Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Barson tak rakhi ummeed ek waade jaisi lagne lagti hai, bhale boli kabhi na gayi ho, aur uske tootne ki chubhan toote waade jaisi ho sakti hai.
Kuch log ise dekhte hue bade hue: dada-dadi jinka parivaar ke ghar mein apna kamra tha, ek chacha jo maa-baap ke paas rehne apne sheher laut aaye, bua-mausiyan jo baat karti thin ki kaun sa bachcha paas rahega.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar humne achhe se paala to wo paas rahenge,” ya “Achha bachcha maa-baap ka khayal rakhta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Un parivaaron ka zikr chhedna jinke bachche paas rahe, aadha ishaare mein
- Call, mulaqaat aur jawab ka saavdhaani se hisaab rakhna
- “Jo karna hai karo” kehna, phir unki chaah se dukhi hona
- Bachche ke koi faisla karne se pehle hi aane wale saalon ki yojana unke faislon ke hisaab se bana lena
- Is khayal ko poori tarah door dhakelna aur kehna ki hamein kisi se kuch nahi chahiye
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Padosan ka beta, sabzi ka thaila
Bhopal, Arera Colony ke paas ka mohalla, ek shaant Sunday ki dopahar. Padosan ka beta har Sunday sabzi ka thaila lekar aata hai, tapakta nal theek karta hai aur chai par baithta hai. Aap khidki se dekhte ho. Aapke apne bachche apni zindagi mein busy hain, kabhi-kabhaar phone karte hain. Aap budhape ke baare mein sochte ho, aur ek chup sa sawaal uthta hai, jaise lambi khaali dopahar mein aata hai: “Waqt aane par mere paas kaun hoga?”
Bachchon ko baad mein khayal rakhna chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Budhape mein bachchon ko mera khayal rakhna chahiye.” Ye qudrati lagta hai. Aakhir aapne unka khayal rakha. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ye aane wale kal ko lekar aapka chain unke faislon aur unki zindagi se bandh deta hai. Aap surakshit mehsoos karenge ya nahi, ye bade ho chuke bachchon par tik jaata hai jinki zindagi unhein aapse door bhi le ja sakti hai.
Parivaar aise hi kyun chalte aaye
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki parivaar aksar isi tarah chalte aaye hain. Shayad aapne apne maa-baap ka khayal rakha, aur wahi chakra chalte rehne ki ummeed ki. Shayad unhein paalne mein sab kuch laga diya, aur aas hai ki wo lautega. Jo bhi ho, unki dekhbhal ki aas swaarth nahi. Ye pyaar se aur umar badhne par surakshit mehsoos karne ki chaah se aati hai, aur ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har mulaqaat ka chhota darr
Kisi aur ke parivaar ki har mulaqaat ek chhota darr jagati hai. Aap calls aur mulaqaatein ginne lagte ho. Apne bachchon ki tulna auron ke bachchon se karte ho. Der raat, jab ghar shaant hota hai, bhavishya ki chinta hoti hai. Dheere-dheere unke liye aapka pyaar is chup se sawaal se mil jaata hai ki aapka khayal kaun rakhega, aur wo sawaal kamre-kamre aapke saath phirta hai.
Darr ke laayak hai purana waada?
Khud se sach mein poochiye: kya “jaisa hona chahiye” ko pakde rehne se kabhi bhavishya zyada surakshit laga? Ya zyadatar aaj ki fikar hi badhi? Aaj ke parivaar pehle se bahut alag dhang se rehte hain, aur dekhbhal kai shakalon mein aur kai logon se aa sakti hai. Phir bhi wo kitni baar aate hain, ye aapki keemat ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itne kasakar pakadne ki keemat usse zyada hai jitna ye deta hai.
Kai haathon ka sahara
Chhodne ka matlab ye aas chhodna nahi ki wo paas honge. Matlab ye ki aage ke baare mein aapka chain sirf un par na tike. Aap doston, padosiyon aur apni pasand ki cheezon se bhari zindagi bana sakte ho, aur unki dekhbhal ko jab bhi aur jaise bhi aaye, garmjoshi se apna sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aap aaj ka maza le sakte ho, kai haathon ke sahare.
Basic respect and safety are never too much to expect; if anyone in the family threatens, hurts or frightens you, or what is yours is taken, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBudhape mein bachchon ko mera khayal rakhna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAisi zindagi ban sakti hai jo kai haathon ke sahare ho.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Kisi achhe lagne wale dost ya padosi ke saath waqt bitaiye
- Din 2
Aaj koi ek kaam kijiye jo aapko mazboot mehsoos karaye
- Din 3
Us ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jisne aapka hafta roshan kiya
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kab pehli baar socha tha ki bade bachche aapka khayal rakhenge, aur tab aapki jagah kahan thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Roz ke dinon mein chhipi ek aas #
“Budhape mein bachchon ko mera khayal rakhna chahiye.” Ye aksar tab aati hai jab bete ka tiffin pack ho raha ho, beti ki flight airport ke board par boarding dikha rahi ho, school ke gate par khade hon, ya kisi padosi ke bade bachche Sunday ke khaane par pahunchte dikhein.
