Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Usme aapka waqt, aapki jaagi hui raatein, aapki fikr aur shabd chunne ki saavdhaani hoti hai.
Kai log chhoti umar mein hi samajhdaar wale ban gaye.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Meri madad tabhi ginti jaati hai jab wo use maane.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Wahi salah thodi unchi awaaz mein dobara de dena
- “Jo mann mein aaye karo” keh dena, aur baad mein bura lagna
- Raat ke phone uthana band kar dena, phir unki fikr karna
- Mann hi mann ginna ki kitni baar aapki salah sahi nikli
- Shanti banaye rakhne ke liye jo sach mein sochte hain, wo daba lena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Bornali ki call, wahi sawaal
Tezpur mein raat ke gyarah baje, aapka phone chamakta hai. Bornali hai, phir usi boyfriend ki baat jisne ek aur baar plan cancel kiya. Pichhle mahine aap ghante bhar baat kar chuke the, aur usne kaha tha, “tum sahi keh rahe ho yaar, main bol dungi.” Usne nahi bola. Ab uski awaaz chhoti hai: “Yaar, ab main kya karun?” Aap wahi baat kehne ko muh kholte ho, aur bahut, bahut thake hue lagte ho.
Madad tabhi gine jab maani jaye
Pehle seedhi baat: dost ka aapki salah na maanna iska saboot nahi ki aapki parwah bekaar gayi. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo aapka apna ban jaata hai: “Meri madad tabhi ginti jaati hai jab wo maane.” Ye parwah jaisa sunai deta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: uska har choice aapki pariksha ban jaata hai, aur uska dheema badalna aapki haar lagne lagta hai.
Hamein apni madad kyun chalani hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki hum usse pyaar karte hain aur uska dard rukwana chahte hain. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, aur aam hai. Shayad ghar mein aap hi samajhdaar wale the, jo cheezein theek karte the. Shayad kaam aana hi kareeb rehne ka tareeka tha. Jo bhi ho, madad karna chahna nadaani nahi. Wo kaam aane ki chaah se aata hai. Use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Uske choices lekar so jaana
Ye niyam call ke baad bhi aapke saath chalta hai. Aap jaage hue uski problem dohrate ho. Agli baar ke liye behtar shabd ratte ho. Mann hi mann ginte ho ki kitni baar aapki salah sahi nikli. Aapki apni fikrein phir peeche intezaar karti hain. Aur jab bhi uska naam chamakta hai, ek chhota dar aata hai, jabki aap usse pyaar karte ho aur wo aap par sabse zyada bharosa karti hai.
Kya ye uthaye phirna theek hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochiye: kya ye niyam pakde rakhne se salah kabhi jaldi pahunchi? Ya zyadatar aap wo choices uthate rahe jo aapke the hi nahi? Log dheere badalte hain, aur kya karna hai ye jaanna taiyaar hone jaisa nahi hota. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal is par rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke laayak hai?
Uska dost, mechanic nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap uski parwah chhod do, ya ki ye chakkar thakata nahi. Matlab ye ki aapki parwah tab bhi ginti jaati hai jab aapke shabd intezaar karein. Aap sun sakte ho, jo aapke paas hai de sakte ho, aur use uska rehne de sakte ho. Shuruaat ek call se ho sakti hai. Yahin se sukoon lautta hai: aap uske dost reh paate ho, uske mechanic nahi.
If a friend tells you they are being hurt, threatened or frightened, or someone has their money or papers, that is not everyday and is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri madad tabhi ginti jaati hai jab wo maane.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleKhule mann se dena mere haath mein hai. Aage ka unka hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Jawab se pehle aah ko notice kijiye aur jaane dijiye
- Din 2
Lambi call ke baad sirf apne liye teen dheemi saansein lijiye
- Din 3
Aaj apni ek fikr ka naam lijiye jo parwah ki haqdaar hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Sabse pehle aapko unki madad karne ka mann kyun hua tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wahi sawaal, phir se #
Raat ki call par koi dost, family group par koi cousin, chai ke thele par koi colleague. Wo apni problem batate hain, aap saath baithkar sochte ho, wo kehte hain “tum sahi keh rahe ho yaar.” Phir wo ulta kar dete hain, aur kuch hafte baad wahi problem wahi sawaal leke laut aati hai.
Shabdon mein buraai nahi. Aksar unmein bharosa hota hai: sabse pehle aapka number lagta hai. Chubhta hai ye chakkar, yaani parwah aur sochte jaana ek aisi cheez mein jo neeche se seedhi beh jaati lagti hai.
Wahi sawaal doosri ya teesri baar aakhri baar kab suna tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jawab dene se pehle aapne sabse pehle kya feel kiya: thakaan, unki fikr, ya kuch teekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jawab dene se pehle ki chhoti-si aah #
Kai log ek chhota-sa thehraav feel karte hain, ek lambi saans, aankhon ke peeche bhaaripan. Kisi ko ek pal ki chidh aati hai aur phir usi par guilt. Koi bina soche wahi purane shabd thode feeke karke bolne lagta hai. Isme kuch bhi bure dost hone jaisa nahi.
Jab hum kisi ki help karte hain, mann ka ek hissa chahta hai ki uska koi matlab nikle. Salah ka bekaar jaana aisa lag sakta hai jaise mehnat hawa ho gayi, aur mann barbaad mehnat ko jaldi pakad leta hai, uske pehle ki wo unki zindagi ki baaki baatein soche.
Sawaal laut aane par aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur us pehli reaction se shayad pata chalta hai ki calls ke beech chupchaap aap unke liye kitna uthaye ghoom rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Madad maangi gayi, phir suni nahi gayi #
Salah maangi jaana bharose jaisa lagta hai. Uska ansuna jaana aisa lagta hai jaise sunkar ek taraf rakh diya gaya. Jab wahi problem lautti hai, to mann aksar use unki jaddojahad se zyada is saboot ki tarah sunta hai ki aapke shabdon se kuch nahi badla.
Salah sirf information nahi hoti. Usme aapka waqt, aapki jaagi hui raatein, aapki fikr aur shabd chunne ki saavdhaani hoti hai. Jab wo use na ho, to lagta hai ye sab bhi bekaar gaya, sirf suggestion nahi.
Isiliye tab bhi chubh sakta hai jab choice hamesha unhi ki thi.
Agar dard choice ka nahi, to phir kis baat ka hai: ansune hone ka, thakaan ka, ya unki fikr ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab chakkar andar bolne lage #
Kuch rounds ke baad ek commentary shuru ho sakti hai. “Ye mujhse poochte hi kyun hain?” “Mere kehne se kuch nahi badalta.” “Lo, phir wahi.” Ye tab chalu ho sakti hai jab phone par unka naam chamke, unhone abhi ek shabd bhi nahi kaha.
Dost ko shayad andaza bhi na ho ki ye aise lagta hai. Is beech ye vaakya chalta rehta hai, aur dheere-dheere thakaan ke pal se zyada fact jaisa lagne lagta hai: ki aapki parwah tab tak nahi ginti jab tak wo kisi ka kiya na badal de.
Jab wo awaaz kehti hai ki aapki madad se kuch nahi badla, to wo kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo aapki lagti hai, ya kisi purani awaaz ki jisne kaha tha ki aapka kaam cheezein theek karna hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai logon ke liye salahkaar ki kursi purani hai #
Kai log chhoti umar mein hi samajhdaar wale ban gaye. Bade bhaiya ya badi didi jo sabko samjhate the, wo bachcha jo mummy-papa ko shant karta tha, school ka wo dost jiske paas sab aate the. Kaam aana kareeb hone ka tareeka ban gaya, kabhi chaahe jaane ka mukhya tareeka.
Kuch gharon mein chupchaap us bachche ki taareef hoti thi jo sab sahi karta tha, aur uski kam jise kuch chahiye hota tha. Kuch logon ne isse ye seekha ki unki keemat doosron ki problems suljhane mein hai, aur ansuljhi problem jaise unhi ki haar hai.
Logon ki problem sunne wale aap kab bane?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab isne aapko kya diya, aur tab se aapse kya maanga hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chupchaap niyam jis par shayad aap chal rahe ho #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Meri madad tabhi ginti jaati hai jab wo use maane.” Kuch ko wo yun sunaai deti hai: “Kisi ki parwah hai to uske liye sab sahi karna mera kaam hai.”
Aisi maanyataayein maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo bas ache dost hone jaisi lagti hain, aur isiliye pakadna mushkil hai. Wo parwah ke andar baithi hain, aur parwah ko zaroorat se bhaari bana deti hain.
Kuch log ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: kaam aane se kareebi bani rehti hai, isliye madad hamesha chalni chahiye.
