Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isiliye pal chhota hone par bhi chubh sakta hai.
Har ghar saalon mein apne tareeqe banata hai: mehmaan kaise bulaye jaate hain, din kaise baandha jaata hai, “theek se” kise kehte hain.
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Yahan apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe unn jaisa banna hai,” ya “Unka tareeqa sahi hai, to mera galat hoga.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Surakshit rehne ke liye sab kuch usi ghar ke dhang se karne lagna
- Apne parivar ka tareeqa lamba samjhana, phir pachtana
- Us ghar mein kisi bhi kaam mein haath bantana band kar dena
- Lautte hue lehje ko baar-baar dohrana
- Kisi bhai-behen ke saath us par mazaak karna, aur phir bhi baad mein chubhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek chammach, ek thehraav, ek sawaal
Hisar mein sasural ka Sunday lunch. Aap apne haath ki bani sabzi laye ho. Partner ki tai ek chammach chakhti hain, rukti hain, aur poochhti hain, “Ye aise banana kisne sikhaya tumhein?” Kuch log ek-doosre ko dekhte hain. Aap muskurakar kehte ho, “Bas apne dhang se.” Par chehra tap jaata hai, aur baaki lunch bhar aap aise ghar ke saamne nape-tule mehsoos karte ho jo abhi naya hai.
Jaise hain, waise apnaye jaana
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Partner ke parivar mein mujhe jaisa hoon, waisa apnaya jaana chahiye.” Ye bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Bahut se log bina soche isi par chalte hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ek tippani ko aap par faisla bana deta hai. Har baat iski pareeksha ho jaati hai ki aap wahan ke ho ya nahi, aur aap har mulaqat mein tankar rehne lagte ho.
Unke parivar ka swagat kyun maayne rakhta
Ise hum isliye pakadte hain ki partner ke parivar ka swagat gehra maayne rakhta hai. Bahut se log is niyam ka koi roop lekar bade hote hain, aur us waqt ye aksar theek bhi lagta tha. Shayad aapne ghul-mil jaane ki bahut koshish ki. Shayad jaldi ghar jaisa lagne ki ummeed thi. Apnaye jaane ki chaah zyada nahi. Ye apnapan chahne se aati hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Unki table par tankar rehna
Unki table par har tippani tankar rehne ko aur badha deti hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere sab jama ho jaata hai. Aap jo laate ho us par dobara sochte ho. Gaadi mein jawab ratte ho. Lagta hai koi dekh raha hai. Jo mulaqatein garm ho sakti thi, wo pareeksha lagne lagti hain, aur aap paas hone ki koshish se thake lautte ho.
Kya unka faisla itna maayne rakhta hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya poore sweekar ka intezaar karne se kabhi mulaqatein aasaan hui? Ya zyadatar har tippani aur chubhi? Gharon ke apne tareeqe hote hain, aur naye log kuch waqt unse naape jaate hain. Us sawaal ke peeche kya tha, ye koi pakka nahi keh sakta. Phir bhi ek tippani aapki jagah ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna laayak hai?
Aapka dhang aapka hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap apnaye jaane ki ummeed chhod dein. Matlab ye ki ek tippani ab tay nahi karti ki aap wahan ke ho ya nahi. Aap apna laya hua la sakte ho, aur sawaal unhi ka rehne de sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Ye ekdam se nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: mulaqat mulaqat banti hai, imtihaan nahi, aur aapka dhang aapka rehta hai.
If remarks at your in-laws' ever come with threats, being frightened, being controlled or kept from people, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe wahan jaisa hoon, waisa apnaya jaana chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera dhang mera hai. Ek tippani meri jagah tay nahi karti.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Mulaqat se pehle teen dheemi saansein lijiye
- Kadam 2
Ek tippani ko unki hi rehne dijiye, use dohraye bina
- Kadam 3
Mulaqat ke baad apne liye ek shaant kaam kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapko asal mein kisne apna tareeqa sikhaya, aur unse seekhna aapko kaise yaad hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek sawaal jo asal mein sawaal nahi #
Hisar mein sasural ki rasoi mein khadi bua-saas, Sunday ko aayi nanad, ya tyohaar par ghar aayi dadi-saas: “Ye aise banana kisne sikhaya tumhein?” Shabd sawaal jaise hain, lehja aksar nahi.
Ye jawab ka intezaar nahi karta. Ye ek ghar ka tareeqa saamne rakhta hai, aapke ghar ka uske bagal mein, aur farq ko bolne deta hai. Bheetar se yeh ek dopahar ke baare mein kam aur is baare mein zyada lagta hai ki aap kahan se aaye ho.
