Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isme jawab dene ko kuch saaf bhi nahi bachta.
“Tumhare jaise dimaag ko to engineering mein hona chahiye tha.”
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main jahan hona chahiye tha wahan se peechhe hoon,” ya “Mujhe unhein galat saabit karna hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chunav ko phir se samjhate hain, jitna kisi ne maanga nahi usse zyada baariki se
- Un family mauqon se bachte hain jahan ye baat uthti hai
- Kuch extra kaam odh lete hain, bas kuch dikhane ko
- Jab bhi kaam ki baat nikle, sapaat aur chup ho jaate hain
- Raat ko jaagkar sochte hain ki kahin wo sahi to nahi the
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Shaant job aur ek aah
Deoghar ke ghar mein Diwali ki shaam. Aapne ek shaant-si job chuni hai jisme music aur doston ke liye waqt bachta hai. Mausaji mithai ki plate badhate hue aah bharte hain: “Talent barbaad kar rahe ho, bahut kuch kar sakte the.” Aap plate rakh dete ho. Jis shaam ka intezaar tha wo achanak bhaari lagti hai, aur lautte hue khud ko nirasha-sa feel hota hai. Chhota pal hai, par saath rehta hai.
Talent ka poora istemaal zaroori
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Jiske paas talent hai, use poora istemaal karna hi chahiye.” Ye mahatvakaanksha jaisa lagta hai, farz jaisa bhi. Upar se seedhi samajhdaari dikhta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har chunav ko apni qabiliyat par khare utarne ka exam bana deta hai. Ek saadi, khush zindagi nakaami lagne lagti hai, kyunki wo sabse badi zindagi nahi hai.
Talent ki taareef kyun hoti rahi
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki talent ki taareef bahut hui, aur hum uska maan rakhna chahte hain. Bahut log is niyam ka koi roop lekar bade hote hain, aur us waqt ye aksar theek bhi lagta tha. Shayad teacher kehte the ki aap door tak jaoge. Shayad apnon ne aapke liye bade sapne dekhe. Hunar ko istemaal karne ki chaah galat nahi. Wo zindagi ko maayne dene ki chaah se aati hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har tippani se badhta apraadh-bodh
Har “talent barbaad” thoda apraadh-bodh jodta hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Jo chunav theek lage the, un par shak hota hai. Lagta hai kisi ka kuch chukana hai. Apni tulna usse karte ho jo ban sakte the. Jo zindagi chuni, music aur doston wali, wo maza lene ki cheez kam aur maafi maangne ki cheez zyada lagne lagti hai.
Kya poora istemaal zaroori hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochhiye: is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi laga ki aapki zindagi kaafi hai? Ya zyadatar ek achhi zindagi chhoti lagne lagi? Hunar kai tarah istemaal ho sakta hai, ek shaant, khush zindagi mein bhi. Jo bhi ho, kisi ek ki ummeedein aapke chunavon ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna theek hai?
Shaant khushhaal zindagi mein hunar
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap badhna ya hunar istemaal karna chhod do. Matlab ye ki ek shaant zindagi ko barbaadi lagna zaroori nahi. Aapka music, aapke dost, aapka waqt, sab ginti mein hain. Shuruaat ek pal se ho sakti hai. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: aap wo zindagi poori tarah jee paate ho jo chuni hai, uske aakaar ki maafi maange bina.
Where someone really does react badly to a choice, threatens or frightens you, that is worth taking seriously, and keeping some of it quiet can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJiske paas talent hai, use poora istemaal karna hi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere hunar ek shaant, khush zindagi mein bhi reh sakte hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte ek ghanta kisi pasandida cheez ko dijiye
- Din 2
Mann mein naam lijiye ki aap apne hunar kaise istemaal karte ho
- Din 3
Apni chuni aur pasand aane wali ek baat notice kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Wo aapke chunav ki tulna kisse kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Diwali ki shaam, ek aah #
Shaadi mein koi chacha nayi job sunte hain, ghar se video call par koi apna, ya bazaar mein achanak mile purane teacher. Faisla samjhaya jaata hai, aur jawab ek aah ke saath aata hai: “Itne number aaye the, aur ab ye? Talent barbaad kar rahe ho.” Kabhi naram: “Tum to bahut kuch kar sakte the.”
Sunne mein ye taareef jaisa lagta hai, kyunki kuch achha hone ki baat se shuru hota hai. Par ye kuch aur bhi karta hai. Chunav ko kisi aur ki kheenchi tasveer ke saamne rakhkar chhota paata hai, bina poochhe ki tasveer kis cheez se bani thi.
Aakhri baar kab aisa kuch suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapne abhi-abhi apni zindagi ke baare mein kya bataya tha, aur wo aah kitni der saath rahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Toole jaane jaisa kyun lagta hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki pet mein bhaaripan baith gaya, safayi ya bachaav ki jaldi uthi, phir ek thaki hui sapaatpan. Kuch chup hokar sir hilate hain; kuch wahi wajahein ginane lagte hain jo pehle kai baar de chuke hain. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko samjhane ki zaroorat nahi.
Jin logon ki raay maayne rakhti hai, unke paimane par naape jaane ka asar sochne se pehle ho jaata hai. Kuch logon ke liye saaf soch baad mein aati hai, ghar lautte waqt, us jawab ke saath jo sab samjha deta.
“Talent” shabd aate hi aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Behas karne ka mann hua, sikudne ka, ya baat badalne ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo pehli reaction chunav ki ahmiyat ke baare mein kya kehti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chunav ko kisi aur ki tasveer se toulna #
“Wo job kam deti hai” ek job ki baat hai. “Talent barbaad” job ko chhodkar poore raaste ko kisi aur ke mann ki tasveer se toulta hai: ek khaas degree, ek khaas pad, ek khaas shehar. Mann wajahein nahi sunta, faasla sunta hai.
Isme jawab dene ko kuch saaf bhi nahi bachta. Koi nahi batata ki talent theek-theek kya hai, uska istemaal kaisa dikhta, ya paimana kisne tay kiya. Paimane ke ankahe rehte, chunav bina kisi ke kahe nakaami jaisa lagne lag sakta hai.
Agar shabdon ne aapke chunav ko ek tasveer se toola, to wo tasveer kiski thi, aur kya aapne kabhi usse nape jaane ki haami bhari thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab aah andar se aane lage #
Baar-baar suno to wo andar bas jaati hai. “Ab tak to aage hona chahiye tha.” “Bas yahi sab karna hai?” “Wo dekhte to kya kehte?” Wo achhe din ke beech bhi chalu ho jaati hai aur achhe hisse ko chhota kar deti hai.
Kehne wala shayad doosre shehar mein ho, par ab naapna andar hota hai: ek jeet purani tasveer se milayi jaati hai, soch-samajhkar kiya chunav “samjhauta” likh diya jaata hai. Chunki wo aapki apni awaaz jaisi sunayi deti hai, seedhi imaandaari lagti hai.
Jab wo poochhti hai ki kya ye kaafi hai, to kiski awaaz mein poochhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki, ya wo jo saalon pehle kisi khane ki table par aapke haath thama di gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye tasveer jaldi ban gayi #
“Itne number aaye, aur ab ye?” “Tumhare jaise dimaag ko to engineering mein hona chahiye tha.” “Sharmaji ki beti dekho.” Kuch log aisi taareefein sunkar bade hue jinke saath ek manzil judi thi, ek raasta jo unke khud chunne layak hone se pehle tay ho chuka tha.
Kuch families mein bachche ki qabiliyat se ummeedein oonchi thin, kabhi bahut kuch chhodne ke baad, aur wajahein har ghar ki alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nikaal sakta hai ki hunar tabhi ginna jaata hai jab use manzoor tareeke se istemaal kiya jaye.
Aapki qabiliyat kab kisi plan ka hissa lagne lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo plan kisne banaya, aur kya aapse kabhi poochha gaya ki aap usmein kya chahte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche ban sakne wala ek chup niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main jahan hona chahiye tha wahan se peechhe hoon,” ya “Mujhe unhein galat saabit karna hai.” Kuch log iska naram roop dhote hain: “Mere chunav tabhi ginte hain jab family ko prabhaavshaali lagein.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi nahi lagti. Bas iski jaankari jaisi lagti hai ki cheezein kaise naapi jaati hain, aur isiliye ise kabhi-kabhi din ki roshni mein nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Har haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit hoti hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Purani tasveer ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai rishtedaron ke sawaalon se ghabrana, us job ko zaroorat se zyada samjhana jo asal mein achhi chal rahi hai, ya aise promotion ke peechhe bhaagna jo kabhi chaha hi nahi. Kuch log apne kaam ka maza lena tab chhod dete hain jab unhone tay bhi nahi kiya ki wo use napasand karte hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har chunav ko tasveer ke saamne safayi deni padti hai, to chunav se khush hona mushkil ho jaata hai, aur asli tarakki bhi bahane jaisi lagne lagti hai. Ek saal mein soch-samajhkar chune raaste ka kaafi maza ja sakta hai.
Ye kamzori se nahi hai. Kisi aur ka paimana poore saal dhone mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle saal kya gaya: koi achha din jo chhota laga, koi get-together jo chhoota, koi plan jo mukhyatah prabhaavit karne ke liye chuna gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Unki tasveer se naape jaane ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, jab “mere chunav tabhi ginte hain jab prabhaavit karein” zor se baj raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad office ka ek achha kaam purani tasveer se jaancha gaya, kisi rishtedaar ko dimaag mein likha jawab, shaam ka aisa plan jo mukhyatah kuch dikhane ko chuna gaya. Kuch jaana-pehchana ho sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi.
Is tasveer ko kisi jawab ya sudhaar ki abhi zaroorat nahi. Ise bas dekh lena kaafi hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, messages, wo cheezein jo aazmayi nahi gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isme aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Barbaad kiske hisaab se? #
Hunar ka istemaal kai tarah dikh sakta hai: bade pad wali job, haan, par ek chhota dhandha, ghar mein kaam aati koi kala, soch-samajhkar chuna dheema raasta, ya bas maze ke liye rakhi koi den bhi. Logon ke mann ki tasveer mein inmein se bahut kam aate hain.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apni wajahon se kiye chunav, jaise waqt, sehat, family ya bas kaam pasand aana, andar se alag dikhte hain, khane ki table ke us paar se nahi dikhte.
Kya kabhi aapki wajahein poochhi gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur raasta: aapke apne shabdon mein apne hunar ka istemaal kaisa dikhega, agar kisi aur ki tasveer se mel baithana zaroori na hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Paas se dekhne par log kya dekhte hain #
Jab kuch log us chunav ko dheere-dheere dekhte hain jis par faisla sunaya gaya, to usmein gayi cheezein dekhte hain: ek sauda jo toola gaya, ek zaroorat jo poori hui, kuch jo kisi pad se zyada maayne rakhta tha.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki tasveer mein kya chhoot gaya: roz istemaal hote hunar jinka koi naam nahi leta, aur wo baatein jin par chupchaap khushi hai par jo shaadi mein kisi ko prabhaavit nahi karengi.
“Barbaad” shabd ke bagal mein rakhkar, wo nazar kya dikhati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke chunav ke peechhe ki wajahon ki ek imaandaar list kaisi dikhegi, unmein se bhi jo aapne kabhi zor se nahi kahin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Unmein se kaun si aaj bhi qaayam hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Apne raaste ki behas jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye manna nahi ki chunav bekaar tha, ya ye dikhana nahi ki aah chubhi nahi. Matlab ye ki ek tasveer ka is par asar kam ho ki aapka apna kaam kaisa lagta hai aur baaki din kaisa beetta hai.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab ve saabit karna chhod dete hain ki raasta sahi tha. Mann mein baar-baar muqadma jeetna thakata hai, aur purani tasveer ko kamre ke beech mein banaye rakhta hai.
Jahan koi sach mein kisi chunav par buri tarah reaction karta hai, use gambhirta se lena theek hai, aur uska kuch hissa chup rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Shabdon ko unke apne paas rehne dena kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne layak ek zyada sachcha vaakya #
Agar “jo mere paas hai, uska istemaal nahi ho raha” saalon se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek zyada sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine ye wajahon se chuna, aur meri wajahein ginti mein hain.”
Ye sach lage, zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek vaakya hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki dheere se aur baar-baar kehne par, khaaskar family get-together se pehle, wo us jagah ka thoda hissa le leta hai jo purana vaakya gherta tha.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapke chunavon ke baare mein sateek ho aur jis par kisi aur ke dastkhat ki zaroorat na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “tum to bahut kuch kar sakte the” ko jawabi teer, wajahon ki list ya agli baar prabhaavit karne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch baatein dekh li jaati hain, ek pal feel ki jaati hain, aur rakh di jaati hain, jaise shaam ke liye bhaari thaila farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki energy kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse us kaam ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo unhein sach mein pasand hai, aur un logon ke liye jo uske baare mein sachchi dilchaspi se poochhte hain.
Aaj shaam rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya baat nipat gayi. Bas ye ki use aaj baaki har cheez mein saath le jaana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam ek paaydaan dheela ho #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye: niyam ek paaydaan dheema. Soch-samajhkar kiya chunav ek chunav hai, barbaadi nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kaam ka ek achha hafta apne paimane par manana, raaste ki wajah khud se ek seedhe vaakya mein kehna, ya bas maze ke liye rakha koi shauq.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo ubhre wo aapka hai aur dekhne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar use theek se dekhna chahein, to ek chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe halka-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti baatein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Phir wahi talent wali baat”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: maine ye kisliye chuna tha?
- Aaj ke kaam mein ek baat notice kijiye jo apne paimane par achhi gayi
- Gaur kijiye pal ka kaun sa hissa zyada zor ka hai: shabd, ya lehja
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si chaahat notice kijiye, jitni bhi chhoti
Chhoti, nijee, aur sab aapki marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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