Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isiliye ye kai baar khamoshi se zyada chubhta hai.
Kuch logon ko bachpan mein poori maafi kam hi mili.
Neeche ek chupchaap niyam ban sakta hai: “Mujhe bura laga toh shayad meri hi galti hai, maine aise kyun liya,” ya “Bolne se baat aur bigadti hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- “Koi baat nahi” kehkar baat ghar le aana
- Sateek shabd dohrana, ye dhoondhte hue ki kya chhoota
- Us dost ke saath kuch samay ke liye thoda chup ho jaana
- Baad mein phir baat chhed dena, aur aur bura lagna
- Sochne lagna ki kahin asli dikkat apna reaction toh nahi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Sorry, tujhe bura laga toh”
Sunday ki dopahar. Chandigarh ke dhabe par kal ke birthday dinner mein dost ne sabke saamne aapki job wali baat khol di thi. Aapne soch-samajhkar likha ki bura laga. Jawab aaya: “Arre sorry yaar, tujhe bura laga toh.” Screen par nazar atki rahi, phir aapne phone rakh diya, seene mein garam, kasa-sa ehsaas liye. Ye maafi nahi thi, aur chup rehne se zyada chubhi.
Chot ko sahi maafi milni chahiye
Neeche ek niyam hai: “Koi mujhe chot pahunchaye, toh use theek se maafi maangni chahiye.” Ye poori tarah jaayaz lagta hai. Bahut se log bina soche isi par chalte hain. Sachchi maafi mein zimmedari hoti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: chot ko sahi shabdon ke intezaar mein bitha deta hai. Jab tak wo nahi aate, pal khula rehta hai, aur aap mann mein jawab likhte rehte ho.
Sachchi maafi se baat sambhali kyun lagti
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki sachchi maafi se lagta hai baat sambhal gayi. Bahut se log is niyam ka koi roop saath lekar bade hote hain, aur tab ye aksar theek bhi baithta tha. Shayad aap hamesha apni galti maante ho. Shayad sikhaya gaya ki sorry ka matlab hai “mujhse galti hui”. Jo bhi ho, theek maafi chahna chhotapan nahi. Ye gambhirta se liye jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Chupchaap badhti chot
Har aadhi-adhoori maafi chot mein kuch jodti hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aapko mehsoos hota hai. Dheere-dheere sab judta jaata hai. Aap uske shabd dohrate ho. Lambe jawab likhte ho jo bhejte nahi. Sochte ho ki kahin bolna hi galat toh nahi tha. Dosti anishchit lagne lagti hai, aur shaam mann mein chalti us behas se bhar jaati hai.
Kya sachche sorry ka intezaar layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya sahi maafi ka intezaar karne se chot kabhi chhoti hui? Ya zyadatar wo taazi hi rahi? Kuch logon ke liye sachcha sorry bolna bahut mushkil hota hai, un wajahon se jo aur kisi ko nahi dikhtin. Jo bhi ho, kamzor maafi is baat ka paimana nahi ki aapka aahat hona sahi tha ya nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna uske layak hai?
Aapne kaha ki chubha. Kaafi hai.
Chhodne ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki uske shabd kaafi the. Matlab ye ki chot ko basne ke liye sahi vaakya ka intezaar nahi karna padta. Aap jaante ho ki chubha tha. Aapne keh diya. Wo himmat thi. Iske liye aur kuch badalna zaroori nahi. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, hona bhi nahi chahiye. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aap phone rakh sakte ho, aur shaam aapki ho sakti hai.
Where someone really does react badly to being asked about things, threatens or frightens you, that is worth taking seriously, and saying nothing can be the wiser path.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleKoi mujhe chot pahunchaye, toh use theek se maafi maangni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleChubha tha, maine keh diya. Mere liye itna kaafi hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Jawab ka masauda banana rokiye, phone rakh dijiye
- Din 2
Khud se kahiye: “Jo mujhe kehna tha, maine keh diya”
- Din 3
Aaj shaam kuch aisa kijiye jo aapko pasand ho
Is par baat karni hai?
“Us sorry ka kaun-sa shabd aap aaj bhi baar-baar dohrate ho?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sorry shabd toh hai, par kuch kam hai #
Chandigarh ke dhaba par birthday dinner mein dost ne sabke saamne aapki nijee baat khol di. Agle din aapne bataya ki bura laga. Jawab aaya: “Arre sorry yaar, tujhe bura laga toh. Ab chhod.” Maanga hua speaker toot kar lauta ho, ya station aane ka vaada chupchaap bhool gaya ho, tab bhi yahi sunayi deta hai.
Kaagaz par kuch kaha ja chuka hai aur baat aage badhni chahiye. Phir bhi maafi pahunchi nahi. Pal latka reh jaata hai: dobara kholna mushkil, aur khatam maanna bhi.
