Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
“Seekhna” shabd bina bataye ek ghadi bhi chala deta hai.
Naye school ka pehla hafta jab baaki bachchon ko pata tha ki kaun sa nal chalta hai, hostel ke wo niyam jo kahin likhe nahi the, garmi ki chhuttiyon mein mama ke ghar jahan TV theek nau baje band ho jaata tha.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe inhi jaisa banna hoga,” ya “Mujhe apni jagah kamani hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sabko gaur se dekhna aur bina kahe ghar ka tareeka apna lena
- Har chhoti cheez pehle poochh lena, taaki dobara toka na jaaye
- Khud ko ghar ka ‘trainee’ batakar pehle hi mazaak bana lena
- Saajhe kamron mein kam baithna aur apne ek kone mein zyada
- Baad mein wo pal dohrana, theek wahi shabd aur wahi muskaan
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Aangan mein saji plates, dobara lagin
Makar Sankranti ki subah, Muzaffarpur mein sasural ka aangan. Aapne dahi-chura ki plates waise hi sajayin jaise apne ghar mein sajate hain. Chachiji hanskar sab dobara laga deti hain: “Hamare yahan aise hi chalta hai, dheere-dheere sab seekh jaenge.” Baaki log apne kaam mein lag jaate hain. Aap khaali haath khade reh jaate ho, jaise kisi aise imtihaan mein jiska aapko pata hi nahi tha.
Apnaye jaane ko sab unke dhang se
Sabse pehle saaf baat: kisi aur ke ghar mein naye ki tarah dekha jaana aapki keemat ka paimana nahi hai. Par isse ek niyam ban sakta hai, jo phir aapka apna ho jaata hai: “Apnaye jaane ke liye sab kuch inke dhang se karna hoga.” Ye ghulne-milne jaisa sunai deta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke apne tareeke galat lagne lagte hain, aur har mulaqat mein aapka thoda hissa ghisata jaata hai.
Hum swagat kyun chahte hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki chahte hain naye ghar mein swagat ho. Zyadatar log iska koi roop dhote hain, aur ye sabse aam chaahton mein se hai. Shayad aapne naye tareeke seekhne ki poori koshish ki. Shayad badtameezi ka darr rehta hai. Jo bhi ho, ghulna-milna chahna kamzori nahi hai. Ye apna banne ki chaah se aata hai, aur ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har mulaqat ka wo imtihaan
Aisi har tok imtihaan mein ek sawaal aur jod deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap har harkat par nazar rakhte ho. Apni aadaton par shak karte ho. Jis ghar ko parivaar hona chahiye, wahan vidyarthi jaisa lagta hai. Jo tareeke aap saath laaye, jinse ghar ghar jaisa lagta tha, wahi galtiyan lagne lagte hain.
Kya unka imtihaan paas karna zaroori?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya ye niyam pakadne se aap kabhi us ghar mein zyada apne lage? Ya zyadatar aisa laga jaise pariksha par chal rahe mehmaan hon? Kuch naye tareeke seekhna aur apne banaye rakhna saath-saath chal sakta hai. Ek vaakya aapki jagah ka paimana nahi. Ise bina dosh ke, narmi se poochhna theek hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Kuch seekhna, apna banaye rakhna
Chhodne ka matlab behas karna nahi hai, aur ye bhi nahi ki cheezein dobara laga diye jaana theek laga tha. Matlab ye hai ki aapke apne tareeqon ka galat lagna zaroori nahi. Jo seekhna chahein seekhiye, jo aapke liye maayne rakhta hai use apne mann mein apna rehne dijiye. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Wahin se thoda chain lautta hai: naye ghar mein aap khud bane rehte hain.
Where someone really does react badly, threatens or frightens you, or controls what you do, that is worth taking seriously, and how much to show in that house is yours to judge.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleApnaye jaane ke liye sab kuch unke dhang se karna hoga.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleSeekhna bhi chal sakta hai, aur apna rakhna bhi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apna ek aisa tareeka mann mein naam lijiye jo aapko pyaara hai
- Kadam 2
Ek nayi cheez sirf tab seekhiye jab aap khud chahein
- Kadam 3
Mulaqat ke baad thodi der chupchaap apne liye baithiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab sasural mein kisi ne kaha ki aap seekh jaoge, tab aap kaun sa kaam apne dhang se kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Swagat, aur usmein tah kiya hua niyam #
Sankranti ki subah, Muzaffarpur mein sasural ka aangan. Aapne dahi-chura ki plates apne dhang se sajayin, toh Chachiji ne muskurakar sab dobara laga din. Tauliya taar par apne tareeke se taanga, toh Buaji ne jagah bata di. “Hamare yahan aise hi chalta hai, dheere-dheere sab seekh jaenge,” aur baat aage badh gayi.
Upar se ye naram lagta hai, apnapan bhi: koi jaldi nahi hai, waqt hai. Bheetar se kuch logon ko doosri baat sunai deti hai: yahan ek tareeka pehle se tay hai, aur naye aane wale ka kaam use seekhna hai, usmein kuch jodna nahi.
Wahi baat kabhi swagat jaisi lagti hai, kabhi band hote darwaze jaisi.
Aakhri baar jab “hamare yahan aise hi chalta hai” suna, tab aapke haath mein kya tha, aur us pal ye shabd aapko kaise lage?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Halki muskaan pehle kyun aa jaati hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki muskaan apne aap chali aati hai, sar hil jaata hai aur andar kuch zara-sa baith jaata hai. Kuch ke mann mein jawab banne lagta hai aur wo use tah karke rakh lete hain, kyunki ye ghar ab unka bhi hai, phir bhi wo mehmaan jaisa mehsoos kar rahe hain.
Kisi aur ke ghar mein toka jaana sochne se pehle hi darj ho jaata hai, kyunki bahar nikalne ka koi aasaan raasta nahi hota aur kal subah phir sab ek saath naashte par baithe honge. Soch baad mein aati hai, nahate hue ya lautte raaste mein.
Naye parivaar mein pehli pratikriya shayad hi kabhi apni marzi ki lagti hai.
Jab sasural ke kisi ne kaha ki aap dheere-dheere sab seekh jaoge, toh wo jawab jo ban raha tha, uska kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Seekhna khula lagta hai, par jawab tay hai #
Seekhna aam taur par dono taraf chalta hai: aap apna dikhaiye, hum apna dikhate hain. Ye vaakya ek hi taraf ishaara karta hai. Ghar ka ek tareeka hai, naye insaan ke liye sabak hai, aur din chalane ke baare mein jo wo pehle se jaanta hai, wo chupchaap kinare rakh diya jaata hai.
“Seekhna” shabd bina bataye ek ghadi bhi chala deta hai. Maano koi padaav hai jo tab khatam hoga jab naya insaan sab ghar ke dhang se karne lage. Tab tak chhota-sa farq, jaise tauliya taangne ka, is baat ka saboot lagne lagta hai ki sabak adhoora hai.
Ek poora insaan barson ki apni aadatein lekar aata hai.
Aapke apne kaun se tareeke, jo aapne ghar mein seekhe ya khud banaye the, us ghar mein sabse pehle chup ho gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab ghar ke niyam bheetar se bolne lagein #
Baar-baar suno toh ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Pehle dekh lo wo kaise karte hain.” “Ye mat hilao, ye wahan rakha jaata hai.” “Poochh lena hi theek hai, warna phir galat hoga.” Kabhi-kabhi kisi almari ke khulne se pehle hi ye shuru ho jaata hai.
Sasural wale doosre kamre mein hon ya doosre shehar mein, jaanch chalti rehti hai: gamle ko unke waqt par paani, apne flat mein bhi tauliya unke tareeke se tah, koi chhota faisla tab tak ruka jab tak koi haami na bhar de. Ye aapki apni awaaz mein bolti hai, isliye tameez jaisi lagti hai.
Andar ki awaazein aksar kahin se lehja udhaar leti hain.
Har cheez jaanchne wali awaaz kiske lehje mein bolti hai, aur aapki zindagi ke kin kamron mein ab sabse zyada bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye naya banna purani baat hai #
Naye school ka pehla hafta jab baaki bachchon ko pata tha ki kaun sa nal chalta hai, hostel ke wo niyam jo kahin likhe nahi the, garmi ki chhuttiyon mein mama ke ghar jahan TV theek nau baje band ho jaata tha. Kuch log pehle bhi kisi ghar ka ankaha qaayda seekhne wale naye reh chuke hain.
Kuch gharon mein ankahe niyam hi ghar chalane ka tareeka the, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag hain. Mehmaan bankar ek bachcha chupchaap ye aadat le sakta hai: pehle dekhna, sambhalkar nakal karna, aur apna tareeka tab tak chhipakar rakhna jab tak koi poochhe nahi.
Kahin naya hona aksar aisa nishaan chhodta hai jo baad mein laut aata hai.
Kisi ghar ke ankahe niyam sirf dekhkar pehli baar kab seekhne pade, aur us ghar mein kisne ise aasaan ya mushkil banaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baith sakne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe inhi jaisa banna hoga,” ya “Mujhe apni jagah kamani hai.” Kuch log halka roop dhote hain: “Mera tareeka tabhi ginega jab maine inka seekh liya.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo naye aane wale ki tameez lagti hai, jaise kisi aur ke ghar mein dheere bolna. Isiliye kabhi-kabhaar ise bahar nikaalkar dekh lena theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi ke kin kamron mein “pehle unka tareeka seekhoon, tab mera ginega” ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Seekhne wali bhoomika saal bhar mein kya leti hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai saal bhar chhoti cheezein kisi aur ke dhang se: cushion, kapde dhone ka din, birthday par pehle kis rishtedaar ko phone jaaye, mehmaan ka darwaze par swagat kaise ho. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo naya kuch sujhana bahut pehle chhod chuke the, bina tay kiye.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Hamesha ke vidyarthi ki tarah rehna saajha ghar ko kisi aur ka office bana sakta hai, jahan har chhota faisla dastkhat ka intezaar karta hai. Baarah mahino mein kai aam pal aaram se nahi, sambhalkar jiye jaate hain.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Din bhar khud par nazar rakhna asli mehnat hai.
Pichhle baarah mahino mein seekhne wali bhoomika ne aapse kya liya: koi aadat jo kinare hui, koi baat jo kahi nahi gayi, koi kamra jo poora apna nahi laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, naye bankar #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “mera tareeka tab ginega jab unka seekh loon” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ghar ke tareeke se saji almari jo do baar jaanchi gayi, koi weekend plan jo batane se pehle kisi ke saamne rakha gaya, bachpan ki koi aadat jo phir kinare rakhi gayi, gharwalon ke phone se pehle sambhalkar likha sandesh. Kuch baithega, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, phone, faisle jo haami ka intezaar kar rahe hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Do tarah ki aadatein, guru aur chela nahi #
Har ghar kuch aadaton par chalta hai jo kahin se shuru huin: kisi dadi ki pasand, chhote flat ki tangi, koi purani behas jo ab kisi ko yaad nahi. Ghar ka tareeka us ghar ke kaam aaya hua tareeka hai, yaani ye nahi ki wahi akela tareeka hai jo chalta hai.
Is nazar se dekhein toh naya aane wala peeche chhoota vidyarthi kam aur doosre ghar, doosre shehar, hostel ya pehle kiraye ke kamre ki aadatein laya hua insaan zyada dikhta hai. Kuch logon ko ek jagah do tareeke sochna halka lagta hai.
Aadatein insaan ke saath ghar-ghar ghoomti hain.
Agar koi naya insaan us ghar mein aata jisme aap bade hue, toh uske tour-tareeqon mein se aap kya sabse zyada chahte ki wo samjhe, aur kya khushi-khushi badalne dete?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log wo pal dheere-dheere dohrate hain, toh dikhta hai ki cheez kitni chhoti thi: ek tauliya, ek taaq, batti bujhane ka waqt. Cheez aur uske baare mein kahe gaye vaakya ka wazan bilkul alag naap ka nikal sakta hai.
Kuch ko wo pal dikhte hain jab unka tareeka apnaya gaya: kisi bhatiji ko aapke kahani sunane ka dhang pasand aaya, ghar ke bujurg ne kitaabein aapke dhang se lagani shuru kin. Ye pal kabhi toke jaane se dheeme the, kabhi kam hi aaye, aur dono ko saaf dekhna theek hai.
Toke jaane ke bagal mein chhote-chhote swagat aasaani se chhoot jaate hain.
Us ghar mein ya kisi bhi nayi jagah, kab aapka nikala hua koi tareeka doosron ne uthakar apnaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Ghar ka imtihaan paas karne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki ek hi tareeka hai, na ye dikhawa ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek vaakya ka is par kam chale ki aap us ghar mein khud ko kitna sahaj rehne dein, aur din ka kitna hissa sar mein test ki tarah chalta rahe.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har taaq aur cushion ko passing mark wala imtihaan samajhna chhod dete hain. Imtihaan mein ek number deta hai aur doosra number paata hai, aur beech mein kisi ko ghar mein bas rehne nahi milta.
Jahan koi sach mein bura pesh aaye, wo gambhirta se lene ki baat hai, aur us ghar mein kitna dikhana hai ye aapka faisla hai.
Agar seekhne wale vaakya ka dakhal kam ho, toh us ghar ka ek aam din kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “yahan mujhse hamesha galti hi hoti hai” pehle hafte se baj raha hai, toh usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Yahan do ghar mile hain, aur dono apna tareeka lekar aaye hain.”
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise kisi mulaqat ya lambe weekend se pehle aazmate hain, aur kehte hain ki dheere se dohrane par ye purani line ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Sachcha vaakya bina kisi ka paksh liye bhi baat keh sakta hai.
Us ghar ke do tareeqon ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein wo vaakya kaisa hoga, jisme dono ki jagah ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas taaq par rakhi ja sakti hain #
Ghar ke tareeke ki har yaad dilayi ko jawab, sabak ya agli mulaqat ki yojana nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur shaam ko chaabiyon ki tarah darwaze ke paas ki taaq par rakha ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai, aur sehmati bhi nahi. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse din ke un hisson ke liye jagah bachti hai jo pehle se unke hain: ek tehal, kisi purane dost se phone, shaam ki kitaab.
Is vaakya ko shaam ke liye neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki tauliye aur taaqon ki kuch baatein baaki raat mein saath nahi chalna padta.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar seekhne wali bhoomika zara dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Unka tareeka unka rehta hai, aur aapka uske bagal mein bina passing mark ke reh sakta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: apne tauliye apne purane dhang se tah karna, ek taaq apni pasand se lagana, ya kisi purane dost ko ghar ki koi aadat batana jo aapko achhi lagti hai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, bhale thoda hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi seekhne wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: ye kiski aadat hai, aur kahan se shuru hui?
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein zyada zor kiska tha: shabdon ka ya lehje ka
- Apna koi ek chhota tareeka yaad kijiye jo pehle se aapke saath aaya hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab sasural mein kisi ne kaha ki aap seekh jaoge, tab aap kaun sa kaam apne dhang se kar rahe the?
- Jis ghar mein aap bade hue, uski kaun si aadat sabse zyada aapki hai, aur ab wo kahan rehti hai?
- Us naye parivaar mein kaun aapko trainee nahi, apne tareeqon wala insaan samajhta hai?
- Jis aam din seekhne wali bhoomika zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar seekhne wali bhoomika zara dheeli ho, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?