Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Galti ke baad zyadatar log do cheezein chahte hain: use sudharna, aur phir aage badhne ki ijaazat paana.
Kai log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan galtiyan bahut der yaad rakhi jaati thi.
Neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Jab tak wo ise jaane na dein, mujhe jaane dene ki ijaazat nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Purani shaam poore byore ke saath phir se samjhana
- Badle mein unki chookon ki purani list khol dena
- Chup ho jaana, kyunki kuch kehne se baat band hoti nahi lagti
- Baat rukwane ke liye phir se maafi maang lena
- Asli ghatna ko kai din dimaag mein dohrate rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Pichhli baar, pichhli seat par
Saturday ki shaam, Bhavnagar. Ek cousin ki sagai mein nikalne mein bees minute ki der ho jaati hai, office ki ek call ki wajah se. Gaadi mein aapke saathi dheere se kehte hain, “Tumne pichhli baar bhi bilkul yahi kiya tha. Meri mummy ki saathvin par.” Wo teen saal pehle ki baat hai. Aapne tab maafi maangi thi, aur uske baad kai baar. Ab safar chup hai, aur wo purani shaam pichhli seat par aapke saath baithi hai.
Jab tak wo na chhodein, main nahi
Seedhi baat: ek purani chook aaj aap kaun ho, iska sahi paimana nahi. Par aise palon se ek niyam ugta hai, aur aapka ban jaata hai: “Jab tak wo ise jaane na dein, mujhe jaane dene ki ijaazat nahi.” Ye maafi jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: chook tab tak khuli rehti hai jab tak koi use khula rakhe, aur aap uska jawab dete rehte ho.
Purani chook hum kyun apnaye rakhte hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki jinhein humse chot pahunchi, unki hamein parwah hai, aur hum sudharna chahte hain. Bahut log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan chookon ka hisaab rakha jaata tha. Shayad aapka ghar bhi waisa tha. Jo bhi ho, apne kiye ko apnana chahna galat nahi. Ye bhale insaan banne ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har asahmati par tane rehna
Keemat chupchaap chukti hai, aur judti jaati hai. Har chhoti asahmati par aap tan jaate ho. Plans teen-teen baar jaanche jaate hain, taaki kuch pichhli baar jaisa na ho. Jin sandeshon ko maafi nahi chahiye, unmein bhi sorry ghus jaata hai. Aapki apni choten ankahi rehti hain, kyunki har baat usi shaam par laut aati hai. Achhe weekend udhaar ke lagte hain.
Kya hamesha keemat chukana jaayaz hai?
Khud se imaandari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakadne se wo purani chook kabhi band hui? Ya zyadatar use aapke andar khula rakha? Aapne maafi maangi. Jo badla ja sakta tha, badla. Uske baad kai aam din achhe gaye. Pichhli baar ek lambi kahani ki ek shaam hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye aapse leta hai?
Aaj ko aaj ki baat rehne dein
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki yaad dilana jaayaz tha, ya purani chook kabhi mayne nahi rakhti thi. Matlab ye ki aapka ye ehsaas ki aapne use sudhaara, ab kisi ki ijaazat ka intezaar nahi karta. Aap “pichhli baar” sun sakte ho, halki sihran mehsoos kar sakte ho, aur aaj raat mein tike reh sakte ho. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek behas se. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aaj ko aaj ke baare mein rehne diya jaata hai.
If old arguments ever turn into threats, being hurt or frightened, or being watched or kept from people, that is not everyday and is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJab tak wo ise jaane na dein, mujhe jaane dene ki ijaazat nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleJitna ban pada, maine sudhara. Aaj aaj ki baat reh sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
“Pichhli baar” uthe to use mann mein naam dijiye
- Din 2
Uske baad ka ek waqt yaad kijiye jab aapne ise sahi kiya
- Din 3
Phir se samjhane se pehle ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun-si purani chook baar-baar lautti hai, aur wo kitni purani hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek purani shaam, nayi behas mein wapas #
Der hone ki chhoti-si behas, gaadi ki chaabi, ek chhoota hua phone. Aur achanak, kahin se, barson purani ek line laut aati hai: “Tumne pichhli baar bhi yahi kiya tha.” Ab behas aaj raat ki nahi rahi. Wo teen saal pehle ki ek saalgirah ki hai, aur uske baad ki har cheez ki.
Shabd ek pattern ke baare mein hain. Jo chubhta hai wo ye ki jis baat ko aap nipta hua maante the, jiske liye maafi maangi, shayad ek baar hans bhi liye, wo ab bhi khuli hai. Naya jhagda purane ka bojh utha leta hai, aur lagta hai maafiyan kabhi gini hi nahi gayin.
