Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Nirasha isliye chubh sakti hai ki plan kabhi zor se kaha hi nahi gaya tha.
Kuch mein ye ghar se aayi: har sports day par Dadi, ya wo mata-pita jo har puraskar samaaroh mein pahunchna zaroori samajhte the.
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Jinhein parwah hoti hai, wo zaroori dinon par aate hain,” ya “Agar unhein aana hota, to aa jaate.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Din se pehle use halka bana dena, taaki kisi ko chunna na pade ki aaye ya nahi
- Baad mein photos dekhkar chehre ginna
- Phir bhi photos sabko bhej dena, aur dekhna ki kaun jawab deta hai
- Agla padaav chhota rakhna, taaki kisi ko safar ki takleef na ho
- “Itna bada bhi kuch nahi hua” kehna aur andar se ulta mehsoos karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Convocation ka din, bheed mein khojti nazar
Convocation ka din, Banaras, BHU. Aap gown pehnkar manch paar karte ho, bheed mein nazar daudate ho, aur doston ko taaliyan bajate dekhte ho. Gharwale nahi aa sake: kheti ka kaam, safar ki mushkil, usi hafte cousin behen ka function. “Beta, is baar nahi aa payenge.” Shaam ko doston ke saath khilkhilakar photo khinchwate ho. Phir kamre mein kursi par tange gown ko dekhte ho, aur garv ke bagal mein ek khali jagah mehsoos karte ho.
Bade dinon par gharwale saath hon
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bade dinon par gharwalon ko saath hona chahiye.” Ye duniya ki sabse swabhavik chaah lagti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke sabse achhe palon ki poornata is par tik jaati hai ki kaun aaya. Bada din poora lagega ya nahi, ab safar, paise, sehat aur waqt par hai, jo aksar kisi ke haath mein nahi.
Apne log din poora kyun karte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki jinhein hum chahte hain, wo bade dinon ko asli banate hain. Shayad aapne bachpan mein unhein aage ki qataar mein baitha socha tha. Shayad aap unke bade dinon par pahunche the aur wahi ummeed ki. Jo bhi ho, unhein wahan chahna zyada maangna nahi. Ye apni khushi unke saath baantne ki chaah se aati hai jo sabse zyada maayne rakhte hain. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Khushi ke bagal ki tees
Har khali kursi khushi ke bagal mein ek halki tees chhodti hai. Aap har bade din se pehle nirasha ke liye khud ko taiyaar karne lagte ho. Jashn se zyada khaalipan mehsoos hota hai. Barson baad bhi zyada saaf yaad rehta hai ki kaun nahi tha, bajaye unke jo the. Dheere-dheere aapke sabse achhe palon par ek parchhai padne lagti hai, aur kamayi hui khushi zaroorat se thodi chhoti lagti hai.
Kya khali kursi itni bhaari hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya unke kamre mein hone ki zaroorat ne kabhi din ko khud zyada roshan kiya? Ya zyadatar khushi ke bagal mein ek tees chhodi? Parivar aksar bade din aisi wajahon se chookte hain jinka pyaar se koi lena-dena nahi: doori, paise, kaam. Jo bhi ho, unka na aana is baat ka paimana nahi ki din kitna maayne rakhta hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Khali kursi ke saath bhara din
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap chahna band kar do ki wo aa paate. Matlab ye ki aapka bada din ek khali kursi ke saath bhi bhara ho sakta hai. Aap unke saath jashn mana sakte ho jo aaye, photos unhein bhej sakte ho jo nahi aa sake, aur garv ko poori tarah mehsoos kar sakte ho, shuru se aakhir tak. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapke sabse achhe pal aapke hi rehte hain, chamakdaar aur poore.
If someone's absence worries you for their sake, or if family contact ever brings threats or fear, that is different from this hope, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere bade dinon par gharwalon ko saath hona chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleKhali kursi ke saath bhi mera bada din bhara ho sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Kisi bade din ki photo dekhiye aur jo log the unka maza lijiye
- Kadam 2
Ek aise insaan ke baare mein sochiye jo aapke liye pahuncha tha
- Kadam 3
Kisi ek bade din par, jaisa wo tha, us par garv mehsoos karne dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapka kaun-sa bada din aapko sabse achhi tarah yaad hai, aur wahan taaliyan bajane wala kaun tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Har padaav ke saath aane wali ummeed #
“Mere bade dinon par gharwalon ko saath hona chahiye.” Ye convocation ke liye shirt press karte waqt aa sakti hai, pehle program se pehle hall bharte dekhte hue, ya inaam baantne ke dauraan jab photographer sabse kahe, “Thoda aur paas aa jaiye.”
Ye deck convocation, pehli naukri, koi presentation ya naye flat jaise dinon ke baare mein hai, shaadi ke baare mein nahi. Agar koi bimari, kisi ke guzar jaane ya kisi tanatani ki wajah se nahi aa paya, to dheere chaliye, ya ise kisi aur waqt ke liye rakh dijiye.
Gharwalon aur apne bade dinon ko lekar ye ummeed aakhri baar kab aayi thi, aur kis din ki thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shuru hone se pehle qataaron mein nazar daudana #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki samaaroh shuru hone se pehle unki aankhein qataaron mein jaane-pehchane chehre dhoondhti hain, aur phir thodi sikudan, ya garmahat ki lehar, is par nirbhar karte hue ki kaun aaya hai. Ye traffic, train ya kaam ke kisi khayal se pehle ho sakta hai.
Kuch ko baad mein mehsoos hota hai, us shaam phone par, un sandeshon ko padhte hue jo aane ki jagah aaye: ek dil, ek “Bahut garv hai”, photo bhejne ki maang. Garm, aur phir bhi us kamre mein hone jaisa nahi.
Apne kisi bade din par, jab aapne pehli baar dekha ki kaun dekhne aaya hai, to us pal kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chahna ki apne log dekhein, theek hai #
Is chaah mein sachchai hai. Koi padaav aksar barson ki mehnat ka ek dopahar mein pahunchna hota hai, aur ye chahna ki jinhone shuru ke saal dekhe wo ye dopahar bhi dekhein, sabse swabhavik chaahon mein se hai.
Nirasha isliye chubh sakti hai ki plan kabhi zor se kaha hi nahi gaya tha. “Arre hum toh aayenge hi” barson pehle suna ja sakta hai, aur uske aaspaas ke plan badal jaane ke baad bhi bahut der tak yaad reh sakta hai.
Agar gharwale aapke agle bade din par waise saath hote jaisa aap chahte ho, to wo pal kaisa dikhta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Chehre ginne wali awaaz #
“Cousin ke liye toh aa gaye the.” “Sirf ek dopahar toh thi.” “Unke liye maayne rakhta, to koi raasta nikaal lete.” Ye awaaz aksar samaaroh se lautte waqt bolti hai, ya baad mein sofe par photos scroll karte hue.
Kis din kaun aaya, iski ginti lagbhag apne aap badh sakti hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki ginti ke neeche kuch aur hai: haaziri nahi, balki ye ehsaas chahna ki unke din unke apnon ke liye maayne rakhte hain.
Jab awaaz ginti hai ki aapke bade dinon par kaun aaya, to asal mein wo chahti hai ki koi aapse kya kahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Aage ki bhari qataar ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se aayi: kisi cousin ka convocation jismein aage ki qataar mein teen peedhiyan baithi thin, kisi dost ke maa-baap jo school ke concert ke liye door se pahunche the, aur wo shor jo ek bada parivar machata hai jab unka apna koi manch paar karta hai.
Kuch mein ye ghar se aayi: har sports day par Dadi, ya wo mata-pita jo har puraskar samaaroh mein pahunchna zaroori samajhte the. Kuch parivaron mein pahunchna hi parwah jatane ka sabse saaf tareeka hai. Kuch log aisi tasveer bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Bachpan ka kaun-sa parivarik jashn tha jisne pehli baar dikhaya ki bada din kaisa ho sakta hai, aur kamre mein kaun-kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Kaun dikhe, iska niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Jinhein parwah hoti hai, wo zaroori dinon par aate hain,” ya “Agar unhein aana hota, to aa jaate.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har ghairhaazri kaise padhi jayegi.
Is tarah ka niyam niyam jaisa lagta hi nahi. Ye waisa lagta hai jiske liye parivar hota hai, aur isiliye ise apne aaj ke parivar ke saath rakhkar dekhna theek hai: uski dooriyan, doosri zimmedaariyan, apne dhang se pahunchne ke tareeke.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aapke kaun-se bade din ke liye “Aana hi chahiye” wala niyam ab bhi baithta hai, aur kaun-se ke liye nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Bade din ke aaspaas ye faasla kya le jaata hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aadhi awaaz mein manaya gaya puraskar samaaroh, din ki sabse achhi photo mein apni muskaan ki jagah ye dekhna ki kaun aaya, aur agli achhi khabar ko chhota kar dena taaki phir ummeed ka ek daur na chale.
Jab har padaav ye parakhne ka mauka ban jaye ki kaun aayega, to din khud simat sakta hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo taareekhein asal se chhoti batane lage, taaki achhi khabar ghar der se aur chupchaap pahunche.
Haal ke kisi achhe din ko yaad kijiye: us par kitna rang is baat ne chadhaya ki kaun aaya aur kaun nahi, aur usmein aur kya-kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Chehre ginte hue paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, aisa din jab “gharwalon ko saath hona chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye ek tasveer hai, jhalak dekhkar rakh dene ke liye.
Shayad deewar par convocation ki photo, jise apni muskaan se pehle ye dekhkar dekha jaata hai ki kaun aaya, calendar mein kisi cousin ke birthday ki yaad, aur kisi achhi cheez ki taareekh jo chhoti aur chup rakhi gayi.
Iska kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: photos, sandesh, agle padaav ki baatein, dhundhli chhodi hui taareekhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko kya bharta hai, aur kya intezaar karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch bhi hai, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath hona, magar kis tarah? #
“Saath hona” mein kai cheezein aa sakti hain: hall mein ek kursi, us shaam ek call, baad mein poochna ki kaisa laga, photo chhapwakar ghar ki shelf par rakhna. Inmein se kuch doori aur diary par nirbhar hain; kai nahi.
Saath hona ek se zyada shakl mein aa sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki jo rishtedaar nahi aa saka, usne bhi din ko aise yaad kiya jiski ummeed nahi thi; kuch ko nahi milta. Dono haal mein, usi din dekhe jaane ki chaah ek sachchi chaah hai.
“Saath hona” ke shabdon mein jo-jo bhara hai, usmein aapke liye sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai, aur kya door se bhi ho sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Kaun aur kya aaya #
Jin chehron ki aapne aas ki thi, unke saath-saath kuch aisi cheezein bhi ho sakti hain jo aayin, chahe chhoti ya der se: ek cousin jisne sabse zor se taaliyan bajayin, videsh se aaya ek voice note, photo maangte Dada-Dadi, ek dost jisne dopahar bhari-bhari kar di.
Inhein dekhna ummeed ko radd nahi karta, aur inmein se kuch bhi lautana nahi hai. Ek din mein nirasha aur ek garm pal saath-saath ho sakte hain, aur garm wala aksar kisi chhoti-si baat mein rehta hai jo kisi ne chunkar ki.
Agar aaj koi pal na soojhe, to wo bhi ek sachcha jawab hai.
Aapke kisi bade din par jo chhoti cheez pahunchi thi, use aap thoda aur notice karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Bade dinon ko thaamne ka ek naram tareeka #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki ye bahut zyada maangti thi, ya ki ye aapka haq tha. Matlab ye hai ki jo aage ki qataar aapne sochi thi aur jo aayi, unka faasla din ke chalte-chalte uska ehsaas tay karna band kar de.
Iska samajhdaar hissa reh sakta hai: apne logon se apne achhe din dekhe jaane ki chaah. Buniyadi izzat aur hifazat ki maang kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye.
Agar kisi ke na aane se aapko unki fikar hoti hai, ki wo kaise hain ya surakshit hain ya nahi, to wo is chaah se alag baat hai aur gambhirta se lene layak hai. Aur agar aap apne parivar ke kuch logon ko apne dinon se door rakhte hain, apni wajahon se, to wo aapka faisla hai.
Sochiye ki is chaah se sulah ke saath aapka agla bada din kaisa hoga: sabse zyada kis cheez ka maza aayega, aur kise dekhkar khushi hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Photo ke paas rakhne ke liye ek vaakya #
“Mere bade dinon par gharwalon ko saath hona chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah kuch log ek vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain, jaise: “Ummeed thi ki wo kamre mein honge, aur din phir bhi hua, aur wo mera tha.” Use jeetna zaroori nahi, bas paas khada rehna kaafi hai.
Kuch logon ko apna vaakya apna lagne mein waqt lagta hai; kuch kabhi ek par tikte nahi aur kai aazmate hain. Iski koi sahi raftaar nahi, aur shuru karne ke liye koi galat vaakya bhi nahi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein, ummeed ko rakhne wala aur phir bhi din ko aapka rehne dene wala vaakya kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch photos abhi album mein reh sakti hain #
Har bade din ko dobara khangalna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko ek baar dekhkar wapas rakha ja sakta hai, jaise kitaab ke andar dabaya hua program ka parcha.
Kuch parivar is waqt aisi ummeed nahi le paate, aur ise parakhne ki zaroorat nahi. Apne achhe dinon par dekhe jaane ki chaah jitni der chahe nijee reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi ek sachchi chaah hai, jaanne layak.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi tha, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki pichhla bada din agle din ka ehsaas tay na kare.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar pakad zara bhi dheeli ho #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ke taur par, ki ummeed ek paydaan shaant hai. Apne dinon par apne logon ki chaah ab bhi hai, par kam chehron wala din bhi ek achha din hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise photo dekhkar pehle ye dekhna ki kaun-kaun hai, kisi achhe din ko dost ke saath dinner par manana, ya certificate ko isliye taangna ki wo aapko pasand hai.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi se kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur dekhne layak hai. Aage, is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Bade din par kamre mein ek aisa chehra note kijiye jise dekhkar khushi hui
- Photos aayein to sabse pehle unmein apna chehra dekhiye
- Aaj ki ek chhoti chaah chuniye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: is din dekhe jaane ka sachmuch matlab kya hota?
- Gaur kijiye ki chot isi din ki hai, ya purane dinon ki bhi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapka kaun-sa bada din aapko sabse achhi tarah yaad hai, aur wahan taaliyan bajane wala kaun tha?
- Aapka kaun-sa padaav aapke liye sabse garv ki baat hai, aur wahan tak pahunchne mein kya laga?
- Agar aap chun sakein ki agle bade din par aage ki qataar mein kaun baithe, to aap kise chunenge?
- Agar bade dinon par gharwalon ki ummeed thodi naram pade, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?
- Pichhle bade din ki kaun-si chhoti cheez aap thodi aur der yaad rakhna chahenge?