Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Baar-baar sunayi gayi kahani chot ko taza bhi rakh sakti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us parivar se shuru hua jahan jo bhi kabhi galat hua, uski file bani rahi: kisi shaadi mein kahi gayi ek baat, chhooti hui ek mulaqaat, kisi chhoti cheez par jhagda.
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Parwah hoti to aage badh jaate,” ya “Achha parivar purani zameen nahi khodta.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chup ho jaana aur uske guzar jaane ka intezaar karna
- Palatkar jawab dena, aur phir lehje par pachhtana
- Baat ko jaldi aur hansi-khushi se kahin aur mod dena
- Kisi kaam ka bahana banakar pal bhar ko kamre se nikal jaana
- Kuch na kehna, aur lautte hue raaste bhar use dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo daawat jahan baat phir uthi
Dehradun mein parivar ka dopahar ka khaana. Sab kuch shaant chal raha hai, khaana achha hai, tabhi aapki Chachi kehti hain, “Waise sagai wale din jo hua tha...” aur gyarah saal purani wo kahani phir nikal aati hai. Papa chup ho jaate hain. Ek cousin aankhein ghumati hai. Aap thakaan liye apni thaali ko ghoorte ho, sochte hue ki is ghar mein koi baat kabhi neeche kyun nahi rakhi jaati.
Iske neeche ka niyam
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Gharwalon ko purani ladaiyan bhula deni chahiye.” Ye samajhdaar lagta hai. Beeti baat beet gayi. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: parivar ke mauqon par aapka chain doosron ki yaadon se baandh deta hai. Jamaava achha lagega ya nahi, ye is par tik gaya hai ki koi purani chot chhedta hai ya nahi, aur kuch log purani kahaniyan bahut lambe waqt tak uthaye rehte hain.
Hum ise kyun thaame rehte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki parivarik waqt halka chahte hain. Shayad aapne khud purani baat se sulah kar li hai, aur chahte ho ki baaki bhi waisa karein. Ya shayad aap un takraaron mein khinchne se thak gaye ho jo aapke samajhne se pehle shuru hui thin. Dono haal mein purani ladaiyan bhulana chahna rukhapan nahi. Ye chain ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Iski aapko kya keemat hai
Har dohrayi kahani agle jamaave ko bhaari kar deti hai. Aap pahunchne se pehle hi taiyaar hone lagte ho. Purane vishay ka intezaar tanaav deta hai. Jab wo paas aata hai to jhat baat badal dete ho, aur phir itni chaukasi se thakaan lagti hai. Dheere-dheere parivar ke mauqe purani daraaron ke paas se guzarne jaise lagte hain, aur jo garmjoshi aap chahte the wo intezaar mein kho jaati hai.
Kya ye iske layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unse baat chhod dene ki zaroorat ne kabhi kahani ko lautne se roka? Ya zyadatar aapko aur tanaav mein rakha? Log aksar purani ladaiyan isliye dohrate hain ki unke liye chot ab bhi asli hai, bhale aapke liye na ho. Jo bhi ho, unki yaad aapke parivar ki garmjoshi ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada.
Ise jaane dena
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki purani kahani mein shaamil hona pade. Matlab ye ki aapka chain ab is par nahi tika ki wo uthti hai ya nahi. Aap use mausam ki tarah guzarne de sakte ho, din ke achhe hisson ka maza le sakte ho, aur apna mann halka rakh sakte ho. Yahin kuch chain lautta hai: purani ladaai unki reh sakti hai, aur khaana phir bhi aapka ho sakta hai.
Being threatened, hurt or frightened, watched, kept in or kept from people, having money used to control you, or being pressured to change who you are is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleGharwalon ko purani ladaiyan bhula deni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya rulePurani baat guzar sakti hai. Mera din halka rah sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Jab purani kahani shuru ho, paani ka ek ghoont lijiye aur saans lijiye
- Kadam 2
Agle parivarik jamaave mein ek achha pal khojiye
- Kadam 3
Ek pasandeeda rishtedaar ko sochiye aur unke paas baithiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Parivar ka kaun-sa mauka halka aur aasaan laga, aur use waisa kya bana raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Starter ke saath lautti kahani #
“Gharwalon ko purani ladaiyan bhula deni chahiye.” Ye parivarik daawat mein pehle course ke beech aa sakta hai, jab koi kahe “Yaad hai tab tumne kya kaha tha...” aur kai saal purana jhagda salad ke bagal mein mez ke beechobeech rakh diya jaye.
Zubaan par aksar ye ek kasi muskaan aur jaldi se vishay badalne mein badal jaata hai. Bheetar ye zyada sakht aur thaka hua ho sakta hai: beeti baat beeti rahe, aur jamaava aaj ka ho, un logon ka jo sachmuch wahan baithe hain.
Gharwalon se ye chaah aakhri baar kab aayi thi, aur kaun-si purani kahani abhi-abhi sunayi gayi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Pehli pankti se pehle ki taiyaari #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki kahani shuru hone se pehle hi kandhe uth jaate hain, kyunki pehle kuch shabd kaafi hain use pehchanne ko. Body dohrav ke liye taiyaar ho jaati hai, chehra shaant rehta hai aur haath glass ki or badh jaata hai.
Kuch ko tapan mehsoos hoti hai, ya achanak kahin aur hone ki chaah, ya pichhli baar jo jawab diya tha uska mann mein rehearsal. Ye sab is soch se pehle ho sakta hai ki kahani kaise khatam hogi, ya poori sunayi bhi jayegi ya nahi.
Aakhri baar jab ghar ki mez par koi purani baat uthi, to pehle pal mein, ye tay karne se pehle ki kya kahein, aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Nayi shuruaat chahna jaayaz hai #
Is ummeed mein dam hai. Log badalte hain, saal guzarte hain, aur chahna ki parivar us insaan se mile jo aaj saamne baitha hai, na ki us se jo kisi purani kahani mein hai, bahut aam chaah hai.
Baar-baar sunayi gayi kahani chot ko taza bhi rakh sakti hai. Har dohrav wahi pal mez par wapas rakh deta hai, aur aisa jamaava chahna swabhavik hai jiski mez par kuch aur ho.
Parivar ka koi aisa mauka yaad kijiye jo halka laga, jab hawa mein koi purani kahani nahi thi: tab kya ho raha tha, aur use aasaan kya bana raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo pehle sun chuki hai #
“Phir wahi baat.” “Wo toh saalon purani baat hai.” “Aaj se shuru kyun nahi kar sakte?” Ye awaaz aksar theek tabhi bolti hai jab kahani shuru hoti hai, ya baad mein gaadi mein, jab dohrav ki har pankti kram se phir chalti hai.
Bhulane ke “chahiye” mein kai chaahein ek saath ho sakti hain: jaise aaj hain waise dekhe jaana, dohrav se bacha rehna, aur purani chot ko, agar koi thi, ek baar maana jaana aur khatam kiya jaana. Kuch logon ko aakhiri wali chaah neeche dabi chupchaap wali lagti hai.
Jab awaaz kehti hai “Phir wahi baat”, to wo chahti hai ki agle paanch minute mein kamra kya kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Purani kahaniyan kahan se aati hain #
Kuch logon mein ye us parivar se shuru hua jahan jo bhi kabhi galat hua, uski file bani rahi: kisi shaadi mein kahi gayi ek baat, chhooti hui ek mulaqaat, kisi chhoti cheez par jhagda. Kuch parivaron mein ateet ko khule mein rakhna jude rehne ka dhang hai, aur sabse naye aane wale ko ye bhaari lag sakta hai.
Kuch mein ye ek aise jhagde se uga jo kabhi sachmuch khatam nahi hua: koi asli ant nahi, bas ek thehraav jo lamba khinch gaya. Jab koi takraar bina niptare ke rukti hai, to agle jamaave ki raah dekh sakti hai, aur purani kahani bankar nikal sakti hai.
Aapke parivar mein kaun chhoti baaton ko jaane dena achhe se jaanta hai, aur jab koi chhoti baat aati hai to wo kya karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ateet kisliye hai, iska niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Parwah hoti to aage badh jaate,” ya “Achha parivar purani zameen nahi khodta.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo bheetar sunayi deta hai; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har purani kahani kaise li jaye.
Bheetar se ye niyam jaisa kam hi lagta hai. Ye seedhi samajhdaari lagta hai, aur ismein dam bhi hai. Isiliye ise aaj ke is parivar ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhna kaam ka hai, aur sirf us saal ke saath nahi jab takraar hui thi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko kisi ek takraar tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Aage badhne ka niyam aaj ki zindagi mein kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan thoda purana pad gaya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kahani ke intezaar ki saal bhar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai jamaavon mein ek plan lekar jaana ki kya kehna hai, ek dopahar aadha-dhyan kahani ki pehli aahat sunne mein beetna, aur kisi ke ek lafz kehne se pehle aa jaane wali thakaan. Chhoti keematein, magar har mauke par aati hain.
Jab kahani ki aas ho, to kuch log poori shaam usi ke hisaab se bunte hain. Nayi shuruaat ki chaah jamaave mein daakhil hone ka poora dhang gadhne lagti hai.
Parivar ke us aakhiri mauke ko sochiye jiska aapko intezaar tha: us intezaar ka kitna hissa ek kahani se bachne mein chala gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Mez ki kahani ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam daawat sochiye, aise din jab “gharwalon ko purani ladaiyan bhula deni chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Aapse bas ek nazar maangi ja rahi hai.
Shayad har daawat mein saalon purani us kahani ka intezaar jo aapke baare mein hai, ek tiki hui muskaan, aur ek rehearsal kiya hua jawab jo kabhi diya nahi gaya.
Ye ek tasveer hai, bhavishyavaani nahi; ise jab mann kare ek taraf rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: pahunchna, dua-salaam, kahani ki pehli aahat, shaant dikhne ki mashaqqat?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam mein kya bhara hai, aur kya chhod diya gaya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us daawat ko dekhkar aapko agar kuch dikhta hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kahani, ya uska adhoora hissa? #
Ummeedein tab sabse achhi chalti hain jab wo asal mein ho sakne wali cheez se mel khayein. “Jaane do” ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: use sunana band karna, alag tarah se sunana, theek se khatam karna, ya bas use baatcheet kholne ka tareeka na banana.
