“chaliye, is par agle hafte phir baithte hain” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Us raat der tak kaam karke khoya hua ghanta wapas jeetna. Call ke dauraan email nipatana, aur uske liye guilt feel karna. Meeting ko sar mein dohrakar khud hi faisla kar dena. Agli meeting mein chup rehna, kyunki bolne se kuch nahi badla. Chidh ko shaam tak le jaana aur ghar par jhalla padna.

Agle 3 din kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Call khatam hone par teen dheemi saansein lijiye. Mann mein naam lijiye ki meeting se aapko kuch mila. Gaur kijiye khoya ghanta kab khoyi shaam banne lagta hai.

“chaliye, is par agle hafte phir baithte hain”: kyun…

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Asli kaam aksar meetings ke khatam hone tak ruka rehta hai.
Bahut logon mein waqt ko theek se lagane ka ehsaas kaam se bahut pehle shuru hua.
Neeche ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Khoya hua ghanta aaj raat hi wapas jeetna hai.”

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Log aksar kya karte hain #

Us raat der tak kaam karke khoya hua ghanta wapas jeetna
Call ke dauraan email nipatana, aur uske liye guilt feel karna
Meeting ko sar mein dohrakar khud hi faisla kar dena
Agli meeting mein chup rehna, kyunki bolne se kuch nahi badla
Chidh ko shaam tak le jaana aur ghar par jhalla padna

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

Ek slide par pachaas minute
Monday subah gyarah baje, Jammu ke Gandhi Nagar wala office. Usi vendor par is mahine ki teesri call. Screen par chaudah chehre, pachaas minute ek slide par, rangon par behes. Phir Delhi se director muskurate hain: “Bahut badhiya charcha rahi. Chaliye, is par agle hafte phir baithte hain.” Call katti hai. Kuch tay nahi hua. Aapka asli kaam nau baje se intezaar mein hai, aur pata hai raat khaane ke baad laptop phir khulega.
Khoya ghanta aaj raat jeetna
Pehle seedhi baat: gol-gol ghoomti meeting aapke din ya kaam ka sahi paimana nahi, aur us par jhallana jaayaz hai. Par aise hafton se ek niyam ugta hai aur aapka ho jaata hai: “Khoya hua ghanta aaj raat hi wapas jeetna hai.” Ye zimmedaari jaisa sunayi deta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ek khoya ghanta chupchaap ek khoyi shaam bhi ban jaata hai.
Barbaad waqt bura kyun lagta hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki bahuton ne jaldi seekha ki waqt ka sahi istemaal hona chahiye. Koi bada kehta tha “waqt barbaad mat karo,” imtihaan ka time-table, aisa ghar jahan har ghante ka nateeja dikhna tha. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, achha kaam karna aur apne waqt ki qadar paana. Chahna ki waqt ki qadar ho, besabri nahi. Wo parwah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Wo meeting jo raat kha jaati hai
Keemat meeting se aage failti hai. Aap khaane ke baad phir log-in karte ho. Asli document gyarah baje likhte ho. Walk chhod dete ho kyunki din “productive nahi raha.” Chidh chhote jawabon aur ghar ke teekhe shabd mein risti hai. Sunday ki shaam Monday ka calendar sochte beetti hai. Calls ek-ek ghanta leti hain, par niyam unhein poora din, aur raat ka bada hissa, le jaane deta hai.
Kya wapas jeetna is layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya ghante wapas jeetne se kabhi meetings chhoti huin, ya din halke? Ya zyadatar meetings ko aapki shaamein bhi mil gayin? Khoya ghanta asli tha, aur kheej jaayaz hai. Aapki shaam kuch alag cheez hai. Isme koi galat jawab nahi. Thoda rukkar sochiye, chahein to. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapke chain ki keemat ke layak hai?
Ghanta ghanta hi reh sakta hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki meeting kaam ki thi, ya aap apne kaam ki parwah chhod dein. Matlab ye ki ghanta ghanta hi reh sakta hai. Aap call band kar sakte ho, aah bhar sakte ho, teen dheemi saansein le sakte ho, aur agla ghanta asli kaam ko de sakte ho. Saat baje laptop band ho sakta hai. Ek-ek meeting karke, shaam ka thoda hissa aapke paas lautta hai.
If meetings ever come with being shouted at, threatened or frightened, or your pay held back, that is not okay and is worth taking seriously.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleKhoya hua ghanta aaj raat hi wapas jeetna hai.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeeting ne ek ghanta liya. Meri shaam meri rahegi.

