Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Wafadaari ke baare mein kam hi baat hoti hai, jo us din aur chubhti hai jab wo fisalti lage: na kahin likhi, na kabhi charcha hui, aur phir bhi bahut tez mehsoos hoti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us Dada-Dadi se shuru hui jo pote-potiyon ke baare mein kuch ulta sunte hi nahi the, ya us bade cousin se jo school mein beech mein aa jaata tha.
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Jab log dekh rahe hon, to gharwale ek ho jaate hain,” ya “Mere apne log sabke saath mujh par nahi hanste.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Saath mein hans dena, phir baaki shaam chup rehna
- Apne baare mein mazaak pehle khud suna dena, taaki koi aur na sunaye
- Chupchaap hisaab rakhna ki kaun hansa aur kaun nahi
- Us ek rishtedaar ke paas baithna jo kabhi saath nahi hansta
- Koi vinamra bahana banakar thoda jaldi nikal jaana, aur raaste bhar use dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Abhi bhi computer se khelte ho?”
Indore mein bada parivarik lunch, Bypass Road ke banquet hall mein. Fufa ji aapke kaam par mazaak karte hain: “Abhi bhi din bhar computer se khelte ho?” Sab hanste hain, aapke Papa-Mummy bhi. Aap bhi hanste ho, par ek pal der se. Baad mein Mummy se kehte ho, to jawab aata hai “Arre mazaak kar rahe the.” Aap sar hila dete ho. Par ghar ke raaste mein apni hi taraf se aayi wo hasi baar-baar goonjti hai.
Sabke saamne saath dena chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Gharwalon ko sabke saamne mera saath dena chahiye.” Ye buniyadi wafadaari jaisa lagta hai. Parivar ko saath khada hona chahiye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: kisi ke aapke saath hone ka ehsaas, bhare kamre mein uske ek pal ke reaction par tik jaata hai, aksar tab jab wo sabke saath shaanti banaye rakhne ki koshish mein hota hai.
Bachav pyaar jaisa kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki bachav kiya jaana pyaar jaisa lagta hai. Shayad kisi ne kabhi parivarik jamaave mein aapke liye awaaz uthayi thi aur uski garmahat aap kabhi bhoole nahi. Shayad kisi ne nahi uthayi, aur tab se aap ummeed kar rahe ho. Jo bhi ho, saath ki chaah kamzori nahi hai. Ye apne logon ke beech surakshit mehsoos karne ki chaah se aati hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Wo mazaak jo saath reh jaata hai
Aapki keemat par hui har hasi mazaak se zyada der aapke saath rehti hai. Aap parivarik dinner se ghabrane lagte ho. Gaadi mein jawab taiyaar karte ho. Bhari aur shor wali mez par bhi akelapan mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere jo jamaave kabhi garm lagte the, wahan kavach chahiye lagne lagta hai, aur har baar jaane par apne hi parivar ke sahare par thoda kam bharosa reh jaata hai.
Kya unke bachav ka intezaar theek hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya unke beech mein aane ki zaroorat ne kabhi agla dinner aasaan banaya? Ya zyadatar aapko aur satark kar diya? Parivar aksar baat sambhalne ke liye hans dete hain, bina soche ki wo kahan lagti hai. Jo bhi ho, unki hasi unke pyaar ka paimana nahi, na aapki keemat ka. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Mazaak ko chhota rehne dena
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki mazaak pasand aane chahiye. Matlab ye ki aap kaun ho, ye is par na tike ki kaun hansa ya kisne bachav kiya. Aap apna kaam aur apni keemat jaante ho, chahe Fufa dinner par kuch bhi kahein. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aap parivarik mez par apne aap ke saath baith sakte ho, aur mazaak chhota reh sakta hai.
If the jokes are about who you are, come with threats, or leave you frightened of someone, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; there, going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleGharwalon ko sabke saamne mera saath dena chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe apni keemat pata hai. Dinner ka mazaak chhota reh sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Parivarik dinner se pehle ek aisi baat sochiye jis par aapko garv hai
- Kadam 2
Mazaak chubhe to ek dheemi saans lijiye aur use guzarne dijiye
- Kadam 3
Kisi ek rishtedaar ko yaad kijiye jisne aapse narmi barti
Is par baat karni hai?
“Parivar mein kisne sabke saamne aapka paksh liya, aur unhone kya kiya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek chaah jo ghar lautte waqt jaagti hai #
“Gharwalon ko sabke saamne mera saath dena chahiye.” Ye vaakya aksar der se aata hai, kisi bade parivarik lunch ke baad gaadi mein, jab aapke kaam wala purana qissa dopahar ka sabse bada thahaka le gaya ho aur aapke apne log bhi sabke saath hanse hon.
Seedhe shabdon mein kahein to ye chahne mein chhoti baat lagti hai. Iske neeche kuch bada baitha hai: jab kamra dekh raha ho, to jo log aapko sabse achhi tarah jaante hain, wo aapki taraf zara sa qareeb khade rahein, ya kam se kam usse door na hatein.