Aakhri baar kisi ne us lehje mein “ye kisne sikhaya?” poochha, tab aur kisne suna, aur agle pal kamre mein kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Lehja pehle kyun pahunchta hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki chehre par garmi chadhti hai, fauran samjhane ki dhun uthti hai ki wo kahan pale-badhe, ya muskaan ek pal zyada tiki rehti hai. Kuch bahut busy ho jaate hain, un cheezon ko sambhalte hue jinhein sambhalna nahi tha. Pehle hi second mein kuch bhi aa sakta hai.
Mann shabdon se pehle lehja pakad leta hai, isliye ek khaas awaaz mein poochha gaya sawaal sawaal ki tarah sune jaane se pehle faisle ki tarah mehsoos hota hai. Jo jawab sahi baithta, wo aksar ghanton baad aata hai, aur jaane ko koi jagah nahi hoti.
Us sawaal ke theek baad wale second mein aap kamre ko apne ghar ke baare mein sabse zyada kya samjhana chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek ghar, paimana bana diya gaya #
“Humare yahan toh alag banta hai” do tareeqon ke beech tulna hai. “Ye kisne sikhaya tumhein” ek tareeqe ko paimana aur doosre ko galti bana deta hai, phir us galti ke zimmedaar ka naam maangta hai.
Isiliye pal chhota hone par bhi chubh sakta hai. Sawaal us dopahar se aage nikalkar ek maa, ek nani, ek ghar, poori parvarish tak pahunch jaata hai, aur kisi ghar ka naapa jaana sunna aksar kisi kaam ke naape jaane se zyada lagta hai.
Agar tippani sirf us ek dopahar ke baare mein hoti, to wo kitni chhoti hoti, aur use usse itna bada kya bana gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab unka tareeqa aapka tareeqa jaanchne lage #
Kuch baar suno to ye andar aa jaata hai. “Kya unke yahan aise hi hota hai?” “Pehle poochh lena behtar hai.” “Mera tareeqa shayad yahan galat hoga.” Us ghar mein kisi ke ek shabd kehne se pehle hi jaanch shuru ho jaati hai.
Ye ghar tak bhi peecha karti hai. Jin cheezon par kabhi dobara sochna nahi padta tha, un par socha jaane lagta hai, aur jin logon se jo tareeqa mila unse wo maafi maangne jaisa lagne lagta hai, aapki apni awaaz mein.
Jab jaanchne wali awaaz poochhti hai “kya unke yahan aise hi hota hai?”, to asal mein aapko kiske ghar se naap rahi hai, aur kab se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Har ghar ka apna tareeqa hota hai #
Har ghar saalon mein apne tareeqe banata hai: mehmaan kaise bulaye jaate hain, din kaise baandha jaata hai, “theek se” kise kehte hain. Us ghar ke andar ye aadat kam aur bas “aise hi hota hai” zyada lagte hain.
Naye parivar se judne ka matlab ho sakta hai aise bahut se tareeqon se ek saath milna, aksar bina kisi list ke. Kuch ko dikhta hai ki jo tareeqe wo apne ghar se bina soche le aaye, wahi achanak kamre mein samjhane wali cheez ban gaye.
Jin tareeqon mein aap bade hue unmein se kaun-se aapko sabse zyada ghar jaise lagte hain, aur kisi aur ke ghar mein unmein se kisi par sawaal uthna kaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche ban sakne wala ek niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Yahan apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe unn jaisa banna hai,” ya “Unka tareeqa sahi hai, to mera galat hoga.” Kuch log iska naram roop dhote hain: “Mere ghar ke tareeqon ko samjhana padta hai.”
Aise niyam elaan karke nahi aate. Lagte hain kisi aur ke ghar mein tehzeeb nibhane jaise, ghar ke riwaaj ke peeche chalne jaise. Isiliye inhein rakhna aasaan hai, aur beech-beech mein dekhna theek.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Mere ghar ke tareeqon ko samjhana padta hai” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Naape jaane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai mulaqaton mein peeche rehna, kuch karne se pehle bataye jaane ka intezaar, har chhote faisle ko us ghar ke dhang se jaanchna, ya aam cheezon mein sambhalkar chalne ki ek dopahar ke baad thakkar lautna.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai: jin tareeqon mein aap bade hue, wo chhote lagne lagte hain, aur jinhone sikhaya, wo kisi ke kuch kahe bina hi kamre mein zara kam swagat jaise lagne lagte hain.
Pichhle saal us ghar ke tareeqe se khud ko naapne ne aapse kya liya: koi aasaan dopahar, koi pasandida aadat, koi mulaqat jo achhi ho sakti thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch aur saal, unka tareeqa pehle #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, aise din ki jab “unka tareeqa hi sahi hai” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad us ghar mein koi cheez kaise hoti hai, ye poochhne ke liye ek phone call, kisi aur ki raah chalte biti dopahar, bachpan ki ek aadat jo chupchaap rakh di gayi, ek shaam kisi ke lehje ko dobara chalate hue.