Aakhri baar kab koi purani chook nayi behas mein lauti thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Asli baat kitni purani thi, aur aap uske liye kitni baar maafi maang chuke the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jawab dene se pehle hi kyun lagta hai #
Kuch logon ko pet mein dhansan mehsoos hoti hai, chehre par garmi, ek saath aayi thakaan. Koi purani shaam ki safai dene lagta hai; koi chup ho jaata hai kyunki jeetne ki koi soorat nahi dikhti. Iska matlab bewajah adna nahi.
Purani chook wapas aaye to do cheezein ek saath lagti hain: aaj raat ki chubhan aur tab ki sharm. Sharir dono ka jawab saath deta hai. Shant soch aksar baad mein aati hai, us vaakya ke saath jo aap kehna chahte the: “Mujhe laga tha ye baat khatam ho chuki.”
Wo pehla khinchaav bata sakta hai ki aap kya chahte the.
Purani baat uthne par aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Phir se samjhane ka mann hua, apni koi purani list kholne ka, ya ekdum chup ho jaane ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Jo band lagta tha, use phir khol deta hai #
Nayi behas mein purani chook laana ek pal ko chalta hua khaata bana deta hai. Chupchaap yeh kehta hai ki maafi suni gayi, par maani nahi gayi, mamla ab bhi khula hai. Isiliye pichhli baar ki ek chhoti-si line aaj raat ki baat se bhaari lag sakti hai.
Galti ke baad zyadatar log do cheezein chahte hain: use sudharna, aur phir aage badhne ki ijaazat paana. Jab ateet baar-baar laute, to doosra hissa kabhi aata hi nahi, aur chook unki nazar mein aapka ek pakka hissa lagne lagti hai.
Kabhi-kabhi baat uthane wale ke paas khud kuch adhoora hota hai, koi chot jise poori tarah suna nahi gaya. Isse yaad dilana jaayaz nahi ho jaata.
Aapko kya lagta hai, dono mein se kiske liye kya adhoora reh gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab purana record andar baje #
Purani chook baar-baar suno to wo apne aap bajne lagti hai. “Har baar mujhse hi sab bigadta hai.” “Wo ise kabhi jaane nahi denge.” “Shayad mujhe yahi sunna banta hai.” Behas shuru hone se pehle hi, unka lehja badalte hi, ye chalu ho sakti hai.
Saamne wala subah tak aage badh chuka ho, par record aapke sir mein chalta rehta hai, aur kuch der baad wo unki shikayat kam, aapke baare mein seedha tathya zyada lagne lagta hai: koi jisne ek baar galat kiya, aur ab bhi wahi hai.
Ye purana record kiski awaaz mein bajta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya barson pehle kisi family khane mein aapke baare mein kahani dohrati awaaz?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bahuton ke ghar mein chookon ka hisaab rakha gaya #
Kai log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan galtiyan bahut der yaad rakhi jaati thi. Toota gulabdan ya kharab report card mahino baad khane ki mez par laut aata tha, ya rishtedaaron ke saamne ek qisse ki tarah: “Arre, yaad hai usne pichhli Diwali par kya kiya tha?”
Kuch parivaaron mein purani baat uthana sikhane, daraane ya bas jeetne ka tareeka tha, aur wajahein alag-alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki chook ki keemat kabhi poori chukti nahi, aur maafi dena kisi aur ke haath mein hai.
Bachpan mein aapki kaun-si purani chook baar-baar sunayi gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use phir sunkar kaisa lagta tha, aur kya kisi ne kabhi kaha ki bas, ab khatam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chupchaap niyam jisse shayad aap jee rahe ho #
Neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Jab tak wo ise jaane na dein, mujhe jaane dene ki ijaazat nahi.” Kuch log bhaari roop dhote hain: “Us ek galti ki keemat mujhe bharte rehna hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise nahi lagte. Lagte hain jaise sharminda hona ho, zimmedar hona ho, wo bhala insaan jo apne kiye ko apnata hai. Isiliye inhein din ki roshni mein, dheere se, nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: maafi sirf unke dene ki cheez ho, to chook tab tak khuli rahegi jab tak wo use khula rakhein.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinme nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Purani chook dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har asahmati par tan jaana, chhoti choice par zaroorat se zyada safai dena, kuch bigadne se pehle hi maafi maang lena. Kuch log apni choten uthana hi chhod dete hain, kyunki har baatcheet ghoomkar usi ek shaam par aa jaati hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab ateet hamesha ek vaakya door ho, to vartamaan parakh par rehta hai. Achha weekend asthayi lagta hai, jaise agli chook use radd kar degi, aur ghar mein sukoon udhaar ki cheez ban jaata hai, apni nahi.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Ek hi baat ka jawab baar-baar dena thaka deta hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein kya keemat rahi: bachaav mein gayi koi shaam, aapki apni koi chot jo ankahi rahi, koi shanti jo kabhi tiki nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, pichhli baar ka jawab dete hue #
Kisi aam weekend ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “us galti ki keemat bharte rehna hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad teen baar jaancha gaya plan taaki kuch pichhli baar jaisa na ho, shuru hone se pehle chhodi gayi koi asahmati, ek message mein jod diya gaya sorry jiski zaroorat nahi thi. Shayad aapki apni koi chot chup rakhi hui, kyunki aapki baari kabhi aati hi nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: plans, baatcheeten, wo pal jab aap saans rok lete ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhkar aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Pichhli baar, aur uske baad ke saare baar #
Purani chook bhi sach hai aur uske baad ke baras bhi. Ek shaam galat gayi; uske baad kai shaamein alag gayin. Ek imaandar hisaab mein dono honge, sirf wo nahi jo baar-baar dohraya jaata hai.
