Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jinki aap parwah karte hain, unmein se zyadatar ka pasand karna bilkul mumkin hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us school se shuru hui jahan dosti har hafte badalti thi, aur lunch ki bench se bahar reh jaana sachmuch chubhta tha.
“Sab mujhe pasand karein” ke neeche kuch logon ko ek aur shant niyam milta hai: “Agar koi mujhe pasand nahi karta, to mujhse kuch galat hua hoga.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Us pal haan keh dena, phir baad mein anishchit mehsoos karna
- Message bhejne se pehle kai baar dobara padhna
- Ek se zyada baar dekhna ki kisne dekha, like kiya ya jawab diya
- Kisi ko bura na lage isliye plan par haan bol dena
- Ghar lautte har baatcheet ko phir se chalana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Muskaan na lautane wali colleague
Office mein ek nayi colleague aapse zara rookhi hai: ek-ek shabd ke jawab, pantry mein muskaan nahi. Baaki sab aapse achhe hain. Phir bhi aap poori shaam sochte ho ki kya galat ho gaya, har baatcheet phir se chalate ho. Aap tay karte ho ki kal khaas taur par achhe rahenge, use jeet lenge. Sote waqt bhi wo mann mein rehti hai, aur aapmein thakaan aur bechaini rehti hai.
Sabko aapko pasand karna hai
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sab log mujhe pasand karein, ye zaroori hai.” Ye dostana aur bhala lagta hai, aur mil-julkar rehna chahna achhi baat hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ye aapki shanti ko har ek insaan ki raay par tika deta hai. Ek rookha chehra das garm chehron par bhaari pad sakta hai, aur aap un logon ko jeetne mein lag jaate ho jo shayad bas jhijhakte ya vyast hain.
Pasand kiya jaana kabhi mehfoozi tha
Hum ise isliye thaamte hain kyunki kabhi pasand kiya jaana mehfooz hone jaisa laga. Shayad aapka bachpan aise ghar mein beeta jahan sabko khush rakhne se ghar mein shanti rehti thi. Shayad school ya kaam mein kabhi aapko bahar kar diya gaya, aur wo ehsaas dobara nahi chahiye. Chahe jo ho, ye niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye apnaye jaane aur logon ke beech mehfooz rehne ki chaah se uga hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Ek rookha chehra aur badi jagah
Har wo insaan jo aapse nahi khilta, aapke dimaag mein zaroorat se zyada jagah gher leta hai. Aap use khush karne ko khud ko badalne lagte ho. Aap na bolna chahte hain par haan bol dete ho. Jo aap par shak karta dikhe, uske aas-paas bechaini rehti hai. Dheere-dheere aapki urja logon ko jeetne mein jaati hai, aur aap un bahuton ko bhool jaate ho jo aapko waise hi pasand karte hain jaise aap hain.
Sabko jeetna kya keemat ke layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya sabke pasand karne ki zaroorat ne aapko kabhi zyada pasand kiya hua mehsoos karaya? Ya zyadatar aur thaka diya? Kuch log kisi se jaldi nahi khulte, aur kuch bas aapse nahi milte, aur ye aam baat hai. Kisi bhi haal mein, ek rookha chehra aapki qadr ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko jitna deta hai, usse zyada maangta hai.
Khud rahiye, logon ko chunne dijiye
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap garmjoshi aur dostana hona band kar dein. Matlab ye ki aapki shanti ab sabki manzoori par nahi tiki. Aap bhale reh sakte ho, khud reh sakte ho, aur logon ko apne waqt par pasand karne ya na karne de sakte ho. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: jo aapko pasand karte hain, unka maza lijiye, un par har shaam kharch kiye bina jo nahi karte.
If anyone threatens, frightens or keeps pressuring you to win their approval, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSab log mujhe pasand karein, ye zaroori hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleBhala rehna, khud rehna aur logon ko chunne dena, teeno mumkin hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Teen aise logon ko sochiye jo aapko pehle se pasand karte hain
- Din 2
Ek chhoti baat par na boliye jo aap nahi karna chahte
- Din 3
Jab ek rookha chehra sataye, ek garm chehra yaad kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Abhi kiski pasand aapke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhti hai, aur kyun?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Baar-baar jaanchne ke peeche ki ek chaah #
“Sab log mujhe pasand karein, ye zaroori hai.” Ye tab sochi jaati hai jab aap dekhte hain ki story kisne dekhi, kisi naye group mein bhejne se pehle message dobara padhte hain, ya ghar lautte cab mein dawat ki baatcheet phir se chalate hain.
Ye shayad hi kabhi zor se kahi jaati hai. Ye chhoti aadaton mein dikhti hai: us chutkule par hans dena jo mazedaar tha nahi, bahut jaldi haan keh dena, “arre koi baat nahi” likh dena jab baat thi. Ye seedhe-seedhe achha bane rehne jaisi lag sakti hai.
Aapne aakhri baar kab dekha ki aap pasand kiye jaane ki koshish bahut zyada kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kamre mein ya chat mein kaun tha, aur mahaul garm rakhne ke liye aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jab koi chup ho jaye, to wo halka jhatka #
Kuch logon mein ye chhote jhatke se shuru hoti hai: koi dost bas “ok” likh de, koi colleague muskurakar jawab na de, ek message ke baad group chat chup ho jaye. Sochne se pehle hi pet mein kuch baith jaata hai.
Sharir chuppi ko faisle ki tarah padh sakta hai. Aisi baat par, jiska shayad bahut matlab nahi tha, shant hone mein ghante lag sakte hain.
Kuch hi seconds mein mann vyast ho jaata hai: kya maine kuch keh diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kuch theek karoon?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab koi zara rookha lagta hai to aapka sharir kya karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur dobara shant hone mein aam taur par kitna waqt lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye meherbaani jaisa lagta hai #
Pasand kiye jaane ki chaah aam baat hai. Logon ko ek-doosre ki zaroorat hoti hai, aur achhe rishte mehfooz lagte hain. Isiliye ye maanyata unhi cheezon ke andar chhupi rehti hai jo sachmuch achhi hain: garmjoshi, parwah, logon ke saath nibhana.
Par vaakya mein “sab” hai. Jinki aap parwah karte hain, unmein se zyadatar ka pasand karna bilkul mumkin hai. Par sabka pasand karna, naye colleague ka, kisi cousin ke dost ka, padosi ka, kisi ke bas mein nahi.
Jab lakshya “sab” ho, to har rookhi nazar haar jaisi lagne lagti hai.
Abhi aapki “sab” wali soochi mein kaun-kaun hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya sabka usmein hona sachmuch zaroori hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Chehron ka hisaab rakhne wali awaaz #
“Kahin rookha toh nahi laga?” “Wo hanse nahi, zaroor naraaz honge.” “Chalo ek achha-sa message bhej dein.” Ye awaaz tez aur fikarmand hai, aur har baatcheet ke baad bolti hai, sirf mushkil wali ke baad nahi.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki ye garm chehron se bhare kamre mein ek rookhe chehre ko ginti hai. Das dost hanste hain, ek nahi, aur awaaz poori shaam usi ek par laga deti hai, jaise baaki das wahan the hi nahi.
Ye kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur ek chup insaan ko wo bagal mein muskurate das se itna zyada wazan kyun deti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye chaah kahan se tez hui #
Kuch logon mein ye us school se shuru hui jahan dosti har hafte badalti thi, aur lunch ki bench se bahar reh jaana sachmuch chubhta tha. Pasand kiya jaana andar bane rehne ka tareeka tha. Logon ka mood barikee se padhna ek samajhdaari ka hunar tha.
Kuch gharon mein sabko pasand aana lagbhag har cheez se zyada saraha jaata tha. Bachcha seekh sakta hai ki kisi ka zara naraaz hona badi baat hai, “log kya kahenge” jaisi baaton se. Kuch log ise aise saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Kisi ka pasand na karna pehli baar kab sirf udaas karne wali baat na rehkar badi baat laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kahan the, aur andar rehne ke liye aapne kya karna shuru kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Chaah ke neeche ka niyam #
“Sab mujhe pasand karein” ke neeche kuch logon ko ek aur shant niyam milta hai: “Agar koi mujhe pasand nahi karta, to mujhse kuch galat hua hoga.” Ya: “Main tabhi mehfooz hoon jab koi mujhse naraaz na ho.”
Aise niyam kabhi samajhdaari ki baat the, shayad classroom mein ya aise tanaav wale ghar mein jahan sabko khush rakhne se sab shant rehta tha. Niyam ek achha pehredaar tha. Bas use kabhi pata nahi chala ki badon ki zindagi mein zyada jagah hoti hai.
Kya inmein se koi mel khaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki aaj ki zindagi mein kaun hai jo aapse na khilta, aur din lagbhag waisa hi chalta rehta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya koi aisa hai jiski pasand ke peeche aap chupchaap bhaagna chhod sakte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Sabko pasand aane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ek hi hafte mein shaadi, ek ehsaan aur office dinner, teeno ko haan kehna, meeting mein chup rehna taaki koi chidhe nahi, ya ek chhote-se message ke masaude mein poori shaam chali jaana.
Kuch log batate hain ki doston ke beech bhi wo thode anjaan mehsoos karte hain, kyunki har kisi ke hisaab se khud ko dhalte rahe hain. Kuch dekhte hain ki har milne ke baad thakaan hoti hai, bolne se zyada dekhte rehne ki.
Ye koi kami nahi. Ye har kisi ka mood sambhalne ki koshish ka wazan hai.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: koi raay jo nahi kahi gayi, koi shaam jo de di gayi, khud ka koi hissa jo rokkar rakha gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday #
Ise bhavishyavaani nahi, bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye: kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday, jismein “sab log mujhe pasand karein” ab bhi maalik hai.
Shayad ek story jo daalkar kai baar dekhi gayi, office ke lunch mein sir hilate rehna, lautte metro mein phir se likha gaya ek message. Kuch natakiya nahi. Bas har kamre ko saavdhaani se padhte hue beeta ek din.
