Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Baar-baar postpone hona priority ke baare mein ek sandesh jaisa lagne lagta hai.
Bahut log chhoti umar mein seekhte hain ki ummeedein chhoti rakhni chahiye.
Kandhe uchakane ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam ban sakta hai: “Ummeed hi nahi karunga to niraash bhi nahi hounga.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Secondon mein “Koi nahi, chalta hai!” likh dena, phir khaali shaam mein baithna
- Us insaan ke saath chupchaap plan banana band kar dena, bina bataye
- Next weekend ke liye haan kehna, par aadha maankar ki wo bhi khisakega
- Khaali din ko ghar ke kaamon se bhar dena taaki bekaar na lage
- Khud se kehna ki waise bhi jaana kaun chahta tha
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Darwaze ke paas rakha bag
Mumbai mein Friday ki raat, das baje. Alibaug ka weekend ek mahine se tay hai. Aapne shift badli, bag darwaze ke paas rakha hai, aur poora hafta samundar aur ferry ki tasveer banate beeta. Phir dost ka group mein message: “Guys, postpone kar lein? Office mein kuch aa gaya. Next weekend pakka!” Aap likhte hain “Koi nahi, chalta hai.” Bag dheere-dheere khaali karte hain. Garmiyon ke baad ye teesri baar hai.
Ummeed nahi, chot nahi
Pehle seedhi baat: plan ka khisakna is baat ka faisla nahi ki aap kitna maayne rakhte hain, aur iska bura lagna bachkaana nahi. Par aisi raaton se ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo phir aapka ho jaata hai: “Ummeed nahi karunga to niraash bhi nahi hounga.” Ye samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: intezaar ka mazaa le jaata hai, un plan se bhi jo hote hain.
Dil bachana samajh kyun aata hai
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki niraasha chubhti hai, aur usse bachna apna khayal rakhne jaisa lagta hai. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, aur aam hai. Shayad ghar mein vaade aksar khisakte the. Shayad is dost ne pehle bhi aisa kiya hai. Jo bhi ho, apne dil ko bachana galat nahi. Ye ummeed karne aur niraash hone se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Aadhe mazaa mein aate plan
Har bachaya hua plan thoda kuch le jaata hai. Ye chupchaap hota hai, isliye nazar se chhoot jaata hai. Jo cheezein aapko pasand aayein un par “dekhte hain” kehte hain. Plan hone tak kisi ko batate nahi. Din ki tasveer pehle se mann mein banne nahi dete, zara-si bhi. Dheere-dheere jo trip hoti bhi hain wo aadhe mazaa mein aati hain, us cancellation ke liye taiyaar jo aaya hi nahi.
Ummeed na karna kya theek hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya ummeed na karne se kabhi cancel hona kam chubha? Ya zyadatar sabse pyaara hissa chala gaya, intezaar ke din? Samundar ki tasveer banate wo hafte sachche the, aur aapke the, trip hui ho ya nahi. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal iske saath rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke laayak hai?
Intezaar ka mazaa aapka hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki radd hona theek tha, ya har “pakka” vaada hai. Matlab ye ki aapki ummeed phir aapki ho sakti hai. Aap poora intezaar kar sakte hain, aur plan khisake to apni shaam ka khayal rakh sakte hain. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek baar mein ek plan. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: intezaar wo cheez nahi rehta jise aap ration mein baantein ki koi aur date na sarka de.
If plans being cancelled ever comes with threats, being hurt or frightened, or being kept from people or places, that is not everyday and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUmmeed nahi karunga to niraash nahi hounga.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleIntezaar ka mazaa mera hai, jo bhi ho.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Ek plan ki tasveer mann mein banne dijiye
- Din 2
Khaali mile ghante mein ek pasandeeda chhoti cheez dijiye
- Din 3
“Excited mat ho” wali awaaz aaye to bas gaur kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Plan khisakne se pehle aap sabse zyada kis cheez ka intezaar kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Radd hua plan, pakke vaade ke saath #
Trip, lunch ya mahinon se socha hua kisi din se ek raat pehle group mein message aata hai: “Guys, postpone kar lein? Next weekend pakka!” Saath mein ek sorry wala emoji. Baat halki, lagbhag chahakti lagti hai, jaise plan train ka ticket ho jiski date badal do.
Bhejne wale ke liye shaayad ye chhoti-si adla-badli hai. Par jo intezaar kar raha tha, uske liye poore hafte ka naksha ek saath gaayab ho sakta hai: badli hui shift, darwaze ke paas rakha bag, dimaag mein bani din ki chhoti-si tasveer.