Koi purana jhagda sunane se zinda reh sakta hai, ya uske kisi aise hisse se jise kabhi kisi ne band nahi kiya. Kuch ko lagta hai ki ye poochhne se ki dono mein se kya chal raha hai, kahani zyada saaf dikhti hai; kuch ko ehsaas mein zyada farq nahi padta, aur wo bhi sach hai.
Parivar kisi purani takraar se jitne dhang se nipat sakta hai, unmein se kaun-sa aapko jaayaz lagega, aur kaun-sa tab bhi bahut zyada?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Purani kahani ke bagal mein ye dekhna bhi kaam ka ho sakta hai ki wahi parivar aaj kya karta hai: wo Chachi jo sabse pehle aapki thaali parosti hain, wo cousin jo usi purane chutkule par hansta hai, wo Mama jo mudkar poochhte hain aapka hafta kaisa raha.
Inhein dekhna kahani mitata nahi, aur ye sune jaane ke badle ki koi keemat bhi nahi. Nayi shuruaat ki thaki chaah aur aaj ki sachchi, rozmarra ki garmjoshi, dono ek hi daawat ke baare mein sach ho sakti hain, aur kaan jab kahani ko sun rahe hon to garmjoshi aasaani se chhoot jaati hai.
Aaj kuch na aaye, to ye khali reh sakta hai.
Parivar ki aaj ki kaun-si chhoti meharbani par aap thoda aur dhyan dena chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Lautti kahani ke saath chain #
Is ummeed ko aaram dene ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki nayi shuruaat chahna bahut zyada hai, ya ki purani choten kabhi maayne nahi rakhti thin. Matlab ye hai ki jis nayi shuruaat ki aas thi aur jo kahani milti hai, unke beech ka faasla har daawat ko chalana chhod de.
Iska jaayaz kendra reh sakta hai: chahna ki aaj gina jaye. Agar purani chot kisi takraar se badi thi, jaise kisi ko chot pahunchna ya dara diya jaana, to wo alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai. Jise chot lagi thi, use aur waqt chahiye ho sakta hai, aur wo uska apna hai.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Agar koi dhamkata, peecha karta ya nazar rakhta hai, logon se rokta hai, paison se qaabu karta hai, ya badalne ka dabaav daalta hai, to wo alag baat hai, gambhirta se lene layak; wahan saavdhan rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.
Sochiye ek parivarik daawat is chaah se sulah ke saath: aap kis baare mein baat karenge, aur mez ke aar-paar kya badhana aapko achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle dohrav ke liye ek vaakya #
“Gharwalon ko purani ladaiyan bhula deni chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Kahani purani hai, aur ye shaam nayi hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas pahunch mein rehna hai.
Aisa vaakya shuru mein patla lag sakta hai, jaise bahut chhoti rassi. Kuch ko istemaal se wo lamba hota lagta hai; kuch ko nahi hota aur wo doosra likhte hain. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jo hua uske liye jagah chhode aur aaj ke liye bhi jagah rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kahani thaali mein hi reh sakti hai #
Har purani kahani ka jawab dena zaroori nahi. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, ek baar darj kiya ja sakta hai, aur chawal ke saath thaali mein chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise koi katori jiski taraf kisi ne haath na badhaya.
Agar koi dhamkata hai, peecha karta hai ya nazar rakhta hai, aapko logon se milne se rokta hai ya ghar mein band rakhta hai, paison se qaabu karta hai, ya badalne ka dabaav daalta hai, to wo alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai; wahan saavdhan rehna hi surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aaj raat kahani ko thaali mein chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar saaf panne ki zaroorat zara dheeli ho #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ke taur par, ki ummeed ek paydaan shaant hai. Nayi shuruaat ki chaah ab bhi hai, par dohrayi gayi kahani ek dohrayi gayi kahani hai, poori shaam nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise purani kahani sunna aur roti aage badha dena, ya mez ke us chhor se aayi kisi halki hasi par gaur karna.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi se kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai. Iske baad, is par nazar ki is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab kahani shuru ho, to note kijiye ki body sabse pehle kya karti hai
- Jamaave se pehle ek cheez note kijiye jiske baare mein aap chahenge ki shaam ho
- Ek aisa insaan note kijiye jo aapse aaj ki baatein karta hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: kahani bhaari hai, ya uska adhoora hissa?
- Note kijiye ki shaam ka kaun-sa minute sabse aasaan tha, aur use aasaan kya bana raha tha
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Parivar ka kaun-sa mauka halka aur aasaan laga, aur use waisa kya bana raha tha?
- Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapse aaj ki baatein karta hai, aur wo kya poochhta hai?
- Aaj ke baare mein hua jamaava, ateet ke baare mein nahi, aapko kya dega?
- Agar nayi shuruaat ki chaah thodi dheeli pade, to agli daawat mein aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?
- Parivar ki aaj ki kaun-si chhoti meharbani aap aur zyada dekhna chahenge?