Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Bina kisi sankhya ke jawab khisakta rehta hai, to chaahe jitni baar jaayein, kam padne ka ek dheema ehsaas bana reh sakta hai.
Wo dadi jo ginti thin ki kaun bachcha kitni baar aaya, wo papa jo har tyohaar par chaar ghante chalakar aate aur wahi ummeed rakhte, school ki chhuttiyan jo do nanihal-dadihal ke beech saavdhan time-table se bantin.
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Parivaar ko niraash nahi karna hai,” ya “Na kehna swaarth hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Turant maafi maangna aur bharpaai ke liye koi tareekh de dena
- Saari wajahein gina dena, is ummeed mein ki list kaafi hogi
- Agli mulaqat ke liye haan keh dena, jabki andar kuch baith jaata hai
- Khud ko bura rishtedaar kehkar halka mazaak karna
- Baad mein calendar kholkar ginti karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek aah, phir ek nayi tareekh
Somwar ki subah hai, aur sasuraal se phone aata hai. Haalchaal ke baad saasuji halke se jodti hain, “Aajkal toh aap aate hi nahi hamare yahan.” Aapka hafta lamba tha, ek dost ka birthday tha aur ek dheema Sunday, jo aapne sofe par bitaya. Aap khud ko maafi maangte aur jaldi aane ka waada karte sunte ho. Phone rakhte hi diary mein ek nayi tareekh hai jo aapne theek se chuni nahi thi.
Pahunchna hi parwah ka saboot
Pehle saaf baat: vaakya aapki kami mehsoos karne ka hai, aur aapke poore hafte ko chhod deta hai. Par usse ek niyam ban sakta hai jo aapka apna ho jaata hai: “Jitni baar pahunchoge, utni parwah hai.” Ye wafadari jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye wo karta kya hai: ek khaali Sunday karz lagne lagta hai, aur aaraam apna nahi reh jaata.
Hum maujood kyun rehna chahte hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki chahte hain logon ke saath achhe hon. Zyadatar log iska koi roop dhote hain, aur ye sabse aam chaahon mein se hai. Shayad aapko sikhaya gaya ki pyaar saamne aakar dikhta hai. Shayad kisi ko niraash karna aapse hota nahi. Jo bhi ho, maujood rehna chahna kamzori nahi hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Weekend kiston ki tarah ginna
Har aisi tippani ginti mein thoda jod deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap apne weekend ginte ho. Ye dekhne se pehle ki kaisa lag raha hai, haan keh dete ho. Jo mulaqatein garmjoshi ki honi thin, wo kiston jaisi lagne lagti hain, samay par aur muskaan ke saath chukai jaane wali.
Kya ginne se mulaqat garm hoti hai?
Khud se imaandari se poochhiye: kya mulaqatein ginne se wo kabhi zyada achhi lagin? Ya zyadatar yahi laga ki aap peeche ho, chaahe kitni baar gaye? Parivaar ki parwah aur khaali din saath chal sakte hain. Ek vaakya aapke pyaar ka paimana nahi hai. Bina dosh diye dheere se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Chahi mulaqatein, aur apna aaraam
Chhodne ka matlab milna band karna nahi hai, aur ye bhi nahi ki phone par wo aah theek lagi thi. Matlab ye hai ki aapke weekend saboot ki tarah nahi chukane padenge. Jab dono taraf chaah ho tab milne jaiye, aur jab zaroorat ho tab aaraam bhi kijiye. Ye ek din mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se thoda halkapan lautta hai.