Teen chhote din

3 din try kijiye #

Din 1
Call khatam hone par teen dheemi saansein lijiye
Din 2
Mann mein naam lijiye ki meeting se aapko kuch mila
Din 3
Gaur kijiye khoya ghanta kab khoyi shaam banne lagta hai

Is par baat karni hai?

“Aap ummeed kar rahe the ki wo meeting aakhirkaar kya tay kar degi?”

Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.

Dr. Thoughts ke saath baat kijiye

Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai

Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Ek ghanta gaya, list wahi ki wahi #

Delhi head-office ke saath call, chaudah log, pachaas minute ek slide par. Phir aakhri chaar minute mein: “Bahut badhiya charcha rahi. Chaliye, is par agle hafte phir baithte hain.” Call kati. Faisla kuch nahi hua, aur Jammu ke Gandhi Nagar wali desk par aapka asli kaam subah se intezaar mein hai.

Kehne wale ka irada aksar bura nahi hota. Wo upar se jawab ka intezaar kar rahe ho sakte hain, sabko khush rakhna chah rahe hon, ya waqt hi khatam ho gaya ho. Ye sach ho sakta hai, aur phir bhi shabd chubh sakte hain, kyunki wo us ghante ke baad aaye jo laut kar nahi aayega.

Aakhri baar kab meeting se wahi list lekar nikle jo lekar gaye the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us waqt aapko kya karna tha, aur wo kaam aakhir kab hua?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Chidh itni jaldi kyun aati hai #

Kuch logon ko meeting khatam hone se bahut pehle ek garm, bechain khujli-si hone lagti hai: pair hilna, doosre tab khulna, mute mic ke peeche dabi aah. Kuch bas sapaat ho jaate hain aur jhel lete hain. Kuch ko “agle hafte” sunkar gusse ki tez lehar aati hai. Ismein adiyalpan kuch nahi.

Waqt kaam mein ginti-chuni cheezon mein hai jo sach mein apna lagta hai. Jab wo aapke liye bina kuch dikhaye kharch ho jaata hai, to body aise jawab deti hai jaise kuch chhina ho, turant, sochne se pehle. Shaant nazariya, ki badi teams mein aksar aisa hi chalta hai, baad mein aata hai.

Jab “phir baithte hain” suna, to body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aur ye is baare mein kya batata hai ki aapke liye aapka din, aur usmein aapka kaam, kitna maayne rakhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Waqt kharch hua, badle mein kuch nahi aaya #

Jo meeting “phir baithte hain” par khatam hoti hai, usne waqt kha liya aur kuch lautaya nahi. Mann ise ek chhote nuksaan ki tarah ginta hai, aur hafte mein bahut se chhote nuksaan chupchaap lut jaane jaise lag sakte hain. Isiliye ek shishth line asli chidh jaga sakti hai.

Asli kaam aksar meetings ke khatam hone tak ruka rehta hai. Jab din calls se bhar jaye, to sochna, likhna, banana kinaaron mein dhakel diya jaata hai: subah jaldi, raat der se, aur jis kaam ke liye rakhe gaye the wo overtime jaisa lagne lagta hai.

To chubhan ek ghante se zyada ki ho sakti hai. Wo apna kaam theek se na kar paane ki ho sakti hai.