Ye maang ki tarah kam sunai deti hai. Ye cheezon ke qudrati kram jaisi lagti hai, har school chhodne aur har der raat homework dekhne mein tah ki gayi ek chup aas, itni saaf ki bolkar kehne ki zaroorat hi na lage.
Bachchon ko lekar ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur tab wo kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle jo halchal hoti hai #
Kuch maa-baap ko ye ek garm, thehre hue ehsaas ki tarah lagta hai jab bachcha bina kahe phone kar de, aur pet mein halki giraavat jab ek hafte tak call ka jawab na aaye, ya koi kishor kisi doosre desh ki job ki baat kare.
Ye ehsaas kisi tark se pehle aa sakta hai. Bengaluru ke flat, Toronto ki university ya Riyadh ki posting ki koi chalti si baat aane wale saalon ki khabar banke lag sakti hai, kisi ke kuch tay karne se pehle hi.
Pichhli baar jab bachche ne aisi yojana batayi jo unhein aur door le jaati, to kuch kehne se pehle aapko sabse pehle kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye jaayaz lagta hai, aur aksar hota bhi hai #
Ye ummeed waajib isliye lagti hai ki aksar hoti bhi hai. Subah jaldi uthne ke barson, Sports Day, imtihaan ki raatein aur chhode hue weekend ise parivaar ka qudrati dhaancha bana dete hain: dekhbhal jo abhi neeche behti hai aur baad mein upar lautti hai.
Barson tak rakhi ummeed ek waade jaisi lagne lagti hai, bhale boli kabhi na gayi ho, aur uske tootne ki chubhan toote waade jaisi ho sakti hai. Bachche ne shayad uski sharten kabhi dekhi hi na hon.
Agar bachchon se dekhbhal milne ko ek aam dopahar ki tasveer mein baandhna ho, to kaun aata, kaun phone karta, aur table par kaun baithta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Hisaab rakhne wali awaaz #
“Sab kuch karne ke baad, kam se kam phone toh kar hi sakte hain.” “Humne inke liye kya-kya nahi kiya.” “Sabke bachche toh paas rehte hain.” Ye awaaz aksar kisi chhoot gayi call ke baad ki chuppi mein bolti hai, ya table par aadat se ek thaali kam lagate hue.
Hisaab rakhna aksar tab shuru hota hai jab kuch bemel lage, aur kuch maa-baap paate hain ki ginti uski or ishaara karti hai jo khal raha hai: calls nahi, balki calls ka matlab, jaise ek aam din kisi ke mann mein aana.
Jab awaaz calls ya mulaqaatein ginne lagti hai, to wo asal mein apne bachche se kya sunne ki aas rakhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye tasveer aksar kahan se aati hai #
Kuch log ise dekhte hue bade hue: dada-dadi jinka parivaar ke ghar mein apna kamra tha, ek chacha jo maa-baap ke paas rehne apne sheher laut aaye, bua-mausiyan jo baat karti thin ki kaun sa bachcha paas rahega. Kuch parivaaron mein zindagi bas isi tarah banti thi.
Kuch ne ise suni hui baaton se uthaya: khaane ki table par aadhe mazaaq mein “Hamara khayal kaun rakhega, agar tum nahi?”, ya kisi padosi ka beta har hafte ghar aaye to maa-baap ka garv. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Aapke bachpan ke kis drishya ne pehli baar sikhaya ki bade ho chuke bachche apne maa-baap ke liye kya karte hain, aur usme kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baitha chup niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar humne achhe se paala to wo paas rahenge,” ya “Achha bachcha maa-baap ka khayal rakhta hai.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo sunai deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har call, har transfer aur har yojana ka matlab kya nikala jaye.
Aise niyam kam hi niyam jaise lagte hain. Ye yojana jude pyaar jaise lagte hain, aur isiliye inhein dekhna kaam ka hai, bachche ke paas rakhkar jaise wo aaj hain, sirf waise nahi jaise wo saat saal ki umar mein the.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ke paarivaarik jeevan ke kaun se hisson par bade bachchon wala niyam ab bhi baithta hai, aur kaun se par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ise kasakar pakadne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai tyohar ki call jo bina kahi baaton ko sunne mein beete, bachche ki videsh mein nayi job ki khabar par ek thehraav, ya ek Sunday jo doston ke saath bahar jaane ki jagah phone ke paas beete. Kuch dramatic nahi, phir bhi dhone mein bhaari.
Sabse bure ki aashanka intezaar ke waqt ki keemat le sakti hai, aur utarne ki chot shayad bahut naram na kare. Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki baad mein kya ho sakta hai iski taiyaari mein beete saal un saalon ko daba dete hain jo abhi chal rahe hain.
Swaarth se nahi: itne samay se rakhi aas ka wazan sachmuch hota hai.
Pichhle saal bachche ke saath ka kaun sa aam pal aane wale saalon ki fikar se sabse zyada ranga raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch aur saal, kasakar pakde hue #
Ek aam Tuesday ki kalpana kijiye, us din ki jab “bachchon ko mera khayal rakhna chahiye” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad lunch ke beech phone dekhna, parivaar ki chat is nazar se padhna ki kisne jawab diya aur kisne nahi, kisi saheli ke bete ke aane ki baat par halki tees, aur padosi ke saath shaam ki sair is darr se taal dena ki koi phone na kar de.
