Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ek aas samjhaute jaisi lag sakti hai, bhale kisi ne kabhi haami na bhari ho.
Kuch logon mein ye school ke saalana jalse se shuru hui: aage ki qatar mein phone uthaye kuch maa-baap, peechhe se haath hilati dost ki mummy, teacher ki qatar par phirti nazar.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar meri unke liye ahmiyat hoti, to wo aate,” ya “Jo wo nahi dekhte, wo poora nahi ginta.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Unke mana karne se pehle hi keh dena: “Koi badi baat nahi hai”
- Taareekh der se batana, lagbhag yun hi, taaki jawab naram pad jaye
- Un sab dinon ki chupchaap ek soochi rakhna jinmein wo nahi aa paaye
- Photo fauran bhejna, aur phir screen par jawab ka intezaar karna
- Agli baar aur bada din rakhna, is ummeed mein ki wahi din hoga
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Convocation mein qataren khangaalna
Convocation ka din, Bhopal ka auditorium. Hall bhara hai, families phone lehra rahe hain. Naam pukara jaata hai, aap manch paar karte ho, aur aankhein seedhe un qataron mein jaati hain jahan maa-baap baithe hain. Jin do seeton ki aas thi, wo khaali hain. Aap degree thaame photo ke liye muskurate ho, aur agla naam pukare jaate hi gale mein kuch kas jaata hai.
Unhein bade dinon par aana chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Agar unke liye ye maayne rakhta, to wo mere bade palon mein aate.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Bade din bas ek baar aate hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: khaali seat ko kamre ki sabse tez awaaz bana deta hai, aapke naam se oonchi, doston ki taaliyon se oonchi. Jis pal ke liye mehnat ki, use isse naapa jaata hai ki use kaun dekh raha hai.
Bade dinon ko apne kyun chahiye
Hum ise isliye thaamte hain kyunki bade din zyada sachche lagte hain jab jinhone pala wo unhein dekhte hain. Shaayad aapne doosre parivaaron ko apne graduate ke aaspaas jama hote dekha aur wahi tasveer chahi. Shaayad kabhi wo har jagah aate the, aur ab uski kami khalti hai. Jo bhi ho, unka wahan hona chahna zyada nahi. Ye chaah hai ki padaav baante jaayein. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Chhoote pal se jaati chamak
Har chhoota pal thodi chamak le ja sakta hai. Bhashan se zyada khaali seatein yaad rehti hain. Agle bade din ke baare mein batana band kar dete ho, taaki phir chot na lage. Ya batate ho aur bahane ke liye khud ko taiyaar rakhte ho. Dono tarah, jin dinon ke liye sabse zyada mehnat ki, unmein ek chhoti tees aa jaati hai, jo kabhi-kabhi din se pehle hi aa pahunchti hai.
Kya khaali seat itni bhaari hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya ye ginne se ki kaun aaya, kabhi koi bada din aur bada hua? Ya zyadatar usmein tees hi rahi? Parivaar ke bahar koi poori tarah nahi dekh sakta ki kisi seat se kaun-si baat rok gayi. Jo bhi ho, khaali kursi uska paimana nahi jo aapne us manch par kiya. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna un dinon ki keemat par theek hai jo aapke hone chahiye?
Bade din phir bhi gine jaate hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap chahna chhod do ki wo aaye hote. Matlab ye ki aapke bade palon ko gine jaane ke liye unki seatein bharna zaroori nahi. Aapne wo manch paar kiya. Aapne wo finish line chhui. Wo poori tarah aapke the, koi bhi dekh raha ho. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aap pal ko khud rakh sakte ho, sirf uske bagal ki khaali jagah ko nahi.
If bringing it up has ever led to a reaction that scared you or felt like a threat, that is worth taking seriously, and leaving it unsaid can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMaayne rakhta to wo mere bade dinon mein aate.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere bade din gine jaate hain, seatein koi bhi bhare.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Kisi bade din ko yaad kijiye aur sochiye ki aapne kya kiya
- Kadam 2
Mann mein us ek insaan ka naam lijiye jo sach mein aaya tha
- Kadam 3
Agle bade din ke liye apne liye ek chhoti-si treat sochiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapka kaun-sa bada din aapko sabse achha yaad hai, aur taaliyan bajane wala kaun tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Qataron mein chehre dhoondhta ek vaakya #
Convocation ke hall mein naam pukare ja rahe hain, ya pehli das kilometre ki daud ki finish line dikh rahi hai, aur aankhein do chehre dhoondhne lagti hain. Usi pal kahin ye vaakya uthta hai: “Mummy-Papa ko mere bade palon mein maujood hona chahiye.”
Zor se kaha jaye to lagbhag zaroorat se zyada seedha lagega: jinhone pala, wo dekhna chahenge ki aapne kya banaya. Ye deck un dinon ke baare mein hai jab wo aa sakte the; agar kisi badi wajah se maa ya pita nahi aa paaye, to narmi se chaliye, ya ise abhi rehne dijiye.
Mummy-Papa wala ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya, aur tab aapka kaun-sa din yaad aa raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Muskaan se pehle ki jhat-si nazar #
Kuch logon ki aankhein apne-aap ye karne lagti hain: qataron mein, darwaze par, bheed ke kinare do jaane-pehchane chehre dhoondhna, aur jin seeton ki tasveer banayi thi un par kisi aur ka coat-bag dekhkar halki-si giraavat.
Kuch ko photo ke liye ek khili hui, abhyaas ki hui smile yaad rehti hai, aur ehsaas baad mein aata hai, ghar lautti bus mein ya kisi shaant kamre mein, jab badhai ke messages dheeme pad chuke hon aur din achanak apne asal aakar se chhota lagne lage.
Apne pichhle bade din par, ye dekhte hi ki kaun aaya aur kaun nahi, aapko sabse pehle kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Unka wahan hona chahna vaajib hai #
Ye ummeed aam taur par vaajib lagti hai, aur isme sach mein dum hai. Bada din kuch had tak dekhe jaane ka din hota hai: mehnat, ghabrahat aur barson ki taiyaari un logon ke saamne, jo shuruaat se pehle se aapko jaante the. Us tasveer mein Mummy-Papa ko chahna samajh aata hai.
Ek aas samjhaute jaisi lag sakti hai, bhale kisi ne kabhi haami na bhari ho. School ke saalana jalse aur sports day ke barson, ya doosron ke maa-baap ko aate dekhna, bade din par maujoodgi ko ek anlikhe qaraar ka hissa bana sakte hain.
Agar sabse zaroori din par Mummy-Papa wahan hote, to wo kahan khade hote, aur aap chahte ki wo kya dekhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Kaun aaya, ye ginne wali awaaz #
“Maine bas ek dopahar maangi thi.” “Doosron ke maa-baap toh koi raasta nikaal lete hain.” “Agli baar toh batana hi nahi hai.” Ye awaaz aksar karyakram ke baad bolti hai, jab photo scroll ho rahi hon aur ye dikh raha ho ki kisme kaun hai aur kaun nahi.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki jo ginti wo rakhte hain, wo seat ya dopahar se kam aur is baat se zyada judi hoti hai ki wo kis cheez ka prateek thi: un do logon ki nazar mein aana, theek usi waqt jab unki koi baat ban gayi ho.
Jab awaaz aapke dinon mein aaye logon ko ginti hai, to wo kis din par sabse zyada lautti hai, aur us din mein achha kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Aage ki seat wali tasveer kahan se shuru hoti hai #
Kuch logon mein ye school ke saalana jalse se shuru hui: aage ki qatar mein phone uthaye kuch maa-baap, peechhe se haath hilati dost ki mummy, teacher ki qatar par phirti nazar. Kaun kiske liye aaya, ye dekhna bahut pehle tay kar deta hai ki “aana” kise kehte hain.
Kuch mein ye family ke kisson se aati hai: dadaji jo raat bhar rail mein safar karke bete ka result dekhne pahunche, ya bua ki wo photo jo cousin ke convocation par muskura rahi hain. Kai gharon mein bade dinon par maujoodgi garv se sunayi jaati hai. Kuch log ise bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Bade hote hue kaun-sa din tha jisne pehli baar dikhaya ki saamne baithe maa-baap ka hona kya hota hai, aur aapke paas kaun baitha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Darshakon ko padhne wala niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar meri unke liye ahmiyat hoti, to wo aate,” ya “Jo wo nahi dekhte, wo poora nahi ginta.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki aage ki qatar ka har khaali kona kaise padha jaye.
Is tarah kehne par ye niyam kam aur parivaaron ke baare mein seedhi samajh zyada lagta hai, aur usmein sach mein dum hai. Yahi wajah hai ki ise parakhna banta hai, Mummy-Papa aur apne bade dinon ko aaj jaise hain waisa rakhkar.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi mein “kaun dekh raha ho” wala ye niyam kahan ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Sochi hui aage ki qatar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki garv ka din mukhya roop se is baat se yaad rahe ki kaun nahi tha, photo jaldi-jaldi scroll hon, agli uplabdhi ko hone se pehle hi chhota kar diya jaye, ya nyota na bheja jaye kyunki jawab sunna na poochhne se zyada chubhta hai. Chupchaap judti keematein.
Kuch aur bhi phisal sakta hai. Jab koi din tabhi poora lage jab do khaas log use dekhein, to jo aaye the, ek dost jo safar karke pahuncha, ek sahkarmi jisne taaliyan bajayin, wo yaad ke kinare par khisak sakte hain, jabki wo theek wahin the.
Pichhle saal aapka kaun-sa din is baat se sabse zyada bana ki kaun aaya aur kaun nahi, aur paas mein kaun khada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, bheed mein chehre dhoondhte #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “unhein mere bade palon mein aana chahiye” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad office ke award samaroh ki bheed mein do jaane-pehchane chehre dhoondhna, kisi karyakram ki taareekh message mein likhkar mita dena, achhi khabar pehle doston ko batana, calendar mein wo din dekhna jab ghar jaana ban sake.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur ye tasveer kabhi bhi alag rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: plan, taareekhein, nyote, baante ya anbaante gaye khabrein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhar jaata hai, aur kya intezaar karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath hona, par kis shakl mein? #
“Aana” mein bahut kuch aa sakta hai: hall mein ek seat, us subah ki ek call, baad mein poochha gaya “Kaisa raha?”, phone mein rakhi us din ki photo. Inmein se kuch kamre mein hone par tike hain; kuch nahi, aur kuch aisi shakl mein aa sakte hain jise laangh jaana aasaan hai.
Har kisi ke mann mein bade din par “maujood hone” ki apni tasveer ho sakti hai. Isse aapki ummeed galat ya sahi nahi hoti. Wo kai tasveeron mein se ek ban jaati hai, aur aapke liye us din ki ahmiyat utni hi rehti hai.
Agar aapke agle bade din par “aana” ko ek chhoti, thos cheez banna ho, to wo ek cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo chehre aaye the #
Jin seeton ko aapne sambhalkar rakha tha, unke paas shaayad pehle se aise log aur baatein hain jinhein dobara dekhna theek hoga, chahe kitni bhi chhoti ya anapekshit: ek dost jisne us din chhutti li, us subah aaya Mummy-Papa ka koi message, taaliyon mein kisi cousin ki awaaz.
Inmein se koi ummeed ko khatam nahi karta, aur koi chukane ki cheez nahi. Aapki sochi hui aage ki qatar aur jo chehre aaye, dono sach ho sakte hain. Jo bin bulaye pahunche, wo photo mein aasaani se andekhe reh jaate hain, aur unhein saaf dekh lena theek rahega.
Kuch dinon mein dhoondhne ko zyada kuch nahi hota, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke kisi bade din par kaun maujood tha, saamne ya kisi chhote dhang se, jise aap thoda aur notice karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Bade din ko poora ginne dena #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki ye zyada thi, ya ki ye sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis darshak-deergha ki aapne tasveer banayi aur jo aayi, unke beech ki khaai tay na kare ki aapke har bade din ko kaise yaad kiya jayega.
Jo vaajib hai wo reh sakta hai: jinhone pala, wo dekhein ki aapne kya banaya. Jo dheela pad sakta hai wo ye ki din ko do seeton se kitna kasakar baandha jaye, taaki wo apne poore roop mein ginaa jaye, mehnat, ghabrahat, aaye hue chehre, chahe aage ki qatar mein koi bhi baitha ho.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada maangna” nahi hoti, aapke liye aur unke liye. Agar iska zikr karne par kabhi aisi pratikriya mili jisse darr laga, to wo gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur na kehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Apne agle bade din ki kalpana kijiye, is aas se sulah ke saath: us pal mein aapko kya achha lag raha hoga, aur aap kiske chehre ko dekh rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle bade din ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mummy-Papa ko mere bade palon mein maujood hona chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine unhein wahan chaha tha, aur din phir bhi ginta hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purane ke bagal mein khada hona hai.
Shuru mein ye patli lag sakti hai, jaise kisi aur ke liye likhi ho. Kuch ko lagta hai ki har naye din ke saath apna vaakya thoda jaana-pehchana hota jaata hai; kuch ko wo kabhi theek se nahi baithta, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo us seat ki chaah ke baare mein imaandaar ho jo aapne sambhalkar rakhi thi, aur phir bhi din ko aapka rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch din file mein wapas rakhe ja sakte hain #
Har us din ko abhi nipatana zaroori nahi jismein wo nahi aa paaye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, kuch der mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise Bhopal mein file mein wapas sarka diya gaya certificate, ya kisi flat ke darwaze ke paas hook par tanga daud ka medal.
Kuch parivaar abhi ye sun nahi paate, aur kisi ko poochhkar saabit nahi karna padta. Agar iska zikr karne par kabhi aisi pratikriya mili jisse darr laga, to wo gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur na kehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Is khayal ko aaj shaam ke liye neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki kaun aaya aur kaun nahi, uske baad ke har din mein saath nahi chalna chahiye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar aage ki qatar thodi kam maayne rakhe #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Aas ab bhi hai, par aapki sochi hui aage ki qatar ek bhare hall ki bas ek qatar hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bheed mein nazar daudana, jo chehre aaye the unhein paana aur unke paas rukna, ya us din ki photo ko is nazar se dekhna ki usmein kya hai, na ki kaun nahi hai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage is par nazar ki is aas se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Kisi bade din se pehle dekhiye ki kamre mein aap kiski tasveer pehle se soch rahe ho
- Bade din ki photo dekhte samay gaur kijiye ki sabse pehle kiska chehra nazar aata hai
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mujhe unhein sabse zyada kya dikhana tha?
- Us din ko phir se sochiye, aur dhyaan us par tikne dijiye jo aaya tha
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapka kaun-sa bada din aapko sabse achha yaad hai, aur taaliyan bajane wala kaun tha?
- Apne sabse bade din par aap Mummy-Papa ko kya dikhana chahte the, jo aur koi usi tarah nahi dekh sakta tha?
- Jab aapne sabse kam socha tha, tab kaun aapke liye pahuncha, aur wo kaisa laga?
- Agar Mummy-Papa ke aapke bade dinon mein aane ki chaah thodi halki ho, to sabse pehle kya dikhega?
- Aapke dinon mein, bade hon ya chhote, pehle se kaun aisa aata hai jise aap thoda aur notice karna chahenge?