Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jo log humein achhe se jaante hain, wo bhi kabhi-kabhi humara matlab chook jaate hain, aur jo wajahein bheetar se saaf lagti hain, wo ghar par shaayad kabhi zor se kahi hi na gayi hon.
Doosron ke liye ye ulte se ugi: barson ka samjhana, aur us din ki ek tasveer jab samjhana aakhir tham jaayega.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo mujhse pyaar karte hain, to mere faisle samjhenge,” ya “Samjhe jaane se hi pata chalta hai ki mujhe apnaya gaya hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Raaste bhar apni wajahein dohrana, phir kabhi poori tarah istemaal na karna
- Kisi faisle ko itni details se samjhana ki wahi dagmagata lagne lage
- Sirf wahi faisle batana jo ghar par pasand aane wale hon
- Unki raay maangna, phir jab aaye to aahat hona
- Keh dena ki unki soch se farq nahi padta, phir shaam bhar mulaqaat dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Flyover se pehle speech taiyaar
Saturday ko Bhopal mein Mummy-Papa ke ghar jaate hue. Flyover tak pahunchne se pehle hi sar mein speech aadha taiyaar hai: shehar badalne ki aapki wajahein, kram se, har sawaal ka jawab jo socha ja sake. Aakhri mod tak ek bhaari thakaan baith chuki hai, aur ghar abhi door hai. Bahar scooty khadi karke ek gehri saans, aur tani hui chaal se andar.
Unhein aapke faisle samajhne chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mummy-Papa ko mere faisle samajhne chahiye.” Ye vaajib lagta hai. Aapne bahut soch-samajhkar, lambe waqt tak cheezein tay ki hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har faisle ko tab tak adhoora bana deta hai jab tak wo samajh na lein. Aap samjhate, safayi dete aur dobara samjhate rehte ho, aur aapke faisle unki table par lambe samay tak kathghare mein rehte hain.
Samjha jaana, apnaya jaana kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki parivaar se samjhe jaana apnaye jaane jaisa lagta hai. Shayad aapki raah ghar mein kisi ki ummeed se alag hai. Shayad aapko wo waqt yaad hai jab unhone aapko poori tarah samjha tha. Jo bhi ho, unse samjhe jaane ki chaah mohtaaji nahi. Ye isliye hai ki aapki zindagi un logon ko samajh aaye jinhein aap chahte ho. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har mulaqaat ek safayi
Har mulaqaat ek tarah ki safayi ban jaati hai. Aap raaste mein speech banate ho. Nahaate waqt purani behsein dohrate ho. Kam batate ho, kyunki har detail naya sawaal kholta hai. Jo faisle aapko khushi dete hain, wo bhi bhaari lagne lagte hain, kyunki unke saath ek muqadma ladna hota hai. Thakaan saath jaati hai aur lautte waqt badh jaati hai, har baar, mulaqaat chahe kitni bhi chhoti ho.
Kya ye safayi dena zaroori hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya zyada samjhane se unhein kabhi samajh aaya? Ya zyadatar bas thakaan haath aayi? Kuch logon ko apne se alag dikhti zindagi samajhne mein lamba waqt lagta hai, aur kuch ko kabhi poora nahi. Jo bhi ho, unka samajhna iska paimana nahi ki aapka faisla sahi hai ya nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna kaam ka hai?
Aapke faisle aapke hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap ummeed chhod do ki wo ek din samjhenge. Matlab ye ki aapke faislon ko poore hone ke liye unki samajh ki zaroorat nahi rahi. Aapne unhein soch-samajhkar liya. Wo aapke hain. Aap scooty par speech banana chhod sakte ho aur wajahon ko aaraam karne de sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: mulaqaatein phir mulaqaatein banti hain, muqadme nahi, aur aap tankar nahi, sahaj andar ja sakte ho.
