Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isme ek ankaha faisla bhi chhipa hota hai ki kya ginaa jayega: kaun si feeling ki ijaazat hai, kaun sa shauq “serious” hai, kaun sa mazaak kamre mein chalega.
“Tumhari umar mein hum ghar chala rahe the.”
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Meri feelings zaroorat se zyada hain,” ya “Jiski mujhe parwah hai, wo tab tak nahi ginaa jaata jab tak serious na lage.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Baat beech mein chhodkar vishay badal dena
- Palatkar behes karna, phir lagna ki behes ne hi unki baat saabit kar di
- Shauq ya mazaak sirf un doston ke liye rakhna jo kuch nahi kahenge
- Us insaan ke saamne hamesha ke liye sapaat aur gambhir ho jaana
- Baad mein baar-baar dohrana, koi shaant, zyada “samajhdaar” jawab ratte hue
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Chhat par chhakka, neeche se taana
Sunday ki shaam, colony ki chhat par cricket. Tanki wicket hai, chhat se bahar gayi to out. Aap chhakka maarkar zor se chillate ho, bachchon ke saath naachte ho. Neeche se Tauji ki awaaz aati hai: “Shaadi ki umar ho gayi, aur ye bachpana! Umar dekho apni.” Bagal wali chhat par sab hans padte hain. Aap bhi hanskar balla kisi bachche ko thama dete ho, par baaki shaam das saal ke hone jaisa lagta hai.
Bachkana lagoon to baat ki keemat nahi
Ye shabd aise niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Logon ko main bachkana lagoon, to meri baat ki koi keemat nahi.” Ye izzat chahne jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki khushiyan aur raay kisi aur ki manzoori ka intezaar karne lagti hain. Apni banayi comic, Sunday ka cricket, kisi ko bataya hi nahi jaata. Bharosa is par tik jaata hai ki kamre mein aap kitne serious dikhte ho.
Seriously liya jaana kyun mayne rakhta
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki seriously liya jaana mayne rakhta hai. Shayad aap ghar mein sabse chhote the aur har baar suna, “Tujhe kya pata.” Shayad jo aapko pasand tha, uska sabne mazaak udaya. Dono tarah se, ye niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye izzat aur sune jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Saalon ki mehnat ke baad bhi wo purana ehsaas laut aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Jo pasand hai, use chhipana
Har “bachpana chhodo” aapse thoda aur chhipwata hai. Aap batana band kar dete ho ki kis cheez se josh aata hai. Ghar ki baatcheet mein apni raay apne paas rakhte ho. Jab bada feel karna chahte ho, tab chhota feel hota hai. Fit hone ke liye saath mein hans dete ho. Dheere-dheere aapka khilandra, jigyasu hissa chup hone lagta hai, aur wo cheezein chhootne lagti hain jinse zindagi mein maza hai.
Kya chhipana is keemat ke layak?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: jo pasand hai use chhipane se kya kabhi logon ne aapko zyada seriously liya? Ya zyadatar bas aur chhota feel hua? Unke shabd unki marzi the, aur wo pyaar bhare nahi the. Jo aapko achha lagta hai, wo aapki samajhdaari ka paimana nahi, na iska ki aapki raay ginaa jaaye ya nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Jo pasand hai, wo pasand hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo taana sahi tha. Matlab ye hai ki aapki khushiyan aur raay ginaa ja sakti hain, chahe koi bhi aankhein ghumaye. Jo pasand hai use pasand kiya ja sakta hai, aur phir bhi ek samajhdaar, bada insaan raha ja sakta hai. Dono ek saath sach ho sakte hain. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapka khilandra hissa reh sakta hai, aur “bachpana chhodo” usi ke paas reh sakta hai jisne kaha.
If someone keeps putting you down, threatens, hurts or frightens you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; staying quiet can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleLogon ko main bachkana lagoon, to meri baat ki koi keemat nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleJo mujhe pasand hai wo pasand hai, meri baat phir bhi ginaa jaati hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Bees minute kisi pasandida cheez par lagaiye, bas apne liye
- Din 2
Apni ek raay ka naam lijiye jis par aapko garv hai
- Din 3
Jab wo shabd lautein, to ek dheemi saans leejiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab unhone ye kaha, usse theek pehle aapne kya kaha ya dikhaya tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek taana jis par baat khatam ho jaati hai #
Match haarne par awaaz bharra jaye to Papa, family lunch par koi zor se hans de to bada cousin, team meeting mein koi fikr uthaye to manager. Ya neeche se chhat ki taraf Tauji: “Bachpana chhodo ab.” Ye aata hai, aur jo kaha ja raha tha, wahin ruk jaata hai.
Ye chhota hai aur lagbhag salah jaisa lagta hai, par jo kaha gaya uska jawab shayad hi deta hai. Ye baat ko feeling, mazaak ya shauq se hatakar umar ke sawaal par le jaata hai, aur asli baat wahin zameen par padi reh jaati hai.
Aakhri baar ye suna, tab aapne abhi-abhi kya kaha ya dikhaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kya kisi ne baad mein us asli baat par lautkar poochha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Khud ko chhota feel karna #
Koi batata hai ki chehre par garmi chadh aati hai, jabda kas jaata hai, aur paintees ki umar mein bhi achanak barah saal ka hone jaisa lagta hai. Koi baat ke beech mein chup ho jaata hai; kisi ko turant behes karne ka mann karta hai. Isme zaroorat se zyada sensitive hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Yun jhatak diye jaane ka asar body mein ek-do second mein aa jaata hai, sochne se pehle. Kuch logon ko saaf baat baad mein soojhti hai, metro mein ya raat ko jagte hue, wo saare shaant jawab jo der se pahunche.
Us par gaur karna aksar pehla sachcha suraag hota hai ki jo aap keh rahe the, wo aapke liye kitna mayne rakhta tha.
Us baat ke theek baad aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baat ka nahi, insaan ka jawab #
“Ye plan nahi chalega” ek plan ki baat hai. “Bachpana chhodo” plan ko chhodkar kehne wale par jaata hai, jaise kisi cheez ki parwah karna hi galti ho. Mann label ko un shabdon se kahin zyada zor se sunta hai jo usse pehle kahe gaye the.
Isme ek ankaha faisla bhi chhipa hota hai ki kya ginaa jayega: kaun si feeling ki ijaazat hai, kaun sa shauq “serious” hai, kaun sa mazaak kamre mein chalega. Jab faisla ankaha rahe, to jawab dene ko kuch saaf nahi hota, aur chubhan ke paas jaane ko koi jagah nahi bachti.
Isiliye ye us pal ke bahut baad tak chubh sakta hai.
Agar un shabdon ne aapki asli baat ko chhod diya, to wo kya tha jo aap chahte the ki wo sunein aur samjhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab taana apne aap chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Bewakoofi mat kar.” “Is umar mein kaun itni-si baat pe munh phulata hai?” “Apne paas rakh, bachkana lagega.” Kabhi-kabhi ye vaakya kuch zor se kahe jaane se pehle hi aa jaata hai.
Kehne wala shayad meelon door ho, par ab jaanch andar hoti hai: ek hansi nigal li jaati hai, ek idea kaat-chhaant diya jaata hai, ek chot “itni chhoti ki kya batana” wali file mein chali jaati hai. Aur kyunki ye aapki apni awaaz mein bolti hai, ye kisi aur ka taana nahi, samajhdaari lagti hai.
Jab ye kehti hai ki dheema karo, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya wo jo barson pehle kisi khaas kamre se, ya kisi chhat se, mili thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ye bachpan se shuru hua #
“Bade bachche zid nahi karte.” “Ye bachchon wali harkatein band karo.” “Tumhari umar mein hum ghar chala rahe the.” Kuch log ye sunte hue bade hue ki kuch feelings ya shauq chhote hone ki cheez hain, aur unhein peeche chhodna hi serious liye jaane ka raasta hai.
Kuch gharon mein bada hone ka matlab tha chup rehna, kaam ka hona aur zyada na uchhalna, aur iski wajahein har ghar mein alag hain. Jo reh jaata hai wo bachche ka chupchaap nikaala nateeja hai: zyada dikhana, ya “galat” cheez mein maza lena, sune jaane ki keemat par pad sakta hai.
