bas ye ehsaas ki koi aapko soch raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab awaaz kahe ki ummeed mat rakho #
Khamosh bade din ke baad ek awaaz bolne lagti hai. “Dekha, kuch ummeed rakhni hi nahi thi.” “Baat ka batangad bana rahe ho.” “Parwah hoti toh yaad rehta.” Agle bade din par, aur uske agle par, ye phir chalu ho sakti hai.
Jise yaad nahi raha use shayad ek minute bura laga aur wo aage badh gaya, par awaaz chalti rehti hai, aur ab wo aapki apni samajhdari jaisi lagti hai. Isi se pakadna mushkil hai: ye chubhan kam, logon ke baare mein seedhi haqeeqat zyada lagti hai.
Jab ye ummeed na rakhne ko kehti hai, toh kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi purane birthday par bahut pehle uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai logon ke liye bade dinon ke bade mayne the #
Kai log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan birthday ya toh bada jashn tha ya mushkil se yaad raha, aur dono apna nishaan chhodte hain. Jiska din hamesha manaya gaya, use aage bhi wahi garmjoshi ummeed rehti hai; jiska din bhoola gaya, wo chupchaap ummeed karna aur chupchaap taiyaar rehna seekh leta hai.
Kuch log wahi the jinhein sabke din yaad rehte the: cake ka intezaam karne wale, phone mein har tareekh rakhne wale. Kahin raaste mein ek chup nateeja ban jaata hai: agar sach mein parwah hoti, toh mera din bina bataye yaad rehta.
Bachpan mein aapke ghar birthday kaise hote the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun unhein khaas banata tha, agar koi banata tha, aur apna din yaad dilane ke baare mein aapne kya seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baith sakne wala ek chup niyam #
Feekepan ke neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Sach mein parwah hoti, toh bina bataye yaad rehta.” Kuch ke paas iska narm judwaan hota hai: “Apne hi din se zyada kuch nahi maangna chahiye.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Lagte hain dosti ke baare mein seedhi baatein, jaise calendar calendar hai. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi aaram se nikalkar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Kuch bhi ho, ise dekha ja sakta hai: yaad rakhna pyaar ka saboot hai, toh bhoolna uska ulta hoga.
Ye kin dostiyon par aaj bhi fit hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Is din par niyam ki keemat #
Matlab ghanton birthday phone dekhte bitana, dinner par aapke paas chupchaap baithi chubhan, dimaag mein ek soochi ki kisne wish kiya aur kisne nahi. Kuch log tareekh kisi ko batana hi band kar dete hain, taaki koi bhool na sake.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har bada din imtihaan ban jaye ki kaun parwah karta hai, toh jo garm message aaye wo us ek se dab jaate hain jo nahi aaya. Jo din aapka hona tha, wo aise imtihaan jaisa reh jaata hai jiska kisi ne pehle zikr hi nahi kiya.
Ye kamzori se nahi hota. Khushi ke din mein saboot ka intezaar thaka deta hai.
Pichhle kuch bade dinon par niyam ki kya keemat rahi: ek shaam, ek dosti, ek pal jiska maza liya ja sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch aur birthday, purane niyam ke saath #
Apne agle birthday ki tasveer banaiye, aise saal ki jab “parwah hoti toh yaad rehta” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad har das minute par dekha gaya phone, der se aayi mubarakbaad ke liye taiyaar rakhi muskaan, kisne kya bheja uska chupchaap hisaab. Shayad ek chhota-sa plan jo banaya hi nahi, kyunki banana bahut zyada maangna laga.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: subah, phone, plan, shaam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Tareekh bhoolna, aapko bhoolna nahi #
Tareekh bhoolna aksar bhare hue dimaag, vyast hafte ya reminder na baje phone ki baat hai, kisi ki ahmiyat ki nahi. Bahut log apne papa-mummy ka birthday bhi bhool jaate hain, aur baad mein bura mehsoos karte hain.
