Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isme ankahe andaze bhi ho sakte hain: ki aap kitne din tikenge, kitni ummeed rakhenge, kaam ko kaise lenge.
Kuch gharon mein sikhaya gaya ki har degree aur har saal ka tajurba ek seedhi hai, aur jo chadh gaya uska agli manzil par swagat hoga.
Kuch logon ke bheetar ek niyam banta sunayi deta hai: “Meri khoobiyan hi meri rukawat hain,” ya “Naukri chahiye to mujhe khud ko chhota karna padega.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- “Mujhe ye kaam sach mein chahiye” aur zor se dohrana
- Poochh lena ki kam qualified dikhne ke liye kya karna hoga
- Shukriya kehkar shaam bhar wo baatcheet dohrate rehna
- Agli baar CV se ek degree mann mein hi hata dena
- Muskurakar ghar mein kisi ko na batana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Taareef jaisa naram vaakya
Jaipur ke Malviya Nagar mein kaanch ki deewar wala meeting-room, lambe interview ka aakhir. Dono log garmjoshi rahe aur aap ye sochte nikle ki achha gaya. Phir ek kehta hai, “Aap to overqualified hain.” Aap kehte ho “Ji, shukriya,” kyunki wahi nikal aata hai. Bus mein ghar lautte hue vaakya ulat-palatte hain: jis cheez ke liye barson mehnat ki, wahi ‘na’ ki wajah kaise ban gayi.
Meri khoobiyan hi rukawat hain
Pehli baat seedhi: wo vaakya ek pad ka baatcheet khatam karne ka tareeka hai, asli wajahein ankahi hain. Phir bhi usse ek niyam ugta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Meri khoobiyan hi meri rukawat hain.” Bahut log bina dhyaan diye isi ke sahare chalte hain. Ye samajhdaari jaisa sunayi deta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har agla interview chhote dikhne ki taiyaari se shuru hota hai.
Taareef thukrana kyun mushkil hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki vaakya aadha taareef hai, aur taareef thukrana mushkil hai. Shaayad ghar mein mehnat ka phal hamesha barabar milne ki baat hoti thi. Shaayad aap bas chahte hain ki bina safai diye chun liye jaayein. Jo bhi ho, apne barson ke kaam ki ginti chahna haq jatana nahi hai. Wo apne hunar ki parwah se aata hai, aur use daya milni chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har tippani ka jama bojh
Aisi har tippani thoda bojh jodti hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye dikhta nahi. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap baatcheet se ek degree chupchaap hata dete ho. Apna sabse achha project dheemi awaaz mein batate ho. Ek naram vaakya chhupane ki aadat ban jaata hai, aur agla interview abhi se acting lagne lagta hai.
Kya chhupana is laayak hai?
Apne se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko thaamne se kabhi koi interview aasaan hua? Ya zyadatar aap kamre mein apna ek dheema version le gaye? Jo aapne banaya wo aapka hi hai, chahe koi bhi darwaaza khula. Chahein to iske saath thoda rukiye. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi, aur jaldi bhi nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakde rehna aapke bharose ki keemat par waajib hai?
Tajurba hai, rukawat nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo vaakya jhootha tha, ya aapko uska matlab nikalna hai. Matlab ye ki wo vaakya ab tay nahi karta ki aap apne baare mein kaise batayein. Aap keh sakte ho, “Wo pad kuch chhota tha,” aur poori kahani jeb mein rakh sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin kuch chain lautta hai: tajurbe wala insaan, rukawat nahi.
If pressure about your work ever comes with threats, being hurt or frightened, or money used to control you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri khoobiyan hi meri rukawat hain.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera tajurba achhi cheez hai, chahe koi pad chhota ho.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte ki ek khoobi yaad kijiye jo aapne achhe se barti
- Kadam 2
Apni khoobiyan ek baar khud ko seedhe bolkar sunaiye
- Kadam 3
Kisi aise ko yaad kijiye jo aapke tajurbe ki qadar karta hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Us taareef ne kya peechhe chhoda jise jhatpat “shukriya” dhak nahi saka?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Taareef ki shakl mein aaya ek ‘na’ #
Jaipur ke Malviya Nagar mein pehli manzil ka office, interview khatam hone ko hai. HR muskurakar kehti hain, “Aap to overqualified hain… hum aapko batate hain.” Ye kai baar safai se, kai baar maafi ke lehje mein kaha jaata hai, aur sunne mein achha lagta hai jab tak ye na dikhe ki baat yahin khatam ho gayi.
Kabhi ye sach mein pad aur insaan ke na baithne ka seedha bayan hota hai. Kabhi ye sabse naram vaakya hota hai jab lambi baat kehna atpata lage. Dono haal mein haath mein taareef bhi reh jaati hai aur band darwaaza bhi.
