Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Aalochna mein mehnat hi sabse zyada andekhi reh jaati hai.
Kai logon ke liye aalochna mein bachpan ki purani awaaz hoti hai.
Toke jaane ki chubhan ke neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Sab bilkul sahi kar dun to koi kuch nahi keh paayega.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har wajah ginana ki aisa kyun hua, jab tak asli baat kho na jaaye
- Chup hokar dobara karna aur poore din chubhan liye ghoomna
- Turant haan mein haan milana, un baaton par bhi jo naainsaafi lagi thin
- Palatkar bol dena, phir baad mein doharakar aur bura lagna
- Tab tak kuch bhi na dikhana jab tak wo bedaag na lage
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek shirt, chupchaap dobara tah
Sunday dopahar, Ahmedabad ka flat. Mehmaan aane se pehle aapne ek ghanta kapde tah karne aur almirah sajane mein lagaya. Mummy almirah kholkar ek shirt nikalti hain aur saans bharti hain: “Itna bhi dhang se nahi ho sakta tumse?” Bina kuch kahe wo use dobara tah karti hain. Aap haathon mein kapde liye wahin khade rehte ho. Shirt ek thi, par poora ghanta achanak kuch nahi lagta.
Sab sahi ho to koi nahi tokega
Seedhi baat: ek tedhi tah aapke baare mein sahi faisla nahi hai, aur wo saans aapki mehnat ki poori sachchai nahi. Par aise palon se ek niyam ugta hai, aur aapka ban jaata hai: “Sab bilkul sahi kar dun to koi kuch nahi keh paayega.” Ye oonche standard jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: hamesha ek tah aur bachi rehti hai, isliye finish line khisakti rehti hai.
Sab sahi karna surakshit kyun lagta hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki apnon ki tok gehri lagti hai, aur sab sahi karna bachaav jaisa lagta hai. Shayad ghar mein parwah tokne se jatayi jaati thi. Shayad aap bas chahte hain ki apne log aapke kaam se khush hon. Jo bhi ho, chahna ki mehnat ginti jaaye, chhotapan nahi. Ye qadar paane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har saans ke liye tane rehna
Dheere-dheere niyam bahut maangne lagta hai. Jo cheezein theek thin, unhein aap dobara karte ho. Kisi ke poochne se pehle safai dete ho. Koi sabzi, idea ya draft tab tak roke rakhte ho jab tak wo bedaag na lage. Taareef fisal jaati hai, ek saans dinon tiki rehti hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par ek hissa hamesha tana rehta hai, ki koi almirah kholega.
Kya itna tane rehna vaajib hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ne kabhi toka-taaki ko hamesha ke liye roka? Ya zyadatar aapko thakakar chaukanna rakha? Koi na koi hamesha alag tah karega, alag pakayega. Dobara tah ki gayi ek shirt aapka paimana nahi. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal rukiye. Kya ise itna kaskar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye aapse leta hai?
Aapki parwah ginti jaati hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo saans vaajib thi, ya aap kaam achhe se karne ki parwah chhod dein. Matlab ye ki ek tippani ab tay nahi karti ki aapki mehnat ki keemat kya thi. Vaajib chhoti baat, agar koi ho, rakh lijiye aur baaki unhi ke paas chhod dijiye. Shuruaat ek pal, ek tah, ek shaam se ho sakti hai. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapki parwah ginti jaati hai, bina taareef ke bhi.
If criticism at home or work comes with threats, being hurt, frightened or watched, that is no longer everyday and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSab bilkul sahi kar dun to koi kuch nahi keh paayega.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleVaajib baat rakh lun, baaki unhi ke paas chhod dun.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ki ek cheez yaad kijiye jo aapne parwah se ki
- Din 2
Tippani chubhe to usmein se ek chhoti thos baat dhoondhiye
- Din 3
Aaj ek chhoti cheez ko bedaag nahi, bas kaafi achha rehne dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Usmein kaun sa lafz sabse zyada chubha, aur wahi kyun?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Jis tarah kiya, us par ek line #
Maa tah kiye kapdon ki taraf dekhkar, manager client call se ek raat pehle slides scroll karte hue, Chachi rotiyon ka aakar dekhkar: “Itna bhi dhang se nahi ho sakta tumse?” Kaam aksar chhota hota hai, aur vaakya bolne mein ek second lagta hai.
Baat kaam ki nahi rah jaati. Reh jaata hai “itna bhi”, jo batata hai ki sahi karna aasaan aur zaahir tha, aur “dhang se”, jo chupchaap kehta hai ki aapne jaise kiya, poori parwah ke saath, wo ginti mein aaya hi nahi.
Aakhri baar aisa kuch kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Abhi aapne kya kiya tha, aur baaki sab khaane ki table ya agli meeting par chale gaye, to wo vaakya aapke saath kitni der raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jawab se pehle chadhti garmi #
Kai logon ko sabse pehle chehre par garmi lagti hai, phir seene mein kasaav aur safai dene ki jaldi: hadbadi thi, kisi ne bataya nahi, koshish toh ki thi. Koi ekdum chup hokar kaam karta rehta hai, koi palatkar bol deta hai. Isme zyada nazuk hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Jiski raay maayne rakhti hai, uski nazar mein parakhe jaana hamesha apnepan se juda raha hai, isliye sharir sochne se pehle react karta hai. Shaant, saaf jawab aksar bahut baad mein aata hai, ghar lautti bus mein ya raat ke ek baje, jab sunne wala koi nahi.
Wo pehla khinchaav bata sakta hai ki aap unse kya dekh liye jaane ki ummeed kar rahe the.
Un pehle secondon mein aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Bachaav karne ka mann hua, jhatpat theek karne ka, ya gayab ho jaane ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baat kaam ki, chot insaan par #
Aalochna isliye chubhti hai ki wo shayad hi kaam par rukti hai. “Kinare tedhe hain” kapde ke baare mein hai, jabki “dhang se kyun nahi hota” tah karne wale ke baare mein. Mann aksar ise mehnat aur keemat par faisle ki tarah sunta hai, bhale hi kehne wale ka matlab bas ek chhoti cheez tha.
Aalochna mein mehnat hi sabse zyada andekhi reh jaati hai. Lagaya hua ghanta, saath-saath nipatayi doosri cheezein, jo parwah aapne ki: inmein se kisi ka zikr nahi hota, aur ek kami poore kaam ki nishani ban jaati hai.
Isiliye ek tippani hafte bhar ki chupchaap shabashi se zyada zor se goonj sakti hai.
Jo kami batayi gayi, wo chhoti aur thos thi to theek-theek kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapki mehnat ka kaun sa hissa aap chahte the ki wo ginein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab aalochak pehle bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno to aalochna andar aakar kisi aur se pehle bolne lagti hai. “Abhi bhi theek nahi bana.” “Kuch na kuch kami nikaal hi lenge.” “Aur achha karna chahiye tha.” Kisi ke dekhne se pehle hi ye chalu ho sakti hai.
Saamne wala shaam tak baat bhool bhi jaaye, par bheetar ka aalochak duty par laga rehta hai: har message, har sabzi, har slide jaanchta hua. Aur chunki ye aapki hi awaaz jaisi lagti hai, ye raay kam aur seedhi imaandaari zyada lagti hai.
Bolte waqt ye aalochak kiski awaaz udhaar leta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Lehja aapka apna hai, ya kisi kitchen, classroom ya office jaisa, kuch baras purana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bahuton ke liye laal pen purani awaaz hai #
Kai logon ke liye aalochna mein bachpan ki purani awaaz hoti hai. Report card wali shaamein, homework par laal pen chalate Papa, ya ye sunna ki cousin ki likhai tumse saaf thi. Aaj kisi manager ki ek tippani un sab purani baaron jitni bhaari lag sakti hai.
Kuch gharon mein parwah jatane ka tareeka hi tokna tha, aur wajahein alag-alag hoti hain: fikr, garv, parvarish, ya koi aur tareeka aata hi nahi tha. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki sab sahi karna hi theek rehne ki keemat hai, aur ek chook bahut saari koshish mita sakti hai.
Sudhaar kab pehli baar kaam ka nahi, aapki jaanch laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab aam taur par kamre mein kaun hota tha, aur uske baad aapne kya karna seekha: aur mehnat karna, chhipana, ya kaam dikhana hi band kar dena?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Chubhan ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam #
Toke jaane ki chubhan ke neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Sab bilkul sahi kar dun to koi kuch nahi keh paayega.” Kuch ke paas seedha roop hota hai, “main jaisa hoon, kaafi nahi,” aur kuch ke paas narm: “Koshish na karna hi achha, galat kehlane se.”
Aise niyam khud ko niyam nahi batate. Wo samajhdaari lagte hain, kaam aur zindagi ka sahi tareeka, aur isiliye barson bina ruke nibh jaate hain, bina ye poochhe ki ye sach bhi hain ya kuch bhala bhi karte hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: chot lagti hai to aise ban jao ki koi tok hi na sake.
