Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Baar-baar kehna ghar ki sabse aam baaton mein hai, aur sabse thakane wali bhi.
Kai maa-baap aise gharon mein pale jahan bado ki ek baat pehli baar mein kaafi honi chahiye thi.
Neeche-neeche ek chup niyam ban sakta hai ki ghar mein suna jaana kaisa dikhe.
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Phir kehna, pehle dheere, phir oonchaa, phir bahut oonchaa
- Haar maankar khud kar dena, aah bharte hue
- Mann mein kehne ginna, aur sankhya badhte dekhna
- Ek baar chillana, phir baad mein apradh-bodh ki lehar
- Baaki shaam chup ho jaana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Lego ka rocket aur curry-rice
Vasco ke flat mein raat ke aath bajne mein bees minute. Mez par fish curry-rice hai aur Riya farsh par Lego ka rocket bana rahi hai. “Riya, khana laga diya.” Kuch nahi. “Riya, khana, please.” Bina nazar uthaye wo bolti hai, “Haan-haan, sun liya!” Paanchvi baar aapki awaaz cheekh ban jaati hai. Wo chaunkkar mez par aati hai. Baad mein sink par aap bhaari feel karte ho.
Do baar kahoon to ginti nahi
Pehle seedhi baat: khel mein doobe bachche aap par faisla nahi hain, aur dobara kehna pade to iska matlab aapki ginti kam hona nahi. Par aisi shaamon se ek niyam nikal sakta hai jo aapka ho jaata hai: “Do baar kehna pade to ghar mein meri ginti nahi.” Ye izzat ki chaah jaisa sunayi deta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har doosra kehna chhoti haar lagne lagta hai.
Suna jaana itna zaroori kyun
Aisa niyam isliye thaamte hain ki hum shaant ghar chahte hain jahan hamari baat mayne rakhe. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, aur aam hai. Shayad aap aise ghar mein pale jahan bade ki ek pukaar kaafi thi. Shayad din ne pehle hi bahut maang liya tha. Ghar mein suna jaana chahna galat nahi. Ye apnepan ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har doosre kehne ka wazan
Har ansuna kehna thoda wazan jodta hai. Bina chahe aap ginne lagte ho. Awaaz aapke chunne se pehle chadh jaati hai. Khana shuru hone se zyada shaant khatam hota hai, aur aap narm palon ke bajaye us ek oonche pal ko sochte hue jaagte ho. Dheere-dheere sone se pehle ka ghanta aisa imtihaan lagne lagta hai jisme aap fail ho sakte ho.
Kya kehne ginna theek hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko thaamne se kehne kam hue? Ya zyadatar har ek bhaari ho gaya, aapke liye aur Riya ke liye? Kai bachchon ko pyaare khel se nikalne ke liye ek pal aur thodi madad chahiye. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal rukkar sochiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar thaamna us keemat ke layak hai?
Doosra kehna bas kehna hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki kehna thakana band kar deta hai, ya suna jaana mayne nahi rakhta. Matlab ye ki doosra kehna bas doosra kehna ho sakta hai. Aap rocket ke paas baithkar keh sakte ho, “Do eent aur, phir khana,” aur awaaz apni rehne de sakte ho. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek shaam se. Wahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki awaaz ki ginti hai, doosri baar bhi.
If evenings at home ever come with threats, or anyone in the family being hurt or frightened, that is not okay and is worth taking seriously; reaching out for support can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleDo baar kehna pade to ghar mein meri ginti nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleDo baar kehna aam baat hai. Meri awaaz ki ginti ab bhi hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Doosri baar kehne se pehle ek dheemi saans leejiye
- Din 2
Aaj bachche ke saath ek narm pal par dhyan dijiye
- Din 3
Mann mein kahiye: “Doosra kehna bas kehna hai”
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aakhri baar jab chaar baar kehna pada, tab aap kis baat ke liye keh rahe the?”
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Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chauthi baar kehne par #
Mez par fish curry-rice, darwaze par joote, nahane ka paani thanda hota hua. Aapne ek baar pyaar se kaha. Phir dobara. Chauthi baar doosre kamre se ek chhoti awaaz aati hai, bina nazar uthaye: “Haan-haan, sun liya!” Aur kuch nahi hilta.
Shabd hansmukh hain, lagbhag tameez wale. Yahi baat unhein chubhati hai. Aapki baat suni ja chuki hai, aur phir bhi jaise kahi hi nahi gayi. Ghadi chalti rehti hai, aur aap darwaze par khade sochte ho ki ab kya karein.