Isme koi anumaan nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein hatayi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: calls, messages, yojanaayein, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko kya bharta hai, aur kya intezaar karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Khayal rakha jaana, kis tarah? #
Parivaar ke kareeb rehna aur apne faisle khud lena ek-doosre ko kaatna zaroori nahi. Melbourne mein beti jo har Sunday phone karti hai aur do gali door beta jo kabhi-kabhi aa jaata hai, dono alag shakl mein paas ho sakte hain.
“Khayal rakhna” mein kai baatein ho sakti hain: milne aana, salah maangna, faislon mein shaamil karna, sirf birthday par nahi aam dinon mein bhi yaad rakhna. Inmein se kuch doori par tiki hain; kai nahi.
“Khayal rakhna” shabdon mein jo kuch bandha hai, usme aapke liye sabse ahem kya hai, aur kaun sa hissa kisi bhi sheher se ho sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Bachche pehle se kya laate hain #
Jo aas poori nahi hui uske saath, kuch maa-baap ko ye gaur karna achha lagta hai ki bachchon se pehle se kya aata hai, chahe chhota ya betarteeb: forward kiya chutkula, kisi khaane ki photo, kisi pasandida vyanjan ke baare mein sawaal, jaldbaazi ki call par ek hansi.
Ye farz ya karz nahi, aur isse aas radd nahi hoti: ek jaayaz aas aur ek garm nazar saath-saath baith sakti hain. Shukriya tab ugta hai jab kuch bina kisi wapsi ki ummeed ke diya gaya lage, isliye chhoti bin maangi cheezein hi shayad dekhne laayak hain.
Kuch din kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Ek aam hafte mein aapka bachcha pehle se kya laata hai, jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur jo jaayaz hai use sanjona #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye zyada maangti thi, ya ye ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jo aap chahte ho aur jo hota hai, unke beech ka faasla poore hafte aur har call ke padhe jaane ko chalana chhod de.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo bana reh sakta hai: bachchon ki zindagi ka hissa bane rehna, milne aaye jaana, poochhe jaana, aam dinon mein yaad kiya jaana. Jo dheela pad sakta hai wo pakad hai, taaki Sunday ki jagah Thursday ko aayi call bas ek achhi call ho.
Buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha ki ummeed kabhi “zyada maangna” nahi hai, aapke bachchon se bhi aur kisi se bhi.
Is aas se sulah kiye ek Sunday ki tasveer banaiye: dopahar aap kya kar rahe honge, aur aapko kya achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Budhape mein bachchon ko mera khayal rakhna chahiye” se bhidne ki jagah kuch log aisi line paas rakhte hain: “Meri aas hai ki bachchon ke paas rahoon, aur kaise, ye chunna unka haq hai.” Use jeetna zaroori nahi, bas purani ke baghal mein baithna hai.
Iska shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch logon ko apni line purani ki thodi jagah leti dikhti hai; kuch ko nahi, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein kaun sa sachcha vaakya hoga, jo aas bachaye rakhe aur bachche ko apna insaan banne ki jagah bhi de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch aasein almari par rakhi reh sakti hain #
Aane wale saalon ki har aas aaj nipatani zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal thaama ja sakta hai, aur us almari par rakha ja sakta hai jahan wo nazar mein rahein, Bhopal ki almari par rakhi purani tasveer ki tarah, ya Manchester ke fridge par.
Kuch kamre sachmuch sunenge nahi, aur unhein aazmana zaroori nahi. Aas jitni der chahein nijee reh sakti hai, aur wo ab bhi aapki hai, jaanne laayak, chahe kabhi boli jaye ya nahi.
Aaj shaam ke liye is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki aane wale saal aaj ki har call mein aapke peeche nahi chalenge.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar pakad thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja shaant hai. Aas ab bhi hai, par chhooti call bas ek chhooti call hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bachche ki khabar ka maza doori naape bina lena, ek Saturday jo apne plans se bhara ho, ya unke naye sheher ki photo jigyasa se dekhna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agli baar dekhenge ki is aas se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir aa gayi budhape ki laathi wali tasveer”
- Call der se aaye to gaur kijiye ki ye faasla kaun si kahani sunana shuru karta hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti chaahat ko pehchaniye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Apne bachche ko saat saal aur tees saal ki umar mein sochiye, aur dekhiye kya badla
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: iske neeche meri asal aas kya hai?
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kab pehli baar socha tha ki bade bachche aapka khayal rakhenge, aur tab aapki jagah kahan thi?
- Kaun si bina jawab ki call ya chhoti mulaqaat sabse der tak tiki, aur aapne uske baare mein khud se kya kaha?
- Aap sabse zyada kya chahoge ki aapke bachche apne doston se aapke baare mein kahein?
- Agar bachchon ko lekar ye aas thodi halki ho, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?
- Aapke bachche ek aam hafte mein pehle se kya laate hain jiska aap aur maza lena chahoge?