Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Maa-baap kisi insaan ko achhe se jaante hue bhi bade hue roop ki kam tasveerein rakhte hain.
Kuch logon mein ye dekhkar aayi: ek bada cousin jiski raay chacha log poochhne lage, ek dost jisse uski maa colleague ki tarah baat karti thi, wo pal jab bade bhai ko bina bhashan ke pehli baar gaadi ki chaabi thamayi gayi.
Andar koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jab meri apni zindagi ban chuki hai, to maa-baap ko mujhe barabar ka maanna chahiye,” ya “Agar wo ab bhi fikr karte hain, to izzat nahi karte.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Mulaqat ki shuruaat mein hi uplabdhiyon ka zikr karna, bade hone ke saboot ke taur par
- Ghar mein purane kirdaar mein laut jaana, phir baad mein khud par jhallana
- Faislon ki khabar tab tak rok lena jab tak wo ho na jayein
- Chhote sawaalon par jhunjhla jaana, jo kisi aur se sunkar chubhte nahi
- Mulaqatein chhoti karna, ya itni bhar dena ki sikudne ka waqt hi na mile
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
31 ki umar mein office ki salaah
31 ki umar mein, weekend par Patna ke ghar aaye ho, aur kaam mein team badalne ki yojana ka zikr karte ho. Papa aapko samjhane lagte hain ki office kaise chalte hain, jaise aap kal hi lage hon. Mummy bahar nikalte waqt sweater rakhne ko yaad dilati hain. Aap sir hilate ho, “Haan-haan” kehte ho, aur lagbhag chaudah ke lagne lagte ho. Lautti train mein sochte ho ki wo kab dekhenge ki aap bade ho gaye.
Unhein adult ki tarah lena chahiye
Andar ek niyam baitha hai: “Jaisa main adult hoon, unhein mujhse waisa hi salook karna chahiye.” Seedha-sa lagta hai. Aapne apni zindagi khud banayi hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke bade hone ka ehsaas unke baat karne ke dhang par tik jaata hai. Sweater ki har yaad-dihani ek faisla ban jaati hai, aur ghar ka weekend is baat ki pariksha ki kya wo aakhirkaar dekh paaye.
Bada samjha jaana kyun maayne rakhta hai
Hum ise isliye thaamte hain kyunki jinhone hamein pala, unse bada samjhe jaana ek tarah ki degree jaisa lagta hai. Shaayad aapne apne pairon par khade hone ko bahut mehnat ki aur chahte ho ki wo dikhe. Shaayad parivaar ka sabse chhota hamesha “Chhotu” rehta hai, tab bhi jab wo naam fit nahi baithta. Jo bhi ho, ye chaah nashukri nahi hai. Ye chahti hai ki wo aaj ke aapko jaanein, aur use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Salaah se ghista sabr
Har anchaahi salaah aapke sabr ko thoda khurachti hai. Aap mulaqat se pehle hi tan jaate ho. Aap yojanaon ke baare mein kam batate ho, taaki salaah ki gunjaish kam rahe. Apne faisle lete hue aapko unki awaaz mann mein sunayi deti hai, aur aap usse behas karte ho. Ghar se weekend thakkar lautte ho, tab bhi jab kuch bura hua hi nahi. Aapka sukoon unke baat karne ka dhang badalne ka intezaar karta rehta hai.
Kya unki sehmati itni zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya unke aapko adult samajhne ka intezaar karne se ye kabhi jaldi hua? Ya zyadatar mulaqatein tanavpoorn rahin? Kai maa-baap ke paas parwah ki aadatein bachche ke bade hone ke baad bhi bani rehti hain; yaad-dihani purane roop mein parwah ho sakti hai. Jo bhi ho, sweater ki yaad aapke bade hone ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar thaame rakhna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada.