Kya kabhi kisi bhi mehnat se ye mumkin hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Toke na jaane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai chhote kaam teen-teen baar doharana, seedhe-se faisle par bhi safai dena, ya kisi kaam mein zaroorat se bahut zyada waqt lagana. Kuch log apne idea, apna khaana, apne draft dikhana hi chhod dete hain, kyunki jo dikha nahi use parakha nahi ja sakta.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har taiyaar cheez faisle ka intezaar karti hai, to achha nateeja khushi nahi, bas raahat deta hai. Taareef fisal jaati hai aur ek tippani hafte bhar chipki rehti hai. Jo kaam achha kiya, wo apna nahi lagta.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Agli toka-taaki ke liye taiyaar rehna thaka deta hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein kya keemat rahi: koi roka hua idea, koi shaam jo doharane mein gayi, koi shauk jo ab imtihaan jaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, toke jaane se bachte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “bilkul sahi ho to koi kuch nahi kahega” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad chaar baar likha gaya ek message, parosne se pehle baar-baar chakhi sabzi, zaroorat se ek din zyada roka gaya draft, kisi ke kuch kehne se pehle taiyaar “sorry”. Shayad koi idea jo zyada surakshit waqt ke liye rakha hai.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, baatcheet, roki hui cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhkar aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Dhang se, kiske paimane par? #
“Dhang se” ka matlab aksar “jaise humare yahan hota hai” hota hai. Kabhi usmein sachchi baat hoti hai; kabhi wo bas kisi ki aadat, pasand ya thakaan hai, jise aise kaha gaya jaise wo niyam ho jo sabko pata hona chahiye.
Baat ko do hisson mein baantne se madad milti hai: kaam ki thos baat, jise shaanti se dekha ja sakta hai, aur lehja ya bada-sa shabd, jo us pal aur kehne wale ka hai. Aapse sirf pehle hisse ko kuch chahiye.
Ek aur nazar: koi kareebi dost bataye ki kisi ne usse yahi kaha, to maanne se pehle aap usse kya poochhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Bahar se dekhne par kya wo aalochna utni poori, ya utni vaajib lagti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Us pal ko dheere-dheere doharane par kai log dekhte hain ki asal baat chhoti thi: ek silwat, ek typo, namak, ek ulti slide. Chubhan badi thi, par jo bataya gaya wo kuch minute ka kaam tha, aksar aasaani se theek ya bas chhod dene laayak.
Kuch dekhte hain ki tippani mein kya chhoot gaya: koshish ke ghante, us din uthayi doosri zimmedariyan, wo dheron baar jab yahi kaam theek gaya aur kisi ne kuch nahi kaha. Aalochna zor se aati hai, aur shukriya, jab aata hai, dheeme.
Pichhle mahine ko imaandaari se ginein, har koshish ke saamne har tippani, to ginti kaisi dikhegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun se chupchaap kahe shukriya aapne bina sune nikal jaane diye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Baat le lijiye, chubhan chhod dijiye #
Aalochna se sulah ka matlab sab kuch maan lena ya ye dikhana nahi ki chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki wo tippani kam tay kare ki aap khud ko kaise dekhte hain, aur shaam ka kitna hissa use doharane mein jaaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab chhoti, vaajib baat rakh lete hain, agar koi ho, aur baaki kehne wale ke paas chhod dete hain. Mann mein behas jeetne ya sahi saabit hone ki zaroorat nahi. Wo behas shayad hi khatam hoti hai, aur tippani ko kamre mein bithaye rakhti hai.
Kaisa lagega khud se dheere se kehna, “Wo hissa vaajib tha, baaki unka tha,” aur phir shaam ko kisi aur baat ke naam hone dena?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “mujhse kabhi theek nahi banta” barson se andar chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachchi line paas rakhte hain: “Ek hissa aur behtar ho sakta tha, baaki maine parwah se kiya.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purani line se zyada satik ho, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki dheere-dheere aur baar-baar kehne par ye utni jagah lene lagti hai jitni aalochna gherti thi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo kami ke baare mein imaandaar ho, par uske aas-paas ki saari mehnat mita na de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har tippani ko jawab, safai ya subah tak behtar version nahi chahiye. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke baad bhaari bag darwaze par rakh dete hain.
Ye kaam ko achhe se karna chhodna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch kehte hain ki isse us kaam ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jiski unhein parwah hai, aur un logon ke liye jo kamiyon ke saath mehnat bhi dekhte hain.
Aaj raat ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat vaajib thi ya nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez ke peeche-peeche na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Koi tippani ab bhi achhi nahi lagti, par wo ek kaam par ek note hai, aap par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: draft tab bhejna jab achha ho, bedaag nahi; sabzi bina maafi ke parosna; wo shaam jo us jawab ki rehearsal mein na jaaye jo diya hi nahi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi dhang se”
- Ek thos baat chuniye aur dekhiye ki wo asal mein kitni chhoti hai
- Jawab dene se pehle hatheli table par rakhiye aur ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Wo ek baar yaad kijiye jab yahi kaam achha gaya, aur use ginne dijiye
- Sone se pehle aaj ki ek cheez yaad kijiye jo aapne parwah se ki
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Usmein kaun sa lafz sabse zyada chubha, aur wahi kyun?
- Jab aapne wo kiya, to asal mein kiski shabashi ki ummeed thi?
- Aapki mehnat ka kaun sa hissa aap chahte hain ki koi dekh leta?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya rokkar rakhenge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?