Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Galti sudhari ja sakti hai, hunar seekha ja sakta hai, par jo lakeer bas kheench di gayi, usmein uthane ko koi kadam nahi.
Ye kisi naye school ke pehle din ki goonj ho sakti hai, naukri ke liye badle shehar ki, us bachche ki jo dostiyan banne ke baad aaya, ya cousins ke ghere ke kinaare baithe rehne ki, jinke apne purane kisse the.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Yahan theek rehne ke liye sabke jaisa banna padega,” ya “Chain se baithne se pehle apni jagah kamani hogi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Us group ko khush karne ke liye aur mehnat karna
- Pehle khud peechhe hat jaana, taaki chhootne par kam chubhe
- Un jokes par hans dena jo kabhi samjhaye nahi gaye
- Har shabd aur kapde ko khangaalna ki kya pakda gaya
- Kinaare par kisi ek insaan ko dhoondhkar uske paas tike rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Chhat par mirchi bada ki plate
Jodhpur ki nayi colony. Aap chhat par padosiyon ke jamavde mein mirchi bada ki plate lekar pahunchte ho. Ek padosan plate pakadti hai, upar se neeche dekhti hai, aur apni saheli se itna zor se kehti hai ki aap sun lein, “Ye hum mein se nahin hai.” Aap muskurakar khade rehte ho, jaldi nikal aate ho, aur ghar par bhari plate fridge mein rakhkar sochte ho ki agli baar jaana bhi hai ya nahi.
Andar aane ke liye khud ko badlo
Pehle saaf baat: kisi ko uski pehchaan ki wajah se bahar kar dena theek nahi, aur isse aapki keemat kam nahi hoti. Par isi se ek niyam ugta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Andar aane dene ke liye mujhe khud ko badalna padega.” Ye ghulne-milne ki koshish jaisa sunayi deta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aap apne un hisson ko chhota karne lagte ho jinhein badalne ki kabhi zaroorat nahi thi.
Chhoot jaana itna gehra kyun chubhta hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki chhoot jaana gehra chubhta hai. Zyadatar log iska koi na koi roop dhote hain. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein se ek hai. Shaayad pehle bhi doosri jagahon par aisa hua hai. Shaayad aap bas padosi, dost, ek samaaj chahte ho. Jo bhi ho, apnapan chahna kamzori nahi. Wo judaav chahne se aata hai, aur use narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har baar thoda aur chaukanna
Har “hum mein se nahin” aapko thoda aur chaukanna kar deta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakad mein nahi aata. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aapko mehsoos hota hai. Aap jamavdon se katraane lagte ho. Pehnaava ya bolna badalne lagte ho. Jis jagah rehte ho wahan akele lagte ho. Aapke wo hisse jo aapko aap banate hain, deewar jaise lagne lagte hain, aur ghar thoda thanda.
Khud ko sametna is laayak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: is niyam ko pakde rehne se kya kabhi sach mein apnaya hua mehsoos hua? Ya zyadatar bas khud ko chhipate rahe? Kisi ko bahar karna darwaaze ke baare mein usse zyada batata hai jitna darwaaze par khade insaan ke baare mein. Ek line aapki keemat nahi naapti. Ise narmi se poochhna theek hai. Kya is niyam ko itni kaskar pakadna uski keemat ke barabar hai?
Jaise aap hain, waise hi swagat
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki line theek thi, ya usi darwaaze par dastak dete rehna hai. Matlab ye hai ki andar aane laayak banne ke liye khud ko badalna ab zaroori nahi. Aap un logon ko dhoondh sakte ho jo poore aapko apnate hain. Ye ek saath nahi hota, aur zaroori bhi nahi. Yahin se thodi shaanti lautti hai: aap saabut rehte ho, aur apnapan wahan ugta hai jahan wo sachcha hai.
Being shut out, threatened, harassed or frightened for your religion, caste, colour or where you come from is not okay and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAndar aane ke liye mujhe khud ko badalna padega.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleSwagat ke laayak banne ko mujhe chhota hona nahi padega.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aise ek insaan ke saath waqt bitaiye jo poore aapka swagat karta hai
- Din 2
Apne baare mein ek cheez khud se kahiye jo rakhne laayak hai
- Din 3
Mushkil pal ke baad teen dheemi saansein lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Lakeer khinchne se theek pehle kya hua tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek vaakya mein khinchi ek lakeer #
Jodhpur mein cousin ki shaadi ki raat, jab bachpan ke purane kisse shuru hue to kisi ne kaha, “Ye hum logon ki baat hai, tum ismein mat pado.” Ya office ki team jo naye insaan ke baithte hi chup ho jaati hai. Kabhi seedhe bola jaata hai: “Tum hum mein se nahin ho.” Aksar bas dikha diya jaata hai.