Khud ko adult ke roop mein jaanna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap jo bane ho use dekhe jaane ki chaah chhoot jaye. Matlab ye ki aapka adult hona ab unki ijaazat ka intezaar nahi karta. Aap jaante ho ki aapne kaisi zindagi banayi hai. Aap “Sweater rakh lo” sun sakte ho aur bas sun sakte ho, jeetne ki zaroorat ke bina. Yahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: aap ghar us adult ki tarah ja sakte ho jise aap khud pehle se jaante ho.
If being treated as younger ever means threats, being watched, kept in or having things taken, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJaisa main adult hoon, unhein mujhse waisa salook karna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe pata hai ki main adult hoon. Unki sehmati zaroori nahi.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte ka ek adult faisla yaad kijiye
- Din 2
Salaah aaye to khud ko yaad dilaiye ki faisla ab bhi aapka hai
- Din 3
Ghar jaane se pehle, khud banayi ek cheez ko yaad kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Pehli baar aapne khud ko sach mein bada kab mehsoos kiya, aur tab aap kahan the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Darwaze par intezaar karta ek khayal #
Auto se utarte hi Papa aapke haath pahunchne se pehle bag utha lete hain, aur Mummy poochhti hain, “Sweater rakha tha?” Patna ke gate se kitchen tak kahin pahunchte-pahunchte vaakya uthta hai: “Mummy-Papa ko samajhna chahiye ki ab main adult hoon.”
Jo ye soch raha ho, use ye ek seedha tathya lagta hai jo dekhe jaane ki maang karta hai: saal beet gaye, kahin ek zindagi ban gayi, har din faisle liye jaate hain, aur phir bhi purane darwaze ke bheetar ek kadam is sabko mita sakta hai.
Maa-baap ke baare mein ye khayal aapke mann mein aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur theek pehle kya kaha ya kiya gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Darwaze par jo sikudan hoti hai #
Kuch log ise pahunchne ke kuch hi minuton mein ek ajeeb sikudan ki tarah mehsoos karte hain: awaaz thodi oonchi ho jaati hai, saalon se istemaal na hua roothha hua “theek hai” nikal jaata hai, aur kisi badi soch ke aane se pehle kishoron wali aankh ghumana laut aata hai.
Doosron ko tab garmi lagti hai jab maa-baap apne hi kaam ke beech ki kisi baat par kehte hain “Abhi tum bachche ho, nahi samjhoge”, ya kisi rishtedaar ko wo faisla samjhate hain jise samjhana unka kaam kabhi tha hi nahi.
Pichhli baar jab maa-baap ne aapse aise baat ki jaise aap bahut chhote hon, to jawab dene se pehle, usi pal, aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bada samjhe jaane ki chaah jaayaz hai #
Ye chahna ki maa-baap aapke saamne khade bade insaan ko dekhein, ek bahut aam chaah hai. Flat, job, calendar aur dostiyon ka poora taana-baana sambhalne ke baras us pal adrishya lag sakte hain jab koi poochh le ki chaabi rakh li thi ya nahi.
Maa-baap kisi insaan ko achhe se jaante hue bhi bade hue roop ki kam tasveerein rakhte hain. Unke paas aksar paanch, barah aur satrah saal ke bachche ki barson ki tasveerein hoti hain, aur adult ki ginni-chuni, unmein se zyadatar chhoti mulaqaton se.
Agar maa-baap ke rasoi ki table par adult samjhe jaane ko ek pal ki tasveer mein sochna ho, to wo aapse kya poochhte, aur kaise sunte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Saboot ginane wali awaaz #
“Team mere zimme hai, aur ye ab bhi poochhte hain khaana khaya?” “Saalon se mera apna ghar chal raha hai.” “Inhein ab bhi kyun lagta hai ki ye faisla mujhse nahi hoga?” Ye awaaz aksar ghar lautte hue train ya flight mein bolti hai, jo kuch ginaa jaana chahiye tha wo ginati hui.
Purani awaazein is chaah ke bheetar ghoom sakti hain: “Is ghar mein tum ab bhi bachche ho”, kisi rishtedaar ka mazaak, bade bhai-behen ke saath hota salook. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki unke neeche apne bade hone ka ehsaas sunna mushkil ho jaata hai.
