Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Akele mein kahi baat do logon ke beech rehti hai, group mein kahi baat kuch der ke liye sabki nazar badal deti hai.
Kai gharon aur doston ki toliyon mein pyaar chidhakar hi jataya jaata hai, aur wo hamesha bura nahi hota.
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Bura mana to main hi mushkil insaan hoon,” ya “Yahan rehna hai to saath mein hansna padega.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sabse zor se saath mein hans dena, aur ghar ke raaste mein use mehsoos karna
- Doosron se pehle apne upar khud ek joke maar dena
- Baaki poori shaam chup ho jaana
- Kuch teekha-sa palatkar bol dena, phir sochte rehna ki zyada ho gaya kya
- Kai din us pal ko dohrana, aur sahi jawab bahut der se soojhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Group mein “Ticket Master” wali photo
Raat ke gyarah baje, “Goa Wale” group mein Aman ne aapki wo purani photo bheji jab galat tareekh ki ticket book ho gayi thi. Neeche likha: “Ticket Master wapas!” Bees hanste emoji aa gaye. Aapne bhi der se ek bhej diya. Phir Aman: “Arre chill yaar, mazaak hai, bura mat manna!” Group agli baat par chala gaya, par aapki nazar usi message par atki reh gayi.
Bura mana to main mushkil insaan
Sabse pehle saaf baat: apne upar kiye mazaak ka bura lagna koi galti nahi, aur isse aapke baare mein kuch bura sabit nahi hota. Par aise palon se ek niyam ug aata hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Bura mana to main hi mushkil insaan hoon.” Ye chill rehne jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki chubhan ko muskaan ke peechhe chhipa deta hai, taaki baaki sab hanste rahein.
Saath mein hansna surakshit kyun lagta hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki apnapan maayne rakhta hai, aur saath mein hans lena toli mein apni seat ki keemat jaisa lagta hai. Ye bahut insaani chaahat hai, aur aam bhi. Shayad ghar mein chidhana hi pyaar jatane ka tareeka tha. Shayad bura manne par kabhi doosra round mila. Jo bhi ho, apnapan chaahna kamzori nahi. Ye “hum mein se ek” hone ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Zabardasti ki hansi ki keemat
Har zabardasti ki hansi aapse thoda kuch le jaati hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta. Aap mazedaar kisse rok lete ho ki kahin nickname na ban jayein. Us group ke saath dinner se pehle tanav rehta hai. Metro mein lautte hue jawab ka rehearsal chalta hai. Dheere-dheere pasand ke logon ke saath shaamein bhi apni baari ka intezaar lagne lagti hain, aur dheela hona mushkil ho jaata hai.
Kya chhipi chubhan is keemat ke laayak?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: is niyam ko pakde rehne se kya mazaak chubhna kam hua? Ya zyadatar chubhan chhipi rahi, aur aap zara satark rahe? Bura lagna bas ek ehsaas hai, aur ehsaason ko mehfil ki ijaazat nahi chahiye. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal thehriye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Aapki chubhan ginni ja sakti hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki mazaak theek tha, ya aap hansna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapki chubhan ginni ja sakti hai, chupchaap bhi, bhale kisi aur ko na dikhe. Jab baat mazedaar ho tab hansiye, jab nahi to mat. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek shaam se. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aap us group mein apne jaise reh sakte ho.
Teasing that keeps going after you've asked, comes with threats, or leaves you frightened to be around someone is not okay and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBura mana to main hi mushkil insaan hoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleHansi bhi aa sakti hai, chubhan bhi. Dono ginni jaati hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Dhyaan dijiye ki muskaan kab odhi hui lagne lagi
- Din 2
Khud se kahiye: “Lagi thi, aur lagna jaayaz hai”
- Din 3
Ek aisi jagah sochiye jahan hansi aasaani se nikalti hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aap par kiya kaun sa mazaak sabse lamba tika hai, aur wahi kyun?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Group mein hansi, aur nishana aap #
“Goa Wale” group mein kisi ne wahi purana kissa nikaal diya: galat tareekh ki ticket book hui thi, aur tab se aapka naam pada “Ticket Master”. Neeche bees hanste emoji. Aapne bhi der se ek bhej diya. Phir Aman: “Arre chill yaar, mazaak hai! Bura mat manna.”
Line halki hai, aur yahi use bhaari banati hai. Mazaak sabse hansne ko kehta hai, aur “mazaak hai” aapse bhi hansne ko kehta hai. To chubhan poore group ki nazar ke saamne aati hai, aur bura manne ki jagah bachti hi nahi.
Aakhri baar sabke saamne koi mazaak aap par kab pada?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun-kaun tha, kya kaha gaya, aur baaki sab hans rahe the tab aapka chehra kya kar raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Chehra hansta hai, pet mein kuch baith jaata hai #
Gaal garm ho jaate hain, muskaan ek second zyada tikti hai, aur nazar ghoomkar dekhti hai ki sabse zor se kaun hans raha hai. Koi sabse tez khud hi hansne lagta hai, koi ekdum shaant hokar baat badalne ka intezaar karta hai. Isme zaroorat se zyada sensitive hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Bheed mein hansi ka nishana banna bahut purani cheez ko chhoota hai: baaki logon ke beech aapki jagah kahan hai. Isliye body pehle bolti hai, soch baad mein. Aur sahi jawab aksar baad mein soojhta hai, metro mein ya nahate hue.
Us pehle khinchaav se pata chal sakta hai ki aap us group se kya chahte the.
Hansi ke theek baad wale second mein aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Saath mein hans padi, jam gayi, ya nikalne ka raasta khojne lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Sab hanste hain, aur chubhan ko jagah nahi milti #
Sabke saamne kiya mazaak aapki taraf ishaara karta hai aur poore group ko hansne bulata hai. “Mazaak hai” kehte hi chubhan khud samasya ban jaati hai. Bura manna sabka maza kharab karne jaisa dikhne lagta hai.
Akele mein kahi baat do logon ke beech rehti hai, group mein kahi baat kuch der ke liye sabki nazar badal deti hai. Kai logon ke liye sabse teekha hissa mazaak nahi, sabke saamne chhota kar diye jaane ka ehsaas hai.
Agar mazaak chhota tha, to itne din kyun tika?Is par baat kijiye ›
Baat shabdon ki thi, ya kaun-kaun hansa, ya us hisse ki jahan aapse bhi hansne ki ummeed thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab mazaak andar chalta rahe #
Mehfil aage badh jaye, tab bhi andar ek doosri awaaz wahin se shuru ho jaati hai. “Dil par mat le.” “Sab hanse, matlab baat mein kuch to sach hoga.” “Kuch bola to saara mood meri wajah se kharab hoga.”
Jisne kissa sunaya, wo agli subah bhool chuka hoga, par vaakya chalta rehta hai, aur ab apni hi samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai. Isiliye pakad mein nahi aata: ye kisi ka diya niyam nahi, thande dimaag ki baat lagti hai.
Jab ye kehti hai “mazaak sah lo”, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi purani mehfil, kisi purani mez se uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai logon ke liye chidhana bachpan se chala aa raha hai #
Kai gharon aur doston ki toliyon mein pyaar chidhakar hi jataya jaata hai, aur wo hamesha bura nahi hota. Har bachche ke liye nickname rakhne wale mamaji, ya wo toli jahan ek-doosre ko roast karna hi apnapan hai. Kisi ke liye ye garmaahat thi, kisi ke liye aisi chubhan jo kisi ne poochhi nahi.
Kuch bachchon ne jaldi seekh liya ki sabse surakshit raasta hai sabse pehle aur sabse zor se khud par hans lena. Kuch ne seekha ki bura manne par doosra round milta hai: “Dekha, zara-si baat par munh phula liya!” Dono sabak der tak saath chalte hain.
Pehli baar kisne aapko sabke saamne chidhaya, aur tab aapne apne chehre ke saath kya karna seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aaj bhi wahi karte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche baitha ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Bura mana to main hi mushkil insaan hoon,” ya “Yahan rehna hai to saath mein hansna padega.” Kuch logon mein iska naram roop hota hai: “Meri chubhan se zyada zaroori sabka maza hai.”
Aisi maanyatayein maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Lagta hai ki group aise hi chalte hain, jaise farsh farsh lagta hai, aur isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi dhoop mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jod paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: bura mana to aur chidhayenge, isliye kabhi dikhao mat.
Ye kin mehfilon mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saath mein hanste rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai raat ke ant tak dukhti muskaan, wo kisse jo aap ab sunate hi nahi ki kahin agla mazaak na ban jayein, aur wo shaamein jinse bina wajah bataye jaldi nikal aana. Kuch log un get-together mein jaana hi chhod dete hain jahan wahi nickname nikalta hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har hansi aapki keemat par ho sakti hai, to apnon ke beech bhi dheela hona mushkil ho jaata hai, aur achhi shaamein bhi is intezaar jaisi lagti hain ki ab baari phir aapki aayegi.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Chubhan ke oopar muskaan tikaye rakhna thaka deta hai.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: koi dinner jisse dar laga, koi kissa jo apne tak raha, aapka wo roop jo ghar par ruk gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, saath mein hanste hue #
Kisi aam Saturday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Bura mana to main hi mushkil insaan” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek dinner jahan aap sabse pehle khud par hans lete ho taaki koi aur na hanse, ek mazedaar kissa jo isliye daba liya ki kal nickname ban sakta hai, ek purana nickname jis par phir muskura diye, ya wo bulava jo bina wajah jaane taal diya.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein rakh di ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: get-together, chehre, wo kisse jo aapne rok liye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Mazaak kiske liye tha, asal mein? #
Mazaak pyaar se bhi ho sakta hai aur phir bhi bura lag sakta hai, aur teekha bhi ho sakta hai aur phir bhi “mazaak” kehlata hai. Dono ek saath sach ho sakte hain. Sunane wale ki niyat buri na ho, tab bhi jis par baat thi, use chubhan asli lag sakti hai.
Jawab thoda asahaj ho sakta hai, par wo is faisle se kahin aasaan hai ki mazaak sahna aapko aata hi nahi.
Poochhiye: ye mazaak kiske liye tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Hansi ke liye, sunane wale ki jagah ke liye, ya aapke liye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar aapka koi kareebi dost us hansi ke beech mein hota, to kya aap uske bura manne par use naazuk kehte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ya ghar lautte waqt uske paas baithna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us shaam ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki hansi kuch second ki thi aur chubhan kai din ki. Kuch ko dikhta hai ki har koi nahi hansa tha: kisi ne nazar pher li, kisi ne baat badal di, kisi ne aankhon se poochh liya.
Kuch dekhte hain ki wo group ki hansi ko group ki raay maan baithe the. Aur peechhe dekhein to kai baar agli subah tak zyadatar log mazaak bhool chuke the, aur jo maayne rakhte the, unhone aapko kam nahi aanka.
Us mehfil mein kaun aapki taraf se mehsoos kar raha hoga, bhale kaha na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur poori shaam ka sahi-sahi hisaab kaisa dikhega, sirf mazaak wale ek minute ka nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Group ko wapas jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki mazaak theek tha ya chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki us hansi ka is par kam chale ki aap khud ko kaise dekhein, aur agla hafta sahi jawab dhoondhne mein kitna jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo group ko wapas jeetne ki koshish chhod dete hain. Mann mein jawab ka rehearsal thakata hai, aur sabke ghar jaane ke baad bhi mehfil ko hansaye rakhta hai.
Shaam ko khatam hone dena kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Apni chubhan ko bas rehne ki ijaazat mile, bina kisi ki haami ke ki wo kaafi badi thi ya nahi, to kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Mujhe mazaak sahna nahi aata” barson se andar baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log ek aur line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Hansi mujhe bhi pasand hai, aur kuch mazaak chubhte bhi hain. Dono baatein sach hain.”
Wo abhi sach lage, zaroori nahi. Bas purani line se zyada sateek honi chahiye, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki dheere-dheere, baar-baar kehne par wo “bahut sensitive” ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapki hansi-mazaak ki samajh bhi rakhe aur bura manne ka haq bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har mazaak ko palatwaar, bhashan ya hafte bhar ke replay ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise lambi shaadi ke baad darwaaze par tang joote utaar dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki aapki energy kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un doston ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinki chhedchhaad mein garmaahat hai, aur un shaamon ke liye jahan hansi aasaani se aati hai.
Aaj shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki mazaak theek tha ya baat khatam ho gayi. Bas itna ki aaj wo baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Mazaak ab bhi kabhi chubhta hai, par bura lagna bas ek ehsaas hai, koi kami nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: hansi tabhi jab baat sach mein mazedaar ho, koi kissa bas maze ke liye sunana, ya group ki baat dohraye bina ghar tak ka raasta.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dhyaan dijiye ki muskaan kab odhi hui lagne lagi, aur use dikhne dijiye
- Chupchaap khud se kahiye: “Lagi thi, aur lagna jaayaz hai”
- Hansi guzarte waqt mez par haath rakhkar ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Group mein wo chehra dhoondhiye jo nahi hansa tha, aur use ginti mein lijiye
- Ghar lautte hue ek aisi jagah sochiye jahan aapki hansi aasaani se nikalti hai
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aap par kiya kaun sa mazaak sabse lamba tika hai, aur wahi kyun?
- Saath mein hanste waqt aap us pal mein kya bacha rahe hote hain?
- Us mehfil mein kiski hansi aapke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhti thi, aur kyun?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?