Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aksar naazuk waqt par aata hai: result abhi aaya hai, form abhi bhare hain, chunav abhi naya hai aur parkha nahi gaya.
Kuch log bachpan se khaane ki mez par, gaadi mein, report card wale din kuch gine-chune courses ke naam sunte aaye, tab se jab unki koi raay hi nahi thi.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhe sabko galat saabit karna hai,” ya “Log kya kahenge, usi se tay hota hai ki chunav sahi tha ya nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Ek chhota taiyaar jawab rakhna, taaki sawaal jaldi khatam ho
- Subject ka naam ek shabd mein bolkar baat badal dena
- Number, rank aur naukri ke plan ginakar chunav ko saabit karna
- Result ke aaspaas wale agle family get-together se bach jaana
- Agle ek-do din apne hi chunav par shak karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Design aur Dadaji ki bhaunhein
Pune mein result ki shaam. Aap ghar mein batate ho ki design padhna hai. Dadaji ki bhaunhein tan jaati hain: “Engineering ya medical kyun nahi? Asli career to wahi hain.” Mummy-Papa ek-doosre ko dekhte hain. Chehra tamtama jaata hai, aur apne plan ki jo khushi thi, sabke saamne bachkani lagne lagti hai. Wo ehsaas socha tha usse zyada der tikta hai. Ek pal ko baaki sab chup ho jaata hai.
Sirf kuch raaste izzat wale
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sirf kuch raaste izzat wale hain.” Ye bujurgon se mili vyavaharik samajh jaisa lagta hai, aur bahut log bina soche isi par chalte hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: baaki har raaste ko doosre darje ka bana deta hai. Jo sach mein kheenchta hai, wo galti lagne lagta hai, aur aap apni hi dilchaspi par shak karne lagte ho.
Kuch career surakshit kyun lage
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki kuch career barson se surakshit aur izzatdaar maane gaye hain. Bahut log is niyam ka koi na koi roop sunkar bade hote hain, aur us waqt ye aksar theek bhi tha. Shayad bachpan se ghar mein engineers aur doctors ki baatein suni hain. Shayad bado ko garv mehsoos karana chahte ho. Raaste ke liye izzat chahna galat nahi, ye apnepan ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har sawaal ke saath shak
Har “engineering kyun nahi” shak ka ek daana aur jodta hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere sab jama hota hai. Aap apni dilchaspi chhipane lagte ho. Sawaal se bachne ke liye aise raaste sochte ho jo aapko kheenchte hi nahi. Kuch aur chahna gharwalon ko niraash karna lagta hai, aur apne subject ki chingaari maddham padne lagti hai.
Kya unki list iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi apne raaste ke baare mein achha laga? Ya zyadatar shak hi hua? Achhi zindagiyan kai field mein banti hain, aur izzat kai shaklon mein aati hai. Dadaji ka ek sawaal aapke chunav ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itni kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke layak hai?
Achhi zindagiyan kai field mein
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki bado ki izzat kam ho gayi. Matlab ye hai ki aapka raasta unke raaste jaisa hue bina bhi qeemti hai. Design ki taraf khinchna aur gharwalon se pyaar karna saath chal sakte hain. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Ye ek jhatke mein nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Yahin se chain lautta hai: aapki dilchaspi chhipane ki nahi, badhane ki cheez ban jaati hai.
If your choice of study is ever met with threats, being frightened, or being kept from it, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSirf kuch raaste izzat wale hain.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAchhi zindagiyan kai field mein banti hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Bees minute wo padhiye jo aapko sach mein pasand hai
- Kadam 2
Mann mein naam dijiye ki ye raasta aapko kyun kheenchta hai
- Kadam 3
Aapke jaise field mein achha kar rahe kisi ek ko dekhiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Wo kaun sa pal tha jab aapko laga ki yahi subject hai, kisi ke poochne se pehle?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Mithai ke dabbe ke saath ek sawaal #
Result wale hafte mein darwaaze par mithai ka dabba liye koi parivaarik dost, Dubai se video call par chacha, seedhiyon par mili padosan aunty. Pehle poocha jaata hai: “Aage kya le rahe ho?” Phir: “Engineering ya medical kyun nahi?”
Ye sawaal halke se poocha jaata hai, ek baat se doosri baat ke beech, aur kamra aage badh jaata hai. Par jisne design, history, commerce ya animation chuna, uske liye ye sawaal baatcheet se kahin zyada der tak thehra reh sakta hai.
Aakhri baar ye, ya isse milta-julta kuch, kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab apne chunav ke baare mein aapne kya kaha tha, aur uske baad kya bole, agar kuch bole?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Achanak wajahein ginani padti hain #
Kuch logon ko chehra tamtamata lagta hai, muskaan ek pal zyada tik jaati hai, aur jawab asli wajahon se chhota nikalta hai. Kuch log zaroorat se zyada samjhane lagte hain: number, plan, aage ki naukriyan, us insaan ko jisne bas yun hi poocha tha.
Aisa sawaal ek second mein chunav ko aisa case bana sakta hai jiski pairvi karni pade, sochne se pehle. Soch baad mein aati hai: ghar lautte waqt, ya raat ko, un saare behtar jawabon ke saath jo der se soojhe.
Sawaal aate hi aapki awaaz ne kya kiya: dab gayi, tez ho gayi, ya sapaat?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur wo aapke apne chunav ki keemat ke baare mein kya batata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Sawaal jaisa dikhta hai, par aapka sawaal chhod deta hai #
“Aapko ye subject kyun bhaya” chunne wale ke baare mein poochta hai. “Engineering kyun nahi” use chhodkar kisi doosri list se shuru karta hai. Jo sawaal chhod diya gaya, mann use poochhe gaye sawaal se zyada zor se sunta hai.
Ye aksar naazuk waqt par aata hai: result abhi aaya hai, form abhi bhare hain, chunav abhi naya hai aur parkha nahi gaya. Jo chunav abhi jam raha ho, us par koi halka-sa bhi tek laga de to wo dagmaga sakta hai.
Agar sawaal hota “aapko isme kya kheench laya”, to aap kya kehte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur us jawab ka kitna hissa aapke aaspaas ke logon tak kabhi pahuncha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal khud se poocha jaane lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Kaash wahi kar liya hota jo sab karte hain.” “Theek se samjhao, warna koi nahi samjhega.” “Chhota rakho, baat ka batangad mat banao.”
Wo rishtedaar doosre shehar laut gaye, par sawaal ab aapke apne sir mein chalta hai: assignment se pehle, kisi classmate ka plan dekhte hue, ya family group mein cousin ka offer letter aane par. Ye samajhdaari jaisa lag sakta hai.
Jab ye poochta hai ki “wahi kyun nahi”, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi khaas sofe ya kisi khaas phone call se udhaar li hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye list pehle se bani thi #
Kuch log bachpan se khaane ki mez par, gaadi mein, report card wale din kuch gine-chune courses ke naam sunte aaye, tab se jab unki koi raay hi nahi thi. Baaki vishayon ka zikr kam hua, ya naam se pehle ek chhota-sa thehraav aaya: “Arts wale kya karte hain?”
Kuch gharon mein jaani-pehchani list ek pakki sadak jaisi lagi, aur iski wajahein har ghar aur har peedhi mein alag hain. “Humare zamane mein…” sunte-sunte bacha chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki list se hatne ke liye bahut badhiya bahana chahiye.
Aapne pehli baar kab dekha ki koi list hai, kahi hui ya ankahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun uski baat kar raha tha, aur aap kahan the jab samajh aaya ki aapki dilchaspi usmein nahi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhe sabko galat saabit karna hai,” ya “Log kya kahenge, usi se tay hota hai ki chunav sahi tha ya nahi.” Kuch log iska naram roop dhote hain: “Meri wajahein tabhi ginee jayengi jab koi aur unse sehmat ho.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo haqeeqatpasand hona lagti hai, jaise bahar nikalne se pehle mausam dekh lena. Isiliye ise kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise aaj ke course aur plan ke saath rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar chunav ki pairvi ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki pasand ka subject dheemi awaaz mein bataya jaye, pehle saal ka project ghar mein koi sune hi nahi, maze se kaam karne ki jagah jawab ratne mein waqt jaye, aur family get-together ek chupchaap tanav ke saath jhele jayein.
Neeche ek doosri keemat bhi hai. Jab chunav ki baar-baar pairvi karni pade, to kuch log apne liye nahi, sunne walon ke liye padhne lagte hain, aise module chunte hain jo ek line mein achhe lagein, bhale dilchasp na hon.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Uthe hue sawaalon ke aage apna chunav nibhane mein lagaatar mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal ko dekhein to iski keemat kya rahi: koi weekend, koi baatcheet, subject ka thoda maza?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, chunav ki pairvi karte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “meri wajahein tabhi ginee jayengi jab wo maanein” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek lecture jo aapko pasand hai par ghar mein koi sunta nahi, ek phone jismein aapke vishay ko ek shabd milta hai, ek module jo sunne mein achha laga isliye chuna, ek project ki photo jo family group tak kabhi nahi pahunchi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch pakka nahi hai.