Aakhri baar jab kisi ne taareef jaisi wajah dekar ‘na’ kaha, tab aap kahan the, aur usse theek pehle apne baare mein kya bola tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Taareef ke baad ka pehla pal #
Kuch logon ko uljhan hoti hai, jaise unhein shukriya bhi kaha gaya aur lauta bhi diya gaya. Koi hanskar poochhta hai “Kya ye buri baat hai?”, koi safai dene lagta hai ki use ye kaam sach mein chahiye, koi aadat se “Ji, dhanyavaad” kehkar chup ho jaata hai. Inmein se kuch bhi ho sakta hai.
Aisi baat jaldi lagti hai kyunki uske do matlab ek saath hain aur kisi ka jawab dene ki jagah nahi bachti. Kuch logon ko ehsaas baad mein hota hai, bus-stand tak paidal jaate hue ya rasoi ki table par, jab dono matlab alag hote hain.
Uske theek baad, jawab tay karne se pehle, aapke andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye taareef bhi karta hai, darwaaza bhi #
Taareef se kuch khulna chahiye, aur ye band kar deti hai. Kehne wale ne tay kar liya ki pad ko kya chahiye aur aapko kya chahiye hoga, aur aise kaha ki behes karna apni hi taareef se ladne jaisa lage.
Isme ankahe andaze bhi ho sakte hain: ki aap kitne din tikenge, kitni ummeed rakhenge, kaam ko kaise lenge. Inki shaayad hi jaanch hoti hai, aur jis ‘na’ ki neev ye andaze hon, uska jawab dena, usse seekhna aur use bhulana, teeno mushkil hain.
Aapke paas us pad ko chahne ki kya wajahein thin, aur kya us vaakya mein unke liye koi jagah thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab taareef wala ‘na’ goonjta rahe #
Baar-baar suno to aisi baat andar ghar kar leti hai. Kuch logon ko ye CV update karte hue, ghar par phone ke dauran, ya neend se theek pehle ki shaanti mein laut aati hai, aisi awaaz mein jo unki apni chetavni jaisi lagti hai.
Kehne wali shaayad bhool bhi gayin. Par goonj chalti rehti hai aur poochhti rehti hai ki kahin aapki khoobiyan hi to rukawat nahi, baatcheet khatam hone ke bahut baad tak. Awaaz jaani-pehchani hai, isliye lagta hai nateeja aapka apna nikaala hua hai.
Jab ye taareef dobara chalti hai, to awaaz kiski hoti hai, aur kis kamre se aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch gharon mein padhai ka matlab hamesha oonchai raha #
“Aur padh lo, aur upar jaoge.” Kuch gharon mein sikhaya gaya ki har degree aur har saal ka tajurba ek seedhi hai, aur jo chadh gaya uska agli manzil par swagat hoga. Degree aise rakhi jaati thi jaise jama-poonji, plastic ki panni mein tah karke.
Wajahein ghar-ghar alag hain, aur bachche ko shaayad hi kabhi samjhayi gayin. Mann mein ek chup-si baat reh sakti hai: ki mehnat ka phal naap-tol kar milta hai, aur jo nateeja mehnat se mel na khaye, wo kisi na kisi ki galti hogi.
Aapne pehli baar kab suna ki padhai aur tajurba darwaaze kholte hain, aur kisne kaha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Taareef wale ‘na’ ke baad bacha ek chup-sa niyam #
Kuch logon ke bheetar ek niyam banta sunayi deta hai: “Meri khoobiyan hi meri rukawat hain,” ya “Naukri chahiye to mujhe khud ko chhota karna padega.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo samajhdaari ki salah jaise lagte hain, ki bas theek se pesh aana hai. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi dhoop mein nikaalkar dekhna theek hai, bina kuch karne ke dabaav ke.
Kuch log ise bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya aisa koi niyam baithta hai, thoda baithta hai, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki kaamkaaji zindagi mein chhota banne wala niyam kahan baithta hai, aur kahan chook jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Taareef wale ‘na’ ki chupchaap keemat #
Iska asar is par aa sakta hai ki agli arzi mein apna kaam kaise batayein, interview mein dabaya gaya garv, kahani se chhaanti gayi baatein, ya ye ehsaas ki har khoobi ke liye maafi chahiye. Kuch log apna sabse achha kaam kisi ke poochhne se pehle hi chhupane lagte hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai: jis cheez ke liye barson mehnat ki wahi raaste ki deewar bata di jaaye, to uljhan hoti hai. Khud par taras ki wajah se nahi. Dohre sandesh ko saath dhone mein mehnat lagti hai jo kisi ko dikhti nahi.
Us vaakya ke baad ke hafton mein uski keemat kya rahi, agar rahi: ek seedha jawab, garv ka ek pal, apni khoobiyon ka saaf bayan, ek aasaan shaam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Wednesday, goonj ki tez awaaz ke saath #
Kisi aam Wednesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Meri khoobiyan hi meri rukawat hain” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, theek karne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shaayad subah desk par, dopahar mein chai ki thadi tak tehlna, kisi dost ka message, ghar par shaam. Usmein bahut kuch ho sakta hai ya bahut kam; tasveer ke dikhne ka koi sahi tareeka nahi, aur usmein kuch bhi bhavishyavani nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye.
Aise Wednesday mein kya bhara hota hai: inbox, screen par khula CV, ek dohrayi ja rahi call, chupke se taali gayi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us niyam ke zor se bolne wale Wednesday ki tasveer mein agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Fit dono taraf se banta hai #
Ek pad chhota-sa saancha hota hai, jiske apne kinaare hain: team ka mizaaj, budget, ki koi kitne din tikega. “Overqualified” ka matlab ho sakta hai “Ye pad aapke pichhle kaam se chhota hai,” aur ye bhi ki “Hum ghabraye hain,” “Hamare paas doosra candidate hai,” ya “Asli wajah kehne se ye kehna aasaan hai.”
Inmein se kuch bhi aapke tajurbe ko kami nahi banata. Aakaar ka na milna kisi ki galti nahi ho sakti. Aap jo laaye hain, wo poora ka poora bana rehta hai, chahe koi ek darwaaza khula ho ya nahi.
Agar koi dost poori taiyaari ke baad interview se ye sunkar lautta, to aap chahte ki use kya kaha jaaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheere se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to dikhta hai ki wo vaakya aakhir mein aaya tha, ek aisi baatcheet ke baad jo achhi ja rahi thi. Unhein yaad aata hai ki interview lene walon ne kya poochha, kahan wo aage jhuke, aur poori baatcheet us aakhri line mein nahi samaati.
Kuch ko wo log bhi dikhte hain jinhone unke tajurbe ko kabhi dikkat nahi maana: purana boss jo ab bhi kaam bhejta hai, dost jo salah maangta hai, colleague jo kehta hai “Ye maine aapse seekha.” Wo pehle se wahin the, aksar zyada chup.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo aapke tajurbe ko seedhe-saade achhe ki tarah dekhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Taareef ka tarjuma karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki tajurba aade aaya, na ye saabit karna ki nahi aaya. Matlab bas itna ki us vaakya ka is par kam chale ki aap apne baare mein kaise batate ho, doston se kya kehte ho, aur agle mauqe ki kya tasveer banate ho.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo tay karne ki koshish chhod dete hain ki “overqualified” ka asli matlab kya tha. Ye paheli shaayad hi suljhti hai, aur anjaan ki ek baat ko aapki kaam ki kahani ke beech baithaye rakhti hai.
Kaisa lagega agar wo vaakya kehne wale ka rahe, ek baar interview mein kaha gaya, na ki faisla jo agle hafte tak peechhe chale?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar wo vaakya baar-baar lautta hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Us pad ko kuch chhota chahiye tha, aur mera tajurba ab bhi mera hai.”
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log pehnkar dekhte hain, aur kuch paate hain ki kabhi-kabhaar shaant sair mein kehne se ek chalte-chalte jumle aur unke din ke beech thodi jagah ban jaati hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein us interview ke baare mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jo hua uske baare mein sahi ho, bina iske ki kehne wali sehmat hon?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein usi interview mein chhodi ja sakti hain #
Har tameez wale vaakya ko sateek jawab, poora analysis ya kam qualified dikhne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur shaam ke aakhir mein khoonti par tange coat ki tarah wahin taang diya ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki urja kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un baatcheeton ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinki unhein sach mein parwah hai, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath rehna aasaan hai.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya nipat gaya. Bas itna ki use khaane ki table, agli call ya kal ke inbox tak saath nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar goonj thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Aapka tajurba bas aapka tajurba ho sakta hai, kuch kamron mein qadar paata hua aur kuch mein fit na baithta hua.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: pichhle kaam ko apne shabdon mein batana, aisi call jo bina dohraye khatam ho, ya aisi shaam jab “overqualified” lautkar na aaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din goonj thodi dheemi ho, us din sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi taareef wala ‘na’”
- Us baatcheet ki ek cheez yaad kijiye jo aapko achhi lagi
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo aapke tajurbe ki qadar karta hai
- Apni khoobiyan ek baar khud ko seedhe bolkar sunaiye
- Vaakya ko unhin ka rehne dijiye aur dhyaan aaj par lauta laiye
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Us taareef ne kya peechhe chhoda jise jhatpat “shukriya” dhak nahi saka?
- Jab aapne ye suna, tab aap kahan the, aur us kamre mein kaisa lag raha tha?
- Kaun hai jo aapke tajurbe ko seedhe-saade achhe ki tarah dekhta hai?
- Jab aisi line aapke liye zor se bolti hai, tab aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar ye thoda halki ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?