Shabd ek lakeer kheench dete hain, aur sunne wale se poochha tak nahi gaya ki wo kahan se guzre. Baat kisi ki harkat ki nahi ho rahi, baat iski hai ki kaun kis taraf khada hai, aur jaana-pehchana kamra achanak kisi aur ka ghar lagne lagta hai.
Ye aakhri baar kab suna, ya bina shabdon ke kab mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Theek pehle kya chal raha tha, aur bahar khade hone ka ehsaas uske baad kitni der saath raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ye seedhe pet mein kyun lagta hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki pet mein kuch dhans jaata hai, chehra sambhalkar sapaat ho jaata hai, aur achanak dhyaan jaata hai ki haath kahan hain. Kuch saath mein hans dete hain taaki ghere mein bane rahein; kuch chup ho jaate hain aur phone mein kuch dekhne lagte hain. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi deni.
Bahar hone ka ishaara sochne se pehle hi darj ho jaata hai.
Sawaal baad mein aate hain, ghar lautte hue: mujhse kya hua tha, kya hamesha se aisa tha, koshish jaari rakhni chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Lakeer khinchi tab aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya wo paas jaana chahta tha, peechhe hatna, ya wahin jam jaana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehli pratikriya is baare mein kya kehti hai ki us ghere ka saath kitna maayne rakhta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye harkat ko nahi, insaan ko chhaantata hai #
“Ye joke tumhare aane se pehle ka hai” ek joke ke baare mein hai. “Hum mein se nahin” joke ko chhodkar insaan ko chhaant deta hai, ek lakeer kheenchkar jismein bahar wale ki koi raay nahi thi.
Isme sudharne ko bhi kuch nahi bachta. Galti sudhari ja sakti hai, hunar seekha ja sakta hai, par jo lakeer bas kheench di gayi, usmein uthane ko koi kadam nahi. Isliye mann dhoondhta rehta hai: kapde, baatein, mazaak, chhote faisle, ki kya tha jisse pakde gaye.
Agar us lakeer ko ek seedhe vaakya mein samjhana padta, to wo vaakya kya kehta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur us kamre se door, din ki roshni mein dheere se padhne par wo kaisa sunayi deta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab lakeer andar se khinchne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Koi bulaye tab jaana.” “Behtar hai shamil hi mat ho.” “Har baar bahar mujhe hi rehna padta hai.” Ye kisi party mein, nayi naukri mein ya khaandan ke jamavde mein, kisi ke kuch bolne se pehle hi chalu ho sakta hai.
Wo group kab ka aage badh chuka hoga, par ab lakeer pehle se khinch jaati hai: invitation qabool nahi hua, kursi kheenchkar nahi baithe, message type karke mita diya. Kyunki ye aapki apni awaaz jaisi lagti hai, isliye ek group ke kahe ki jagah seedhi haqeeqat lagti hai.
Jab ye aapse kinaare rehne ko kehti hai to iski awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi khaas din, kisi khaas group se bahut pehle mili hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ye ehsaas naya nahi #
Ye kisi naye school ke pehle din ki goonj ho sakti hai, naukri ke liye badle shehar ki, us bachche ki jo dostiyan banne ke baad aaya, ya cousins ke ghere ke kinaare baithe rehne ki, jinke apne purane kisse the. Aaj ka ek group un saare pehle dinon ka wazan lekar gir sakta hai.
Kuch logon ne jaldi seekh liya ki ghulne-milne mein mehnat lagti hai: sahi baatein, sahi shows, sahi jagah hansna. Wajahein alag-alag hoti hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikaal sakta hai ki shamil hona kamana padta hai, aur bina bataye waapas bhi liya ja sakta hai.
