Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Hum mein se zyadatar kisi plan ka sahaj roop hi sochte hain, isliye dimaag mein rakhi time-limits asal zindagi se kasi hui ho sakti hain.
Kuch logon mein ye apne jawaan barson se aati hai: atharah ki umar mein Delhi ka hostel, baais mein pehli job, teen anjaan logon ke saath kiraye ka flat.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar maine achhe se pala hota, to wo ab tak apne pairon par hote,” ya “Bade bachche ka ghar par rehna yaani kahin kuch galat hua.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har khaane par plans ke baare mein poochhna, phir pachhtana
- Rishtedaaron ke sawaalon ke jawab sach se chikne roop mein dena
- Unke kaam khud kar dena, phir kar dene par bheetar se kheejna
- Is baare mein kuch na kehna, jabki ye har baatcheet ke neeche gungunata rahe
- Chupchaap unki raftaar ki tulna cousin ya dost ke bachche se karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Chhabbees ki umar mein chaawal ki seeti
Aapki beti chhabbees ki hai aur ab bhi phone karke poochhti hai ki cooker mein chaawal kitni seeti mein bante hain, ya challan ka kya kare. Aap batate ho, zaahir hai. Par is hafte teesre phone ke baad aap phone rakhkar aah bharte ho. Uski umar mein, aap sochte ho, aap poora ghar sambhal rahe the. Aap usse pyaar karte ho, par bheetar kuch thaka hua aur thoda chintit hai.
Ab tak apne pairon par khade hon
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bade ho chuke bachchon ko ab tak apne pairon par khade ho jaana chahiye.” Ye waajib lagta hai. Bada hona yaani kaam khud karna. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke chain ko kisi aur ke bade hone ki time-table se baandh deta hai. Aap shaant hain ya nahi, ye is par tik jaata hai ki aapka bachcha us raftaar se chale jo shayad kisi aur daur ya kisi aur zindagi ki thi.
Aazaadi lakshya jaisi kyun lagti hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki aazaadi un sab barson ki parvarish ka lakshya lagti hai. Shayad aapko jaldi bada hona pada, aur usne aapko gadha. Shayad aapko fikr hai ki jab aap madad ke liye na hon tab kya hoga. Jo bhi ho, unka apne pairon par khada hona chahna sakhti nahi hai. Ye pyaar se aata hai, aur is chaah se ki ve theek rahein. Ye dosh nahi, narmi ki haqdaar hai.
Doosron ke bachchon se tulna
Madad ki har pukaar chinta mein jud jaati hai. Aap unki tulna doston ke bachchon se karne lagte ho. Madad karke thakan hoti hai, phir thakan par apradh-bodh. Aap sochte ho ki kahan chook hui. Dheere-dheere jo phone nazdeeki jaise lag sakte the, wo kisi kami ka nishaan lagne lagte hain, aur unki garmjoshi kho jaati hai, kyunki aap samasya hi sunne mein lage rehte ho.
Kya ye chinta iske laayak hai?
Imaandari se khud se poochhiye: kya unki time-table ko pakde rehne se kabhi ve zyada aatmanirbhar hue? Ya zyadatar aap zyada chintit hue? Aajkal log alag raftaar se bade hote hain, aur madad maangna is baare mein kam hi batata hai ki koi kahan pahunchega. Jo bhi ho, unki raftaar aapki parvarish ya unke bhavishya ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Phone ki pukaar, nazdeeki ki tarah
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap ummeed chhod dein ki ve mazbooti se khade honge. Matlab ye ki aapka chain ab time-table par nahi tika. Jab theek lage tab madad kar sakte ho, kuch cheezon ko rukne de sakte ho, aur dekh sakte ho ki ve akele kitna sambhal chuke hain. Yahin se chain lautta hai: phone phir nazdeeki jaise lag sakte hain, aur bada hona apna waqt le sakta hai.
Basic respect and safety at home are never too much to expect; being threatened, hurt or frightened by anyone is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBade bachchon ko ab tak apne pairon par khade ho jaana chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleWo apni raftaar se bade hote hain, aur phone nazdeeki bhi hote hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Teen aisi baatein sochiye jo aapka bachcha akele sambhal leta hai
- Din 2
Agli madad ki pukaar ka anand nazdeeki ke pal ki tarah lijiye
- Din 3
Ek chhoti cheez ko unke sulajhane tak rukne dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bachche ko apne pairon par khada dekhne ki tasveer aapne pehli baar kab banayi, aur wo kitne baras ke the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Tareekh likhi hui ek ummeed #
“Bade ho chuke bachchon ko ab tak apne pairon par khade ho jaana chahiye.” Ye kisi bhi aam subah aa sakta hai: machine mein ghoomte bete ke kapde, phir darwaaze par khadi beti ki scooty, ya darwaaze ke paas laut aaye purane joote jaise kabhi gaye hi na hon.
Sir mein ye shayad hi kabhi kathor lagta hai. Ye tareekh lagi hui ummeed jaisa sunayi deta hai: unhein duniya ke liye taiyaar karke pala gaya tha, aur plan mein kahin ye bhi tha ki duniya ab tak unhein apna legi. Isiliye ise ummeed ke roop mein pehchanna kathin ho sakta hai.
Bade ho chuke bachchon ko lekar ye khayal aapko aakhri baar kab aaya, aur ghar mein kis baat ne ise uthaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jawab se pehle ka aadha second #
Kuch maa-baap ise ek halki jakdan ki tarah mehsoos karte hain jab kisi family get-together mein koi rishtedaar poochhta hai “Beta aajkal kya kar raha hai?”, ek aadha second us jawab se pehle jo sach se zyada chikna nikalta hai.
Kuch ko ye ghar par lagta hai: subah der se khulta darwaaza, sink ke paas chhooti thaali, bina soche nikalti aah, aur phir aah par jhatpat glaani. Ehsaas pehle aata hai; tark aksar baad mein, raat ko.
Pichhli baar jab kisi ne poochha ki aapka bada ho chuka bachcha aajkal kya kar raha hai, to jawab dene se pehle aapne kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Unhein duniya ke liye taiyaar dekhna #
Ye ummeed waajib isliye lagti hai ki isme sachchi samajhdaari hai, aur ye bachche ko paalne ke maqsad ke bahut kareeb hai: unhein duniya mein khade hote aur apne chunav karte dekhna. Ye chahna parwah ka hissa hai, aur aksar barson unhein iske liye taiyaar karne se aata hai.
Hum mein se zyadatar kisi plan ka sahaj roop hi sochte hain, isliye dimaag mein rakhi time-limits asal zindagi se kasi hui ho sakti hain. “Pachchis tak” ki tasveer samjhaute jaisi lag sakti hai, jabki bachche ko shayad pata hi na ho ki us par koi tareekh lagi hai.
Agar aapke bade ho chuke bachche ke apne pairon par khade hone ki tasveer ko ek aam subah mein samana ho, to wo subah kaisi dikhegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Calendar rakhne wali awaaz #
“Hamare zamane mein to is umar mein sab apne pairon par the.” “Log poochhenge to kya kahenge?” “Socha tha ye daur nikal gaya.” Ye awaaz aksar der raat bolti hai, ya kisi paarivaarik jamavde ke baad gaadi mein, jahan doosre bachchon ki baatein hui hon.
“Chahiye” ke bheetar doosri awaazein bhi safar karti hain aur uska wazan badhati hain: aayojan ke rishtedaar, apne maata-pita, phone ki screen par doston ke bachchon ki raftaar. Kuch maa-baap ko in sabke neeche apne bachche ke liye apni asli chaah sunna mushkil lagta hai.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki aapke bachche ko ab tak aur aage hona chahiye, to wo unhein kiski time-limit se naap rahi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Time-limit aam taur par kahan se shuru hoti hai #
Kuch logon mein ye apne jawaan barson se aati hai: atharah ki umar mein Delhi ka hostel, baais mein pehli job, teen anjaan logon ke saath kiraye ka flat. Jo raah jaldi tay hui, wo chupchaap baad ke sabke liye paimana ban sakti hai.
Kuch mein ye aaspaas kahi gayi baaton se aati hai: rishtedaaron ka muqabla ki kiske bachche ke paanv tik gaye, padosi ka garv ki bete ka apna thikaana ho gaya. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Bees-baais ki umar ka kaun sa pal tha jisne aapki tasveer banayi ki naujawaan ko kab apne pairon par khada hona chahiye, aur wahan kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Der se uthne wali har subah padhne wala niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar maine achhe se pala hota, to wo ab tak apne pairon par hote,” ya “Bade bachche ka ghar par rehna yaani kahin kuch galat hua.” Pehla sentence log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki der ki har subah kaise padhi jaye.
Ye shayad hi niyam ki tarah saamne aata hai. Ye bade hone ke baare mein samajhdaari ki baat jaisa guzar jaata hai, aur uske kuch hisson mein asli samajh bhi hai. Isiliye un hisson ko dekhna kaam ka hai, apne bachche aur unki zindagi ke is khaas daur ke bagal mein, jaisa wo aaj hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ke paarivaarik jeevan ke kin hisson mein apne pairon par khade hone ka niyam ab bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Purana daur phir se sambhalne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aisa daur phir sambhalna jise aap nipta hua maan chuke the: yaad dilana, jagane ki dastakein, plans ke sawaal jo chahe se zyada teekhe nikalte hain. Jo khaana aasaan ho sakta tha, wo sambhalkar kiya jaane wala khaana ban jaata hai, aur dono taraf seekh lete hain ki kin baaton se katrana hai.
Phir maa-baap par bhi asar padta hai. Jab bade ho chuke bachche ki raftaar iska paimana ban jaye ki use kitna achha pala gaya, to har dheema hafta maa-baap par faisle jaisa lag sakta hai, aur use rasoi ki mez par unke saath dhona bhaari hai.
Pichhle saal ka kaun sa aam shaam ka waqt apne bade ho chuke bachche ke saath sabse zyada is intezaar se ranga tha ki wo aur aage badhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, darwaaze par sawaal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din jab “Unhein ab tak apne pairon par khada hona chahiye” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad darwaaze par phir unke joote, nashte par plans ka sawaal jo honth tak aakar ruk gaya, kisi rishtedaar ka jawab na diya gaya sandesh, ek shaam jo ye sochne mein gayi ki weekend par koi poochhe to kya kahein.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur isse kuch badalna bhi zaroori nahi.
Usme kya hai: khaane, darwaaze, poochhe aur nigle gaye sawaal?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya ho jaata hai, aur kya intezaar karta rehta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya alag dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Apne pairon par khada hona, kis tarah? #
Parivaar ke nazdeek hona aur apne pairon par khada hona, dono ek hi insaan ke liye sach ho sakte hain. Ghar mein rehne wale kuch bade bachche roz apne chunav khud karte hain, aur door rehne wale kuch chupchaap ghar par tike rehte hain.
Dimaag ki time-limits asal zindagi se kasi hoti hain, apni plans ke liye bhi aur doosron ke plans ke liye bhi. Ye dekhna ki cheezon mein asal mein kitna waqt laga, apne liye ya jaanne walon ke liye, kabhi-kabhi tasveer mein rakhi tareekh se zyada barabari ka paimana ho sakta hai.
“Apne pairon par khade hona” ka kaun sa hissa aapke liye sabse aham hai: pata, chunav, ya ye ehsaas ki wo taiyaar hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Ghar par rehta bada bachcha pehle se kya laata hai #
Jo ummeed abhi poori nahi hui uske saath-saath, ghar par rehte bade ho chuke bachche jo kuch laate hain usme gaur karne laayak kuch pehle se ho sakta hai, chahe chhota ya betartib: nashte par koi mazaak, naye phone mein madad, thaki shaam ko pakaya khaana, der raat ki lambi baat.
Isme kuch bhi kisi ka qarz nahi, na gina ja raha hai, aur ummeed wahin rehti hai. Waajib chaah aur garm nazar ek hi rasoi mein reh sakti hain, aur jo chhoti baatein bina kahe ki jaati hain, wahi dekhne laayak ho sakti hain.
Shayad fauran kuch yaad na aaye, aur wo theek hai.
Aapka bada ho chuka bachcha ghar mein pehle se kya laata hai jise aap zara aur mehsoos karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur unke liye ummeed rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye zyada thi, ya sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis time-limit ki aapne kalpana ki aur jo chal rahi hai, uska faasla har khaane aur har poochhe gaye sawaal ko chalana band kar de.
Jo isme waajib hai, wo reh sakta hai: chahna ki aapka bachcha duniya ke liye taiyaar ho, apne ghar aur apne barson mein thodi shaanti ki chaah. Jo dheela ho sakta hai, wo pakad hai, taaki ek dheema mahina bas dheema mahina rahe, is par faisla nahi ki unhein kaise pala gaya.
Ghar mein buniyadi izzat aur hifazat kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hai, aapke liye bhi aur aapke bade ho chuke bachche ke liye bhi. Jahan ghar mein is par baat sachmuch bigad jaati ho, wahan abhi chaah ko apne tak rakhna theek hai, aur wo phir bhi jaanne laayak hai.
Is ummeed se sulah wali ek shaam sochiye: khaane par aap kis baare mein baat karte, aur kiska anand lete?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Galiyare ke liye ek sachchi line #
“Bade ho chuke bachchon ko ab tak apne pairon par khade ho jaana chahiye” se bhidne ki jagah, kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unhein duniya ke liye taiyaar dekhne ki chaah hai, aur raftaar unki apni hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purani ke bagal mein khade rehna hai.
Shuru mein ye udhaar ki lag sakti hai. Kuch ko lagta hai ki apni line har baar istemaal se zyada jaani-pehchani hoti jaati hai; kuch ko lagta hai ki wo kabhi poori baithti nahi, aur koi aur hamesha aazmayi ja sakti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha sentence kya hoga, jo unke liye aapki ummeed rakhe aur unki chal rahi raftaar ke liye jagah bhi chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch sawaal kuch der khoonti par tange reh sakte hain #
Bade ho chuke bachche ke agle kadam ke har sawaal ka jawab isi mahine zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek baar palatkar kuch der ke liye rakha ja sakta hai, jaise Kanpur ki khoonti par tangi ek atirikt chaabi, ya wo coat jise apni purani khoonti phir mil gayi.
Kuch kamre sachmuch is baatcheet ko nahi sambhalenge, aur aapko unhein aazmana zaroori nahi. Jahan ghar mein is par baat bigad jaati ho, wahan abhi chaah ko apne tak rakhna theek hai, aur wo phir bhi jaanne laayak hai.
Khayal ko aaj shaam ke liye rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki kuch galat hua hi nahi, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki time-limit ko har raat mez par baithna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar time-limit thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja shaant hai. Unke liye chaah ab bhi hai, par ek dheema hafta bas ek dheema hafta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise darwaaze par joote dekhkar plans ki jagah unke din ke baare mein poochhna, kisi rishtedaar ke sawaal ka jawab seedhe chand shabdon mein dena, ya ek shaam apne plans ke liye rakhna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage dekhenge ki is aas se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya zara alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti baatein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab khayal aaye, dekhiye ki ghar ke kis kamre mein wo aapko pakadta hai
- Jab plans ka sawaal uthe, dekhiye ki uske neeche kaun sa ehsaas baitha hai
- Aaj apne liye chahi gayi ek chhoti cheez par gaur kijiye
- Apne beesek baras yaad kijiye, aur dekhiye ki tab cheezon mein asal mein kitna waqt laga tha
- Khud se chupchaap poochhiye: iske neeche, unke liye asal mein kya chaah hai?
Chhote, niji aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bachche ko apne pairon par khada dekhne ki tasveer aapne pehli baar kab banayi, aur wo kitne baras ke the?
- Kis rishtedaar ka bachche ke baare mein sawaal ab bhi mann mein hai, aur aapne kya jawab diya?
- Unki umar mein apne pairon par khade hona kaisa laga tha, aur kisne chupchaap aapki madad ki?
- Agar “ab tak” wali time-limit thodi dheeli ho, to ghar mein aap sabse pehle kya dekhenge?
- Aapka bada ho chuka bachcha ghar mein pehle se kya laata hai jiska aap zara aur anand lena chahenge?