Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Koi kahan se aaya hai, ye uski chuni hui cheez nahi, aur ye aksar un logon se uljha hota hai jinki wo uljhe dhang se parwah karta hai.
Bahut log ghar ko chhoti baaton mein saath le chalte hain: ek muhavra, bado ko namaste karne ka dhang, khaane ki table par ek aadat.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Log mere baare mein kya sochte hain, wahi mujhe tay karta hai,” ya “Ek galat kadam, aur ghar bhar ki badnaami.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jaldi se maafi maang lena, phir poore din wo chubhna
- Chup aur sheesht ho jaana, aur ghar ke raaste use dohrana
- Palatkar bol dena, phir sochna ki kaisa laga hoga
- Hafton bheed mein zaroorat se zyada saavdhaan ho jaana
- Un logon ko poori kahani samjhane ka mann karna jo wahan the hi nahi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Mo Bus mein wo sawaal
Bhubaneswar mein Mo Bus. Baithte hue aapka bag galti se bagal wali aunty ke pair se lag jaata hai. Maafi maangi jaati hai, phir bhi aunty oonchi awaaz mein kehti hain, “Maa-baap ne kuch sikhaya nahi?” Aas-paas ke log dekhne lagte hain. Chehra tap jaata hai. Baaki safar akadkar beetta hai, jaise ek chhoti-si chook un sabke baare mein faisla ban gayi ho jinhone aapko pyaar kiya hai.
Sabke saamne koi chook na ho
Sabse pehle saaf baat: wo line badtameezi hai, aur aapke ya aapke kisi apne ke saath ye theek nahi. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Sabke saamne mujhse ek bhi galat kadam nahi hona chahiye.” Ye tameez jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ghar ke bahar ki har chhoti chook ek imtihaan lagne lagti hai jisme atak jaane ka dar rehta hai.
Humein bhale banne ki parwah kyun hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki humein bhale insaan banne ki parwah hai, aur unki bhi jinhone humein pala. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein se hai. Shayad ghar mein tameez ki bahut qadar thi. Shayad sabke saamne ki daant purani baatein yaad dilati hai. Achha bartaav chahna galat nahi. Ye parwah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Saarvajanik jagahon par chaukannapan
Aisi har tippani aapko aur chaukanna bana deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par mehsoos hota hai. Bheed mein sambhal-sambhalkar chalna padta hai. Un cheezon ke liye bhi maafi nikalti hai jo aapki galti nahi thi. Chhote pal ghanton dohraye jaate hain. Saarvajanik jagahein manch jaisi lagne lagti hain, aur perfect hone ki koshish mein thakkar lautna padta hai.
Kya kabhi na chookna zaroori hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se chhoti-moti takkarein kabhi rukin? Ya har bahar nikalna bas tana hua ho gaya? Har kisi ka bag takrata hai, har kisi se cheezein girti hain, har kisi ki zabaan phisalti hai. Ajnabi ki badtameez line na aapka paimana hai, na aapke kisi apne ka. Ise bina dosh ke poochhna theek hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna uski keemat ke laayak hai?
Maafi maang li, bas kaafi hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tameez chhod di, ya wo line theek thi. Matlab ye ki ek chhoti takkar ko har baar faisla nahi banna. Maafi maang li gayi. Wo kaafi hai. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: sabke saamne bhi insaan hone ki ijaazat milti hai, aur bus ki seat bas seat reh jaati hai.
Being shouted at, threatened, followed or frightened by anyone in public is something else, and worth taking seriously; moving away can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSabke saamne mujhse ek bhi chook nahi honi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMaafi maang li, kaafi hai. Insaan se chook hoti hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Chhoti takkar par ek baar maafi maangiye aur chhod dijiye
- Din 2
Aaj kisi ek ajnabi ki meherbaani par dhyaan dijiye
- Din 3
Jab wo line goonje, ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jis pal shabd aapke paar chale gaye, us pal kiska chehra sabse pehle yaad aaya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek sawaal jo aapse aage ghar tak pahunch jaata hai #
Bhubaneswar mein Master Canteen par Mo Bus ki khaali seat par rakha bag. Mall ki lift ka darwaaza second bhar pehle band ho gaya. Unit-1 ke bazaar mein zara zor se poochha gaya sawaal. Shaadi mein pehle utha li gayi plate. Phir kisi ajnabi ya relative ki awaaz: “Maa-baap ne kuch sikhaya nahi?”
Ye sawaal ki shakl mein hai, par jawab ka intezaar nahi karta. Ek chhote pal ko uthakar seedha insaan ke paar, un logon tak le jaata hai jo wahan the hi nahi aur apni baat nahi keh sakte.
Aakhri baar kab suna tha, ya iske kareeb ka kuch, jaise “Yahi sanskaar hain?”
Tab aapne kya kiya tha, aur paas mein aur kaun sun sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ek saath do logon par kyun lagta hai #
Kisi ki gardan tak garmi chadh jaati hai, gala bheench jaata hai, ekdam safai dene ya maafi maangne ka mann karta hai, seat par rakhe bag se kahin badi kisi baat ke liye. Koi ekdam shaant aur sheesht ho jaata hai, aur sab kuch baad mein, paidal lautte hue mehsoos karta hai.
Iske mushkil hone ki ek wajah ye hai ki chot do hain: ek us pal ki, aur ek ghar par baithe logon ki. Koi apne baare mein tippani sehne ko taiyar ho sakta hai, phir bhi tab hil jaata hai jab baat usse aage pahunche.
Pehle second mein andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Chubhan us kaam ki thi jo kiya, ya uski jiski taraf shabd ishaara kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur un dono mein se kaun-si ab bhi saath hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baat ek pal ki hai, par lagti poore ghar par hai #
“Bag hata lijiye” bag ki baat hoti. “Maa-baap ne kuch sikhaya nahi?” bag ko chhodkar poore ghar par nishaana lagata hai, jaise line ya lift ka ek second bata de ki koi kahan se aaya hai. Mann pal nahi, ye pahunch sunta hai.
Koi kahan se aaya hai, ye uski chuni hui cheez nahi, aur ye aksar un logon se uljha hota hai jinki wo uljhe dhang se parwah karta hai. Isliye wahan padi tippani kisi kaam par tippani se kahin badi lag sakti hai, peeche ka pal kitna bhi chhota ho.
Agar shabd bas usi ek pal ke baare mein hote, to kitne bade hote?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur ghar se jo kuch aap dhote ho, uska kitna hissa koi ek second mein dekh sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal khud ko poochhne lage #
Aisa taana us din se aage chalkar apne aap bolne lag sakta hai. “Sambhalkar, log dekh rahe hain.” “Ghar ki badnaami mat karwana.” “Log humare baare mein kya kahenge?” Kabhi kisi ke kuch kahe bina hi nigrani shuru ho jaati hai.
Ajnabi ya relative shayad ab door hain, par jaanch bheetar chalti rehti hai: kaun-si seat leni hai, kitni zor se hansna hai, counter par sawaal poochhna hai ya nahi. Kyunki ye aapki apni awaaz jaisi lagti hai, ye kisi aur ke ek dopahar ke shabd nahi, tameez lagti hai.
Ghar ki khaatir “sambhalkar” kehte hue ye kiski awaaz leti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi khaas insaan ki, kisi khaas kamre mein suni?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ghar ki baat itni door tak kyun pahunchti hai #
Bahut log ghar ko chhoti baaton mein saath le chalte hain: ek muhavra, bado ko namaste karne ka dhang, khaane ki table par ek aadat. Ghar kaisa bhi raha ho, aur har kisi ka alag hai, us par ki gayi tippani kisi ek safar ya dopahar se gehre kuch ko chhu sakti hai.
Kuch log jinhone pala unke liye rakshatmak mehsoos karte hain. Kuch ko mila-jula lagta hai, aur kuch ko dono ek saath. Yahan ise suljhana zaroori nahi. Baat bas itni hai ki shabd aisi jagah utar jaate hain jiske baare mein kehne wale ko kuch pata nahi.
Pehli baar kab gaur kiya ki sabke saamne ki harkat ko log is baat ki nishaani ki tarah padh sakte hain ki aap kahan se ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne pehli baar aisa mehsoos karaya, aur tab kitni umar thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chup niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Log mere baare mein kya sochte hain, wahi mujhe tay karta hai,” ya “Ek galat kadam, aur ghar bhar ki badnaami.” Kuch log halka roop dhote hain: “Mujhe poori tarah fit hona hai, warna log mere ghar ko parakhenge.”
Itne samay saath rehne par aisa niyam bas izzat aur samajhdaari lagta hai, jaise relative ke ghar awaaz dheemi kar lena. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi saaf raushni mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan se jod paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Har jagah ghar ko saath dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai sabke saamne har chhoti harkat ko jaanchna, kisi ke shikayat karne se pehle hi maafi maang lena, ya family lunch mein akadkar baithe rehna ki kahin plate ya shabd galat na pade. Kuch log counter ya dukaan par seedhe sawaal poochhna bahut pehle band kar dete hain.
Iske neeche ek bareek keemat hai. Jab har bahar nikalna poore parivar ki taraf se imtihaan lage, to aam jagahein aasaan nahi rehtin: bus ki sawaari, cafe, line. Saal bhar mein aise kai din jud jaate hain jo seedhi-saadi jagahon par chaukanne rehkar beete.
Ye nazukpan nahi. Har darwaaze se poore ghar ka naam dhone mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: koi sawaal jo nahi poochha, koi bahar nikalna jo tana hua laga, koi hansi jo daba li gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, ghar ko pehre par dhote hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “ek galat kadam ghar par aa jayega” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad soch-samajhkar chuni gayi seat, counter par na poochha gaya sawaal, cafe mein dabayi hui hansi, us ajnabi se jaldi mein maafi jisne kuch kaha bhi nahi tha. Shayad shehar mein chalte hue apne hi kadmon par nazar.
Ye tasveer aapse kuch nahi maangti aur kabhi bhi kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: bus ki sawaari, dukaan, lunch, sabke saamne ke chhote faisle?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar isme kuch nazar roke, koi aadat, raasta ya chuppi, to wo kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kisne pala, aur kisne dekha? #
“Maa-baap ne kuch sikhaya nahi?” jawab jaanta hua sunayi deta hai. Par kehne wale ne bas ek pal dekha: ek bag, ek darwaaza, ek plate. Usne saalon, logon, rasoi ki table aur kisi ke insaan banne ki lambi kahani mein se kuch nahi dekha.
Har kisi se kabhi na kabhi sabke saamne chook hoti hai: seat na chhodi, darwaaza na thama, galat waqt par koi sawaal. Ye chooken ek bhaagdaud bhare minute ki hain, aur ek bhaagdaud bhara minute poore parivar ko dekhne ki bahut patli khidki hai.
Palatkar dekhiye: agar koi ajnabi seat par rakhe bag ko lekar aapke dost se yahi kehta, to aapko kitna lagta ki ajnabi ko dost ke ghar ke baare mein sach mein pata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Drishya ko aur dheere dohrate hue kuch log dekhte hain ki asal mein kya hua tha: jaldbaazi ki subah, bheed wala dibba, dhyaan na dene ka ek pal.
Kuch ko wo saare pal dikhte hain jinmein aam parwah thi aur kisi ne kuch nahi kaha: chhodi hui seat, thama hua darwaaza, bado ko pehle namaste. Kabhi gaur se dekhne par chhoti-si chook dikhti hai jo yaad rakhne laayak hai, aur kabhi ek bahut aam pal jise bahut bade shabd mile.
Lautkar aaye shabdon ke barabar rakhkar wo pal ab kaisa dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhle mahine ki aapki kaun-si chhoti bhalaiyon par kisi ne kuch nahi kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi rukkar dekhta, to wo is tasveer mein kya jodti ki aap kahan se ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Bheed mein poore ghar ki safai dene ki zaroorat nahi #
Ise maan lene ka matlab shabdon se sehmat hona nahi, na ye dikhana ki wo chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek insaan ki ek tippani ka is par kam chale ki baaki din kaise beete, aur agli saarvajanik jagah par aap kaise chalein.
Kuch logon ka bojh halka hota hai jab wo apna ghar unhein sabit karna chhodte hain jo use jaanne wale the hi nahi. Mann mein poore parivar ki safai dene mein poori shaam lag sakti hai, aur kehne wala uske beech bana rehta hai. Kuch baatein achhi wajahon se chup rakhi jaati hain, suraksha samet, aur wo theek hai.
Kaisa ho agar sawaal ko usi ke paas rehne dein jisne poochha, aur bas wo hissa rakhein, agar koi ho, jo ek pal ke baare mein kaam ki baat hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “maine bahar ghar ko neecha dikhaya” us din se chal raha hai, to usse seedhi ladaayi thaka deti hai. Kuch log ek thehri hui line paas rakhte hain: “Bus ki ek sawaari poora ghar nahi hoti.”
Is par yaqeen abhi maqsad nahi. Ye aazmane ki line hai, aur kuch log paate hain ki bheed bhari jagah jaate hue ise kehne par purane shabdon ko thodi kam jagah milti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo us pal ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur kisi ajnabi ya relative ko poore ghar ki ore se bolne na de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “maa-baap ne kuch sikhaya nahi?” ko jawab, safai ya ghar ki kahani nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur din ke aakhir mein bhaari bag ki tarah neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Neeche rakhna haar nahi, jaan-boojhkar taaqat kharch karna hai, aur kuch log kehte hain isse ghar ke un hisson ke liye jagah banti hai jinhein wo dhona chahte hain, aur un jagahon ke liye jahan aasaani se raha ja sakta hai.
Shabdon ko aaj shaam neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo agli bus, agli dukaan ya agle family lunch mein aapke saath na jaayein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam ek darja dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Line ki ek chook bas line ki chook hai, aur ghar ghar hi rehta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: har harkat jaanche bina bus ka safar, dukaan ke counter par poochha gaya ek sawaal, ya dost ke saath lunch jisme hansi apne hi size ki rahe.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe thoda-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi maa-baap-wali line”
- Us pal ko ek chhoti line mein rakhiye: ek bag, ek seat, ek darwaaza
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada kya chubhta hai: wo pal, ya jahan tak shabd pahunche
- Dekhiye shabd kahan tak pahunche, aur chupchaap poochhiye ki kya wo wahan ke hain
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Ye sab chupchaap, bheetar hote hain. Ek chuniye, ya sab chhod dijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jis pal shabd aapke paar chale gaye, us pal kiska chehra sabse pehle yaad aaya?
- Kehne wala aapke ghar ke baare mein kya kabhi andaza nahi laga paayega?
- Din ka kaun-sa hissa us ek sawaal ne chupchaap apne qabze mein le liya?
- Jis aam din ghar-par-pehra wala niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?