Ye kin dostiyon mein aaj bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinme nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Unke choices uthaye phirne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai raat-raat bhar unki problem aise dohrana jaise wo aapki ho, agli baar ke liye behtar dalilein ratna, ya un nateejon ki zimmedari feel karna jo kabhi aapke haath mein nahi the. Kuch logon ki apni fikrein peeche chali jaati hain, kyunki kisi aur ki hamesha zyada tez lagti hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab madad tabhi ginti jaye jab use maana jaye, to har dosti mein ek chhoti pariksha baith jaati hai, aur bas sun lene ki garmjoshi sahi saabit hone aur kiye jaane ke pressure mein dab jaati hai.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Un choices ka nateeja uthana thakata hai jo kabhi aapke the hi nahi.
Pichhle ek saal mein isne kya liya: koi khoi shaam, koi dabi rakhi naaraazgi, koi call jise uthane se dar laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, unke choices uthaye hue #
Kisi aam mangalwar ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “meri madad tabhi ginti jaati hai jab wo maane” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad kase hue jabde ke saath uthayi gayi raat ki call, wahi salah phir se, mann mein unse behas karte beeti lambi shaam. Shayad aapki apni problem, phir ek baar baad ke liye rakhi hui.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: calls, dohrana, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kya wo salah chahte the? #
Log “kya karun?” kai wajahon se poochte hain. Kabhi unhein plan chahiye. Aksar unhein problem mein saath chahiye, koi jiske saamne zor se keh sakein, koi jo ruka rahe. Sawaal “batao” kehne ka nahi, “mere saath raho” kehne ka tareeka bhi ho sakta hai.
Badlaav dheema aur darawna ho sakta hai, aur kya karna hai ye jaanna aksar kar paane jaisa nahi hota.
Ek aur nazar: koi aisi baat sochiye jo aapko pata thi karni chahiye aur mahine lage.
Poochiye: pehli baar wo asal mein kya maang rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapki salah ko unse kya chahiye tha jo wo dene ke liye taiyaar nahi the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab aapko mili achhi salah bekaar gayi thi, ya kahin padi rahi aur sahi waqt par kaam aayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log in calls ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to kuch dekhte hain ki dost baar-baar isliye nahi aata tha ki salah bekaar thi, balki isliye ki baatcheet hi madad karti thi. Jiske paas koi lautkar aaye, wo bhi bharose ka apna roop hai.
Kuch apne baare mein kuch dekhte hain: ki chidh ka ek hissa fikr thi, kisi apne ko baar-baar chot khate dekhne ka asli dar, aur wo fikr, salah ki tarah, kisi ko thamakar theek nahi ki ja sakti.
Pichhli baar aapki chidh ke neeche kya tha: thakaan, fikr, ya sune jaane ki chaah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inme se aaj raat aap kiske saath sabse zyada narmi baratna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Nateeja jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki wo kya karte hain iski parwah nahi, ya ki ye chakkar thakata nahi. Matlab ye ki unka choice is par kam chale ki aapki parwah gini gayi ya nahi, aur aapki baaki shaam kaisi jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo apni madad ko aage hone wali baat se naapna chhod dete hain. Khule mann se kuch de dena aur de dene ke baad chhod dena, use dekar pehra dene se dhona aasaan ho sakta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar aapke shabd plan ki jagah tohfa hon, kuch jise wo abhi, baad mein ya kabhi na istemal karne ko azaad hon, aur aap apna sukoon rakho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “mere kehne se kuch nahi badalta” kuch samay se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mere paas jo tha, maine diya. Uska kya karna hai, ye unka hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane wale se zyada sateek ho, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki lambi call ke baad dheere se kehne par wo purane hisaab-kitaab ki thodi jagah le leta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo di gayi parwah ka maan rakhe aur ye zaroori na banaye ki wo kaam kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Dost ki laayi har problem aaj raat ya kabhi bhi aapko suljhani ho, zaroori nahi. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambi call se garam hua phone neeche rakh dein.
Iska matlab unki parwah kam karna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse dosti ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai, aur un apni problems ke liye jo chupchaap peeche intezaar kar rahi thi.
Shaam ke liye ise neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki ye aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Aap ab bhi chahte ho ki unke liye sab sahi chale, par aapki parwah isse nahi ginti ki wo aapke shabd istemal karein ya na karein.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: poori call bina plan diye sun lena, unki problem dohraye bina so jaana, ya apni koi fikr notice karna jo usi parwah ki haqdaar hai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Jawab dene se pehle ki aah ko notice kijiye, aur use rehne dijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: wo asal mein kya maang rahe hain?
- Parwah ka ek aisa vaakya chuniye jise unke badalne ki zaroorat na ho
- Call ke baad phone rakh dijiye aur teen dheemi saansein lijiye
- Ek wo mauka yaad kijiye jab aapke shabd kisi ke kaam aaye, aapki soch se baad mein
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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