Ek kaam ki meeting aapko kya deti?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Jab khoya ghanta bolne lagta hai #

Call ke baad ek awaaz qabza kar leti hai: “Poora ek ghanta gaya.” “Ab ye raat mein karna padega.” “Yahan koi kabhi kuch tay kyun nahi karta?”

Ye kushalta jaisa sunayi deta hai, aur kuch had tak jaayaz bhi hai. Par suniye ye aage kya karta hai: ek khoya ghanta khoyi shaam ban jaata hai, aur kheej bhari meeting poora bekaar lagta din.

Jab khaali ghanta haar jaisa lagta hai, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Is office ki, ya uski jise aap isse bahut pehle se jaante the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Barbaad waqt bura kyun lagne laga #

Bahut logon mein waqt ko theek se lagane ka ehsaas kaam se bahut pehle shuru hua. Koi bada jo har khaali pal par kehta tha “waqt barbaad mat karo,” imtihaan ka time-table, aisa ghar jahan chupchaap baithna aalas samjha jaata tha.

Kuch aise gharon mein bade hue jahan har ghante ka kuch nateeja dikhna chahiye tha, aksar achhi wajahon se: family mushkil se guzaara chala rahi thi. Jo reh jaata hai wo ye ehsaas ho sakta hai ki din tabhi ginta hai jab kuch nipta, aur khoya ghanta ek chhoti haar hai jise bharna hai.

Kisne sikhaya ki waqt ka hamesha sahi istemaal hona chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us din ghar par kya hota tha jab dikhane ko kuch nahi hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Ek chup niyam jisse shayad aap chal rahe hain #

Neeche ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Khoya hua ghanta aaj raat hi wapas jeetna hai.”

Aksar iske saath uski behen aati hai: “Mera din tabhi ginega jab asli kaam nipta.” Dono milkar har benateeja call ko qarz bana dete hain aur har shaam use chukane ki jagah, jabki meetings aati rehti hain.

Aise niyam zimmedaari jaise lagte hain. Yahi unhein dekhne layak banata hai.

Ye baat kahan se seekhi ki din ko khud ko saabit karna hai, aur kya ye aisi job par ab bhi fit baithti hai jisme calls aapke haath mein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Niyam ki keemat shaamein chukati hain #

Iska matlab ho sakta hai khaane ke baad phir log-in karna, asli document raat gyarah baje likhna, walk ya ghar phone chhod dena kyunki din “productive nahi raha.” Kuch log har subah pehli meeting se pehle hi pichhde hue shuru karte hain.

Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Chidh risti hai. Wo saathi ko chhote jawab mein nikalti hai, ghar mein teekhe shabd mein, Sunday mein jo Monday ka calendar sochkar beetta hai. Meetings ek-ek ghanta leti hain, par niyam unhein poora din le jaane deta hai.

Is niyam ne haal mein aapse kya liya: ek shaam, laptop par khaya khaana, kisi apne ke saath aapka sabr?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

Paanch saal aur, is niyam se jeete hue #

Ek aam hafte ki tasveer banaiye, jab “khoya ghanta aaj raat wapas jeetna hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.

Shayad calls se bhare din ke baad aadhi raat ko likha document, aisa dinner jisme aap slides sochte hue sar hilate ho, Sunday jo Monday ka calendar kholne mein beeta, ek walk jise aap lene ki sochte rahe.

Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko kabhi bhi neeche rakha ja sakta hai.

Usmein kya hai: calls, shaamein, bistar par laptop?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Ghanta gaya, shaam nahi gayi #

Jo meeting kahin nahi pahunchti wo sach mein waqt barbaad karti hai, aur us par chidhna jaayaz hai. Par nuksaan ek ghante ka tha. Niyam use shaam tak bhi kheench deta hai.

Bahut-si meetings gol-gol ghoomti hain un wajahon se jinka unmein baithe logon se kam lena-dena hai: upar intezaar karta faisla, zaroorat se zyada bulaaye log, aisa mahaul jo chunne se zyada bolna pasand karta hai. Ye aapke kaam ke baare mein koi tathya nahi, na aapke baare mein.