Aisa message aakhri baar kab aaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us plan ke liye aapne kya pehle se alag rakha ya set kiya tha, aur pehle ek minute mein aapne kya type kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Taiyaari ke baad achanak girna #
Kuch logon ko achanak bhaaripan lagta hai, shaam ek second mein berang ho jaati hai. Kuch ko pal bhar ka gussa aata hai, phir itna zyada parwah karne ki sharmindagi. Aur kuch ko shuru mein lagbhag kuch nahi lagta, pack kiya bag khaali karte waqt pata chalta hai. Isme bachkaana kuch nahi.
Kisi cheez ka intezaar karna ek asli ehsaas hai, chhota nahi. Mann din aane se pehle hi use jeene lagta hai, aur plan khisakta hai to sar ke andar ki wo chhoti-si zindagi bhi chali jaati hai. Bahar se dekho to girna plan se bada lag sakta hai.
Message padhte hi aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap baith gaye, phone rakh diya, ya turant “No problem” likh diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ye aapke intezaar ke baare mein kya batata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ummeed, jise koi aur sarka de #
Aakhri waqt par radd hona din bhi cheenta hai aur intezaar bhi. “Agli baar pakka” aapse kehta hai ki ummeed ko phir thaamo, bina jaane ki wo tikegi ya nahi. Isiliye chahakta hua “pakka!” seedhe “sorry” se zyada chubh sakta hai.
Baar-baar postpone hona priority ke baare mein ek sandesh jaisa lagne lagta hai. Bahut log jaante hain ki wajahein sachchi hain, kaam, ghar ya thakaan, phir bhi kahin neeche lagta hai ki unka plan hafte ki sabse aasaan cheez thi jise sarka diya gaya.
Aakhri radd hue plan ko dekhein to kaun-si baat zyada chubhi: din ka haath se jaana, ya ye ehsaas ki aapka plan hi wo tha jo hamesha ruk sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo kehti hai, excited mat ho #
Kuch radd plan ke baad ek awaaz andar aa baithti hai. “Excited mat ho, khisak jayega.” “Faltu mein plan kyun karna?” “Jab tak ho na jaye, kisi ko batana mat.” Naya plan sunte hi ye chaalu ho sakti hai, kuch book hone se bhi pehle.
Ye samajhdaari jaisi lagti hai, aur kabhi-kabhi bachati bhi hai. Par ye achha hissa pehle hi le ja sakti hai, yaani intezaar ka mazaa, to jo plan hote bhi hain wo adhoore mazaa mein aate hain, us giraavat ke liye pehle se taiyaar jo aayi hi nahi.
Jab ye kehti hai ki excited mat ho, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya wo aapki lagti hai, ya us chhote aap ki jisne apni ummeedein chhoti rakhna seekh liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ummeed se bachna kahan se shuru ho sakta hai #
Bahut log chhoti umar mein seekhte hain ki ummeedein chhoti rakhni chahiye. Kahin ghumane le jaane ka vaada jo poora nahi hua, Papa ya Mummy ki baar-baar talti chhutti, birthday ka plan jo kisi kaam mein dab gaya. Kai gharon mein “dekhenge” ka matlab na hota tha, aur bachche use waise hi padhte the.
Har parivaar mein plan nibhane ke tareeke aur wajahein bahut alag thin. Jo reh sakta hai, wo bachche ka chupchaap nikaala nateeja hai: bahut zyada chahna jokhim hai, aur niraasha se bachne ka sabse safe tareeka hai achhi cheezon ki ummeed aane se pehle hi chhod dena.
Intezaar karna pehli baar kab jokhim jaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke ghar mein vaade kaun karta tha, aur uske intezaar mein aapne apni ummeedon ke saath kya karna seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Kandhe uchakane ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam ban sakta hai: “Ummeed hi nahi karunga to niraash bhi nahi hounga.” Kuch log iska naram roop dhote hain: “Mere plan toh hamesha ruk sakte hain,” ya “Kisi se kuch ummeed hi mat rakho.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo bas haqeeqat dekhna lagte hain, jaise baadal dekhkar chhaata le lena. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikaalkar din ki roshni mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: ummeed se dard mile to ummeed chhod do.
Ye kin plan aur kin logon par ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ummeed se bachne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki jo plan bahut pasand aayein un par bhi “dekhte hain” kehna, aakhri waqt tak kuch book na karna, calendar khaali rakhna. Kuch log sujhaav dena hi band kar dete hain, aur phir sochte hain ki weekend feeke kyun lagte hain.
Ek chupchaap keemat bhi hai. Jab aap intezaar karna chhod dete hain, to har plan ka sabse pyaara hissa kho dete hain: usse pehle ke dinon ki halki-si khushi. Achhi cheezein bhi berang aane lagti hain, us cancellation ke liye taiyaar jo kabhi aaya nahi.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Niraasha ke liye taiyaar rehna har baar asli mehnat maangta hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi trip jo aapne sujhayi hi nahi, koi shaam jiska mazaa pehle se lene nahi diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, ummeed na karte hue #
Kisi aam hafte ki tasveer banaiye, aise hafte ki jab “Ummeed nahi karunga to niraash nahi hounga” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek trip jiski baat uthi aur jhat se dab gayi, ek booking jo aakhri din ke liye taal di gayi, kisi dost ka nyota jiska jawab “shayad” raha. Shayad koi achhi shaam aayi, aur tab bhi khushi ko roke rakha, bas kahin kuch ho na jaye.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein neeche rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: jo plan aapne sujhaye nahi, “dekhte hain” wale jawab, khaali weekend?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kya ummeed karna galti thi? #
Bahut log jo postpone karte hain, dosti ko halke mein nahi lete. Kuch log haan bahut aasaani se bol dete hain aur hafta kam pad jaata hai. Kuch jitna batate hain usse zyada dho rahe hote hain. Ye sach ho sakta hai, aur phir bhi radd hua din aapka asli nuksaan hai.
Niraasha radd hone se aayi, ummeed karne se nahi. Plan se pehle ki khushi ke din sachche the, aur aapke the, trip hui ho ya na hui ho.
Sochiye: kya intezaar karna sach mein galti thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar koi dost bataye ki usne kisi cheez ka intezaar karna hi chhod diya taaki niraash na ho, to aap use kya sunana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Bahar se wo haqeeqatpasand lagega, ya thoda udaas?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Kareeb se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log apne radd hue plan dheere-dheere dekhte hain, to kai ko dikhta hai ki zyadatar aisa ek-do logon ke saath hota hai, sabke saath nahi. “Ummeed mat karo” wala niyam kuch se seekha gaya, phir chupchaap apne saare plan par laga diya gaya.
Kuch ko wo plan dikhte hain jo hue, aur intezaar ne unmein kitna joda. Kuch dekhte hain ki cancel ke baad mile khaali din mein bhi chhoti achhi cheezein thin: lambi neend, ek walk, bina socha khaana.
Pichhle ek saal mein kaun-se plan sach mein hue, aur kiske saath?Is par baat kijiye ›
Unke aane se pehle unka intezaar karna kaisa laga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Bina pehre ke intezaar #
Sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki radd hona chubhta nahi, ya “next weekend” ka matlab hamesha next weekend hota hai. Matlab ye ki aapki ummeed phir se aapki rahe, na ki aisi cheez jise aap ration mein baantein ki kahin koi aur date na sarka de.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo intezaar ka mazaa usi ke liye lete hain, aur plan ko thoda dheela pakadte hain. Ho jaye to badhiya. Khisak jaye to bhi khushi sachchi thi, aur khaali din phir bhi apna hai.
Kaisa lagega agar agle plan ka poora intezaar karne dein, ye jaante hue ki khisak gaya to apni shaam ka khayal rakh sakte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Ummeed nahi karunga to niraash nahi hounga” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe behas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log paas mein ek sachcha vaakya rakhte hain: “Intezaar ka mazaa mera hai, plan ka jo bhi ho.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane wale se zyada satik hona chahiye, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki dheere se, baar-baar kehne par isse utsaah ke lautne ki thodi jagah banti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo cancellation ke baare mein imaandaar ho, bina aapki ummeed cheene?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har radd plan ko aisa jawab nahi chahiye jo bataye ki aap kaisa mehsoos kar rahe hain, na kabhi plan na banane ki qasam, na wajahon ka lamba replay. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise pack bag khaali karke palang ke neeche sarka dein.
Ye dikhawa nahi ki sab aapke hisaab se tha. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse us shaam ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo saamne hai, plan ho ya na ho.
Niraasha ko shaam ke liye neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki cancel hona jaayaz tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Cancel hua plan ab bhi niraash karta hai, par ye tay nahi karta ki intezaar karne ki ijaazat hai ya nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: pencil se likha plan jiska mazaa mann mein liya jaye, pack bag jo jokhim nahi, excitement lage, ya cancel ke baad mila khaali din kisi pasandeeda cheez mein bitana.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Cancel hone par jawab dene se pehle ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Main iska intezaar kar raha tha, aur wo chala gaya”
- Khaali mile ghante mein ek chhoti-si cheez dijiye jo aapko akele achhi lage
- Ek aisa plan yaad kijiye jo hua, aur intezaar kitna achha laga tha
- “Excited mat ho” wali awaaz ko suniye, bina uski baat maane
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Plan khisakne se pehle aap sabse zyada kis cheez ka intezaar kar rahe the?
- Kiske “agli baar pakka” par aapne yakeen karna chhod diya, aur kab se?
- Aakhri baar kab aapne khud ko kisi cheez par sach mein excited hone diya?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?