Aapne pehli baar kab kisi feeling ya shauq ko dheema karna seekha, taaki wo samajhdaaron jaisa lage?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur zyadatar tab aas-paas kaun hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Meri feelings zaroorat se zyada hain,” ya “Jiski mujhe parwah hai, wo tab tak nahi ginaa jaata jab tak serious na lage.” Kuch log iska narm roop dhote hain: “Mujhe har baat jaldi chubhti hai, to baatein chhoti hi rakhoon.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo bas duniya ka chalan lagti hai, aur isiliye ise kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dhoop mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise aaj ke logon ke saath dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Sab chhota rakhne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai wo shauq jo sharm ki wajah se chhoot gaye, wo fikrein jo tabhi uthi jab bahut badi ho gayi, ya har meeting mein roka gaya ek mazaak. Kuch log ye batana bahut pehle band kar dete hain ki unhein kis cheez se josh aata hai, ye tay karne se bhi pehle ki ab parwah nahi.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har feeling ko pehle “samajhdaari ka test” pass karna pade, to baatein sambhali hui aur thodi feeki ho jaati hain, aur kareebi log bas edit kiya hua roop hi dekhte hain. Saal bhar mein wo editing bahut-si ankahi baaton mein badal sakti hai.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Din bhar khud ko edit karne mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: kuch jo karna chhod diya, kuch jo kehna chaha par nahi kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, sab chhota rakhte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “bachpana chhodo” andar zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad team group mein type karke mitaya gaya ek joke, awaaz dheemi karke dekha gaya match, project ki ek fikr jo “baad mein” ke liye rakhi, aur chhat ki seedhiyon par phir se chhoota balla.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur iski wajah se kuch badalna bhi zaroori nahi.
Usmein kya hai: meetings, messages, shauq, wo hansi aur fikrein jo aazmayi hi nahi gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya kinare reh jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Bada hona, par kiske hisaab se? #
Bade hone ke kai matlab hain: vaada nibhana, galti maanna, apnon ka khayal rakhna. Inmein se shayad hi kisi ka isse lena-dena hai ki koi zor se hansta hai, cartoon pasand karta hai, ya chot lagne par dukhi hota hai.
Bahut log, jinki serious naukriyan aur parivaar hain, ab bhi video games khelte hain, film mein ro padte hain, Sunday ko chhat par tennis ball se cricket khelte hain.
Kya kisi cheez ki parwah karna sach mein peeche reh jaane ki nishani hai, ya bas uski parwah karne ki?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar kisi kareebi dost ne theek yahi baat, isi lehje mein kahi hoti, to wo aapko bachkani lagti, ya bas sachchi aur sunne layak?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo asal mein keh kya rahe the: ek fikr, ek feeling, ek mazaak.
Kuch ko wo jagahein dikhti hain jahan unhein seriously liya jaata hai: ek dost jo aage sawaal poochhta hai, ek colleague jise yaad rehta hai, colony ka koi bachcha jo unhein dekhkar balla pakadna seekhta hai. Kuch ko lagta hai ki ye awaazein dheeme bolti hain.
Aapka kya tha, un shabdon ke aane aur baat ke umar par mudne se pehle?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inmein se kaun si awaaz aajkal aapke andar chup ho gayi hai, aur wo us baat ke baare mein kya kehti jo aap us din batana chah rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kisi ko badappan saabit karne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki jo kaha wo bachkana tha, na ye dikhana ki chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki un shabdon ka is par kam chale ki aapko kya pasand hai, aap kaun si baat uthate ho, aur baaki din kaise jaata hai.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo agli behes jeetne bhar ko “bade” dikhne ki koshish chhod dete hain. Kuch kamre sach mein nahi sunte, aur unhein parakhne ki zaroorat nahi; wahan baatein chhoti rakhna samajhdaari bhi ho sakta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar wo shabd unhi ke rehne dein, aur us pal ka bas wo hissa rakhein jo sach mein aapke kaam ka hai, agar koi hissa hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “main kuch zyada hi hoon” saalon se andar baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Jo mujhe lagta hai aur jo mujhe pasand hai, uski ijaazat har umar mein hai.”
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi, aur apni ek line, dheere se aur baar-baar kahi gayi, purane vaakya ki thodi jagah le leti hai. Kuch ko aisa nahi lagta, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapke baare mein sahi ho, bina iske ki kisi aur ko us par dastakhat karne pade?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “bachpana chhodo” ko palatkar jawab, bhashan ya agli baar zyada serious dikhne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise match ke baad balla seedhiyon ke kone mein tika dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un cheezon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinki unhein sach mein parwah hai, aur un logon ke liye jo unhein seriously lete hain.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki taana theek tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Wo shabd ek insaan ke shabd hain, iska paimana nahi ki kya mayne rakh sakta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kisi shaant Sunday ko phir se uthaya gaya shauq, ek fikr jis par tab gaur ho jab wo chhoti hi hai, kisi dost ke saath bina kaat-chhaant ki hansi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi bachpana-chhodo wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: us waqt meri asli baat kya thi?
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya lehja
- Koi ek cheez sochiye jo aapko pasand hai aur jise kisi ki manzoori nahi chahiye
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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