Aapne pehli baar kab dekha ki aap kisi group ko padh rahe hain ki andar kaise jaayein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us group mein kaun tha, aur aapne khud mein kya badla?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chup niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Yahan theek rehne ke liye sabke jaisa banna padega,” ya “Chain se baithne se pehle apni jagah kamani hogi.” Kuch log ek naram roop dhote hain: “Jab tak invitation na mile, maangna nahi chahiye.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo kamre ko theek padhna lagti hai, jaise bahar nikalne se pehle mausam dekhna. Isiliye ise kabhi-kabhi nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithti hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kinaare par khade rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai: invitations jo waapas liye jaane se pehle hi thukra diye gaye, ghante kisi group ke jokes aur aadatein seekhne mein lage, ya nayi naukri jiski lunch table har baar imtihaan lagti hai. Kuch log tay karne se bahut pehle hi cheezon mein jaana band kar dete hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har jamavda audition lagta hai, to achhi shaam bhi chain ki jagah raahat deti hai. Saal bhar mein aisi bahut-si shaamein judti hain jo hone ki jagah dekhne mein beetin.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Apnapan dhoondhna asli mehnat hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi jamavda chhoota, koi dosti shuru nahi hui, koi kamra jismein kabhi poori tarah baithe nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, kamre ke kinaare par #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Pehle apni jagah kamani hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad ek lunch table jiske paas se guzar gaye, group mein type karke mitaya gaya message, ek din bejawab pada invitation, ek shaam jo kisi kamre mein hone se zyada use dekhne mein beeti. Kuch jaana-pehchana ho sakta hai, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer koi bhavishyavani nahi. Wo bas dekhne ke liye hai.
Usmein kya hai: lunch, messages, tole gaye invitations?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kuch, to aapko usmein kya alag dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Hum mein se, par kaun se hum? #
“Hum” thos sunayi de sakta hai. Kuch group bahar se jitne dikhte hain usse dheele hote hain, aur kuch sachmuch nahi hote. Agar lakeer is par thi ki aap kaun ho, to wo aisi cheez nahi jise kamakar paar kiya jaaye.
Apnapan ek saath ek se zyada jagah bhi ho sakta hai. Jis group ne lakeer kheenchi wo ek group hai. Doosre bhi ho sakte hain, bade ya chhote, kaam par, gali mein, kisi purani dosti mein, jahan aana bas maan liya jaata hai aur maanga jaata hai.
Ek aur tareeka: agar kisi dost se usi group ne yahi kaha hota, to aap chahte ki wo us ek kamre ke bahar ki apni baaki zindagi ke baare mein kya yaad rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo bina kahe jagah bana dete hain: wo colleague jo seat rokta hai, wo padosi jo haath hilata hai, wo purana dost jo saal bhar baad bhi wahin se baat utha leta hai. Wo hamesha the; bas lakeer se dheemi awaaz mein the.
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheeme dohrate hain, to poochhte hain ki lakeer kis baare mein thi: saajha itihaas, purana joke, group ki aadat, ya kuch aur?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapka replay kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inmein se kaun aapke mann mein haal mein chup ho gaya hai, aur us din ke baare mein wo kya kehta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Us group mein jagah jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki lakeer theek thi, na ye dikhana ki chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek group ke shabdon ka is par kam chale ki aap kin kamron mein jaayein, aur jinhein chunein unmein kaise rahein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har jamavde ko paas karne ka imtihaan maanna chhod dete hain. Kisi aur ki khinchi lakeer ke andar jaane ki koshish thaka deti hai, aur us group ko naqshe ke beech mein rakhe rehti hai, un dinon mein bhi jo kahin aur beette hain.
Kuch kamre jagah banayenge hi nahi, aur unhein parakhna zaroori nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar shabd unhin ke rahein, aur aap bas wahi rakhein jo kaam ka hai, jaise ye jaanna ki kin kamron mein aaram milta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Har baar bahar mujhe hi rehna padta hai” saalon se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Us group ne ek lakeer kheenchi. Wo ek group hai, poora naqsha nahi.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise dheere se aur baar-baar kehte hain, khaaskar kisi kamre mein jaane se pehle, aur purane vaakya ki thodi jagah ye le leti hai. Kuch ko aisa nahi lagta, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo us group ke baare mein aur baaki zindagi ke baare mein sahi ho, bina kisi taraf ka dikhawa kiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har lakeer ko behes, ghere mein ghusne ki muhim ya use galat saabit karne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke aakhir mein darwaaze par coat utaar dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un jagahon aur logon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jahan aana bina mehnat ke ho jaata hai.
Shaam bhar ke liye shabdon ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek the, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez mein, agle kamre ya agle invitation mein, saath na chalein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Ek group ne lakeer kheenchi, aur wo ek hi group hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: us kamre mein ek shaam jo pehle se aasaan lagta hai, kisi purane dost ko message jo saal bhar baad bhi wahin se baat utha leta hai, ya gaur karna ki kaun si jagahein kuch nahi maangtin.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi bahar-bahar wala ehsaas”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: kis group se bahar, theek-theek, aur kab se?
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein kya zyada zor se tha: shabd, ya lehja
- Ek aisi jagah yaad kijiye jahan aana aasaan lagta hai, parakha nahi jaata
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chaahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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