Aakhri baar aisa kuch kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kis baat ke liye keh rahe the, aur andar ki awaaz oonchi hone se pehle kitni baar keh chuke the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Faisle se pehle awaaz kyun chadhti hai #
Kuch maa-baap gardan tak garmi chadhti feel karte hain, jabda kas jaata hai, awaaz soche se oonchi nikalti hai. Kuch thake aur sapaat hokar khud hi kaam kar dete hain. Kai ko theek baad mein halki-si chubhan hoti hai, jaise cheekh ne kisi se zyada unhi ko chaunka diya.
Kehna aur jawab na milna zyadatar logon ko gehre chhoota hai: jo sabse kareeb hain, unse apne hi ghar mein suna jaana. Din ke aakhir mein aisa ho to body kisi vichaar ke aane se pehle hi react kar deti hai.
Teesri-chauthi baar tak body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sabse pehle kahan feel hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur wo ubaal is baare mein kya kehta hai ki us pal aap kitna chahte the ki bas aapki baat sun li jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Suna toh, par jawab nahi mila #
“Sun liya” ka matlab hai ki shabd pahunche, par kuch badla nahi, aur yahi faasla chubhta hai. Kai bachche khel, screen ya kahani mein itne doobe hote hain ki baat mushkil se pahunchti hai, jawab dete hue bhi. Par maa-baap ko lagta hai jaise apne hi ghar mein khaali kamre se keh rahe hon.
Baar-baar kehna ghar ki sabse aam baaton mein hai, aur sabse thakane wali bhi. Har ek kehna chhota hai, par din bhar mein dher lag jaata hai, aur shaam tak chautha kehna pichhle sab ka wazan utha leta hai.
Ek aam din ke kehne ginein to kitne honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur dohrana sabse mushkil kaun sa hai: joote, khana, sona, ya kuch aur?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab ansuni baat andar mud jaye #
Kai shaamon ke baad ek dheemi awaaz shuru ho sakti hai. “Chillaye bina koi sunta hi nahi.” “Ghar mein meri chalti hi nahi.” “Kaise maa-baap ko paanch baar kehna padta hai?” Ye doosre kehne par hi chalu ho sakti hai, jab asal mein kuch bigda hi nahi.
Wo awaaz seedhi sachchai jaisi lagti hai, par aksar thakan bol rahi hoti hai, is baare mein purani tasveeron ke saath ki parivaar kaisa hona chahiye. Ye ek bachche ke doobe hone ke aam pal ko maa-baap par faisla bana deti hai, aur khane ki mez par ye bahut bhaari bojh hai.
Jab ye poochhti hai ki isse aap kaise maa-baap bante ho, to awaaz kiski hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi purane kamre se aayi, jisme aap pale?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai maa-baap ke liye ye dhun purani hai #
Kai maa-baap aise gharon mein pale jahan bado ki ek baat pehli baar mein kaafi honi chahiye thi. Kuch ko yaad hai ki bado ki pukaar par kitni jaldi daudte the, aur kuch ko yaad hai ki jise pukara jaata tha, wo bachcha hona kaisa lagta tha. “Hamare zamane mein toh ek awaaz par daudte the.”
Ye yaadein aaj ki ummeedon ko dhaal sakti hain, aksar bina kuch kahe. Wajahein alag-alag hain, aur kaafi kuch pyaar hai aur shaant ghar ki chaah. Jo reh jaata hai wo ek chup-sa khayal hai ki turant sun lena hi izzat dikhana hai.
Aap jis ghar mein bade hue, wahan kisi bade ke kuch kehne par kya hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us tasveer ka kitna hissa aaj apni shaamon mein lekar chalte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chup niyam jiske hisaab se aap chal rahe hon #
Neeche-neeche ek chup niyam ban sakta hai ki ghar mein suna jaana kaisa dikhe. Wo aisa sunayi de sakta hai: “Do baar kehna pade to ghar mein meri ginti nahi,” ya “Achha maa-baap ek baar kehta hai, bas.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Lagta hai bas yahi hai ki parivaar kaise chalna chahiye, jaise farsh farsh lagta hai, aur isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikaalkar roshni mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch maa-baap aise niyam ko apne bachpan tak dhoondh paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: agar suna jaana yaani turant maana jaana hai, to har shaam imtihaan lag sakti hai.
Ye kin shaamon mein ab bhi theek baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ye niyam shaam se kya le jaata hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai shaamein garmjoshi se shuru hokar tanaav par khatam, oonchi awaaz ke baad chupchaap khaya khana, aur maa-baap ka das narm palon ke bajaye us ek tez pal ko sochte hue jaagna. Kuch ko sone se pehle ka ghanta darane lagta hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har ansuna kehna ginti na hone ka saboot lage, to bachpan ke aam pal, jaise chhode na ja sakne wala khel ya adhoori kahani, nijee lagne lagte hain, aur shaam ke khelne wale hisse dab jaate hain.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Apne hi ghar mein ansuna feel karna thaka deta hai.
Pichhle saal is niyam ki keemat kya rahi: chhooti bedtime story, koi shaam jo narmi se khatam ho sakti thi, koi hansi jo aayi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, kehne ginte hue #
Kisi aam shaam ki tasveer banaiye jab “pehli baar mein suna jaana chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad dimaag mein chalti ginti, chaar baar pukara hua darwaza, thandi hoti thaali, ek teekha shabd aur phir lambi chuppi. Shayad aadhe mann se padhi bedtime story, jabki baaki mann us khane mein hai jisme bahut der lagi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur jab chahein tasveer neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: khana, nahana, sona, ghanta-ghanta oonchi hoti awaaz?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Suna nahi, ya abhi taiyaar nahi? #
Kai bachchon ke liye baat ek poori duniya ke beech mein pahunchti hai: aadhi bani meenaar, lagbhag poora hua level, ek drawing jisme ek rang aur chahiye. Us duniya se nikalne mein pal lagta hai, aur aksar kisi bade ki madad bhi.
Fark bada ho sakta hai. Ek andekhe jaisa lagta hai; doosra bas us umar mein dhyan ka chalna hai, aur ye kam batata hai ki bachcha maa-baap ko kitna chahta ya maanta hai.
Ek aur tareeka: koi samay yaad kijiye jab aap kisi cheez mein doobe the aur doosre kamre se kisi ne awaaz di.
Poochhiye: baat suni nahi gayi, ya abhi maanne ko taiyaar nahi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Rukne ke liye aapko us pal kya chahiye tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur karne par maa-baap ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab maa-baap koi shaam dheere se dohrate hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki sabse achha kaam wo kehna karta tha jo paas se, bachche ki oonchai par, ek pal ki chetavani ke saath kahe gaye. Rasoi se di gayi oonchi awaazon ko pahunchne mein sabse zyada mushkil hui.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki sabse teekhe pal un dino aate hain jab wo khud sabse zyada thake hote hain. Bachcha bas wahi kar raha hai jo kisi aur din karta hai. Badalta ye hai ki raat aath baje tak maa-baap ke paas kitni jagah bachi hai.
Haal ki kaun si shaam zyada aasaani se guzri, aur usmein kya alag tha: aap kitne thake the, ya kehte waqt kahan khade the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Har baar jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki thakan nahi, ya paanch baar kehna kuch nahi. Matlab ye ki niyam ka is par kam chale ki har ansuna kehna aapke baare mein aur ghar mein aapki jagah ke baare mein kya kehta hai.
Kuch maa-baap ko halka lagta hai jab doosra kehna beadabi ki nishani nahi rehta aur kaam ka hissa ban jaata hai, jaise curry ko dobara garam karna. Kehna ab bhi mayne rakhta hai. Bas use ghar mein kaun ginaa jaata hai, iska faisla nahi dhona padta.
Kaisa lagega agar zaroorat padne par phir keh dein, aur purana niyam peeche baithkar hisaab na jode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “turant maana na jaoon to meri ginti nahi” kuch samay se baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap iske bajaye ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Do baar kehna aam baat hai. Meri awaaz ki ginti ab bhi hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ise bas purane wale se zyada sahi hona hai, aur kuch maa-baap paate hain ki teesri baar kehne se pehle dheere se bolne par us pal ki thodi garmi utar jaati hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo ye maanta ho ki kitna thaka deta hai, bina ek vyast bachche ko aap par faisla banaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har ansune kehne ko sabaq ya bada pal banane ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, un par aah bhari ja sakti hai aur phir keh diya ja sakta hai, jaise vyast din mein ek hi mez do baar ponch dete hain, bina uska kuch matlab nikaale.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain isse shaam ke un hisson ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo unhein pyaare hain: sote waqt ki kahani, nahate hue ka mazedaar sawaal, unka haath thaamti chhoti hatheli.
Ek shaam ke liye hisaab neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi tha, ya baat nipt gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ki shaam imtihaan na ho.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Aap ab bhi kehte hain, aur wo ab bhi mayne rakhta hai, par doosra kehna bas doosra kehna hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: rasoi ke bajaye darwaze se kehna, teesri baar se pehle ek dheemi saans, ya aisi shaam jo chuppi ke bajaye kahani par khatam ho.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Doosri baar kehne se pehle ek dheemi saans leejiye aur kandhon par dhyan dijiye
- Gaur kijiye ki kehte waqt kahan khade hain, paas ya door
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi do-baar wala niyam”
- Is hafte ki ek narm shaam yaad kijiye, aur use ginti mein aane dijiye
- Sone se pehle din ka ek pal yaad kijiye jo saath achha laga
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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