Do line ka message, forward ki gayi cake ki photo, koi colleague jisne besura gaana gaya. Ye bhi ginti mein hain, bhale shaant phone unhein us ek ki raah dekhte hue aasaani se andekha karwa de jo nahi aaya.
Poochhiye: kaun aaya, chahe chhote se tareeke se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar is saal kisi kareebi dost ka birthday aapke dimaag se nikal jaye, toh kya aap chahenge ki wo maan le ki aapne parwah karna chhod diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap chahenge wo aapke baare mein kya jaane?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Shaant birthday ko aaram se yaad karne par kai log paate hain ki din bhar mein jitna laga tha, usse zyada logon ko yaad tha. Chubhan ek-do naamon par zoom ho gayi thi, aur baaki sabko, jinhone kuch bheja tha, dhundhla kar gayi thi.
Kuch paate hain ki unhone kabhi bataya hi nahi ki kya ummeed thi. Ummeed sachchi thi aur chhipi hui, isliye aas-paas ke logon ko pata hi nahi chala ki is saal ye khaas mayne rakhta hai, ya ki ek chhota-sa plan kitna mayne rakhta.
Pichhle bade din par kise aapki yaad thi, chahe chhote tareeke se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aap kis cheez ki ummeed lagaye the jiske baare mein kisi ko pata nahi tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Apne din ki ahmiyat saabit karna zaroori nahi #
Isse sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki khamosh birthday chubha nahi, ya bade din mayne nahi rakhte. Matlab ye ki ek der ki mubarakbaad tay na kare ki aapki ahmiyat kitni hai, ya dosti ki kitni.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo din ko imtihaan maanna chhod dete hain. Wo ummeed karne dete hain, kuch chhota apni pasand ka plan karte hain, aur aane wali mubarakbaadon ko wahi rehne dete hain jo wo hain. Din aise zyada apna lagta hai.
Agle bade din ko kuch aisa banana jise aap thoda khud shakl dein, kisi ke dene ka intezaar karne ki jagah, kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne layak ek zyada sachcha vaakya #
Agar “parwah hoti toh yaad rehta” kaafi samay se chal raha hai, toh usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log uski jagah ek zyada sachcha vaakya rakhte hain: “Bhooli hui tareekh ka matlab bhoola hua dost nahi, aur mera din ab bhi mayne rakhta hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane se zyada sahi ho, aur kuch log paate hain ki dheere-dheere, baar-baar kehne par ye us jagah ka thoda hissa le leta hai jo purana niyam har bade din par bharta tha.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo apne din ki ummeed karne de, use baaki sabke liye imtihaan banaye bina?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har bhooli mubarakbaad par chupchaap naaraazgi, soochi ya sabaq zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe dinner ke baad aakhri plates samet kar battiyan bujha dete hain.
Ye dikhawa nahi ki chubha nahi. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un doston ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo aaye, aur agle bade din ka maza lene ke liye, uski rakhwali karne ki jagah.
Aaj shaam chubhan ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki ye baaki hafte mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Der se aayi mubarakbaad ab bhi thodi mayoos karti hai, par wo der ki mubarakbaad hai, dosti par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: apne liye plan kiya birthday nashta, ek ghante ke liye bag mein rakha phone, ya der ki mubarakbaad par sachchi hansi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Chupchaap naam dijiye: “Maine zyada ki ummeed ki thi, aur ye theek hai”
- Ek aise insaan ko sochiye jise yaad tha, aur use gin lijiye
- Ek saade vaakya mein dekhiye ki us din se asal mein kya chahiye tha
- Us din apne liye jaan-boojhkar ek chhoti pasand ki cheez rakhiye
- Jab feekapan aaye, toh seene par haath rakhkar saans lijiye
Chhoti, nijee aur sab vaikalpik. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Din aane se pehle aapne chupchaap kis cheez ki ummeed ki thi?
- Aap sabse zyada kiske message ka intezaar kar rahe the, aur unhin ka kyun?
- Bachpan mein aapke ghar birthday kaise lagte the?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taalte rahenge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?