Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Shabd ek line bhi kheench sakte hain bina bataye ki wo kahan hai.
Naya school jahan baaki sab pehle se ek joke mein shaamil the, cousin ki shaadi jahan rishtedaar gin rahe the ki aap kis taraf se ho, hostel ka room jahan sabse pehle lehja notice hua.
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe dhalna hoga,” ya “Mujhe apni jagah kamaani hogi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Muskurakar jaldi haan kehna, taaki baat bina halchal ke nikal jaye
- Apne ghar ke baare mein samjhane lagna, ya wahan ke dhang ki safayi dena
- Khud par halka mazaak kar dena, isse pehle ki koi aur kare
- Chup ho jaana aur bartan sametne mein haath batana, haathon ko kaam dekar
- Baad mein har shabd dohrana aur ye ki kisne suna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Baaki ke bagal mein rakhi kheer
Dehradun mein sasural ka Sunday lunch. Aap mummy ke haath ki jhangore ki kheer le aate ho aur baaki ke bagal mein rakh dete ho. Chachiji use dekhti hain, muskurati hain aur kehti hain, “Humara ghar aapke maike jaisa nahi hai, samajh lijiye.” Sab sir hilate hain aur plates chalti rehti hain. Aap kadchhi haath mein liye sochte ho ki kheer table par honi bhi chahiye ya nahi. Phir koi paani maangta hai, aur aap de dete ho.
Jahan se aaye, uski ginti nahi
Pehle saaf baat: kisi family ka aapki family se alag hona aapki family par faisla nahi hai. Par usse ek niyam ban sakta hai jo aapka apna ho jaata hai: “Jahan se aaye, uski yahan ginti nahi.” Ye lihaaz jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye wo karta kya hai: aapka apna hissa chhipane ki cheez lagne lagta hai, aur har mulaqat mein aap khud ka thoda aur darwaze par chhod aate ho.
Hum apnaye jaana kyun chahte hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki chahte hain apnaye jaayein. Zyadatar log iska koi roop dhote hain, aur ye sabse aam chaahon mein se hai. Shaayad aapne ghul-mil jaane ki bahut koshish ki. Shaayad darr hai ki apne ghar ka zikr karne se mahaul asahaj hoga. Jo bhi ho, apnaye jaane ki chaah kamzori nahi hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har mulaqat mein wahi chhantayi
Har aisi tippani chhantayi mein thoda jod deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap feel karte ho. Aap kisse chhote karte ho. Dish chhod dete ho. Us table par aap guest jaise lagte ho jo family bhi honi chahiye. Jo tareeke aap saath laaye, jinse ghar ghar lagta tha, wo bemel lagne lagte hain.
Kya apna paksh chhipana sahi?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakadne se us table par aap kabhi zyada sahaj hue? Ya zyadatar aisa laga ki aap alag-thalag ho? Do families ek table par baith sakti hain, har ek ke apne dhang. Ek vaakya is baat ka paimana nahi ki aap kahan se aate ho. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Do families, ek table
Chhodne ka matlab behas karna nahi hai, aur ye bhi nahi ki tippani theek lagi thi. Matlab ye hai ki aap jahan se aate ho, use ab chhipana zaroori nahi. Aap kissa suna sakte ho, kheer la sakte ho, aur dil mein use apna rakh sakte ho, dono soorton mein. Ye ek din mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se thoda chain lautta hai: unki table par bhi aap apne rehte ho.
Where someone really does react badly, threatens or frightens you, or controls what you do, that is worth taking seriously, and how much to show at that table is yours to judge.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJahan se aaye, uski yahan ginti nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera ghar bhi is table par baith sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apne ghar ki ek pasandida baat mann mein naam lijiye
- Kadam 2
Chahein to maike ka ek chhota kissa sunaiye
- Kadam 3
Mulaqat ke baad thodi der chupchaap apne liye baithiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne kaha ki aapke ghar alag hain, tab table par kya chal raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Do gharon ke beech khinchi ek lakeer #
Dehradun mein sasural ka Sunday lunch. Saasuji chawal aage badha rahi hain, nanadoi dal daal rahe hain, koi chachaji raita sarka rahe hain. “Humara ghar aapke maike jaisa nahi hai, samajh lijiye,” ek katori se doosri ke beech halke se kaha jaata hai, aur baat mausam par chali jaati hai.
Upar se ye bas ek seedhi baat lag sakti hai. Par kuch logon ko iske neeche doosri baat sunayi deti hai: is ghar ka ek dhang hai, aur naya insaan usse zara bahar khada hai, kisi guest ki tarah jise bata diya gaya ho ki line kahan hai.
Wahi vaakya jaankari jaisa bhi lag sakta hai aur hadd jaisa bhi.
Aakhri baar jab “aapke maike jaisa nahi hai” suna, tab table par kya chal raha tha, aur wo shabd us pal mein kaise lage?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Gale ke paas ek chhoti-si chubhan #
Kuch log batate hain ki sir halke se hilta hai, chhoti smile aati hai, aur pasliyon ke neeche kuch gir jaata hai. Kuch ke andar jawab banne lagta hai, apne maike ke baare mein, aur wo use wapas rakh dete hain, kyunki plates ab bhi ghoom rahi hain aur shaam abhi lambi hai.
