Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Nirasha isliye chubh sakti hai ki koi jagah tay-si lagti thi, bhale kisi ne zor se nahi kaha.
Kuch logon mein ye jagah jaldi khinch gayi: “Bada hai, samajhdar ban”, khidki wali seat par pehli baari, chhote ko tuition se lene bheja jaana.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bade ki baat mein wazan hona chahiye,” ya “Agar ye mera sammaan karte, toh meri sunte.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Salah phir bhi dena, har baar taal diye jaane par aur sakhti se
- Chup ho jaana aur unhein apne haal par chhod dena, mann mein hisaab rakhte hue
- Baad mein jata dena ki chetavani sahi thi
- Kamre mein chhedkhani par saath hans lena, phir ghar lautte hue use baar-baar dohrana
- Aisa dikhana ki unki raay farq nahi daalti, jabki saaf daalti hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Theek hai, theek hai, thank you boss”
Ludhiana mein Sunday ka parivaarik khaana. Aapne chhote bhai ko uske interview ki salah deni shuru ki. Wo aankhein ghumakar kehta hai “Theek hai, theek hai, thank you boss,” aur sab hans padte hain. Maa uski taraf muskurati hain. Hansi aapki bhi nikal jaati hai, par chehra garm ho jaata hai, aur baaki khaane bhar thaali mein chammach se chawal hilta rehta hai, munh se kuch nahi nikalta.
Chhote ko aapka lihaaz karna chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Chhote bhai-behen ko mera lihaaz karna chahiye.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Aakhir bade hone ke naate barson unka khayaal rakha gaya. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har aankhein ghumana ek chhoti beizzati ban jaata hai. Parivaarik khaane aisi jagah ban jaate hain jahan baar-baar naapa jaata hai ki aapki baat mein ab kitna wazan bacha hai.
Badon ko jaldi bhoomika kyun milti hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki badon ko aksar jaldi ek bhoomika mil jaati hai: khayaal rakho, misaal bano, zimmedar raho. Shayad aapne wo bhoomika barson nibhayi, bina kisi ke poochhe ki mann hai ya nahi. Shayad unka aapke peeche-peeche ghoomna yaad hai. Izzat chahna hukm chalana nahi. Wo chaah hai ki itna khayaal dikhe. Use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har baar aankhein ghumane ki chubhan
Har aankhein ghumana thoda chubhta hai. Salah dena band ho jaata hai, ya aur sakhti se di jaati hai. Apne upar hue parivaarik mazaak baar-baar yaad aate hain. Jis hansi ki shuruaat aapse hoti thi, usse bahar mehsoos hota hai. Barson nibhayi bhoomika aisi lagne lagti hai jaise kisi ne dekhi hi nahi, aur parivaar ke saath shaamon mein ek thaki, chup kheej aa jaati hai.
Kya unki izzat zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya unki izzat ka intezaar karne se kabhi aankhein ghumana ruka? Ya zyadatar har baar aur zyada chubha? Chhote aksar dikhana chahte hain ki wo bhi bade ho gaye hain, aur palatkar bolna uska hissa ho sakta hai. Pakka koi nahi keh sakta. Jo bhi ho, ek mazaak unki nazar mein aapki keemat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna theek hai?
Jaanna ki kya diya hai
Chhodne ka matlab khayaal rakhna ya dekhbhaal chhodna nahi. Matlab ye ki aapki keemat ko pakka karne ke liye unki izzat ki zaroorat nahi. Aapko pata hai ki in barson mein unke liye kya kiya. Us par chupchaap garv ho sakta hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: mazaak par hansa ja sakta hai, aur phir bhi yaad rehta hai ki aap kaun hain.
If a younger sibling ever seems frightened, hurt or unusually withdrawn, worry for their sake is a different thing from this hope, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleChhote bhai-behen ko mera lihaaz karna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe pata hai maine kya diya hai. Use pakka karana zaroori nahi.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Mann mein ek tareeka yaad kijiye jisse aapne unka khayaal rakha
- Din 2
Agle parivaarik khaane mein ek mazaak par hanskar use jaane dijiye
- Din 3
Wo ek pal dekhiye jab wo aapse khush dikhe
Is par baat karni hai?
“Chhote ka khayaal rakhne ki aapki sabse pyaari yaad kya hai, aur tab aap kya kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kamre ke us paar se aankhein ghumana #
Chhota bhai phone kharidne ki salah par aankhein ghuma deta hai. Cousin ke birthday par chhoti behen aapki awaaz ki nakal utaarti hai aur poori table hans padti hai. Isi beech ek vaakya banta hai: “Chhote bhai-behen ko mera lihaaz karna chahiye.”
Ye gusse ke saath kam hi aata hai. Zyadatar ek chhote jhatke ki tarah aata hai, jaise cheezon ka kram thoda khisak gaya ho: jise kabhi school chhodne le jaate the, wo ab aise baat karta hai jaise koi zara sharminda karne wale chacha se kar raha ho.
Chhote bhai-behen ko lekar ye khayaal aakhri baar kab aaya, aur unhone abhi kya kaha ya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ek second mein pad girne ka ehsaas #
Kuch bade bhai-behen ise chehre ki garmi ki tarah mehsoos karte hain, jab chhota doston ke saamne kehta hai “Aapko kya pata?” ya jab di gayi salah par hansi aati hai aur baat badal di jaati hai, toh jabde mein halka kasaav.
Chubhan andar se bahar ke muqable bahut badi ho sakti hai. Ek kandha uchakna, ek muskaan, ek mazaak ka jawab, aur table par kisi ko andaza nahi hota ki abhi kuch aisa laga jaise seedhi par ek paaydaan neeche utaar diya gaya ho.
Pichhli baar jab chhote ne aapki baat taal di, tab jawab dhoondhne se pehle aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bade hone ka kuch matlab lagta tha #
Jin bhai-behen ki dekhbhaal mein haath banta ho, unse gambhirta se liye jaane ki ummeed mein sachmuch samajh hai: homework jaanchna, cycle thaame rakhna, khoya hua tiffin maa-pita ko unki taraf se samjhana. Us itihaas ki wajah se izzat aisi cheez lag sakti hai jo chupchaap kamayi gayi ho.
Nirasha isliye chubh sakti hai ki koi jagah tay-si lagti thi, bhale kisi ne zor se nahi kaha. Bada hona dono ke beech baitha hua kram lag sakta hai, jiska chhote ko shayad pata hi na ho, ya jiski tasveer unke mann mein bahut alag ho.
Jo izzat chhote se chahiye, wo agar kisi aam pal mein dikhe, toh wo kya kahenge ya kya karenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jise yaad hai ki pehle kaun aaya #
“Maine ise godi mein khilaya hai.” “Maa ke saamne toh ye kabhi aise nahi bolta.” “Ek din ise samajh aayega ki meri baat sahi thi.” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab parivaar ke group mein unka jawab neeche scroll ho raha ho, ya dawat ke baad gaadi mein.
“Chahiye” tab aur zor se sunai deta hai jab usmein kisi aur ki awaaz bhi ho: dada-dadi ka bade par kaha vaakya, maa-pita ki “tujhe zimmedar banna hai.” Kuch log paate hain ki is sab ke neeche unki apni chaah hai, chhoti aur saadi.
Jab awaaz batati hai ki chhote bhai-behen ko aapke saath kaisa bartaav karna chahiye, toh kiske shabd dohrati hai, aur ye shabd pehli baar kab sune the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bade ki jagah kaise khinch jaati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye jagah jaldi khinch gayi: “Bada hai, samajhdar ban”, khidki wali seat par pehli baari, chhote ko tuition se lene bheja jaana. Kuch parivaaron mein umar tay karti hai ki pehle kaun bolega aur kiski baat final hogi.
Kuch mein ye dekhne se bani: koi bada cousin jiski salah chhote maante the, ya koi bada jo har parivaarik faisle mein apne se bade ka lihaaz karta. Kuch log aisi tasveer bachpan se laate hain; kuch nahi.
Bade hote hue kaun sa pal tha jisne pehli baar bataya ki bade ki baat ki keemat kya honi chahiye, aur usmein kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Aankhein ghumane ke neeche ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bade ki baat mein wazan hona chahiye,” ya “Agar ye mera sammaan karte, toh meri sunte.” Pehla vaakya socha jaata hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har kandha uchakna aur har mazaak kaise padha jaaye.
Aisa niyam aksar aam samajh jaisa lagta hai. Parivaar aise hi chalte hain, aur kuch logon ke liye ye cheezein sthir rakhta hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, chhote bhai-behen ke pachchis saal ke hone par bhi, sirf nau saal ke hone par nahi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain; kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Chhote ke saath aaj ki zindagi mein “bade ki baat” wala niyam kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek saal mein is darje ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai poora parivaarik khaana agli chubhan ke intezaar mein guzarna, salah jo rat li gayi aur phir nigal li gayi, chhote ki nayi naukri ki khabar par muskaan ki jagah jokhimon ki soochi. Kuch zor se nahi, phir bhi har mulaqat mein ek bojh.
Jab izzat is baat ka paimana ban jaaye ki bade hone ke baras gine gaye ya nahi, toh har aankhein ghumana saare barson par faisla lag sakta hai. Kuch bade dekhte hain ki chhote ke saath jo garmjoshi thi, wo hisaab ke neeche dab jaati hai.
Chhote bhai-behen ke saath koi haalia aam pal sochiye: kitna usmein is intezaar mein ranga tha ki gambhirta se liya jaaye, aur iski keemat aap dono ko kya chukani padi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Isi darje ke saath paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, jab “chhote bhai-behen ko mera lihaaz karna chahiye” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad unke naye course wala message do baar padhna, chetavani type karke mita dena, group mein apne upar mazaak par angootha bhej dena, aur wahi chunaav hote dekhna jiske baare mein aagah kiya tha.
Yahan kuch bhavishyavaani nahi, aur tasveer ko jab chahein rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: parivaar ka group, unka koi plan jis par aapki raay hai, jo baatein ankahi reh gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Izzat, ek aur shakl mein #
Chhote bhai-behen ki izzat chaudah ki umar mein aur tees ki umar mein bahut alag dikh sakti hai. Apne faisle khud lena, un faislon mein bhi jinke baare mein aapne aagah kiya tha, saath hi aapko keemti maante rehne ke saath reh sakta hai. Kareebi aur azaad hona saath chal sakte hain.
Chhota shayad chetavani ko farmaan ki tarah sune, ya fikar ko purane hukm ki tarah, aur dono shayad alag-alag baatcheet sun rahe hon.
Chhote ki izzat mein jo-jo aapko chahiye, unmein sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai: suna jaana, poochha jaana, ya bas mazaak na udaya jaana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Chhota pehle se kya deta hai #
Jo izzat chahi thi, uske saath ye dekhna garm lag sakta hai ki chhote se pehle se kya aata hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota ya ektarfa ho: sirf aapko bheja gaya meme, router theek karne ka sawaal, jab kuch achha ho toh sabse pehle aapka naam.
Yahan kuch bakaya nahi, aur ise dekhne se ummeed wapas nahi hoti. Ek hi insaan ke baare mein garmahat aur jaayaz shikayat dono sach ho sakti hain. Garmahat aksar baaton se zyada kaamon mein dikhti hai, isliye bina maangi chhoti baatein dekhne layak ho sakti hain.
Aaj kuch yaad na aaye, toh bhi theek.
Ek aam hafte mein chhota aapki zindagi mein kya laata hai, jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah jo jaayaz hissa rakhti hai #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki bade hone ke baras kuch nahi the, ya aapko aagyakarita milni chahiye thi. Matlab ye ki ye faasla har parivaarik jamaavde aur group ke har jawab ko na chalaye.
Jo jaayaz hai, wo reh sakta hai: sune jaane ki chaah, aur doosron ke saamne mazaak na banna. Jo dheela ho sakta hai, wo pakad hai, taaki chhote ka chunaav unka chunaav rahe, aur aankhein ghumana bas aankhein ghumana.
Buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada maangna” nahi, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Agar chhote ko kabhi darr lagta dikhe, chot pahunchi lage, ya wo asaamanya roop se chup rehne lagein, toh unki fikar is ummeed se alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai.
Aur izzat kabhi nigraani rakhkar, unke badle faisle karke ya unhein darakar nahi milti.
Is sulah ke saath ek shaam sochiye: aap dono ki hansi kis baat par hogi, aur kya ankaha chhod denge jiski keemat aapko na chukani pade?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Bade ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Chhote bhai-behen ko mera lihaaz karna chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unke saath jo ho, uski mujhe fikar hai, aur unki zindagi unhi ki hai.” Ise jeetna zaroori nahi, bas purani ke paas baithna hai.
Shuru mein ye haar maanne jaisi lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ke liye apni ek line dheere-dheere purani ke paas thodi jagah banati hai; kuch ko wo nahi baithti, aur koi doosri line hamesha aazmayi ja sakti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein chhote bhai-behen ke baare mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapki fikar ko rakhe aur unhein chunne ki jagah de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch salah jeb mein reh sakti hai #
Har chetavani deni zaroori nahi, aur har baar aankhein ghumane ka jawab dena bhi nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise apne chhalle mein padi faltu chaabi jo kabhi maangi jaaye toh kaam aaye.
Aisi chaah jab tak chahein nijee reh sakti hai. Agar kabhi chhote ki apni fikar ho, kyunki unhein darr lagta dikhe, chot pahunchi lage ya wo asaamanya roop se chup rehne lagein, toh wo is chaah se alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai.
Aaj shaam is khayaal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ki shaam ye tay karne mein nahi gayi ki kaun kisse upar hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar pakad thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Gambhirta se liye jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par ek baar aankhein ghumana bas ek baar aankhein ghumana hai.
Chhoti baatein kaafi ho sakti hain: unka chunaav khelte dekhna, aur salah wahin rakhi rehna agar wo chahein; aapke beech ka wo mazaak jis par sach mein hansi aaye; dost ke saath aisi shaam jo ghar-parivaar ki taraf mudi hi nahi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Aage ye dekhna hai ki iske saath sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya thoda bhi alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Chupchaap dhyaan dijiye ki kab koi jawab pad girne jaisa lagne lagta hai
- Jab salah taal di jaaye, toh dekhiye ki chubhan salah ki hai ya bade hone ki
- Aaj ki koi ek chaah pehchaniye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chhote ko nau saal ki umar mein aur aaj ki umar mein sochiye, aur dekhiye kya badla
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: aaj gambhirta se liya jaana kaisa dikhta?
Chhote, nijee, aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Chhote ka khayaal rakhne ki aapki sabse pyaari yaad kya hai, aur tab aap kya kar rahe the?
- Chhote ka kaun sa mazaak ya baat aapke saath sabse zyada rahi, aur aap kahan the jab suni?
- Aapko sabse zyada kya achha lagega ki aapke peeche chhota aapke baare mein kahe?
- Agar chhote ki izzat ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Chhota aapki zindagi mein pehle se kya laata hai, jiska aap thoda aur maza lena chahenge?