Jab awaaz bade hone ke saboot ginati hai, to pehli cheez hamesha kaun-si rakhti hai, aur wo kise yakeen dilane ki koshish kar rahi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bade hone ki tasveer kahan se shuru hui #
Kuch logon mein ye dekhkar aayi: ek bada cousin jiski raay chacha log poochhne lage, ek dost jisse uski maa colleague ki tarah baat karti thi, wo pal jab bade bhai ko bina bhashan ke pehli baar gaadi ki chaabi thamayi gayi.
Kuch mein ye intezaar se aayi: “Bade ho jaoge tab samjhoge”, itni baar suna ki bada hona aakhirkaar sune jaane ka vaada ban gaya. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Kaun-sa pal tha jab aapne pehli baar dekha ki parivaar mein badon jaisa salook kaisa dikhta hai, aur tab kiske saath wo salook ho raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Badon se salook ka niyam #
Andar koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jab meri apni zindagi ban chuki hai, to maa-baap ko mujhe barabar ka maanna chahiye,” ya “Agar wo ab bhi fikr karte hain, to izzat nahi karte.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har sawaal kaise liya jaye.
Ye niyam se zyada bade hone ke seedhe kram jaisa lagta hai, aur isme sach mein samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, aaj ke maa-baap aur aapki zindagi ke saath.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj maa-baap ke saath zindagi ke kin hisson mein “barabar samjhe jaane” wala niyam ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Purana kirdaar har mulaqat ki kya keemat leta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ghar par ek hafta aadha chaukanna rehkar, chhote sawaalon ke teekhe jawab, barson se sochi hui mulaqat ka jaldi khatam hona, ya achhi khabar rok lena kyunki batane par kishor ki tarah salaah milne ka darr hai.
Mulaqat khud bhi kuch aur ban sakti hai. Jab tasveer hai “wo aakhirkaar mujhe bada samjhenge”, to har mulaqat ek pariksha ban jaati hai jiske liye mulaqat ne kabhi haami bhari hi nahi thi.
Is saal ke baare mein sochiye: ghar ki kaun-si mulaqat sabse zyada chhota samjhe jaane ke rang mein rangi rahi, aur lautte samay uski kya keemat aapne chukayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Purane kamre mein paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Unhein dikhna chahiye ki main adult hoon” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad unke ghar mein apne purane kamre ki ek shaam, wahi sankra palang aur feeke poster, das saal chhota mehsoos karte hue; khaana khaya ya nahi ka ek sawaal; galiyare mein dheere se li gayi ek office call.
Yahan kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer ko jab chahein alag rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: sawaal, purane naam, jo zikr nahi hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar kar raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to kya alag se dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Adult samjha jaana, kis roop mein? #
“Samajhna ki main adult hoon” kai cheezon ki jagah khada ho sakta hai: kehne ki jagah poochha jaana, kisi faisle par bharosa, purane naam se bulaye bina baat, ya bina tippani ke galti karne dena. Maa-baap inmein se ek kar paayein aur doosra nahi, aisa bhi hota hai.
Parivaar ke kareeb hona aur apne faisle khud lena saath-saath ho sakte hain. Kuch log paate hain ki jo maa-baap ab bhi sweater ke baare mein poochhte hain, wahi usi mulaqat mein kisi zaroori baat par unki raay bhi poochh lete hain.
“Samajhna ki main adult hoon” mein jo-jo bhara hai, usmein se kaun-sa ek hissa ghar ki ek aam mulaqat ko sabse zyada badal dega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Sawaalon ke beech kya baitha hai #
Jis pehchan ki aas thi, uske bagal mein maa-baap se kuch cheezein pehle se, kabhi-kabhar, aa sakti hain: naya phone lene par aapki raay poochhna, doston ko aapke kaam ke baare mein koi kissa sunana, aapke aane se pehle bistar laga dena.