If making your own choices has ever been met with threats, being shut out, or being kept from people, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein mere faisle samajhne chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere faisle mere hain, chahe wo abhi na samjhein.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agli baar raaste mein speech ki jagah gaane suniye
- Kadam 2
Ek aisa faisla mann mein ginie jisse aap khush hain
- Kadam 3
Jab sar mein samjhana shuru ho, rukkar saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aakhri baar kab Mummy ya Papa ne baat samajhkar aapko chaunkaya, aur unhone kya kaha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Raaste bhar dohraya hua ek line #
Bhopal se scooty par unke ghar jaate hue speech aadha taiyaar ho chuka hai, wajahein kram se lagi hui. Aakhri mod ke aaspaas kahin: “Mummy-Papa ko mere faisle samajhne chahiye.”
Ye unse sabse kam ki ummeed lagti hai jo aapko sabse achhe se jaante hain: aapki wajahein samajhna, un dinon mein bhi jab wo khud kuch aur chunte. Isiliye jab faasla khulta hai, to itna chubhta hai.
Apne faislon ke baare mein Mummy-Papa ko lekar ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur baat kis faisle ki thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sawaal se pehle ki jakdan #
Kuch logon ko kasaav feel hota hai jab Mummy-Papa kehte hain, “Hamari to samajh se bahar hai ki ye sab kyun,” ya jab koi seedha-saada faisla, naya shehar, raah badalna, weekend ka plan, ek lambi chuppi bhari nazar se milta hai.
Kuch ko apni wajahein qataar mein lagti dikhti hain isse pehle ki kisi ne maangi hon: sar mein aadha bana jawab, ek muskaan jo zara zyada tiki rahe. Ehsaas pehle aata hai, samjhana uske theek peeche.
Pichli baar jab aapke kisi faisle ko ghar par uljhi hui nazar mili, to usi waqt aapne kya feel kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ghar mein samjhe jaane ki chaah maayne rakhti hai #
Ye ummeed aamtaur par vaajib lagti hai, aur isme sachchi samajh hai. Mummy-Papa ne aapko sabse pehle jaana, isliye ye ummeed karna swabhaavik lagta hai ki wahi, sabse badhkar, aapki wajahein samajh paayenge, un dinon mein bhi jab wo khud kuch aur chunte.
Jo log humein achhe se jaante hain, wo bhi kabhi-kabhi humara matlab chook jaate hain, aur jo wajahein bheetar se saaf lagti hain, wo ghar par shaayad kabhi zor se kahi hi na gayi hon.
Aapka kaun sa faisla aapko sabse saaf lagta hai aur Mummy-Papa ko sabse kam, aur wahi kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo aapka muqadma taiyaar karti hai #
“Agar wo mujhe sach mein jaante, to samajh jaate.” “Mujhe har baat samjhani kyun padti hai?” “Doosron ke Mummy-Papa to bas rehne dete hain.” Ye awaaz aksar lautte waqt bolti hai, ya der raat, us baatcheet ko palatte hue jo “theek hai, baat badlo” par khatam hui thi.
Purane pal iske andar goonj sakte hain: solah ki umar mein kaha gaya kuch, kisi relative ka joda gaya line, pichle bade faisle par kisi chehre ka rang. Kuch logon ko apni wajahein is sab ke neeche sunna mushkil lagta hai.
Jab awaaz der raat Mummy-Papa ke saamne aapka muqadma khada karti hai, to bolte hue kiska chehra uske saamne hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Samjhe jaane ki aas kahan se shuru hoti hai #
Kuch logon ke liye ye bachpan ke samjhe jaane ke palon se ugi: ek parent jisne wo mazaak pakda jo aur kisi ko samajh nahi aaya, ek Mummy jo ek nazar mein jaan gayi ki school ka din bura gaya, ek Papa jo kisi ajeeb shauq ke peeche bina safayi maange khade rahe.
