Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aksar shuru mein aata hai, jab insaan ghar ki lay seekh raha hota hai aur poori koshish kar raha hota hai ki sabko aasaan lage.
Kuch log aise rishtedaaron ke ghar jaate hue bade hue jahan niyam tab tak bataye hi nahi jaate the jab tak toot na jayein, aur unhone kisi cheez ko chhoone se pehle dhyaan se dekhna aur nakal karna seekh liya.
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Yahan theek rehne ke liye mujhe ghul-mil jaana hai,” ya “Is parivaar mein meri raay nahi ginti.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Koi bhi chhota kadam uthane se pehle dekhna ki baaki kya kar rahe hain
- Unke ghar mein unke tareeke se karna, aur apna tareeka sirf apne ghar mein
- Aisi chhoti baaton ke liye ijazat maangna jinki koi aur nahi maangta
- Mulaqaat mein chup rehna, aur lautte waqt use dohrana
- Apne tareeke se karte rehna, aur agli tok ke liye taiyaar rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Thaali, jo chupchaap dobara saji
Rohtak mein sasural ka pehla Karva Chauth ka hafta. Rasoi mein aapka haath madad ke liye badhta hai, aur thaali ka saamaan usi dhang se sajta hai jaisa apne ghar mein seekha tha. Saasu Maa dheere se sab hatakar phir lagati hain: “Hamare yahan toh aise hi hota hai.” Sab muskurate hain, aapki bhi muskaan lautti hai, aur kadam peeche ho jaata hai. Par poori shaam lagta hai jaise ek mehmaan hain jo chhoti baaton mein baar-baar galat nikalta hai.
Yahan hoobahoo ghul-milna hai
Ye shabd ek aise niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Yahan maani jaane ke liye mujhe hoobahoo ghul-mil jaana hai.” Ye naye parivaar ke liye aadar jaisa lagta hai, aur aadar achhi baat hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har chhote farq ko galti bana deta hai. Apnapan ab is par tik gaya ki jis ghar mein abhi-abhi aana hua, uski har aadat se hoobahoo mel khaye.
Naye parivaar mein apnaye jaane ki chaah
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki naye parivaar mein apnaya jaana chahte hain. Shayad sikhaya gaya ki adjust karo, jhanjhat mat karo. Shayad in logon ki parwah hai aur chaahat hai ki wo bhi aapki parwah karein. Shayad apne tareeke anmol lagte hain, aur unhein kinare rakha jaana chubhta hai. Ye niyam bewaqoofi nahi. Ye apnapan chahne se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Apne tareeke galat lagne lage
Har “Hamare yahan aise hota hai” aapke apne tareekon ko thoda aur chhota kar deta hai. Kuch bhi karne se pehle dekhna shuru hota hai. Apna koi vyanjan ya aadat pesh karna band hota hai. Jis rasoi mein kabhi hunar lagta tha, usmein anaadipan lagta hai. Dheere-dheere mulaqaatein is baat ka imtihaan lagne lagti hain ki nakal kitni achhi ho, aur jo insaan aane se pehle the, wo bemel lagne lagta hai.
Kya hoobahoo ghulna iske layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya hoobahoo ghul-mil jaane ki zaroorat ne mulaqaatein kabhi aasaan keen? Ya zyadatar bas aapko aur sambhla hua aur thaka hua bana diya? Kisi ghar ki aadatein bas aadatein hain, aur shabd unke apne chune hue the. Thaali alag dhang se sajana iska paimana nahi ki aap apne ho ya nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske layak hai?
Unke tareeke seekhein, phir bhi aap
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat chubhi nahi, ya aapke tareeke maayne nahi rakhte. Matlab ye ki apnapan ab har aadat ki sahi nakal par nahi tika. Aap unke kuch tareeke seekh sakte ho, kuch apne chupchaap rakh sakte ho, aur jaan sakte ho ki dono asli hain. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: unki rasoi mein aap apne roop mein reh sakte ho, seekhte hue, phir bhi aap.
Being hurt, threatened or frightened, watched, pressured to change who you are, kept from your family or friends, or having money, phone or papers kept from you is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleYahan maani jaane ke liye mujhe hoobahoo ghul-mil jaana hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleUnke tareeke seekhte hue bhi mera apna roop bana rehta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte unki koi ek aadat seekhiye, bas ek
- Kadam 2
Apni koi ek chhoti aadat chupchaap banaye rakhiye
- Kadam 3
Mulaqaat ke baad wo ek kaam kijiye jo poori tarah aapka hai
Is par baat karni hai?
““Hamare ghar mein toh aise hi hota hai” kahe jaane par aap kaun sa chhota kaam kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek chhoti-si baat, aur aap chaukhat par #
Rohtak ke sasural mein pehla Karva Chauth ka hafta hai. Rasoi mein thaali sajane ka waqt hai. Aapne jo sajayi, Saasu Maa ek-ek cheez hatakar phir lagati hain: “Hamare yahan toh aise hi hota hai.” Koi aur rishtedaar jodte hain, “Mhaare yahan toh yun hi hove sai.” Chhoti-si baat alag dhang se phir ho jaati hai.
Baat aamtaur par bahut chhoti hoti hai: joote kahan rakhe jayein, kaun sa switch on rahe, kapde kaise sookhein. Par “hamara ghar” ek lakeer kheench deta hai, aur pehli baar ya lambe thehraav mein samajh nahi aata ki us lakeer ke kis taraf aap hain.
Pichhli baar “Hamare ghar mein toh aise hi hota hai” suna, tab kaun sa chhota kaam chal raha tha, aur aapka tareeka dobara badla gaya tab kamre mein kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Agle chhote faisle se pehle ki thithak #
Kuch log batate hain ki chehra garam ho jaata hai, muskaan jami reh jaati hai, ya haath achanak anaadi lagne lagte hain, jaise tauliya tah karna hi bhool gaye hon. Koi kaam se do kadam peeche hat jaata hai; koi sambhalkar karta rehta hai. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai dene ki zaroorat nahi.
Kisi aur ke ghar mein ye jataya jaana ki aapka tareeka galat hai, ek second mein body ko lag sakta hai. Sochna kuch logon ke liye baad mein aata hai, anjaan kamre mein jaagte hue, ye ginte hue ki aur kaun si chhoti baatein nazar mein aayi hongi.
Aapke tareeke ko sabke saamne badal diye jaane ke theek baad, us ghar mein aapka agla chhota faisla kaisa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baat thaali ki hai, par lakeer ghar ki khinchti hai #
“Thaali yahan rakho” thaali ke baare mein hai. “Hamare ghar mein toh aise hi hota hai” usmein ghar jod deta hai, aur saath mein ek chup sawaal ki ye ghar aapka kitna hai. Mann thaali se kahin zyada zor se us lakeer ko sunta hai.
Ye aksar shuru mein aata hai, jab insaan ghar ki lay seekh raha hota hai aur poori koshish kar raha hota hai ki sabko aasaan lage. Tab ki tok poori koshish par lag sakti hai, thaali par nahi, aur sabak mil sakta hai: “Yahan mere tareeke galat hain.”
Agar shabd sirf ek chhote kaam ke baare mein the, to wo kaun sa kaam tha, aur jo ehsaas peeche reh gaya, uske aage wo kitna bada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab ghar ke qaayde aapke saath rehne lagein #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar aa basta hai. “Pehle poochh lo.” “Rehne do, wo phir se hi karengi.” “Kuch mat chhuo, galat ho jayega.” Kai baar awaaz tab bol padti hai jab kisi rishtedaar ne sir bhi nahi uthaya.
Rishtedaar saikdon kilometre door ho sakte hain, par jaanch ab andar hoti hai: haath almari ke upar ruk jaata hai, tauliya do baar tah hota hai, apne hi ghar aaye mehmaan se poochha jaata hai ki unke yahan kaise karte hain. Ye aapki apni awaaz jaisi lagti hai, isliye aam tameez jaisi lag sakti hai.
Kisi aur parivaar ke ghar mein kuch chhoone se pehle “Pehle poochh lo” kaun kehta hai, aur ye awaaz pehli baar kab boli thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye doosre ghar ankahe niyamon ke saath aaye #
“Aise nahi beta.” “Joote yahan nahi, bahar rack par.” Kuch log aise rishtedaaron ke ghar jaate hue bade hue jahan niyam tab tak bataye hi nahi jaate the jab tak toot na jayein, aur unhone kisi cheez ko chhoone se pehle dhyaan se dekhna aur nakal karna seekh liya.
Kai parivaaron mein ghar ka apna tareeka bade jatan se aage diya jaata hai, aur wajahein har ghar ki alag hain. Mehmaan chupchaap ye nateeja nikaal sakta hai ki apnapan saare niyam seekhne ke baad aata hai, aur har chook use thoda aur door kar deti hai.
Aapne pehli baar kab seekha ki chhoone se pehle kisi ghar ko gaur se dekhna hai, aur tab aap kiske ghar mein khade the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baithne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Yahan theek rehne ke liye mujhe ghul-mil jaana hai,” ya “Is parivaar mein meri raay nahi ginti.” Kuch log iska naram roop dhote hain: “Mera tareeka tab tak ruk sakta hai jab tak main apni jagah na bana loon.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte nahi. Wo kisi aur ke ghar ki tameez jaise lagte hain, jaise darwaze par joote utarna seedhi samajhdaari lagti hai. Isiliye inhein din ki roshni mein nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Mera tareeka tab tak ruk sakta hai jab tak main apni jagah na bana loon” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Hazaar chhoti tokon ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki poore weekend nigaraani mein beetein, chhote-chhote faisle ek-ek karke doosron ko thama diye jayein, aur bachpan ke ghar ki koi aadat chupchaap chhoot jaye ki kahin nazar na pad jaye. Kuch log apna tareeka pesh karna parwah chhodne se bahut pehle chhod dete hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Barson sambhalkar mehmaan bane rehna thakata hai, aur rishtedaar shayad ek sambhla, kaat-chhaant kiya hua roop hi dekhein, jabki insaan ki asli aadatein, pasand aur mazaak hain. Saal bhar mein aisi kai mulaqaatein jama ho jaati hain jo aise imtihaan jaisi lagin jiske niyam chhape hi nahi.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi; ek poore ghar ki aadatein seekhna asli mehnat hai.
Pichhle saal ki mulaqaaton ne kya liya: ghar ki koi aadat, kisi jamghat mein dabayi hui raay, koi weekend jiski taiyaari dinon pehle se rahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch aur saal, sambhle hue mehmaan ki tarah #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “Mera tareeka tab tak ruk sakta hai jab tak main apni jagah na bana loon” zor se baj raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, sudharne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shayad parivaar ki video call jisme har sujhaav par haan kahi gayi, unke yahan ke tour-tareekon ke hisaab se bana weekend, ghar par aadatan dobara tah kiya tauliya, koi pasand jo bina bole reh gayi. Isme kuch jaana-pehchana ho sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi.
Inmein se kisi ka jawab aaj dena nahi, aur tasveer aapki hai, kabhi bhi rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: calls, mulaqaatein, wo chhoti baatein jo karne se pehle jaanch li gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, kuch alag se dikhta hai kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kiska ghar, aur kiska tareeka? #
“Hamara ghar” ko ek lakeer chahiye, par wo shayad hi batata hai ki lakeer kahan hai.
Har ghar apni wajahon se panpi aadaton par chalta hai: tauliye kis taak par rahein, light kitne baje bujhe, faltu kambal kahan rakha jaye. Is nazar se dekhein to kisi aur ghar ki aadatein is baat ka record hain ki logon ne wo kahan seekhin, insaanon ki koi ranking nahi.
Kya wo thaali tak hai, mulaqaat tak, parivaar tak, ya poori nayi zindagi tak?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab baat chhoti karke dekhi jaye, to tok ek ghar ki aadat ke baare mein hai ya is baare mein ki kaun apna gina jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi cousin aapke bachpan ke ghar mein rehne aata aur tauliye apne ghar ki tarah tah karta, to tab wo aapko kaisa lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Paas se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log ise dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to dekhte hain ki asal mein alag kya tha: tauliya teen tah mein tha, do mein nahi, switch deewar se band, joote darwaze par, almari mein nahi.
Kuch ko wo jagahein dikhti hain jahan unke apne tareeke bas aam hain: apna flat, kisi dost ka ghar jahan koi kuch nahi kehta, office jahan kamra unhone khud sajaya. Kabhi isse halka lagta hai, kabhi kuch der parivaar ki nazar hi zyada zor se lagti hai.
Us ehsaas ke size ke bagal mein rakhein to dheema nazara kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki zindagi ki kaun si jagah chhoti baaton mein aapke apne tareeke ko poori tarah aam rehne deti hai, aur wahan ka aam ghanta kaisa hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Har chhoti baat jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki unka tareeka sahi hai, ya ye dikhana ki tok chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek ghar ki aadat ka is par kam chale ki apne ghar lautkar aap apne tareekon ke baare mein kaisa mehsoos karein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo ek saath har rishtedaar ke ghar ka har niyam seekh lene ki koshish chhod dete hain. Wo list kabhi khatam nahi hoti, kyunki aadatein ghar-ghar badalti hain, aur uske peeche bhaagna har mulaqaat ke beech mein ek tok ko bithaye rakhta hai.
Jis kamre mein baat sach mein nahi suni jaati, wo us kamre ki baat hai, aur wahan aazmana zaroori nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar “Hamara ghar” unhi ka vaakya rahe, aur aapke apne tareeke aapke rahein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Mera tareeka galat hai” pehli mulaqaat se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Ghar alag, aadatein alag; koi bhi mere baare mein faisla nahi.”
Ye sach lage, zaroori nahi. Ye bas aazmane ki line hai, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki mulaqaat par jaate hue gaadi mein dheere se keh lene par wo purane vaakya ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Apne tareekon ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo unke ghar mein bhi tike aur aapke ghar mein bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “Hamare ghar mein toh aise hi hota hai” ko jawab, maafi ya yaad karne ke liye niyamon ki list nahi chahiye. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek pal mehsoos ki ja sakti hain, aur neeche rakh di ja sakti hain, jaise lambe thehraav ke aakhir mein suitcase darwaze ke paas rakh diya jaye.
Ye jhuk jaana nahi. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse mulaqaat ke aasaan hisson ke liye jagah bachti hai, aur parivaar ke un logon ke liye jo unhein aasaan banate hain.
Aaj shaam tok ko neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use aapke saath ghar nahi aana padega, aapke apne kamron aur apne tareekon tak.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda dheela pade #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki niyam ek notch dheema ho gaya. Doosre ghar apni aadatein rakhte hain, aur aapki aadatein bas aadatein hain, koi imtihaan nahi jo fail hua.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ghar par bina soche apne tareeke se tah kiya tauliya, kisi dost ke saath rasoi ki thaali wali kahani par hansti ek shaam, ya aisa Sunday jo kisi mulaqaat ko dohrane mein na beete.
Isme se kisi ko kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi hamare-ghar wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: hamara ghar, kis baare mein, aur wo baat kitni chhoti hai?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada kya chubha: toka jaana, ya dekha jaana
- Apne bachpan ke ghar ki koi aisi aadat sochiye jo aaj bhi achhi lagti hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chaahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- “Hamare ghar mein toh aise hi hota hai” kahe jaane par aap kaun sa chhota kaam kar rahe the?
- Us pal ne aapke bachpan ke ghar ki kaun si aadat ki yaad dilayi?
- Us ghar mein aap kab sabse zyada mehmaan jaisa mehsoos karte hain, aur kab sabse kam?
- Jis aam din “Pehle jagah bana lo” wala niyam zor se bajta hai, us din kya talta rehta hai?
- Agar wo niyam thoda dheela pade, to agli mulaqaat par sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?