Inmein se kuch bhi lautana nahi hai, aur kuch bhi chaah ko radd nahi karta; dono reh sakte hain. Gambhirta se liye jaane ke chhote sanket usi mulaqat mein purane naam ke saath chhipe ho sakte hain, aur isiliye chhoot jaate hain.
Kuch mulaqaton mein iska bahut kam hota hai, aur wo theek hai.
Kis chhote pal mein ghar par aapko, ek pal ke liye hi sahi, ek adult ki tarah liya gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Adult, nazar ho ya na ho #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo bahut zyada maang rahi thi, ya wo sahi thi. Matlab ye hai ki aapne jaisa chaha tha maa-baap aapko waise dekhein, aur jaise wo dekhte hain, unke beech ka faasla har mulaqat aur lautne ke safar ko chalana band kar de.
Isme jo jaayaz hai, wo reh sakta hai: apne faislon ko gambhirta se liya jaana chahna, adult ki tarah baat kiya jaana chahna. Agar bachche jaisa salook kabhi nigraani, ghar mein band rakhna ya cheezein chheen lena ban jaye, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi.
Sochiye purane ghar ki ek shaam is chaah se sulah ke saath: aap uska kya karna chunenge, aur kya aapko achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Darwaze se saath le jaane ka sachcha vaakya #
“Mummy-Papa ko samajhna chahiye ki ab main adult hoon” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo dekhein ya na dekhein, main adult hoon, aur ye mulaqat kaise bitaun ye mere haath mein hai.” Ise bas purane vaakya ke bagal mein khada hona hai.
Pehle-pehal ye udhaar ka lag sakta hai, ya kisi aur ke liye. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apna vaakya istemaal se jaana-pehchana ho jaata hai; kuch ko nahi, aur doosra hamesha aazmaya ja sakta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo apne bade hone ke ehsaas ko thaame rakhe aur maa-baap ki sehmati ka intezaar na kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch purane kirdaar darwaze par reh sakte hain #
Har chhoti chubhan ka jawab isi mulaqat mein dena zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, chupchaap kandhe uchkakar neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise almari mein pade school ke purane joote, ya palang ke neeche rakha trophies ka dibba.
Kuch ghar kuch samay tak pehle wale chhote aapko hi dekhte rahenge; wahan kuch saabit karna zaroori nahi. Agar chhota samjhe jaane ke saath kabhi dhamkiyan ya ghar mein band rakha jaana juda ho, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai. Aapka bade hone ka ehsaas nijee reh sakta hai, aur phir bhi aapka apna hai.
Aaj shaam ke liye is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki aaj raat ke har khaane mein purane kirdaar ko saath nahi baithna.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar purana kirdaar thoda dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja shaant hai. Adult samjhe jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par maa-baap ka sawaal bas ek sawaal hai, ghar chhodne ke baad ke barson par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: purane kamre mein baithkar apni shaam khud chunna, koi naam sunkar bina kuch kahe jaane dena, ya purane mohalle mein apni sharton par tahalna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota ho. Aage, is par nazar ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, thoda-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Is hafte ka ek faisla dekhiye jo aapne kisi se poochhe bina liya
- Jab purana naam aaye, dekhiye achanak aap kitne saal ke lagne lagte ho
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Kisi achhe din apne kaam par khade khud ko sochiye, aur dekhiye wo insaan kaun hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: aaj adult samjha jaana kaisa dikhta?
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Pehli baar aapne khud ko sach mein bada kab mehsoos kiya, aur tab aap kahan the?
- Maa-baap ka kaun-sa sawaal aapko phir pandrah saal ka bana deta hai, aur wahi kyun?
- Maa-baap ke ghar mein daakhil hone ke ek ghante ke bheetar aapke saath kya hota hai?
- Agar maa-baap se adult samjhe jaane ki chaah thodi halki ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Maa-baap pehle se kaun-si chhoti baat karte hain jo aapko adult ki tarah leti hai?