Where someone really does pressure you hard, threatens or frightens you, or controls what you do, that is worth taking seriously, and how much to show in that house is yours to judge.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJitni baar pahunchoge, utni hi parwah hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleParwah bhi kar sakte hain, aur kuch din apne bhi rakh sakte hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Aaj bina tareekh ka ek chhota, aasaan message bhejiye
- Kadam 2
Us parivaar ki ek pasand ki baat mann mein naam lijiye
- Kadam 3
Is mahine ek khaali din bina glaani ke apne paas rakhiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne kaha ki aap aate hi nahi, usse pichhle weekend aap kya kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Somwar ki subah ka ek phone #
Chhoote hue Saturday ke baad Monday ko phone par saasuji. Rishikesh ke flat ke darwaze par mithai ka dabba liye nandoi, jinki nazar mein kuch hai. Parivaar wale WhatsApp group mein sasurji ka message: “Aajkal toh aap aate hi nahi hamare yahan.” Aah bharkar kaha gaya, awaaz oonchi nahi, phir bhi lagta hai.
Upar se ye ek seedhi baat lag sakti hai, pyaar bhi. Par kuch logon ko iske neeche hisaab sunaayi deta hai: ek weekend jo nahi hua, aur uske naam ki ek chhoti-si parchi mez par rakhi hui.
Aane ke baare mein ek vaakya ke bheetar kai weekend baithe ho sakte hain.
Aakhri baar jab suna “aajkal toh aap aate hi nahi,” tab us weekend aapne iski jagah kya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Phone kaan par, aur andar ki ginti #
Kuch log batate hain ki turant glaani ki halki lehar aati hai, pichhle kuch mahino mein mann hi mann nazar daudti hai, aur “par” se shuru hota jawab banne se pehle hi aa jaata hai. Kuch ko pehle thakaan lagti hai, aur glaani baad mein uske peeche aati dikhti hai.
Gairhaaziri par tippani sochne se pehle lag jaati hai, kyunki wo kuch asli chhoo leti hai: wo insaan sachmuch yaad karta hai, ya kam se kam vaakya yahi kehta hai. Sochna baad mein aata hai, aksar calendar dekhte hue.
Aise vaakya par pehli pratikriya shayad hi kabhi apni marzi jaisi lagti hai.
Use sunne ke baad ke palon mein aapne kis or haath badhaya: safai, maafi, ya tareekhein dekhne ko phone?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Jo kam hai wo gina gaya, jo tha nahi #
Ye tippani batati hai ki kya kam hai, aur ye nahi ki kya tha. Kaam ka poora mahina, lamba safar, ek durlabh shant Sunday, aur kisi dost ki sagai, sab ek shabd “hi nahi” ke peeche gayab ho jaate hain.
Bina kisi sankhya ke jawab khisakta rehta hai, to chaahe jitni baar jaayein, kam padne ka ek dheema ehsaas bana reh sakta hai.
Aane ke baare mein har tippani ke peeche aamtaur par us taraf ek bhara hua hafta hota hai jise kisi ne nahi dekha.
Ye ek chhota sawaal bhi adhar mein chhod deti hai jise rakhne ki jagah nahi: kitna aana kaafi hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo mulaqat nahi hui, uske bahar aapka pichhla mahina kaisa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab ginti andar bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno to wo shabd seekh leti hai. “Bahut din ho gaye.” “Is mahine chale hi jao.” “Unhein lagega humein parwah nahi.” Kabhi Thursday ko hi shuru ho jaati hai, jab weekend ki koi yojana bani hi nahi.
Rishtedaar shehar ke us paar hon ya saat samandar paar, ginti chalti rehti hai: aaraam ka din udhaar ka lagta hai, doston ke saath sair par ek chhota-sa baadal rehta hai, ek call farz se ki jaati hai aur usme bahut kuch nahi hota. Kyunki ye antaraatma jaisi lagti hai, ise sirf soch-samajh maan liya jaata hai.
Andar ki awaazein aksar lehja kahin se udhaar leti hain.
Jab wo “bahut din ho gaye” kehti hai, to aane ki ginti kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai, aur kin dinon mein sabse tez bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Maujood rehna pyaar kaise ban gaya #
Wo dadi jo ginti thin ki kaun bachcha kitni baar aaya, wo papa jo har tyohaar par chaar ghante chalakar aate aur wahi ummeed rakhte, school ki chhuttiyan jo do nanihal-dadihal ke beech saavdhan time-table se bantin. Kuch log aise gharon mein pale jahan pahunchna hi parwah dikhane ka sabse saaf tareeka tha.
Kuch parivaaron mein maujoodgi hi zabaan thi. Phone call ki keemat darwaze par khade chehre se kam thi. Bachcha isse ek niyam le sakta hai: agar pyaar hai to pahunchna hi hai, aur na pahunche to uska koi matlab hoga.
Pyaar naapne ki shuruaati aadatein aksar naye parivaaron mein saath chali aati hain.
Aapke bachpan mein kaun aane ki ginti rakhta tha, aur kisi ka aana chhootne par us ghar mein kya hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chup niyam jo andar baith sakta hai #
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Parivaar ko niraash nahi karna hai,” ya “Na kehna swaarth hai.” Kuch logon mein iska naram roop hota hai: “Jitni baar pahunchoge, utni parwah hai.”
Aisi baatein maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Wo khayal rakhne wala insaan hone jaisi lagti hain, jaise mulaqat ke liye haan kehna sirf achhi tameez ho. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhi bahar nikalkar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log is niyam ko bachpan se jod paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono theek hai.
Aaj ke kin rishton mein “kitni baar pahuncha, utni parwah” aaj bhi baithta hai, aur kinme nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Aane ki ginti ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai saal bhar ki majboori mein ki gayi mulaqatein: de diye gaye Sunday, bhaari hafte ke baad lambi drive, weekend jo kabhi kisi ke apne nahi hue. Kuch log dekhte hain ki jaana band karne se bahut pehle unhone mulaqaton ka intezaar karna chhod diya tha.
Ek dheemi keemat aur hai. Vaakya chup karane ko ki gayi mulaqaton mein garmjoshi kam reh sakti hai, dono taraf. Baarah mahino mein ye aise kai ghante ban jaate hain jinmein sharir wahan tha aur mann kahin aur, jo dono mein se kisi ki chaah nahi thi.
Ye kamzori nahi hai: sabke weekend sambhalne mein sachmuch taakat lagti hai.
Pichhle saal ginti ne aapse kya liya: aaraam, doston ka saath, ya mulaqaton ka apna maza?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, aane ki ginti karte hue #
Ek aam Friday sochiye, jis din “jitni baar pahunchoge, utni parwah” tez bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, theek karne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shayad usme baar-baar likhkar mitaya gaya message hai, ek khaali Saturday jo “kahin zaroorat pade” ki wajah se khaali rakha, kisi dost ki sagai jo parivaarik mulaqat ke aaspaas kisi tarah fit ki gayi, ek lambi drive jisme radio bhi chuppi nahi bhar paata. Kuch fit hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya-kya hai: diary, drive, manzoori ka intezaar karti weekend ki yojanayein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Friday ko dekhne par, agar kuch dikhta hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
“Nahi aate” ke peeche kya chaah ho sakti hai #
“Aate hi nahi” ke peeche shayad yaad kiye jaane ki chaah hai, koi qissa sunne ki, mez par ek chehra dekhne ki. Chaah aur use kehne ka dhang do alag cheezein hain, aur dhang chaah se zyada teekha lag sakta hai.
Aise dekhein to vaakya kisi par number dene jaisa kam aur ye kehne ka atpata tareeka zyada lag sakta hai ki humein aapka saath aur chahiye. Kuch ko halka lagta hai ye sochkar ki vaakya ek tedha-sa namaste hai, bill jaisa nahi, bhale wo bill jaisa hi laga ho.
Log nazdeeki ajeeb shakalon mein maangte hain.
Agar aap sochein ki mulaqat ke alawa wo insaan aapse kya chaah sakta hai, to kya aata hai: ek hansi, ek khana, ek shant ghanta, koi khabar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log pal ko dheere se dohrakar dekhte hain ki kitna chhota tha: ek aah, ek vaakya, phone ki line par ek thehraav. Tippani aur baad ki glaani ka aakaar aksar bahut alag-alag nikalta hai.
Kuch ko wo pal bhi dikhte hain jo ulte gaye: ek mulaqat jo aasaan aur chhoti thi, ek rishtedaar jisne kaha “jab ho sake, aa jaana,” ek call jo garmjoshi se khatam hui bina tareekhon ka zikr kiye. Kabhi wo pal aah se dheeme the, kabhi bahut kam, aur dono ko saaf dekhna theek hai.
Teekhi tippani ke bagal mein garmjoshi chhoot jaati hai.
Us parivaar mein kab saath ka waqt halka laga, dono taraf kisi ka kuch bakaya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Calendar khaata-bahi nahi hai #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki aap par kuch weekend bakaya hain, na ye dikhawa ki vaakya chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka is par kam chale ki aap apne din kaise bitayein, aur ek khaali Saturday kitna doshi mehsoos karaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab ve calendar ko khaata-bahi maanna chhod dete hain. Khaata-bahi mein ek paksh dendaar rehta hai aur doosra intezaar karta hai, aur beech mein kisi ko wo mulaqat nahi milti jo bas chahi gayi ho.
Jahan koi sach mein bahut dabaav daale ya daraye, wo gambhirta se lene ki baat hai, aur us ghar mein kitna dikhana hai ye aapka faisla hai.
Agar “aate hi nahi” ka kam chale, to ek khaali Saturday kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “unhein niraash kiya ja raha hai” mahino se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log iske badle ek vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Parwah karna aur ginti rakhna alag hain, aur hisaab rakhe bina bhi parwah ki ja sakti hai.”
Pehle-pehal sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek pankti hai jise kuch log phone ya parivaarik weekend se pehle aazmaate hain, aur kehte hain ki chupchaap dohrane se wo thodi jagah le leti hai jo purani pankti gherti thi.
Sachcha vaakya kisi ka paksh liye bina bhi baat keh sakta hai.
Aapke apne dinon aur unki saath ki chaah ke baare mein, dono ke liye jagah rakhne wala vaakya aapke apne shabdon mein kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein khoonti par taangi ja sakti hain #
Aane ke baare mein har tippani ko jawab, waada ya diary mein nayi tareekh nahi chahiye. Kuch ko bas notice kiya ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur din ke aakhir mein coat ki tarah khoonti par taang diya ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai, na ye sehmati hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse din ke wo hisse bach jaate hain jo pehle se unke apne hain: der tak nashta, purane dost ka phone, ek ghanta kitaab ke saath.
Shaam ke liye vaakya taang dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya baat khatam ho gayi. Bas itna ki phone par bhari ek aah ko baaki weekend tak saath nahi jaana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki wo niyam ek darja halka ho gaya. Parivaar parivaar rehta hai, aur ek khaali Saturday bas ek khaali Saturday ho sakta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise sofe par ghadi dekhe bina kitaab padhna, isliye ek chhota message bhejna ki mann tha, isliye nahi ki chahiye tha, ya aisi mulaqat jo intezaar se shuru ho.
Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai aur dhyaan dene laayak hai, chaahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Theek se dekhna ho to ek baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi aane ki ginti”
- Chupke se poochhiye: ye glaani hai, ya sachmuch yaad aa rahi hai?
- Gaur kijiye ki jo weekend mulaqat nahi bana, uska kya kiya
- Us parivaar ki ek chhoti baat sochiye jo aapko pasand hai
- Aaj wahan kisi ko bina tareekh ka ek chhota, aasaan message bhejiye
Chhote, nijee aur apni marzi se. Jo aaj ho sake, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne kaha ki aap aate hi nahi, usse pichhle weekend aap kya kar rahe the?
- Bina kisi bakaye ke milne jaane ki sochein, to wo mulaqat kis tarah alag hai?
- Us parivaar mein kisse milna aapko sachmuch achha lagta hai, aur kya achha lagta hai?
- Aapke parivaar mein pahunchna pehli baar kab parwah ka matlab bana?
- Agar aane ki ginti ka aapke weekends par kam chalta, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhta?