Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Bataya jaana ki aapke liye kya achha hai, poochhe jaane ki jagah, baad mein samjhana mushkil tarah se chubh sakta hai, kyunki kuch badtameezi toh hui nahi.
Kuch logon ne ise bachpan se suna: jaldi sula dene se pehle, radd hui trip se pehle, unki jagah chun liye gaye subject se pehle, “tumhare bhale ke liye hai.”
Neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Bade jab tay kar lein, toh meri raay nahi ginti,” ya “Salaah ko na kehna khudgarzi hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sir hilana, aur apne khayal apne paas sochte rehna
- Apni baat lambi karke samjhana, phir bhi ansuna feel karna
- Baaki mulaqaat mein chup ho jaana
- Kai din baatcheet ko dohrana, dono taraf se bahas karte hue
- Ye shak hone lagna ki apna mann khud pata bhi hai ya nahi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Naukri aur kapdon par tippaniyan
Bengaluru ke aapke flat mein Saturday ko Sasu Maa aur Sasur ji aaye hain. Wo aapki naukri, kapdon aur weekend bitane ke dhang par bolte hain. Aapki chuppi par Sasu Maa kehti hain, “Hum toh tumhare bhale ke liye hi keh rahe hain.” Sir hilta hai, shukriya nikal jaata hai. Par unke jaane ke baad bhi bheetar parkha hua, chhota aur beawaaz lagta hai. Mann mein har wo jawab ghoomta hai jo diya ja sakta tha, sab der se.
Bhale ke liye, yaani feel nahi
Sabse pehle, seedhe: aalochana salaah keh dene se sahi nahi ho jaati, aur usse chubhna jaayaz hai. Par usse ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo aapka ban jaata hai: “Agar ye mere bhale ke liye hai, toh bina kuch feel kiye maan lena hai.” Upar se ye seedhi samajhdaari lagti hai, aadar jaisi. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki apni bhaavnayein nashukri lagne lagti hain.
Bado ka aadar kyun chahiye
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki bado ka aadar karna aur shaleen dikhna chahte hain. Zyadatar log iska koi roop dhote hain. Shayad sikhaya gaya ki palatkar jawab nahi dete. Shayad naye parivar mein shaanti rakhna chahte ho. Aadar aur shaanti chaahna galat nahi. Ye apnepan ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har tippani jo dabaav jodti hai
Har “bhale ke liye” dabaav thoda aur badhata hai. Dheere-dheere sab judta hai. Ye aahista hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil. Chot chhipayi jaati hai. Apne faislon par shak hota hai. Salaah se pareshan hone par qasoorwaar lagta hai. Waqt ke saath unki baaton ki awaaz aapke apne mann se oonchi ho jaati hai, aur har faisla unki manzoori maangta lagta hai.
Kya sab nigal lena iske laayak hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se baatein kabhi sahne mein aasaan huin? Ya zyadatar bas khud par shak badha? Kisi ka aadar karke bhi unki baat se aahat hua ja sakta hai. Salaah keh dene se tay nahi hota ki wo kaisi lage. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein toh kuch der is par rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna uski keemat ke laayak hai?
Aapki bhaavnaon ki ijazat hai
Chhodne ka matlab bahas karna ya haami bharna nahi. Matlab ye ki aapki bhaavnaon ki ijazat hai, baat ko chahe jo naam diya jaye. Jo kaam ka hai use rakh lein, baaki chupchaap ek taraf kar dein. Ye chhote se shuru ho sakta hai, ek-ek pal mein. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapke mann ki awaaz aapke sir mein unki awaaz se oonchi reh sakti hai.
If comments at your in-laws' ever come with threats, being hurt, frightened, controlled or kept from people, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar ye mere bhale ke liye hai, toh bina kuch feel kiye maan lena hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri bhaavnaon ki ijazat hai, baat ko chahe jo naam diya jaye.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Khud ko bataiye ki kaun sa chunav aapko khushi deta hai
- Kadam 2
Kaam ki ek salaah rakh lijiye, baaki ek taraf kar dijiye
- Kadam 3
Mulaqaat ke baad apne liye ek shaant kaam kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
““Tumhare bhale ke liye” se theek pehle kaun si baat kahi gayi thi, aur aapne use kaise liya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wajah pehle se saath lagi hui ek baat #
Bengaluru ke flat mein Saturday ki subah Sasu Maa aur Sasur ji aaye hain, haath mein ghar ka achaar. Rasoi dekhkar, phir subah-subah khula laptop dekhkar: “Hum toh tumhare bhale ke liye hi keh rahe hain. Humne duniya dekhi hai, kaun sa hum dushman hain?” Baat pehle, wajah baad mein, pehle se taiyaar.
Vaakya chhota hai, par kaam khaas karta hai. Baat ko ek wajah mein lapet deta hai, aur wajah aapke baare mein hai. Us kamre mein baat se asahmat hona apne hi bhale se asahmat hone jaisa sunayi dene lagta hai.