Usmein kya hai: classes, message, ghar ke phone, jo baat bina kahe reh gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya baat hoti hai, aur kya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use ek pal dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ek list ka sawaal, aapka nahi #
Sawaal mein do field ginaye gaye hain, jo batata hai ki poochne wale ko kya pata hai ya kya suna hai. Jo subject aapne chuna uske baare mein ye bahut kam batata hai, aur uske peeche ki aapki wajahon ke baare mein bilkul nahi.
Har subject kabhi kisi ki list mein anjaana tha. Jo ek dining table par ajeeb chunav lage, wo doosri table par, doosre shehar mein, ya kuch saal baad usi parivaar mein aam baat ho sakti hai.
Ek aur nazar: agar koi dost bataye ki usne apni pasand ka subject chuna, to aapke mann mein pehla sawaal kya aata, “wahi kyun nahi”, ya “usmein tumhein kya pasand hai”?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Kareeb se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain to dekhte hain ki unke asli chunav ki kitni kam baat hui. Poori baatcheet do doosre vishayon par thi, aur unke apne vishay ko mushkil se ek vaakya mila.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki unki wajahein kisi dost ko zor se bolo to saaf aur jaandaar lagti hain, aur sawaal ke neeche hi feeki padti hain. Kabhi jawab mez par theek baitha, aur kabhi kamre ka shak hilana mushkil raha.
Jab aapne pehli baar chuna, tab aapki wajahein kya thin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aaj kisi aise ko bataein jo bas utsuk hai, to sabse pehle kya kahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Dining table ki behas jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sawaal se sulah ka matlab usse sehmat hona nahi, na ye dikhana ki chubha nahi. Matlab itna ki ek sawaal ko is par kam chalne dein ki jis subject ko padhne roz subah uthte ho, uske baare mein aap kaisa mehsoos karein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har rishtedaar ko manane ki koshish chhod dete hain, aur chunav ko apna rehne dete hain, mez par manzoor ho ya na ho. Chunav ko sach hone ke liye kisi ki haami nahi chahiye.
Kuch kamre sunenge hi nahi, aur unhein aazmane ki zaroorat nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar wajahein apni rakhein, aur sirf wahan baantein jahan koi sach mein jaanna chahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar result wale din se “kaash doosra le liya hota” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine ye apni wajahon se chuna, aur abhi samajh mein aa raha hai ki isme kya-kya hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purani line se zyada sateek honi chahiye, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki rishtedaaron ke yahan jaane se pehle ise chupchaap dohrana unke apne nazariye ke liye thodi jagah chhodta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chunne ki wajah ke baare mein imaandaar ho, bina iske ki mez par koi haami bhare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch sawaal darwaaze par chhode ja sakte hain #
Har “engineering ya medical kyun nahi” ko poora jawab, palatkar dalil, ya agli baar behtar samjhane ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur ghar lautte hue neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse unke apne vishay ke liye zyada bachti hai: wo padhai, wo drawing, wo problem set jo unhein sach mein pasand hain.
Sawaal ko shaam ke liye neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj raat ke kaam ya kal ki class mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Sawaal ab bhi family get-together mein aa sakta hai, aur aapka chunav aapka rehta hai, manzoor ho ya na ho.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: achhi class ka maza bina dining table dohraye lena, kisi classmate ko batana ki is subject mein kya pasand hai, ya agle semester ka module sirf dilchaspi se chunna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya badla dikhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi kyun-nahi wala sawaal”
- Sirf apne liye wo pal yaad kijiye jab is subject ne pehli baar kheencha
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya lehja
- Sochiye koi dost poochh raha hai ki isme kya pasand hai, aur apna jawab dekhiye
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chaahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Wo kaun sa pal tha jab aapko laga ki yahi subject hai, kisi ke poochne se pehle?
- Ghar lautte hue kaun sa jawab aapne mann mein ratta, jo kabhi keh nahi paaye?
- Aapke subject mein aisa kya pasand hai jo us mez par kisi ne kabhi nahi poochha?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to apne subject mein sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?