Aisa sorry aapko aakhri baar kab mila?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sateek shabd kya the, aur unmein se kaun-sa aaj bhi baar-baar laut aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Raahat aur halki chubhan, dono ek saath #
Kuch log ajeeb dohra ehsaas batate hain: thodi raahat ki kuch toh kaha gaya, aur phir halki chubhan jab wo bagal se nikal jaata hai. Jo jawab taiyaar tha wo atak jaata hai, aur baat aage badh chuki hoti hai, ehsaas ke pahunchne se pehle.
Jo sorry nishane par na lage, wo sochne se pehle hi bina jawab wale sawaal jaisa lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ke liye baat baad mein, kisi aur kaam ke beech, saaf hoti hai ki kya chhoot gaya tha.
Usse pata chal sakta hai ki is insaan se sachcha sorry aapke liye kitna mayne rakhta.
Shabdon ke theek baad wale second mein aapke andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Chuppi, smile ya garmi ki lehar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Sorry ehsaas ke liye, hui baat ke liye nahi #
“Sorry, tujhe bura laga toh” ehsaas ki taraf ishaara karta hai, hui baat ki taraf nahi. Jis baat ka jawab hona tha, wo chhui tak nahi jaati. Aur bura lagna khud table par problem jaisa dikhne lagta hai.
Isiliye ye kai baar khamoshi se zyada chubhta hai. Kuch diya gaya, par wo nahi jo chahiye tha. Sunne wale ke haath mein apne reaction ke liye maafi reh jaati hai, aur dhabe ki baat, toote speaker ya soone platform ka zikr tak nahi.
Agar maafi sahi baithti, toh wo kya naam leti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Chhoota hua vaakya khud se kehkar dekhiye: asal mein hua kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab awaaz unki taraf se daleel dene lage #
Wo andar aakar doosri taraf se bolne lagti hai. “Shayad maine zyada react kiya.” “Mazaak hi toh tha.” “Baat chhod deni chahiye.” Kai baar awaaz dost ki wakalat usse bhi zyada achhi karti hai jitni usne khud ki.
Kabhi ulta bhi hota hai: wo hisaab rakhti hai, sorry ka har shabd aur har wo shabd jo usmein nahi tha. Jo bhi ho, pal uske baad bhi chalta rehta hai jab doosra insaan apne din mein laut chuka hota hai.
Jab ye kehti hai “chhodo”, toh awaaz kiski hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni samajh, ya kisi aise kamre ki jahan aahat hona jaldi sametne ki cheez thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye poori maafi kam hi mili #
Kuch logon ko bachpan mein poori maafi kam hi mili. Bhai-behen ki ladai khatam karne ko jhat se “achha baba, sorry” bol diya jaata, ya agle din achanak ki meharbani se baat dhak jaati, aur kisi ne kabhi naam nahi liya ki galat kya hua tha.
Kuch gharon aur tolion mein jaldi aage badh jaana hi chalan hai, aur wajahein alag-alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki hui baat ka naam maangna bahut zyada maangna hai, aur badappan theek hone ka dikhawa karne mein hai.
Mann ke theek hone se pehle theek dikhna aapne kab seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab aas-paas kaun tha, aur jin dinon nahi ho paya, kamre ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chupchaap niyam jis par shayad aap chalte ho #
Neeche ek chupchaap niyam ban sakta hai: “Mujhe bura laga toh shayad meri hi galti hai, maine aise kyun liya,” ya “Bolne se baat aur bigadti hai.”
Aise niyam manyata jaise lagte nahi. Sahajta jaise lagte hain, baat na badhane jaise, jaise tang gali mein kisi ko raasta de dena seedhi tehzeeb lagti hai. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: bura lagne se jhanjhat hota hai, toh bura mat lagao.
Ye kin jagahon par ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Adhoori maafi ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai agli mulaqat mein muskurate rehna jabki kuch ankaha baitha hai, ya bina tay kiye us dost par thoda kam bharosa karna. Kuch log dekhte hain ki ab wo usse thoda kam baantte hain, aur theek-theek nahi keh paate ki kab se.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai: dohrane mein jaata waqt. Ek shaam is rehearsal mein nikal jaati hai ki sachcha sorry kaisa sunayi deta, ya is soch mein ki bura lagna jaayaz tha bhi ya nahi. Ek saal mein ye kai ghante ek vaakya ko de diye gaye ban jaate hain.
Ye kamzori nahi. Adhoore pal ko thaame rakhna sachmuch mehnat hai.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: dohrate bitai ek shaam, ek sambhal-sambhalkar bitai mulaqat, koi khabar jo chhoti rakhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, ise kuch nahi kehte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “bura laga toh main hi problem hoon” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad jo baat chubhi thi uske upar likha “haha, koi baat nahi”, ek group plan jismein sambhalkar muskurate hue shamil hue, metro mein baar-baar padha gaya ek sorry, ek chhoti chubhan jise kisi ke dekhne se pehle “kuch nahi” keh diya. Kuch jaana-pehchana, kuch nahi.
Tasveer mein kuch tay nahi, aur yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi.
Usmein kya hai: messages, mulaqatein, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kya hua, aur kaisa laga, do alag cheezein hain #
Do cheezein alag rakhna madad kar sakta hai jinhein shabd mila dete hain: kya hua, aur kaisa laga. Ehsaas wala sorry bas doosre ka jawab hai. Pehle ko kam se kam mann mein ek seedhe vaakya mein naam diya ja sakta hai.
Ye bhi gaur karne layak hai ki sorry kaafi tha ya nahi, ye sirf kehne wale ki marzi nahi. Jise chot lagi uski raay bhi ginti hai, bhale kabhi kahi na jaye. Yahan koi tay nahi kar raha ki kaun sahi tha.
Ek aur nazar: agar aapka koi kareebi dost wahi message, shabd-ba-shabd, aapko dikhata, toh aap kehte usmein kya kami thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheere-dheere dekhte hain, toh kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo jiska intezaar kar rahe the wo chhota tha: ek vaakya jo bataye ki kya hua. Bhashan nahi, tohfa nahi, bas wahi baat, seedhi kahi hui.
Kuch un palon ko yaad karte hain jab sorry sach mein pahuncha, kisi aur se ya isi dost se. Kabhi sachcha wala baad mein aaya, kabhi nahi aaya, aur intezaar khud us dosti ya us kamre ke baare mein kuch kehta tha.
Sabse chhota sorry jo theek baithta, wo kaisa sunayi deta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kya kabhi kisi se, kisi bhi se, aisa suna hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Aaj hi iska matlab tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab maaf kar dena, sorry qubool kar lena, ya ye tay karna nahi ki wo kaafi tha. Matlab bas itna ki chhoota hua vaakya baaki hafte par, aur chot ko dekhne ke tareeke par kam chale.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo mann mein sahi jawab ka masauda banana band kar dete hain, kyunki har naya masauda dost ko shaam ke beech mein rakh deta hai. Jahan koi sach mein baat poochhe jaane par buri tarah bhadakta ho, wo gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur kuch na kehna hi samajhdari ho sakti hai.
Kaisa lagega agar sorry wahi rahe jo wo tha, ehsaas ke liye ek sorry, aur aaj ye tay na karna pade ki dosti ke liye iska kya matlab hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “shayad maine zyada react kiya” kuch samay se baj raha hai, toh usse seedhe behas karne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Hua bhi, chubha bhi, aur mere ehsaas ke liye sorry inmein se kuch nahi badalta.”
Wo abhi sach lage, zaroori nahi. Ye bas aazmane ki line hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki kabhi-kabhaar dheere se kehne par wo chot ko seedha naam de deti hai, use jeetne ka mukadma banaye bina.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo hui baat ke baare mein sateek ho, bina iske ki doosra insaan usse sehmat ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Ise aaj raat ke liye ek taraf rakha ja sakta hai #
Har aadhe-adhoore sorry ko jawab, doosri baatcheet ya dosti par faisla nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur aaj raat ke liye ek taraf rakha ja sakta hai, jaise kursi par coat subah tak ke liye taang dete hain.
Ye maaf karna ya maan lena nahi ki kaafi tha. Ye chunna hai ki aaj raat ki urja kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un doston aur plan ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo aasaan lagte hain.
Aaj shaam ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha ya baat suljh gayi. Jo hua wo ab bhi aapka hai, jab chahein lautne ke liye, aur tabhi jab chahein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Chubhan bas chubhan reh sakti hai, mann mein seedha naam lekar, is mukadme ke bina ki uski ijazat thi ya nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: us pal ko aise dost ko imaandaari se batana jo wahan nahi tha, ek sorry ko das baar ki jagah ek baar padhna, ya wo shaam jo jawab likhne mein na jaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Aap jo bhi mehsoos karein, wo aapka hai aur mayne rakhta hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Ye ehsaas ke liye sorry hai”
- Chhoota hua vaakya khud se kahiye: asal mein kya hua tha?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada zor kis par hai: jo hua, ya sorry kehne ka dhang
- Chupchaap poochhiye: theek baithne wala sorry ek line mein kya hota?
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Us sorry ka kaun-sa shabd aap aaj bhi baar-baar dohrate ho?
- Wo ek vaakya kaun-sa tha jiska aap intezaar kar rahe the, aur jo kabhi nahi aaya?
- Us pal aapne palatkar kya kaha, aur kya kehna chahte the?
- Jis aam din “bura laga toh main hi problem” zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye niyam thoda dheela ho, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?