Doosron ke liye ye ulte se ugi: barson ka samjhana, aur us din ki ek tasveer jab samjhana aakhir tham jaayega. Jo kabhi samjha gaya laga, ya kabhi nahi, wo chupchaap ghar kaisa hona chahiye ki tasveer bana deta hai. Kuch aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak khojte hain; kuch nahi.
Sabse pehle kis pal ne aapko Mummy-Papa se sach mein samjhe jaane ka ehsaas diya, aur tab aap dono kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baitha chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo mujhse pyaar karte hain, to mere faisle samjhenge,” ya “Samjhe jaane se hi pata chalta hai ki mujhe apnaya gaya hai.” Pehli line wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har uljhi nazar kaise padhi jaayegi.
Ye ghar ka kaam hi lagta hai, aur isme sachchi samajh hai. Isiliye ise dekhna banta hai, Mummy-Papa aur apne aaj ke faislon ke bagal mein.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak khojte hain; kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Samjhe jaane wala niyam aaj ki family zindagi mein kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Safayi dete rehne ki keemat #
Ye unse milne jaane wala raasta hai jo rehearsal mein beetta hai, weekend ka plan sambhalkar aadha-adhoora batana, koi achha faisla thoda kam maza dena kyunki ghar par uski ab bhi safayi deni hai. Chhoti cheezein, jo ek mulaqaat se doosri tak dhoyi jaati hain.
Chunav bhi dagmagane lagte hain. Jab har chunav ko ghar par samjhe jaane ki zaroorat ho tab jaakar pakka lage, to kuch log dekhte hain ki wo un faislon par dobara sochne lage jo apne-aap mein saaf the, aur har faisla do baar hota hai: ek baar zindagi mein, ek baar table par.
Is saal ke baare mein sochiye: aapka kaun sa faisla ghar par samjhe jaane ke intezaar se sabse zyada dabaa raha, aur us intezaar ne kya liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Raaste mein rehearsal ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mummy-Papa ko samajhna chahiye” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, sudharne ki nahi.
Shayad raasta jo apni wajahein dohrate beeta, weekend ka plan jo sabse saavdhaan roop mein bataya gaya, family group mein type hokar do baar narm kiya gaya message, ghar par ek shaam jo kahi baaton ko dohrate guzri.
Yahan kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer ko jab chahein sameta ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: calls, mulaqaatein, faisle, sar mein ghoomti wajahein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya alag rakh diya jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch bhi, kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Samjha jaana, ya sahmati? #
Kisi faisle ko samajhna aur usse sahmat hona do alag cheezein hain, aur ye ulajh jaati hain. Kuch parents wajahein samajhkar bhi sahmat nahi hote; kuch sahmat hote hain bina poori tarah samjhe. Dono mein na samjhe jaane ka ehsaas ho sakta hai.
“Mere faisle samajhiye” mein kai cheezein aa sakti hain: wajahein poori sunna, do baar na poochhna, jo faisla ho chuka use hua maanna, shak ki jagah utsukta rakhna. Inmein se kuch ghar par pahunch mein ho sakti hain; kuch shaayad nahi.
Agar “mere faisle samajhiye” ko ghar par ek chhoti, thos cheez banna ho, to wo kya hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo unki taraf se aata hai, adhoora hi sahi #
Jis samajh ki aapne ummeed ki, uske bagal mein shayad Mummy-Papa ki taraf se kuch cheezein pehle se aati hain, chahe kitni chhoti ya adhoori: naye flat ki roshni ke baare mein ek sawaal, us shehar ke baare mein forward kiya hua article jahan aap gaye, aapki pasand ke tareeke se bana khaana.
Inmein se kuch bhi lautana nahi hai, aur inse ummeed kam jaayaz nahi ho jaati. Koi kathin ehsaas aur koi achha ehsaas saath-saath thaame ja sakte hain, aur bina maangi chhoti cheezein gaur karne laayak ho sakti hain.
Uljhi nazar ke baad inmein se kuch paana mushkil ho sakta hai, aur koi baat nahi.
Ek aam mahine mein Mummy-Papa pehle se kya laate hain jiska aap aur maza lena chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Faisle jo aapke hi rahein #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada maangti thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis samajh ki aapne aas ki aur jo milti hai, uske beech ka faasla tay karna band kar de ki har mulaqaat kaisi lagti hai, shuru hone se pehle hi.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: apni wajahein sune jaane ki chaah, apne chunavon ko asli chunav maane jaane ki chaah. Agar apne faisle khud karne par kabhi dhamkiyan mili hon, darwaaza band kar diya gaya ho, ya logon se door rakha gaya ho, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Ghar mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Jo dheela pad sakta hai wo safayi dete rehna hai. Agar ghar mein koi sach mein bura bartaav karta hai, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Is aas se sulah wali mulaqaat sochiye: aapko kya achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ghar ke raaste ke liye ek sachchi line #
“Mummy-Papa ko mere faisle samajhne chahiye” se bhidne ki jagah kuch log ek aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe ummeed hai wo meri wajahein samjhenge, aur mere faisle phir bhi mere hain.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purani wali ke bagal mein baithna hai.
Kuch logon ko apni line shuru mein thodi beyaqeen lagti hai aur istemaal se jaani-pehchani hoti jaati hai; kuch ko kabhi poori baithti nahi. Dono theek hai, aur doosri line hamesha aazmayi ja sakti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek sachchi line kya hogi, jo aas ko banaye rakhe aur Mummy-Papa ki sahmati ka mohtaaj na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Wajahein gaadi mein hi reh sakti hain #
Har faisle ka Sunday tak samjha jaana zaroori nahi. Kuch wajahon ko dekha ja sakta hai, pal bhar thaama ja sakta hai, aur wahin chhoda ja sakta hai jahan wo hain, jaise kisi ghar ke bahar scooty par chhoota speech, ya darwaaze ke paas tangi jacket.
Kuch ghar bahut der tak aapki wajahein na samjhein, aur kisi ko zor dekar pata karne ki zaroorat nahi. Agar ghar mein koi sach mein bura bartaav karta hai, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai. Faisla bina samjhaye bhi aapka reh sakta hai, aur aas nijee reh sakti hai.
Shaam ke liye is khayal ko neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki safayi ko aapke saath ghar ke andar nahi aana padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar safayi dena zara dheela pade #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Samjhe jaane ki aas ab bhi hai, par ek uljhi nazar bas ek uljhi nazar hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: radio chalakar jaana aur wajahein scooty mein chhod dena, kisi faisle ka maza uski safayi taiyaar rakhe bina lena, ya kisi dost ko koi faisla bas isliye batana ki wo achha tha.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, use dekhna aapka hai, kitna bhi chhota ho. Aage, is par nazar ki is aas se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle thoda-sa bhi alag kya lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Dhyaan dijiye ki kin faislon ko samjhana zaroori lagta hai, aur kinhein nahi
- Raaste mein dhyaan dijiye ki rehearsal kab shuru hoti hai
- Aaj ki koi ek chhoti chaah gaur se dekhiye, kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: yahan mujhe sahmati chahiye, ya suna jaana?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada chubhan kahan hai: sawaal mein, ya uske saath aayi nazar mein
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aakhri baar kab Mummy ya Papa ne baat samajhkar aapko chaunkaya, aur unhone kya kaha?
- Mummy-Papa se milne jaate hue aap kaun si wajahein dohrate paate ho?
- Kis faisle ko samjhane ka mann sabse zyada hua, aur jab wo nahi samjhe to kya hua?
- Agar Mummy-Papa ke samajhne ki chaah thodi dheeli ho jaaye, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Mummy-Papa ki taraf se kaun si chhoti baat pehle se mulaqaat ko thoda halka karti hai?