Pichhli baar “tumhare bhale ke liye” se theek pehle kaun si baat thi, aur jab wo kahi ja rahi thi tab aap kya soch rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kamra band-sa kyun lagta hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki kuch kas jaata hai, sir apne aap hilne lagta hai, aur chehra haami bharta rehta hai jabki dimaag aage daudta rehta hai. Kuch ko jawab dene ki garam-si ichha uthti hai, aur phir jawab dene ka mauka khisak jaata hai.
Jab kisi vaakya ke baad jawab ki jagah hi na bache, toh mann wahin laut jaata hai jo usne aise kamron mein bahut pehle seekha tha: chup ho jao, tameez se raho, ya akad jao. Asli jawab aksar baad mein akele mein aata hai.
“Bhale ke liye” kahe jaane ke theek baad wale pal mein aapne bahar se kya hote feel kiya, aur andar kya chal raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye sawaal se pehle hi jawab de deta hai #
“Kya tumne is baare mein socha hai?” mein jawab ki jagah hai. “Hum toh tumhare bhale ke liye hi keh rahe hain” kamre ko band kar deta hai: baat kisi khaas zindagi par fit baithti hai ya nahi, ye us insaan ke bolne se pehle hi tay ho chuka.
Bataya jaana ki aapke liye kya achha hai, poochhe jaane ki jagah, baad mein samjhana mushkil tarah se chubh sakta hai, kyunki kuch badtameezi toh hui nahi. Ungli rakhne ko koi beizzati nahi, bas ye ehsaas ki koi faisla kahin aur ho gaya.
Agar us din aapse batane ki jagah poochha jaata, toh apni zindagi ke baare mein aap kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab vaakya aapki taraf se bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno toh ye andar aa basta hai. “Shayad wo behtar jaante hain.” “Meri kya bisaat is par bolne ki?” “Is par meri koi raay nahi honi chahiye.” Shak baat poori sochne se pehle hi aane lagta hai.
Jab ye aapki apni awaaz jaisa lagta hai, toh narmi jaisa lagta hai, kisi aur ka vaakya nahi. Apne hafte ke faisle is par taule jaane lagte hain ki kya kaha ja sakta hai, jabki kisi ne abhi kuch kaha bhi nahi.
Jab shak wali awaaz kehti hai “shayad wo behtar jaante hain”, toh wo kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai, aur pehli baar ye kab boli thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Baat karne ka ek purana dhang #
Kuch logon ne ise bachpan se suna: jaldi sula dene se pehle, radd hui trip se pehle, unki jagah chun liye gaye subject se pehle, “tumhare bhale ke liye hai.” Bachpan mein ye usi ke saath aata hai jo chhote hone ke saath aata hai, yaani vote na hona.
Bade hokar naye parivar se phir yahi sunna insaan ko seedhe usi purane saanche mein lauta sakta hai, jahan faisla koi aur kare aur sunne wala sir hilaye. Kamra naya hai; usmein chhota feel karna shayad naya nahi.
“Tumhare bhale ke liye” aapne pehli baar kab suna, aur tab aapke liye kya tay kiya ja raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baithne wala ek niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Bade jab tay kar lein, toh meri raay nahi ginti,” ya “Salaah ko na kehna khudgarzi hai.” Kuch log iska naram roop dhote hain: “Meri zindagi ko doosre mujhse behtar jaante hain.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte nahi. Wo aadar jaise lagte hain, ya naye parivar mein sab kuch sahaj rakhne jaise. Isiliye inhein nibhana aasaan hai, aur isiliye kabhi-kabhi inhein dekhna bhi theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Doosre mera bhala mujhse behtar jaante hain” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Band hui baatcheet ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki apne hi weekend, kaam ya plan ke faisle do baar liye jaayein, ek baar mann mein aur ek baar parivar ke liye, ya koi chunav, jo vaakya aane tak bilkul saaf tha, us par dobara shak hone lage.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai: un jagahon par bhi apne faisle par thoda kam bharosa, jinka us parivar se koi lena-dena nahi. Ek drawing room mein suna vaakya office, dosti aur aam din ke chhote faislon tak peechhe aa sakta hai.
Pichhle saal is vaakya ne aapke faisle lene ke tareeke mein chupchaap kya badla, un chhote faislon mein bhi jinka us parivar se koi vaasta nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Bataye jaane ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “doosre jaante hain mere liye kya achha hai” zor se baj raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, sudharne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shayad kisi weekend ka faisla jo kisi aur ki raay ka intezaar karta hai, parivar ki call mein sambhalkar chhota karke bataya gaya koi plan, kal jo saaf tha us par aaj shak, khaali kamre se bahas karte hue beeti ek shaam.
Ismein kuch bhi aaj jawab nahi maangta, aur tasveer kabhi bhi rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: faisle, calls, plans jo is par taule ja rahe hain ki kya kaha ja sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ab use dekhte hue, kuch alag se dikhta hai kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Bhala kiska, theek-theek? #
“Tumhare bhale ke liye” ye nahi batata ki baat sahi hai ya nahi. Wo bas itna batata hai ki baat kis taraf munh kiye hue hai. Wo ek khaas zindagi par fit baithti hai ya nahi, ye alag sawaal hai, aur vaakya akela uska jawab nahi de sakta.
Do baatein saath reh sakti hain, ek-doosre ko kaate bina: ek baat kisi ke liye kahi ja sakti hai, aur wo insaan us par apni raay bhi rakh sakta hai. Dono ko ek saath thaamne ki chhoot hai.
Agar wahi baat “tumhare bhale ke liye” jude bina aati, toh aap use apne aap mein, seedhe-seedhe kya samajhte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Paas se dekhne par kya alag hota hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, toh do alag cheezein dikhti hain jo saath aayi thin: ek baat, aur ek wajah. Unhein alag karne se ye dekhna aasaan ho jaata hai ki ve har ek ke baare mein asal mein kya sochte hain.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo salaah se pehle poochhte hain: ek dost jo kehta hai “meri raay chahiye?”, ek colleague jo pehle poochh leta hai. Kuch hafte wo log bhool jaate hain, aur kabhi wahi ek drawing room sach mein wo jagah hota hai jahan salaah sabse zor se bolti hai.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapse batane se pehle poochhta hai ki aap kya sochte ho, aur unse baatcheet kaisi hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kaun sahi hai, ye tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki baat sahi thi, ya ye tay karna ki galat thi. Matlab bas itna ki is vaakya ka is par kam chale ki aap apne faislon ke baare mein kaisa feel karein, aur baaki hafta mann mein kaise beete.
Kuch log notice karte hain ki mulaqaat dar mulaqaat chupchaap usi baat par bahas karte rehne se baatcheet khatam hone ke baad bhi chalti rehti hai. Jo bahas sirf ek sir mein hoti hai, use koi nahi jeetta, aur wo us drawing room ko har din mein le aati hai.
Jo kamra sach mein nahi sunta, wo us kamre ki baat hai, aur wahan aazmana zaroori nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar baat usi ke paas rahe jisne kahi, aur apni zindagi ke baare mein apni raay aapki apni rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar “wo zaroor behtar jaante honge” kuch samay se chal raha hai, toh usse joojhne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Salaah ek nazariya hai. Apni zindagi par mera bhi nazariya rakhne ka haq hai.”
Shuru mein ye yaqeen dilaye, zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise mulaqaat ki or jaate hue ya call ke theek baad taiyaar rakhte hain, aur paate hain ki purani line akele nahi bolti, use kuch saath mil jaata hai.
Is baare mein ki aapki zindagi mein kiski chalti hai, sachchi line aapke apne shabdon mein kya hogi, aisi jo kuch jeete bina khud se kahi ja sake?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har baat ko khandan, lambi safai ya raat ko bistar par ye rehearsal nahi chahiye ki kya kaha ja sakta tha. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek pal feel ki ja sakti hain, aur neeche rakh di ja sakti hain, jaise phone ko table par ulta rakh diya jaye.
Ye peechhe hatna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki shaam kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse apni zindagi ke baare mein apne faislon ke liye, apni raftaar se, zyada jagah bachti hai.
Aaj raat vaakya ko neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use aaj ke har doosre faisle mein saath nahi baithna padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam dheela pade, zara-sa bhi #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki niyam ek notch dheema ho gaya. Salaah bas salaah hai, kai nazariyon mein se ek, aur aapka apna nazariya uske theek bagal mein kamre mein baitha hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: weekend ka plan ek baar mein ban jaye, koi faisla raat ko dobara bahas mein na ghaseeta jaye, kisi dost se us baat ki call jise chunkar khushi hui.
Ismein se kisi ko kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sabse pehle kaun si chhoti cheez dikhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi bhale-ke-liye wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: wajah ek taraf rakhkar, is baat par meri apni raay kya hai?
- Gaur kijiye ki baat aur wajah kis pal ek saath aayin
- Is hafte ka koi ek faisla sochiye jo saaf taur par aapka tha
- Aaj ki ek chhoti cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- “Tumhare bhale ke liye” se theek pehle kaun si baat kahi gayi thi, aur aapne use kaise liya?
- Us pal apni zindagi ke baare mein aapko kya pata tha jo kamre mein kisi ne poochha nahi?
- “Bhale ke liye” wali kaun si baatcheet aaj bhi mann mein bahas banke chalti hai?
- Jis aam din “wo behtar jaante hain” zor se bajta hai, us din kya taalta rehta hai?
- Agar wo niyam thoda dheela pade, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?