Purani baat uthne par jawab aamtaur par ginti mein aane se zyada nikalta hai.
Poochhiye: pichhli baar theek-theek kya hua, aur uske baad kya-kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kitni maafiyan, kitne badlaav, kitne aam din jo achhe gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: koi dost bataye ki usne barson pehle kisi baat ki maafi maangi thi aur aaj bhi sunna padta hai, to aap uske liye kya chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kehte ki abhi aur baaki hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Behas ko dheere-dheere dohrane par kuch log dekhte hain ki purani chook asal baat thi hi nahi. Wo isliye aayi ki aaj raat koi dukhti rag chhui thi, aur jab baaki shabd khatam hue, to ateet sabse paas ki cheez thi jise pakda ja sakta tha.
Kuch dekhte hain ki purani chook unke bheetar kitni jagah gherti hai, saamne wale ke hafte mein usse kahin zyada. Wo use dohrate hain, bachate hain aur apne mann mein maafi maangte hain, behas thandi hone ke bahut baad bhi.
Wo purani shaam aapke apne sir mein kitni baar aati hai, aur kitni baar sachmuch zor se kahi jaati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
In dono mein kaun zyada tez hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Unke faisle ka intezaar zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki yaad dilana jaayaz tha, ya purani chook kabhi mayne nahi rakhti thi. Matlab ye ki wo ab kam tay kare ki aap aaj khud ko kaise dekhte ho, aur aaj raat ka kitna hissa barson purani raat ke bachaav mein jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo doosre se “khatam” sunne ki zaroorat chhod dete hain. Unki maafi swagat-yogya hogi, par aapka apna ehsaas ki aapne isse seekha, bina ijaazat ke bhi tik sakta hai.
Kaisa lagega chupchaap ye jaanna ki jitna ban pada aapne ise sudhaar liya, aur use apne liye kaafi hone dena, bhale abhi unke liye kaafi na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “us galti ki keemat bharte rehna hai” barson se andar chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachchi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Tab mujhse galat hua tha. Jitna ban pada, maine use sudhara, aur aaj mein jeene ka haq mujhe hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane niyam se zyada sateek ho, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki dheere-dheere aur baar-baar kehne par ye utni jagah lene lagti hai jitni purana niyam gherta tha.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo purani chook ko apnaye, par baaki zindagi uske hawale na kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
“Pichhli baar” ka har zikr nayi safai, timeline ya ek aur sorry nahi maangta. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise purani photo wapas daraaz mein chali jaati hai.
Ye dikhana nahi ki wo hua hi nahi. Ye chunna hai ki aaj raat aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch kehte hain ki isse uske liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo saamne hai: ye shaam, ye baatcheet, ye insaan jaisa wo aaj hai.
Aaj ki shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Purani chook hui thi, par wo ek lambi kahani ki ek shaam hai, uska naam nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: “pichhli baar” sunkar giraavat ki jagah halki-si sihran, aaj raat ki behas jo aaj raat ki hi rahe, ya wo shaam jab purana record bas baje hi nahi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Purani baat uthe to mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, pichhli baar phir aa gayi”
- Phir se samjhane ka tay karne se pehle ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: usse maine kya seekha, aur kya wo ab bhi yaad hai?
- Wo ek waqt yaad kijiye jab baad mein aapne yahi cheez theek ki
- Dono pair farsh par sapaat rakhiye aur ek pal unhein wahan mehsoos kijiye
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun-si purani chook baar-baar lautti hai, aur wo kitni purani hai?
- Aapke liye “ab khatam” asal mein kaisa dikhta?
- Aapko kya lagta hai, dono ke liye kya kabhi poori tarah nipta nahi?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?