Isme abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer aasaani se rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: mulaqatein, do baar kiye faisle, ghar ki chhoti aadatein jo alag rakh di gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Sikhaya kisne, asal mein? #
Shabdik roop se “kisne sikhaya?” ka jawab hai, aur aksar garm: ek maa, ek bua, ek nani, koi roommate, barson ki koshishein. Lehja shayad wo jawab na maang raha ho, par jawab phir bhi maujood hai.
Do gharon ka ek hi cheez do tarah se karna farq hai, ranking nahi. Chupchaap poochhna, kisse alag, aur kiske paimane par, faisle ko wapas do tareeqon ki saadi tulna bana sakta hai.
Jin logon ne aapko wo tareeqe sikhaye jo aap saath liye chalte ho, unmein se us din aap kise apne bagal mein khada chahte, aur kyun unhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheemi nazar se kya mil sakta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to dekhte hain ki sawaal ek kaam ke tareeqe ka tha, par chubhan kahin badi cheez par giri: ek ghar, ek parivar, poora bachpan.
Kuch ko wo jagahein dikhti hain jahan unke tareeqon ko bina doosri nazar ke apnaya jaata hai: kisi dost ka flat, kisi cousin ka ghar, weekend par apne parivar ka ghar. Kabhi wo jagahein bhool jaati hain, aur kabhi us ek ghar ki raay sachmuch sabse oonchi hoti hai.
Jin tareeqon mein aap bade hue, wo kahan jaise hain waise hi apna liye jaate hain, aur tab aam taur par wahan kaun hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Tulna jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki unka tareeqa sahi hai, ya aapka. Matlab ye ki ek tippani is par kam chale ki aapko kitna swagat mehsoos hota hai, aur un logon ke baare mein aap kaise sochte ho jinhone sikhaya.
Kuch dekhte hain ki do gharon ke beech hisaab rakhna aisi thakaan hai jiska naam lena mushkil hai. Hisaab kabhi baithta nahi, aur chalte hue, tippani baaki sabke aage badh jaane ke baad bhi har mulaqat ke sire par baithi rehti hai.
Jahan kamra sachmuch nahi sunta, wo kamre ki baat hai, aur wahan kuch sabit nahi karna.
Kaisa lagega agar tippani usi ke paas rahe jisne ki, aur jinhone aapko sikhaya wo theek wahin rahein jahan wo hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ghar jaate hue ek sachchi line #
Agar “mera tareeqa yahan galat hai” kuch waqt se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyar rakhte hain: “Do ghar, do tareeqe. Mera bhi kahin se aaya hai.”
Ye shuru mein qaayal karne wala hona zaroori nahi. Kuch ko lagta hai ki mulaqat par jaate hue ise taiyar rakhna madad karta hai, taaki purani line shuru ho to paas mein ek aur ho.
Apne ghar ke tareeqon ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jise kisi ki sehmati ki zaroorat na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har tippani ko sudhaar, apne bade hone ki safai, ya lautte hue lambe replay ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise din ke aakhir mein chaabiyaan katore mein daal dena.
Ye kuch chhod dena nahi. Ye chunna hai ki shaam ka dhyaan kahan jaaye, aur kuch kehte hain isse un tareeqon aur logon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinhein wo sachmuch chahte hain.
Aaj shaam tippani ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo baaki raat mein, ya ghar ke baare mein aapki soch mein saath na aaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar naapna thoda dheela pade #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya. Do ghar do tarah se kar sakte hain, aur koi paimana nahi banna hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ghar ki koi aadat bas isliye rakhna ki wo aapki hai, us insaan ko phone karna jisne aapko sikhaya, ya aisi wapsi ki drive jo lehja dohrane mein na beete.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur ginti mein aata hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle, zara-sa bhi, kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi kisne-sikhaya wala sawaal”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: kisse alag, aur kiske paimane par?
- Gaur kijiye ki kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya unka lehja
- Kisi ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jisne aapko kuch sikhaya jo aap aaj bhi karte ho
- Aaj ki ek chhoti cheez par gaur kijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, personal aur apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapko asal mein kisne apna tareeqa sikhaya, aur unse seekhna aapko kaise yaad hai?
- Jab “ye kisne sikhaya?” poochha gaya, tab sabse pehle mann mein kiska chehra aaya?
- Us sawaal ke baad us mulaqat ka baaki hissa kaisa laga?
- Jis aam din “unka tareeqa sahi hai” zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar wo niyam thoda dheela pade, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?