Yahan dekhne ko koi sahi cheez nahi, aur theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Din mein kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kise aapki haan milti hai, aur kise aapka waqt?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday aur uske logon ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kiske pasand karne ki baat hai, theek-theek? #
Kisi aise insaan ko sochiye jise aap bahut pasand karte hain. Aam taur par koi hota hai. Isse aapko unmein jo dikhta hai, wo nahi badla. Kuch logon ka napasand karna asli insaan hone ke saath aata hai.
Pasand har kisi ki alag hoti hai. Kuch ko oonche chutkule bhaate hain; kuch ko thaka dete hain. Kuch ko shanti pasand hai; kuch ko thandi lagti hai. Sabko pasand aane ke liye insaan ko koi khaas insaan nahi hona padega.
Ab sochiye: kya koi hai jo unhein pasand nahi karta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kiski pasand sachmuch aapke liye maayne rakhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar sirf teen naam chunne hon, jinki pasand sach mein ginni jayegi, to wo kaun honge, aur ye teen hi kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log gaur se dekhte hain, kuch ko dikhta hai ki jo log unke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhte hain, wo wahi hain jinhone unhein chidchida, galat ya thaka hua dekha hai aur phir bhi saath hain. Wo nahi jinhein khush karne mein sabse zyada mehnat lagi.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki jis rookhepan ki unhein fikar thi, uska unse zyada lena-dena nahi tha: dost thaka tha, colleague ka din lamba tha, group chat bas doosri baaton mein vyast thi.
Pichhli baar jab koi aapse anmana laga, to uske din mein aur kya chal raha hoga, jo aapki jagah se nahi dikh raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Pehle parwah chhodna zaroori nahi #
Is maanyata se sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki kisi ki raay ki parwah hi na ki jaye. Logon ki parwah karna achhi baat hai. Maqsad bas itna hai ki kisi ek ki bhaunhein poori shaam ka faisla na karein.
Pasand kiye jaane ki chaah bani reh sakti hai. Wo ek shant khayal ke bagal mein baith sakti hai: kuch log mujhse khilte hain, kuch nahi, aur dono aam baatein hain. Kuch logon ko ye sabko jeetne ki koshish se aasaan lagta hai.
Is hafte kiski raay thodi kam maayne rakh sakti hai, bina kuch bura hue?Is par baat kijiye ›
Usse aapke waqt ya aapke dimaag mein kya khul jayega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Sab log mujhe pasand karein, ye zaroori hai” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log aisi line paas rakhte hain: “Mujhe pasand kiya jaana achha lagta hai, aur kuch log mujhe pasand nahi karenge, aur ye asli insaan hone ka hissa hai.” Ladayi ki zaroorat nahi.
Shuru mein iska sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki beech-beech mein kehne se ek rookha jawab thoda kam emergency lagne lagta hai. Kuch ke liye koi aur line behtar baithti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo saari garmjoshi aur parwah banaye rakhe, aur sirf ek shabd “sab” chhod de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Jab chat phir chup ho jaye #
Kuch din purani chaah zor se laut aati hai, aksar kisi group chat ke chup hone par, ya jab koi dost naye dost bana le. Wo soch ki purani aadat hai, jo wahin dikh rahi hai jahan hamesha dikhti hai.
Kuch logon ko naam dena kaam ka lagta hai: “Lo, phir aa gayi sabki awaaz.” Fikar suni ja sakti hai, bina fauran kuch karne ke, bina aadhi raat ko jaldi-jaldi sudharne wala message bheje.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki chot jhuthi thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki ise baaki raat nahi chalana hai.
Shaam aur kya de sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar chaah thodi dheeli hoti #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye, ki chaah ek sur dheemi ho. Pasand kiya jaana ab bhi achha lagta hai, par ek rookha jawab shaam nahi bigadta.
Kai log pehle chhoti cheezein batate hain: daalkar bhula di gayi ek photo, lunch par ek naram-sa “mujhe thoda alag lagta hai”, bina lambe bahane ke khaali rakha gaya ek Saturday.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe wo aapka hai, aur dekhne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to ek chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #
- Jab koi jawab rookha lage, dekhiye ki mann pehli kahani kaun-si sunata hai
- Kamre mein garm chehre ginye, sirf us ek rookhe ko nahi
- Aaj jo ek raay aapne rok li, use khud ke saamne naam dijiye
- Haan kehne se pehle ek second rukkar poochhiye: kya mera mann hai?
- Teen aise logon ki kalpana kijiye jo aapke asli, roz wale roop ko pasand karte hain
Sab chhote, sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Abhi kiski pasand aapke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhti hai, aur kyun?
- Kisi ka aapko pasand na karna pehli baar kab badi baat laga?
- Is chaah ke neeche kaun-sa ehsaas baitha hai: darr, akelapan, fikar, ya kuch aur?
- Kisi aam din jab ye maanyata zor se baj rahi ho, tab aap kya roke rakhte?
- Agar ye thodi dheeli padti, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karte?