Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Bahar se dekho toh na pata hona hi naye hone ki pehchaan hai.
Bahut logon ki naye hone ki shuruaati yaadein hain: saal ke beech mein school mein aaya bachcha, doosre shehar se aaya cousin jiski boli alag thi, wo vidyarthi jise seniors ke qayde nahi pata the.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai ki naye hone ki ijaazat milne se pehle saabit karna padta hai ki aapki jagah yahan banti hai.
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Poochna hi band kar dena, aur andaze se kaam chalana
- Har baar sawaal poochna pade toh maafi maangna
- Der tak rukkar akele sab kuch jaldi seekhne ki koshish
- Lunch apni seat par khana, taaki koi anishchitata na dekhe
- Meeting mein tab tak chup rehna jab tak bolna surakshit na lage
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo portal jo kisi ne nahi dikhaya
Bathinda mein ek bank branch ka aapka teesra hafta. Manager sahab ko pichhle mahine ke aankde chahiye, us portal se jo kisi ne aapko dikhaya nahi. Aap bagal ke counter par poochte ho. Wo aah bharte hain: “Do hafte ho gaye, ab bhi nahi pata?” Do log sir uthate hain. Aap hans dete ho, do baar sorry bolte ho, aur agla ghanta akele purani mail khangalte ho. Lunch apni seat par.
Saabit karoon tabhi poochhoon
Sabse pehle, seedhe shabdon mein: teesre hafte mein portal na aana naye hone ki pehchaan hai, aap par faisla nahi. Par aise palon se ek niyam ug aata hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Poochne se pehle mujhe saabit karna hoga ki meri jagah banti hai.” Ye qabiliyat jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har sawaal kabuulnama lagne lagta hai, toh aap poochna band kar dete ho.
Hum jaldi ramna kyun chahte hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki nayi jagah par jaldi gambheerta se liya jaana chahte hain. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, aur aam hai. Shayad aap kabhi school mein naye bachche rahe ho. Shayad ye job aapke aur aapke gharwalon ke liye bahut maayne rakhti hai. Jo bhi ho, achha karna chahna naadani nahi. Wo apnapan chahne se aati hai. Use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har nigla hua sawaal
Jo har sawaal aap nigal jaate ho, uski thodi keemat lagti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Poochne ki jagah andaza lagate ho, phir kaam dobara karte ho. Ek minute ke jawab ke liye ghanta bhar dhoondhte ho. Lunch akele khate ho, taaki koi na dekhe ki aap kitne anishchit ho. Shaamein din dohrane mein jaati hain. Dosti wale pehle hafte chhupne mein nikal jaate hain.
Nayapan chhupana, keemat layak?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: is niyam ko pakde rakhne se kya kabhi yahan zyada thehraav laga? Ya zyadatar chup, thake aur chaukanne rahe? Aapke aaspaas har kisi ka kabhi pehla pakhwada tha, wahi khaali jagahein lekar. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein toh pal bhar is par thehriye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke layak hai?
Dheere-dheere pahunchne ki ijaazat
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani achhi thi, ya aap jaldi seekhna chhod do. Matlab ye ki naya hona wahi reh sakta hai jo wo hai. Aap poochh sakte ho ki portal kahan hai, jawab likh sakte ho, aur aage badh sakte ho. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek sawaal se. Yahin se chain lautta hai: aap dheere-dheere pahunch sakte ho, jaise kabhi har koi pahuncha tha.
If a new place ever brings threats, being frightened, or your passport, papers or pay being held, that is not everyday newness and is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana rulePoochne se pehle mujhe saabit karna hoga ki meri jagah banti hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMain yahan naya hoon. Poochna pahunchne ka hissa hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ab tak yahan jo teen cheezein seekhin, unhein mann mein ginie
- Kadam 2
Andaza lagane se pehle ek saans lekar sawaal ko dekhiye
- Kadam 3
Yahan ke us ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jisne kuch aasaan kiya
Is par baat karni hai?
“Wo ek sawaal kaun sa hai jo aap yahan poochne mein sharma rahe hain?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek chhota-sa sawaal, sabke saamne #
Bathinda mein bank ki branch, transfer ke baad aapka pehla mahina. Aap poochte ho ki kaun sa form kis counter par jaata hai, aur bagal ki seat se awaaz zara oonchi nikalti hai: “Do hafte ho gaye, ab bhi nahi pata?” Do-teen sir ghoomte hain. Koi muskurata hai. Aapne jo poocha, wo achanak bahut bada lagne lagta hai.
Aksar ye bina soche bol diya jaata hai, kisi aise ke munh se jo barson se yahan hai aur bhool chuka hai ki na pata hona kaisa lagta hai. Par naye aadmi ko ye is baat ka faisla lag sakta hai ki wo yahan tik paayega ya nahi.
Aakhri baar nayi jagah par aisa kuch kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapne kya poochha tha, aur agle kuch minuton mein aapne tay kya kiya ki dobara kuch poochenge ya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle hi chubh jaana #
Kisi ke kaan garm ho jaate hain aur awaaz chhoti. Koi hans deta hai aur do baar “Sorry-sorry” kehta hai. Koi yun sir hilata hai jaise bas bhool ho gayi ho, aur phir ghanta bhar purani files mein jawab chupchaap dhoondhta hai, kyunki dobara poochhne ki sharm zyada thi.
Nayi jagah par log waise bhi chaukanne rehte hain, pehle dekhte hain ki yahan kya chalta hai, phir kuch karte hain. Aisi tippani us chaukannepan par spotlight ki tarah girti hai, isliye asar sochne se pehle aata hai. Thande dimaag se dekhna aksar ghar ke raaste mein hota hai.
Un shabdon ke theek baad aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Samjhane ka mann hua, maafi maangne ka, ya screen mein gum ho jaane ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur ye is baare mein kya batata hai ki aap is nayi jagah ko kitna chalana chahte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Naya hona, dheema hona maan liya jaata hai #
“Aapko abhi tak ye dikhaya nahi gaya” batayi gayi baaton mein kami ki baat hai. “Ab bhi nahi pata?” usi kami ko aapki kami bana deta hai. Nayi jagah ke pehle hafton mein, jab aap pehle hi khud ko kaskar dekh rahe hon, yahi fark bahut bada lag sakta hai.
Bahar se dekho toh na pata hona hi naye hone ki pehchaan hai. Har jagah darjanon chhoti ankahi baatein chalti hain: kis kaagaz par kiske dastkhat, chai kahan achhi milti hai, kaun si meeting asal mein maayne rakhti hai, aur koi inhein pandrah din mein handbook se nahi seekhta.
Isiliye ek tippani poore hafte ko rang sakti hai.
Agar lehja hata dein, toh aapko kya nahi pata tha, aur kya dikhaye bina kisi ko ab tak pata hona mumkin tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tippani andar se bolne lage #
Bure din ek baar sun lo toh andar aa baithti hai. “Baaki sabne ye kitni jaldi seekh liya.” “Ab tak pachta rahe honge ki mujhe rakha.” “Mujhe toh ye ab tak aana chahiye tha.” Kuch poochne ke liye munh kholne se pehle hi chalu ho sakti hai, aur chup kara deti hai.
Jisne kaha tha use shayad yaad bhi na ho, par vaakya chalta rehta hai, aur ab aapki apni awaaz jaisa lagta hai. Yahi ise pakadna mushkil banata hai: ye ab ek aadmi ki besabri nahi lagti, ye aap kaise chal rahe hain, iski sahi report lagti hai.
Jab ye kehti hai ki ab tak aana chahiye tha, toh kiski awaaz istemaal karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi purane kamre se layi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai logon ke liye naya hona hamesha jokhim raha #
Bahut logon ki naye hone ki shuruaati yaadein hain: saal ke beech mein school mein aaya bachcha, doosre shehar se aaya cousin jiski boli alag thi, wo vidyarthi jise seniors ke qayde nahi pata the. Kuch ne tab seekha ki saaf dikhta naya hona jaldi chhupane ki cheez hai.
Kuch parivaaron aur schoolon mein buniyadi sawaal ka jawab “Dhyaan se sunna chahiye tha” milta tha, jawab nahi. Wajahein alag-alag thi, kai baar bade bas vyast the. Insaan chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki na pata hona sharm ki cheez hai.
Naya hona pehli baar kab katghare jaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab aap kahan the, aur sawaal poochne ke baare mein aapne tab kya seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai ki naye hone ki ijaazat milne se pehle saabit karna padta hai ki aapki jagah yahan banti hai. Wo aise bol sakti hai: “Yahan apni jagah mujhe kamani hogi,” “Madad maangna yaani haar,” “Kisi bhi din unhein pata chal jayega.”
Aisi maanyataayein maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Wo bas samajh jaisi lagti hain ki office kaise chalte hain, utni hi seedhi jitna farsh farsh lagta hai, isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikalkar dhoop mein dekh lena theek hai.
Kuch ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: na pata hone par tippani milti hai, toh kabhi na pata dikhne do.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nayapan chhupane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ek ghanta us cheez ko dhoondhne mein lagana jo koi saathi ek minute mein dikha deta, ya koi kaam lambe raaste se karna kyunki poochna bura laga. Kuch log hafton kisi ka naam theek se nahi seekhte, kyunki dobara poochna ab der aur atapata lagta hai.
Ek chupchaap keemat bhi hai: lunch mein jab sabke tiffin khulte hain aur achaar ka dabba ghoomta hai, dheema dikhne ka dar aapko apni seat par rok sakta hai, un chhoti baaton se door jahan apnapan aksar shuru hota hai.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Jis jagah abhi ram nahi paaye, wahan rama hua dikhna thaka deta hai.
In pehle hafton mein iski keemat kya rahi: akele khaya lunch, wo galti jo ek sawaal rok deta, shaam jo din dohrane mein gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, nayapan chhupate hue #
Kuch saal baad ke ek aam Monday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Poochne se pehle mujhe saabit karna hoga ki meri jagah banti hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad raat ko akele seekha hua koi naya tool, meeting jismein bina pakka jaane sir hilaya gaya, koi kaam jo do baar hua kyunki pehla andaza galat nikla. Shayad bagal ki seat par koi naya bhi, aapko dekhta ki poochne ki ijaazat hai ya nahi.
Abhi inmein se kisi ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, dabaaye hue sawaal, lunch?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhne par, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Do hafte, kiske muqable? #
Zyadatar logon ko nayi jagah sach mein ghar jaisi lagne mein hafte nahi, mahine lagte hain, aur jisne kaha tha, uske bhi apne pehle pandrah din the jab use pata nahi tha ki sab kahan hai. Ho sakta hai wo bas bhool gaya ho ki wo kaisa lagta hai.
Aksar jawab chhota aur thos hota hai: kisi ne portal nahi samjhaya, process pichhle mahine badli, jo akela jaanta tha wo chhutti par tha.
Poochiye: do hafte, kiske muqable?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya aapko ye dikhaya gaya tha, ya hawa se sokh lene ki ummeed thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur taraf se: agar aapki purani team mein koi aata aur doosre hafte yahi sawaal poochta, toh aap use kya kehte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Dheema, ya bas naya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheeme se dohrate hain, toh kai dekhte hain ki wo tippani us saathi ki vyast dopahar ke baare mein utni hi thi jitni unke baare mein. Deadline se joojhta aadmi jitna chahe usse zyada teekha bol jaata hai, aur shabd sochne se pehle nikal jaate hain.
Kuch un shaant palon ko dekhte hain jo bhula diye gaye: jisne canteen dikhayi, wo senior jisne kaha “Chal koi nee, kuch bhi poochh lena”, chauthe din jo chhota kaam achhe se hua. Aise pal feeke pad jaate hain, aur teekha wala poora baar-baar chalta hai.
Inmein se kaun se shaant pal pehle yaad aate hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur agar har seekhi hui chhoti baat ginee jaye, toh aapke pehle hafton ka sahi hisaab kaisa dikhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Naya hone ki ijaazat #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani achhi thi, ya aapko jaldi seekhne ki chaah nahi rakhni chahiye. Matlab ye ki naya hona wahi reh sakta hai jo wo hai: kuch khaali jagahon wala waqt, jisse aapke aaspaas har kisi ko kabhi guzarna pada tha.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo rama hua dikhne ki koshish chhodkar bas kuch waqt naye rehne dete hain. Jaanne ka dikhawa thaka deta hai, aur un darwaazon ko band karta hai jo sawaal kholte hain, un chhoti baaton tak bhi jo saathiyon ko jaan-pehchan wala banati hain.
Kaisa lagega agar tippani unhi ki rehne dein, aur sirf kaam ki baat rakhein, ki ab aapko kya pata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Pehle hafton ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar pehle din se “Mujhe ye ab tak aana chahiye” chal raha hai, toh usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Main yahan naya hoon. Abhi na pata hona pahunchne ka hissa hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane se zyada sateek hona kaafi hai, aur kuch log paate hain ki sawaal poochne se pehle dheere se kehne par sharmindagi jitni jagah gherti thi, usmein se thodi khaali ho jaati hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo achha karne ki aapki chaah banaye rakhe aur naye hone ke liye jagah chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Nayi jagah ki har teekhi tippani ko jawab, agli baar behtar uttar ya khud ko saabit karne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke aakhir mein I-card mez par chhod dete hain.
Ye achha karna chhodna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki urja kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse kaam seekhne ke liye, aur un saathiyon ke liye jagah bachti hai jo aapke aane se sachmuch khush lagte hain.
Shaam ke liye neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya aap phir uske baare mein nahi sochenge. Bas itna ki wo ghar saath nahi aayegi, aur khane ki mez par nahi baithegi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya. Aap ab bhi jaldi seekhna chahte hain, par ek sawaal bas ek sawaal hai, koi kabuulnama nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina pehle sorry bole poochh lena ki kuch kahan hai, logon ke naam pakke na hone par bhi unke saath lunch par baithna, ya din ki khaali jagahein khuli rakhkar waqt par nikal jaana.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Aapke din mein sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Ghar ke raaste mein mann mein teen cheezein ginie jo aaj seekhin
- Andaza lagane se pehle dekhiye ki ek sawaal ghanta bacha sakta hai kya
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi naye-aadmi wali chubhan”
- Yahan ke kisi ek aadmi ko yaad kijiye jisne cheezein aasaan ki, aur use ginne dijiye
- Hafte ke aakhir mein dekhiye ki kaun si ek cheez ab ho paati hai jo pehle nahi hoti thi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Wo ek sawaal kaun sa hai jo aap yahan poochne mein sharma rahe hain?
- Naye hone ko jokhim bhara pehli baar kisne mehsoos karaya?
- Yahan aap pehle hi kya seekh chuke hain jiska koi aapko shreya nahi deta?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya apne tak rakh rahe honge?
- Agar ye zara dheela ho, toh aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?