Aisi baat sochne se pehle hi lag jaati hai, kuch isliye bhi ki table chalti rehti hai aur koi rukta nahi. Sochna aksar baad mein aata hai, lautte waqt gaadi mein, bathroom mein ya raat ki chuppi mein.
Family ki table par pehli reaction shaayad hi kabhi apni marzi jaisi lagti hai.
Us vaakya ke baad wale pal mein, jo jawab ban raha tha, uska kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Behas ke laayak nahi, isliye chubhta hai #
Har ghar baaki har ghar se alag hota hai, isliye vaakya se behas karna mushkil hai. Yahi baat use lagaati hai. Wo fact jaisa lagta hai, aur fact ke paas ye kehne ki jagah nahi chhodta ki us table par use sunkar kaisa laga.
Shabd ek line bhi kheench sakte hain bina bataye ki wo kahan hai. Aisa khula vaakya sunne wala khud bhar leta hai, aksar sabse bure matlab se.
Koi poora insaan apne ghar ke saath aata hai, apne khaane, apne mazaak aur apne shor-sannate ke saath.
Kaise alag, behtar ya kamtar, aur kisko kiske hisaab se dhalna hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab wo vaakya kaha gaya, to aapke apne ghar ka kaun sa hissa sabse pehle chup hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab chhantayi andar bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno to wo andar basne lagti hai. “Mera ghar alag hai, to mera hi alag-thalag hai.” “Ye baat rehne do.” “Yahan kam bolo.” Kabhi pehli katori table par pahunchne se pehle hi shuru ho jaati hai.
Rishtedaar doosre room mein hon ya doosre shehar mein, chhantayi chalti rehti hai: apne ghar ki aadatein unke bagal mein mann mein rakh di jaati hain, mummy ki ek baat chhod di jaati hai, ek dish ka zikr karna band ho jaata hai. Kyunki ye apni hi awaaz jaisi lagti hai, ise samajhdaari maan liya jaata hai.
Andar ki awaazein aksar lehja kahin se udhaar leti hain.
Jab wo aapke ghar ko unke ghar ke bagal mein rakhkar naapti hai, tab kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai, aur ab zindagi ke kin kamron mein bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Alag khade hone ki aadat kahan se #
Naya school jahan baaki sab pehle se ek joke mein shaamil the, cousin ki shaadi jahan rishtedaar gin rahe the ki aap kis taraf se ho, hostel ka room jahan sabse pehle lehja notice hua. Kuch log pehle bhi zara alag khade rahe hain.
Kuch gharon mein doosron se tulna karna, ya batana ki padosi mein kaisa hai, baat karne ka aam tareeka tha, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag hoti hain. Bachcha isse chupchaap ye aadat le sakta hai ki hamesha dekhe line kahan hai aur sahi taraf bana rahe.
Thoda alag khade rehne ka nishaan aksar baad ki zindagi mein laut aata hai.
Aapne pehli baar kab dekha ki kisi aur ghar se aapko taula ja raha hai, aur kisne use aasaan ya mushkil banaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chup niyam jo andar baith sakta hai #
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe dhalna hoga,” ya “Mujhe apni jagah kamaani hogi.” Kuch logon mein iska naram roop hota hai: “Jahan se aaye hain, uski yahan koi ginti nahi.”
Aisi baatein maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Wo lihaaz jaisi lagti hain, jaise kisi aur ki dawat mein apne ghar ki baat na chhedna. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log is niyam ko bachpan se jod paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono theek hai.
Aaj ki zindagi ke kin kamron mein “jahan se aate hain, uski yahan ginti nahi” aaj bhi laagu hota hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ye thappa kis baat ki keemat leta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai saal bhar ki chhoti kaat-chhaant: maike ki koi kahani sunane se pehle chhoti kar di, koi purani recipe apne paas rakhi, apne rishtedaaron ka aana soch-samajhkar tay kiya ki tulna na ho. Kuch log dekhte hain ki apne ghar ka zikr unhone tay karne se bahut pehle band kar diya tha.
Ek dheemi keemat aur hai. Do ghar saath uthane se saajhi table aisi jagah lag sakti hai jahan ek paksh hamesha exam mein hai. Barah mahino mein ye kai aam shaamein ban jaati hain jo thoda sambhalkar guzri.
Ye kamzori nahi hai: apna ek hissa chhipakar rakhne mein sach mein taakat lagti hai.
Pichhle barah mahino mein is thappe ne aapse kya liya: na sunayi kahaniyan, chhoti ki gayi mulaqatein, ya us table par poori tarah apne jaise rehne ki sahajta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, apna ghar chhota rakhte hue #
Ek aam Sunday sochiye, jis din “jahan se aate hain, uski yahan ginti nahi” tez bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, theek karne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shaayad usmein apne rishtedaaron ki chhoti rakhi hui mulaqat hai, ghar ki ek kahani jo fit hone ko kaat di, menu se hatayi gayi ek dish, agle family phone se pehle sambhalkar likha message. Kuch fit hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya-kya hai: khana banana, phone, wo kisse jo aap sunate hain ya chhod dete hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday ko dekhne par, agar kuch dikhta hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Har ghar ka apna dhang hota hai #
Har family ki apni aadatein hain: kisi dadi ki pasand, tang budget jisne kitchen tay kiya, koi purani behas jiski wajah sab bhool chuke. Ghar ka dhang wo tareeka hai jo us ghar ke liye chala, aur ye doosre gharon ko taulne ka paimana hone se alag baat hai.
Aise dekhein to table par baitha insaan line ke bahar khade kisi jaisa kam aur apne dhangon ki poori doosri potli laane wale jaisa zyada lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai ye sochkar ki do families ek table par baithi hain, har ek ki apni aadatein, aur koi gaz nahi.
Families apne logon ke saath chalti hain.
Agar dono ghar barabari par milein, to aapke ghar ki kaun si chhoti baatein aap chahenge ki baaki bhi dekhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log pal ko dheere se dohrakar dekhte hain ki kitna chhota tha: do dishes ke beech ek vaakya. Tippani aur baad mein uska wazan aksar bilkul alag aakar ke nikalte hain.
Kuch ko wo pal bhi dikhte hain jab unke paksh ka swagat hua: kisi cousin ne maike ki kisi dish ke baare mein poochha, bua kisi family kisse par hansi, ek plate alag rakhi gayi kyunki kabhi kaha tha ki pasand hai. Kabhi wo pal us tippani se dheeme the, kabhi bahut kam, aur dono ko saaf dekhna theek hai.
Chubhne wali baat ke bagal mein chhote-chhote swagat chhoot jaate hain.
Us table par, ya kisi bhi nayi jagah, aapke ghar ki koi cheez kab doosron ne uthakar pasand ki?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Do gharon ka muqabla nahi karna #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki vaakya theek tha, na ye dikhawa ki chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka is par kam chale ki aap kitna sahaj feel hone dein, aur shaam ka kitna hissa mann mein do gharon ko taulne mein jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo table ko aisa muqabla maanna chhod dete hain jismein koi jeetne wala ho. Muqabla ek paksh ko ooncha bithata hai aur doosre ko safayi dete chhodta hai, aur beech mein koi bas khana nahi kha paata.
Jahan koi sach mein bura pesh aaye, wo gambhirta se lene ki baat hai, aur us table par kitna dikhana hai ye aapka faisla hai.
Agar do gharon wale vaakya ka kam chale, to ek aam shaam kaisi lagegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “yahan mera ghar bemel hai” pehli dawat se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log iske badle ek vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Do ghar yahan mile hain, aur dono apne dhang saath laaye.”
Pehle-pehal sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log mulaqat ya lambe saath wale weekend se pehle aazmate hain, aur kehte hain ki chupchaap dohrane se wo thodi jagah le leti hai jo purani line gherti thi.
Sachcha vaakya kisi ka paksh liye bina bhi baat keh sakta hai.
Ek table par do families ke baare mein, dono ke liye jagah rakhne wala vaakya aapke apne shabdon mein kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein shelf par rakhi ja sakti hain #
Kiske ghar mein kya hota hai, is par har tippani ko jawab, safayi ya agli dawat ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko bas notice kiya ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur din ke aakhir mein chaabiyon ki tarah hall ki shelf par rakh diya ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai, na ye sehmati hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse din ke wo hisse bach jaate hain jo pehle se unke apne hain: ek walk, purane dost ka phone, shaam ki koi kitaab.
Shaam ke liye vaakya rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya baat khatam ho gayi. Bas itna ki chawal par kahi kuch baaton ko baaki raat tak saath nahi jaana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki wo niyam ek darja halka ho gaya. Unki family unki rehti hai, aur aapki usi table par bina safayi diye baith sakti hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise maike ka koi kissa jaisa hua waisa sunana, ghar ki koi dish banana, ya room ko tatole bina apne kisi rishtedaar ka zikr karna.
Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai aur dhyaan dene laayak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Theek se dekhna ho to ek baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi alag-ghar wali baat”
- Chupke se poochhiye: kisse alag, aur ye paimana kisne banaya?
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal kaun zyada chubha: shabd ya lehja
- Apne ghar ki ek chhoti baat sochiye jo aapko pasand hai
- Us table par jo ek cheez achhi lagi, us par gaur kijiye, chahe kitni chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur apni marzi se. Jo aaj ho sake, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne kaha ki aapke ghar alag hain, tab table par kya chal raha tha?
- Aapke ghar ka kaun sa kissa ya dish sabse zyada aapki hai, aur wo ab kahan rehti hai?
- Us naye parivaar mein kaun aapko guest nahi, kisi jagah se aaya insaan feel karata hai?
- Jab alag-ghar wala thappa tez ho, to ek aam shaam mein aap phir bhi kya peechhe rakhte ho?
- Agar wo thappa thoda dheela hota, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhta?