Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Zyadatar log apnon ki madad khushi se karte hain.
Bahut log ghar mein wo samajhdaar bankar bade hue: jo bachcha poore parivaar ke form bharta tha, jis cousin ko sab phone kharab hone par bulate the, jiske paas hamesha notes hote the.
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhe tabhi chaha jaata hai jab main kaam aaun,” ya “Na kaha to rishta gaya.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Soche bina hi “haan” keh dena
- Madad karna, aur phir dinon tak chupchaap kasak rakhna
- Mann hi mann hisaab rakhna ki kitna diya aur kitna lauta
- Message bina khole chhod dena, phir chhodne ka bura lagna
- Mazaak bana dena: “Lo, help desk phir khul gaya”
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Aadhi raat ki presentation
Nashik, raat ke gyarah baje. Phone par cousin bhai ka naam chamakta hai. Uska pichhla message March mein aaya tha, jab uska laptop kharab tha. Ab: “Tumhare liye to chutki ka kaam hai, bas zara-sa dekh lo na?” Kal subah nau baje uski office presentation hai. Aap file kholte ho, zara aah bharkar, aur ek baje tak theek karte ho. Uska thumbs-up aata hai. Phir chat chup.
Na kaha to rishta gaya
Pehli baat, saaf shabdon mein: zyadatar kaam ke liye bulaya jaana is baat ka saboot nahi ki aap tabhi maayne rakhte hain jab kaam aayein. Par aise palon se ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ban jaata hai: “Mana kiya to wo mujhe apne paas nahi rakhte.” Ye bhalmansahat jaisa lagta hai. Par isse har maang imtihaan ban jaati hai, aur aapki haan chunav nahi rehti.
Kaam aana apnapan jaisa kyun lagta
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki kaam aana chahe jaane ke kareeb lagta hai, aur madad karna aksar apnapan paane ka raasta raha hai. Ye bahut insaani chaahat hai, aur aam hai. Shayad ghar mein aap samajhdaar the, har form bharte the. Shayad ek baar na kehne par thandi chuppi mili. Jo bhi ho, paas rehna chahna kamzori nahi. Use daya chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har waqt taiyaar, chupchaap hisaab
Niyam aapko har waqt taiyaar rakhta hai. Kuch naamon ke saath halki ghabrahat aati hai. Aap haan pehle keh dete ho, dekhte baad mein ho ki mann bhi tha ya nahi. Apni shaamein aur plan agle hafte khisakte rehte hain. Chupchaap hisaab chalta hai ki kitna diya aur kitna lauta, aur kasak ankahi baithi rehti hai. Dheere-dheere pyaare message bhi agle kaam ki bhoomika lagne lagte hain.
Kya kaam aane ki keemat sahi hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se aapko kabhi apne liye chahe jaane ka ehsaas hua? Ya zyadatar aapke hisse mein vyastata, thakaan aur thodi andekhi aayi? Aapki bhalmansahat sachchi hai, aur aapki keemat tab bhi hai jab aapke paas dene ko kuch na ho. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal iske saath baithiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke layak hai?
Aapki haan phir tohfa bane
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap madad karna band kar dein, ya pattern chubhta nahi. Matlab ye ki logon ki life mein aapki jagah kaam aane par nahi tiki. Aap isliye madad kar sakte ho ki aapne chaha, aur bina bura lage apni ek shaam apne liye rakh sakte ho. Shuruaat ek maang se ho sakti hai. Yahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: aapki haan phir ek tohfa ban jaati hai.
If someone close ever makes demands with threats, frightens you, or holds money or papers over you, that is not okay and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMana kiya to wo mujhe apne paas nahi rakhte.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMadad mera chunav hai. Meri keemat har haal mein hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Haan kehne se pehle use das second dijiye
- Din 2
Ek aise insaan ka naam lijiye jo bas baat karne ko phone kare
- Din 3
Is hafte ki ek shaam apne liye rakhiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapko darr kis baat ka hai, agar aap unke kaam ke na rahein?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wo message jo bas kaam padne par aata hai #
Raat ke gyarah baje, Nashik mein College Road ke flat par phone jalta hai: cousin bhai ka naam. Aakhri message March mein aaya tha. Ab: “Tumhare liye to chutki ka kaam hai, bas zara-sa dekh lo na.” Kabhi resume, kabhi koi form, kabhi kal subah ki presentation.
Baatein meethi hoti hain, yahan tak ki taareef jaisi, aur kaam aksar chhota. Isiliye chubhan ka naam rakhna mushkil hai. Maangna nahi chubhta. Chubhta ye hai ki phone tab bajta hai jab kuch karwana ho, aur tab shayad hi, jab bas baat karni ho.
Aisa message aakhri baar kab aaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Unse aakhri baar kab baat hui thi, aur jawab dene se theek pehle ke us ek pal mein aapko kya laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Naam dekhte hi halki ghabrahat kyun #
Naam chamakte hi ek jhilmilahat, mann hi mann andaaza ki is baar kya chahiye, aur phir aksar “haan” type ho chuki hoti hai, aapke tay karne se pehle hi. Kuch ko chahe jaane ki halki garmi lagti hai, kuch ko thakaan, aur kai ko dono. Isme kuch bhi zyada sensitive hona nahi hai.
Zyadatar logon ke liye kaam aana maayne rakhta hai, isliye maang sochne se pehle hi haan nikalwa leti hai. Ek shaant ehsaas, ki aapse aapke kaam ke liye poocha ja raha hai, aapke liye nahi, der se aata hai, kaam ho jaane aur chat ke phir chup ho jaane ke baad.
Naam dikhte hi aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Turant madad karne ka mann hua, rukne ka, ya message na dekhne ka natak karne ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us pehle khinchaav se kya pata chalta hai ki aap is baar kya ummeed kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Kaam ke, par kya chahe bhi gaye? #
Sirf kaam ke liye bulaya jaana isliye chubhta hai ki wo is sawaal ko chhoota hai ki log aapko aapki wajah se chahte hain, ya bas isliye ki aap kya kar sakte hain. Har maang apne aap mein chhoti ho sakti hai. Chubhti hai aadat: wo apnapan jo sirf tab dikhta hai jab kuch karwana ho.
Zyadatar log apnon ki madad khushi se karte hain. Dard tab hota hai jab madad hi poora rishta ban jaye, aur uska doosra hissa, ki koi poochhe aapka hafta kaisa raha, ya aapki koi khabar yaad rakhe, chupchaap kabhi aaye hi nahi.
Pichhli kuch baar jab unhone sampark kiya, to kitni baar kisi kaam ke liye tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur unhone aakhri baar aapka haal bas yoon hi kab poochha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab kaam aana aapki jagah bolne lage #
Waqt ke saath ek doosri awaaz jud jaati hai. “Kya meri bas kaam ki hi poochh hai?” “Mana kiya to phone aana hi band ho jaata hai.” “Kam-se-kam kisi kaam ke liye to yaad karte hain.” Kabhi-kabhi ye naam dikhte hi, message padhne se pehle chalu ho jaati hai.
Saamne wala shayad bas itna sochta hai ki inhein aata hai, aur aage kuch nahi. Par ye vaakya chalta rehta hai, aur ab ye aapki apni seedhi samajh jaisa lagta hai. Isiliye pakadna mushkil hai: ye niyam nahi, haqeeqat jaisa lagta hai.
Jab ye kehti hai ki bane rehne ke liye kaam ka hona zaroori hai, to awaaz kiski hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi khaas ghar se bahut pehle uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai logon ke liye kaam aana hi apnapan tha #
Bahut log ghar mein wo samajhdaar bankar bade hue: jo bachcha poore parivaar ke form bharta tha, jis cousin ko sab phone kharab hone par bulate the, jiske paas hamesha notes hote the. Kuch ke liye kaam aana hi apni jagah mehsoos karne ka sabse pakka raasta ban gaya.
Kuch ne seekha ki pyaar tab aasani se milta hai jab aap kaam aa rahe hon, aur “na” kehne par thandi chuppi ya aahat nazar milti hai. Wajahein ghar-ghar alag hain. Jo reh jaata hai wo ek chupchaap ehsaas hai ki aapka swagat is par tika hai ki aap logon ke liye kya kar sakte hain.
Kaam aana pehli baar kab kareeb bane rehne ki keemat jaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab sochte hain ki sabse pehle kise aapka kaam aana zaroori tha, to kaun yaad aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche banta ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhe tabhi chaha jaata hai jab main kaam aaun,” ya “Na kaha to rishta gaya.” Kuch log naram roop dhote hain: “Na kehna khudgarzi hai, aur mera waqt unke waqt se kam maayne rakhta hai.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo bas achha aur madadgaar insaan hona lagti hai, aur isiliye ise dhoop mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai, jaise purana naqsha bharosa karne se pehle ek baar jaanch lete hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: kaam aana logon ko paas rakhta hai, isliye kabhi kaam aana na chhodo.
Ye kin rishton mein ab bhi fit hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Help desk bane rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai kisi aur ki deadline mein khoyi shaamein, un logon ke kaam mein gaye weekend jo aapke baare mein nahi poochhte, aur phone jo utsaah nahi, halki ghabrahat laata hai. Kuch log apna kaam karna hi chhod dete hain, kyunki kisi aur ki maang hamesha pehle aati hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab log mukhya taur par aapke kaam ke liye aate hain, to yaqeen karna mushkil ho jaata hai ki koi aapko aap hi ki wajah se chahta hai, aur pyaar bhare message bhi agle kaam ki bhoomika jaise lagne lagte hain.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Dete rehna aur andekha mehsoos karna thakata hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski kya keemat rahi: apni ek shaam, koi plan jo taal diya, koi kasak jo chupchaap rakhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, help desk bane hue #
Kisi aam Wednesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mujhe tabhi chaha jaata hai jab main kaam aaun” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, kuch theek karne ki nahi.
Shayad aadhi raat ko cousin bhai ka resume, jo thank you bhi nahi kehta, kisi dost ka weekend wala kaam jo aapka weekend nahi poochhta, har baar phone jalne par halki ghabrahat. Shayad aapka apna plan phir agle hafte khisak gaya.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: message, kaam, shaamein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Madad maangi gayi, ya bas madad hi maangi gayi? #
Madad maanga jaana bharose ki nishani bhi ho sakta hai. Log aksar uske paas jaate hain jise qaabil aur bharosemand maante hain. Ye sach bhi ho sakta hai, aur phir bhi chubh sakta hai ki maang hi zyadatar rishta hai. Dono baatein saath-saath reh sakti hain.
Jawab aksar mila-jula hota hai, aur ye jaanna ki kaun sa hissa andaaza hai, is faisle se dekhna aasaan kar deta hai ki aapki keemat sirf kaam aane tak hai.
Poochhiye: wo aapko kaise dekhte hain, iske baare mein aap asal mein kya jaante hain, aur kya pattern se padh rahe hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur tareeka: agar koi kareebi dost bataye ki use log sirf kaam ke liye phone karte hain, to kya aap kahenge ki isse saabit hua ki wo kaam aane par hi kisi ke liye maayne rakhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ya aap dekhenge ki wo bahut deta hai, aur thoda lautna chahta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Gaur se dekhne par kuch ko dikhta hai ki “haan” pehle aa jaati hai, isse pehle ki jaanchein ki dena chahte bhi hain ya nahi. Madad karne ki aadat itni tez hai ki apni chaahton ko bolne ki baari hi nahi milti.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo bina kaam ke phone karte hain, jo chhoti baatein yaad rakhte hain. Kuch paate hain ki inhein unse kam waqt mila hai jo bas kaam padne par phone karte hain.
Aapki life mein kaun bina kisi maang ke sampark karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur agar unke phone ko utni hi ahmiyat mile jitni kaamon ko, to aapka hafta kaisa dikhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Apni marzi se madad karna #
Sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki pattern theek hai, ya kabhi madad na karna. Matlab ye ki har maang aapke baare mein kam tay kare, aur aapki haan aisi cheez bane jo aap dete hain, na ki sochne se pehle aapse khinch jaane wali.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har kaam ko is imtihaan ki tarah dekhna chhod dete hain ki ab bhi chahe jaate hain ya nahi. Apni marzi se di gayi madad mein garmjoshi hoti hai. Kisi ko kho dene ke darr se di gayi madad, bhale sab sahi rahe, kadwa swaad chhodti hai.
Kaisa lagega agar aap tab madad karein jab chahein, aur dheemi haan ya chupchaap “is baar nahi” bhi aapke hone ka utna hi hissa ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Mujhe tabhi chaha jaata hai jab main kaam aaun” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachchi line rakhte hain: “Mujhe madad karna achha lagta hai, aur kuch na de paane par bhi mujhe jaanna saarthak hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane se zyada sahi hona kaafi hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki dheere-dheere aur baar-baar kehne par ye purane niyam ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapki narmi rakhe par use bane rehne ki keemat na banaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har maang ka jawab aaj raat nahi chahiye, aur har pattern par lamba sochna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke baad laptop band karke band hi rehne dein.
Ye berukhi nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse unke liye, jo unke baare mein poochhte hain, aur un kaamon ke liye jo khud ke liye taal rakhe the, zyada jagah bachti hai.
Shaam bhar ke liye neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo kaam aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Aap ab bhi aksar aur khushi se madad karte hain, par logon ki life mein aapki jagah is par nahi tiki.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina purani ghabrahat ke koi maang padhna, koi kaam isliye karna ki mann tha, ya bina bura lage apni ek shaam bachana.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Haan banti hui mehsoos ho to use nikalne se pehle das second dijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mera mann hai, ya na kehne se dar raha hoon?
- Ek aisa insaan yaad kijiye jo bina maang ke phone karta hai, aur use ginie
- Mann mein naam lijiye ki is hafte aap apne liye kya chahte hain
- Madad ke baad gaur kijiye ki kaisa laga: garm, thakaan, ya dono
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapko darr kis baat ka hai, agar aap unke kaam ke na rahein?
- Aapki life mein kaun aapko bas yoon hi apne paas chahta hai?
- Aap chahenge ki wo aapke baare mein ek baar kya poochhein?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kis baat par haan keh rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?