Ek aur nazar: agar koi dost bataye ki wo apni company ki meetings ki bharpaayi har raat kaam karke karta hai, to aap use kya sunana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise jaldi pehchanna

Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #

Jab log ek hafte ki meetings ko gaur se dekhte hain, to kai ko dikhta hai ki sach mein thakane wali bas kuch hi thin. Baaki boring thin, par din se sabse zyada uske baad ka dohrana le gaya, ghar lautte hue ya khaane ki table par.

Kuch ko dikhta hai ki buri meeting ke baad raat ko jaldi-jaldi kiya gaya kaam shayad hi unka sabse achha tha. Thaka, chidha hua kaam zyada time leta hai, aur kuch subah phir se karna padta hai.

Is hafte kaun si meetings ne aapse sach mein kuch liya, aur kaun si bas uske baad ki wajah se mehngi padin?Is par baat kijiye ›

Isse sulah

Ghante ko ghanta hi rehne dijiye #

Benateeja meetings se sulah ka matlab unhein pasand karna nahi, na ye dikhawa ki wo kaam ki hain. Matlab ye ki khoya ghanta ek ghanta hi rahe, baaki din ko na khaye.

Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo aisi meeting ko traffic jam ki tarah lete hain: kheej bhara, asli, zyadatar apne haath se bahar, aur khatam hone par khatam. Chidh ki ijaazat hai. Bas use unke saath ghar aana zaroori nahi.

Kaisa lagega call band karke, ek dheemi saans lekar, agle ghante ko apne kaam ke liye rehne dena?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Qarz ki jagah kuch zyada sachcha #

Agar “aaj ka din bekaar gaya” pichhli call se chal raha hai, to usse ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log zyada sachchi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Meeting ne ek ghanta liya. Meri shaam bhi nahi legi.”

Ye fauran sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane niyam se zyada sahi hona hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki baar-baar kehne se raat ka thoda hissa laut aata hai.

Aapke apne shabdon mein aapke kaam-kaaji din ke baare mein ek sachchi line kya hogi, jo kheej ke saath bhi insaaf kare aur aapke saath bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch baatein bas chhodi ja sakti hain #

Har benateeja meeting ko dohrane, sar mein suljhane ya bharpaayi karne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko notice kiya ja sakta hai, us par aah bhari ja sakti hai, aur calendar mein wahin chhoda ja sakta hai jahan wo hai.

Ye achha kaam karna chhodna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki energy kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse us kaam ke liye zyada bachta hai jiski unhein parwah hai, aur ghar par intezaar karte logon ke liye.

Aaj raat meeting ko jaane dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya agli wali alag niklegi. Bas itna ki use khaane ki table par aapke saath baithna zaroori nahi.

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar niyam zara bhi dheela ho jaye #

Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Benateeja meetings ab bhi chidhati hain, par khoya ghanta ek ghanta hi rehta hai.

Wo chhoti ho sakti hai: calls se bhare din ke baad bhi saat baje band hua laptop, asli kaam ka ek ghanta jo apne sar mein bacha liya, shaam ki walk jo sach mein hui.

Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.

Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch cheezein jo logon ke kaam aati hain #

Call khatam hone par agla kaam kholne se pehle teen dheemi saansein lijiye
Mann mein naam lijiye ki meeting se kuch to mila, chahe kitna bhi chhota
Gaur kijiye kab khoya ghanta sar mein khoyi shaam banne lagta hai
Agle khaali ghante ke liye asli kaam ka ek hissa chuniye, bas wahi
Din ke aakhir mein ek aisi cheez ka naam lijiye jo aapne ki aur jo maayne rakhti thi

Chhote, nijee aur apni marzi ke. Jo aaj aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.

“chaliye, is par agle hafte phir baithte hain” itna kyun chubhta hai?