Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Par vaakya kabhi nahi kehta ki kiske muqable zyada, ya kiske liye.
Kuch logon mein ye shuru mein suni baaton se banta dikhta hai: “Rone ki kya baat hai”, “Arre mazaak tha”, “Har baat dil par mat liya karo.”
Aksar ye yakeen ek shaant niyam par tika hota hai: “Tez mehsoos karna kami hai, jise chhupana chahiye,” ya “Chot lagi, yaani mujhse kuch galat hua.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chutki par saath mein hans dena, aur phir ghar tak poora drishya dohrate rehna
- Wajah batane se pehle hi pareshaan hone ki maafi maang lena
- Chot ko nijee rakhna, aur sabko theek-thaak dikhna
- Aisi filmon, gaanon ya baaton se bachna jin par doosron ke saamne aankhein bhar sakti hain
- Koi pratikriya dene se pehle doosron se poochh lena ki iski ijaazat hai ya nahi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Khane par chutki, ghar par dohraav
Ahmedabad, Wednesday ki shaam. Dost ke ghar khane par kisi ne aapke banaye khane par chutki li aur sab hans pade. Hansi saath mein nikli, par chubh gayi. Ab ghar par wahi drishya dohraya jaata hai, phir khud ko daant: “Arre, phir zyada lag gaya, mazaak hi toh tha.” Chot dugni ho jaati hai: ek chubhan ki, ek use mehsoos karne ki. Ehsaas ummeed se der tak rehta hai.
Bahut zyada mehsoos karna
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mujhe har baat bahut lag jaati hai.” Ye imaandaar aatm-samajh jaisa lagta hai. Bahut log ise bina soche jeete hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har chot ko saboot bana deta hai ki kuch gadbad hai. Chubhi hui baat dekhne ki jagah, dekh lene ke liye khud ko dosh diya jaata hai, aur ehsaas par sharm ki doosri parat chadh jaati hai.
Kisi ne kaha, bahut mehsoos hota hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki kisi ne ek baar kaha tha ki hum bahut mehsoos karte hain. Bahut se log kisi na kisi roop mein aisa niyam lekar bade hote hain, aur tab ye theek bhi lagta tha. Shayad bachpan mein “chhui-mui” kaha gaya. Shayad pratikriyaon par hansi udi. Jo bhi ho, niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye saath baithne aur musibat na banne ki chaah se aata hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har chot ke saath khud par dosh
Ab har chot ke saath khud par dosh aata hai. Dheere-dheere sab judta jaata hai. Pratikriyaein chhupayi jaati hain. Chubhne par bhi saath mein hans diya jaata hai. Kisi ko bataya nahi jaata ki baat buri lagi. Jin ehsaason ko koi nahi jaanta, unke saath akelapan lagta hai. Jo sensitivity doosron ko dekhne, gehri parwah karne aur chhoti bhalaiyan pakadne mein madad karti hai, wo chhupane ki kami lagne lagti hai.
Kya ye dosh keemat ke layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya khud ko zyada sensitive kehne se chot kabhi gayi? Ya zyadatar usmein sharm judi? Cheezon ko gehrai se mehsoos karna kai parwah karne wale logon ki banaawat ka hissa hai. Chahein toh is par ek pal rukiye. Jo bhi ho, chubhan mehsoos hona iska paimana nahi ki kuch galat hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar thamna iski keemat ke layak hai?
Gehrai se mehsoos karna theek hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki har tippani badi baat ho. Matlab ye ki chubhan ko bina khud ko dosh diye mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai. Chupke se kaha ja sakta hai “wo thoda laga”, aur guzar jaane diya ja sakta hai. Iske liye kuch aur badalna pehle zaroori nahi. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: ehsaas jaankari ban jaate hain, kami nahi, aur parwah karne wala swabhaav taakat ban sakta hai.
If people keep putting you down, mocking you, threatening or frightening you and calling you too sensitive when you notice, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe har baat bahut lag jaati hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe cheezein gehrai se mehsoos hoti hain. Ye theek hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Chubhe toh chupke se kahiye: wo thoda laga
- Din 2
Ek aisi bhali baat par gaur kijiye jo is gehrai se dikhi
- Din 3
Kathor baat ke baad khud ke saath naram rahiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kin haalaat mein ye vaakya sabse zyada aata hai?”
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Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Teen shabd, kisi aur ke kehne se pehle #
“Mujhe har baat bahut lag jaati hai.” Film dekhkar aankh bhar aane par khud se kahi jaati hai, khane ki mez par kisi ki chutki kai din chubhti rahe tab, kisi colleague ka rookha sa jawab teekha lage tab, ya maafi ki tarah zor se: “Sorry, pata hai, mujhe har baat bahut lag jaati hai.”
Ye aksar pehle hi kah di jaati hai, kisi aur ke kehne se pehle, dhaal ki tarah. Kuch log barson se “chhui-mui” ya “dil par mat le” jaisi baatein sunte aaye hain, aur phir ek din khud hi use seedhe tathya ki tarah kehne lage.
Aakhri baar ye kab kahi ya sochi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab abhi-abhi kya hua tha, aur vaakya ke upar parda daalne se pehle kya mehsoos ho raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Pehle ehsaas, phir apne upar daant #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki do cheezein tezi se hoti hain: pehle ehsaas, gale mein gaanth, aankhon mein nami, seene mein kuch dhansta hua; phir bheetar se ek jhat ki daant ki ye hua hi kyun, aur kamre se use chhupane ki mehnat.
Ehsaas aksar sharir mein pehle pahunch jaate hain, isse pehle ki koi vichar tay kare ki unhein ijaazat hai ya nahi. Chot pehle se wahan thi; yakeen bas ek second baad use parakhne aata hai. Kuch logon ko wo doosri parat zyada thakati hai.
Kaun sa hissa zyada bhaari hai, ehsaas ya use chhupane ki mehnat?Is par baat kijiye ›
Chhupate waqt chehra kya karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai, isliye tik jaata hai #
Khud ko zyada sensitive kehna imaandaar, yahan tak ki parpakv lag sakta hai, jaise koi doosre ke batane se pehle apni kami maan le. Isliye is par kam hi sawaal uthta hai. Ye samajh jaisa lagta hai, kisi niyam jaisa nahi jiske hisaab se koi jee raha ho.
Par vaakya kabhi nahi kehta ki kiske muqable zyada, ya kiske liye. Ye chupchaap doosre ki pratikriya ko sahi naap aur apni ko galat naap maan leta hai, aur ye bhi nahi poochta ki jis baat se shuru hua wo asal mein kaisi thi.
Zyada kis hisaab se, aur kiske paimane se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost usi baat par waise hi react kare, toh kya use “zaroorat se zyada” kaha jayega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo ehsaas ke upar bolti hai #
“Chhodo na, baat ka batangad mat banao.” “Tamasha mat karo.” “Aur logon ko toh isse koi fark nahi padta.” Awaaz theek ehsaas ke upar bolti hai, taaki kisi ke dekhne se pehle use chhota kar de.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki ye awaaz unke saath utni sakht hoti hai jitna sakht wo kisi aur ke saath nahi hote. Chubhti baat par rote dost ko tasalli milti hai; aaine mein wahi aansoo daant paate hain. Awaaz mein ek dohra paimana hai jiska wo zikr nahi karti.
“Chhodo na” kehte waqt ye kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Apni hai, ya itni baar suni gayi ki rat gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Aksar ye kahan se shuru hota hai #
Kuch logon mein ye shuru mein suni baaton se banta dikhta hai: “Rone ki kya baat hai”, “Arre mazaak tha”, “Har baat dil par mat liya karo.” Kuch gharon mein tez ehsaason ko aisi cheez maana jaata tha jise jaldi nipta diya jaye, aur wajahein alag-alag ho sakti hain.
Jis bachche ne ye aksar suna ho wo maan sakta hai ki tez mehsoos karna musibat bulata hai, toh niyam ban gaya: kam mehsoos karo, ya kam dikhao. Aisa niyam kamra badalne ke baad bhi barson reh sakta hai.
Ehsaas pehli baar kab zaroorat se zyada lagne lage, aur us waqt kamre mein kaun tha jab ye khayal baitha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Niyam ke neeche ka niyam #
Aksar ye yakeen ek shaant niyam par tika hota hai: “Tez mehsoos karna kami hai, jise chhupana chahiye,” ya “Chot lagi, yaani mujhse kuch galat hua.” Pehli line swabhaav ke baare mein ek note jaisi lagti hai. Neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki kya dikhaya jaye.
Aise niyam tathya jaise lagte hain, jaise zameen zameen lagti hai. Kuch log ise shuruaati barson se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai, narmi se aur apni raftaar se.
Aaj aaspaas ke logon aur jagahon mein kahan ehsaas dikhana aasaan hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ye niyam kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ehsaas chhupane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai paarivarik samaroh mein chutki par muskurate rehna, office mein chot nigal jaana aur phir ghar par chid jaana, dost ko bataye bina reh jaana ki uski baat chubhi, ya aise kamre mein akelapan jahan sab pasand karte hain.
Kuch log din bhar apni pratikriyaon ko sambhalne ki thakaan batate hain. Kuch dekhte hain ki kade ehsaason ko dabane se achhe bhi dab jaate hain: sahaj hansi, khuli khushi, sangeet se mann bhar aana.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: koi chot jiska zikr nahi hua, koi rishta jo aupcharik hi raha, ehsaas ka koi pal jo zyada lagkar chhupa liya gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Is niyam se jeete hue paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday ki kalpana kijiye, jab “Mujhe har baat bahut lag jaati hai” zor se baj raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad group chat mein chutki wali line, kisi colleague ka chhota jawab, kisi message mein joda gaya hansi wala emoji jo hansi wala nahi laga, beech mein band ki gayi film.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur isse kuch badalna bhi zaroori nahi.
Usmein kya hai: baatcheetein, tippaniyan, ehsaas, anakahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya hota hai, aur kya chhoot jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhte hue, kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Sensitive hona aur zyada sensitive hona ek nahi #
Cheezon ko tez mehsoos karna logon ke alag hone ka ek tareeka hai, jaise koi lamba, koi chhota. Ise kami ya khoobi hona zaroori nahi ki ijaazat mile. Ye bas itna ho sakta hai ki koi baat kaise lagi.
“Zyada” shabd mein faisla rehta hai. Wo maanta hai ki ehsaas ki ek sahi maatra hai aur use koi aur tay karta hai. Faisla karne se pehle ye nahi poochta ki asal mein kya kaha gaya, kaise kaha gaya.
Agar “zyada” hata diya jaye toh kya badlega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhli baar jab ye kaha tha, vaakya us pal ke baare mein kya kahega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Jaanchne par log kya paate hain #
Jin palon mein logon ne khud ko “zyada” kaha, unhein gaur se dekhein toh kuch ko usse theek pehle ki baat dikhti hai: un par kasi gayi chutki, ek rookha jawab, ehsaas ko haath hilakar taal dena.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki wo kisi aur ko shayad hi “zyada” kehte hain. Doston ko chot khane, film par ro dene, ek minute maangne ki jagah dete hain. Niyam ki ek sakht setting hoti hai, jo sirf apne liye rakhi jaati hai.
Usse theek pehle kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhli baar jab zyada laga, toh asal mein kya kaha ya kiya gaya tha, aur vaakya ke faisla sunane se pehle kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Pehle kada hona zaroori nahi #
Is yakeen se sulah ka matlab sakht banna ya mehsoos karna bhool jaana nahi. Matlab ye ki ehsaas ko bina upar se daant ki doosri parat ke rehne diya jaye.
Kuch logon ko ye sochna halka lagta hai: yahan kuch mere liye maayne rakhta tha. Ehsaas mehsoos ho sakta hai, dekha ja sakta hai, aur zaroori nahi har kisi ko dikhaya jaye. Kuch kamre sach mein sunenge nahi, aur unhein parakhna zaroori nahi.
Ehsaas ko rehne dena aur daant chhod dena kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar daantne wali awaaz aaj shaam ki chhutti le le, toh chupchaap khud se kya kaha jayega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mujhe har baat bahut lag jaati hai” se bahas karne ki jagah kuch log ek sachchi line paas rakhte hain: “Mujhe cheezein gehrai se mehsoos hoti hain, aur isi tarah meri parwah hoti hai.” Purani line se seedhi takkar lene ki zaroorat nahi.
Kuch logon ko shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi lagta; chubhne ke baad apni line bolna us pal ki thodi daant hata deta hai. Kuch ko aisa nahi lagta, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kaisa hoga, jo tez mehsoos karne ke baare mein imaandaar rahe aur use kami na kahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kathin dinon mein purani line lautti hai #
Thake ya kathin dinon mein purana vaakya laut sakta hai, khaaskar kisi teekhi baat ya chutki wali shaam ke baad. Ye soch ki purani aadat ka guzarna hai, jaise purana upnaam sunkar aaj bhi sir ghoom jaata hai.
Kuch logon ko vaakya ko dekhna, naam dena aur ehsaas ko phir bhi rehne dena kaam ka lagta hai. Ehsaas mehsoos ho sakta hai, aur shaam apni raftaar se chal sakti hai, bina kuch tay kiye.
Aaj shaam chot ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use baaki sab mein dhona zaroori nahi.
Aaj ki shaam ko thoda naram kya kar sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar yakeen zara dheela pade #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye, yakeen ek paaydaan shaant. Ehsaas ab bhi tez aate hain, par upar se daant lade bina.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina maafi ke kisi film ka chhu jaana, kisi bharosemand dost se saada “wo chubha” keh dena, kisi chutki ko raat bhar dohraye bina rakh dena.
Yahan kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi ubhre wo apna hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Theek se dekhna ho toh chat ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #
- Ehsaas aaye toh mann mein saada naam dijiye: ye chubha
- Ek baar “Mujhe har baat lag jaati hai” ki jagah “Wo mere liye maayne rakhta tha” kehkar dekhiye
- Dekhiye ki wahi baat hone par dost ko “zyada” kaha jata ya nahi
- Ek film, gaane ya pal ko bina safai diye chhu jaane dijiye
- Koi baat tik jaye toh poochiye: pratikriya galat thi ya baat?
Chhoti cheezein, sab optional. Jo ho sake wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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