Gharwalon ke baare mein ye chaah aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi thi, aur aap kis jamaave se abhi-abhi laute the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jab kamra hans raha hota hai #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki muskaan apne aap aa jaati hai, thodi zyada jaldi, aur chehra garam ho jaata hai. School trip mein galat train pakadne ka qissa, ya wo naukri jo “Koi naukri hi nahi”, ek baar phir sunayi jaati hai aur poori mez saath hansti hai.
Phir kamre ke paar jhat se ek nazar jaati hai, kisi mata-pita, bhai-behen ya us Bua ki taraf jo aam taur par aapka paksh leti hain, ye dekhne ki unke chehre par kya hai. Kuch logon ke saath wo nazar aur jo use milta hai, mazaak se zyada der tikta hai.
Jab parivarik jamaave mein aap par koi mazaak girta hai, to pehle kiska chehra dekhte ho, aur wahan kya dekhne ki ummeed karte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Kisi ka saath chahna jaayaz hai #
Is chaah mein sachchai hai. Parivar aksar akela wo group hota hai jisne insaan ka poora safar dekha hai, shuru ke saal bhi aur mushkil wale bhi, to ye ummeed ki doosre hansein aur wo paas khade rahein, sabse aam chaah jaisi lag sakti hai.
Wafadaari ke baare mein kam hi baat hoti hai, jo us din aur chubhti hai jab wo fisalti lage: na kahin likhi, na kabhi charcha hui, aur phir bhi bahut tez mehsoos hoti hai.
Agle parivarik mel-jol mein saath diye jaane ka matlab agar ek chhoti-si cheez hota, to koi asal mein kya karta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Mez ko dohrane wali awaaz #
“Sab bas baithe rahe.” “Kisi aur ka bachcha hota to kuch bolte.” “Ye kiski taraf hain?” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab mehmaanon ke jaane ke baad bartan samete ja rahe hon, ya der raat jab dopahar ab bhi dimaag mein ghoom rahi ho.
Jo andar itna zor se lagta hai, wo bhare kamre ke us paar se dikhna mushkil hota hai. Jo chubhan aapki poori dopahar bhar gayi, wo doosron ke liye agli plate badhane jitni der mein nikal gayi hogi. Isse wo chhoti nahi ho jaati; bas ho sakta hai dikhe nahi.
Jab awaaz kisi parivarik jamaave ko dohrati hai, to sabse zyada kis pal par lautti hai, aur chahti hai ki agla kya hua hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Wafadaar parivar ki tasveer kahan se bani #
Kuch logon mein ye us Dada-Dadi se shuru hui jo pote-potiyon ke baare mein kuch ulta sunte hi nahi the, ya us bade cousin se jo school mein beech mein aa jaata tha. Ek insaan jisne sabke saamne aapka paksh liya, parivar kya karta hai iski tasveer bana sakta hai.
Kuch mein ye ulti taraf se aayi: kisi tyohaar ke lunch mein rishtedaar jab kisi mata ya pita ko chhed rahe the aur wo chup ho gaye, to dekhne wale ne tay kiya ki parivar alag hona chahiye. Kuch parivaron mein chhedna apnapan dikhane ka tareeka hai; kuch mein wo kuch aur hi ban jaata hai.
Bachpan ka kaun-sa parivarik jamaava aapko achha yaad hai, aur use aisa kisne banaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Parivar kiski taraf hai, iska niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Jab log dekh rahe hon, to gharwale ek ho jaate hain,” ya “Mere apne log sabke saath mujh par nahi hanste.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki mez ki har hasi kaise padhi jayegi.
Ise koi niyam nahi maanta. Ye khud wafadaari jaisa lagta hai, aur theek isi wajah se ise dekhna theek hai, aaj ke us parivar ke saath rakhkar, jiski chhedne ki apni aadatein hain, pasandeeda purane qisse hain aur zyada oonchi awaazein.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Parivar ki kin mezon par “ek ho jaane” wala niyam ab bhi baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek saal ke jamaavon ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai tyohaar ke lunch ke baare mein hafta bhar pehle se sochna, darwaaze ke paas wali kursi chunna, apni khabar kam se kam rishtedaaron ko dena taaki mazaak ka masala kam ho. Har chunav chhota hai; milkar bahut jagah gherte hain.
Jab har jamaava wafadaari ki pariksha lage, to achhi cheezon tak pahunchna mushkil ho jaata hai: wo cousin jo sach mein pasand hai, purane gaane, aangan mein bachchon ke khel. Kuch log paate hain ki wo satark hokar pahunche aur bahut kam maza lekar laute.
Haal ke kisi parivarik jamaave ko yaad kijiye: uska kitna hissa isi se bana ki aapka paksh kaun lega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Saath hanste rehne ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, aisa din jab “gharwalon ko mera saath dena chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek parivarik lunch jahan Fufa aapka wahi purana qissa phir sunate hain aur hasi theek waqt par nikal aati hai, kisi bhai-behen ka sandesh jismein padha jaata hai ki wo kiski taraf hai, aur ghar ke raaste mein behtar jawabon ki taiyaari.
Inmein se kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein hataayi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: family WhatsApp group, weekend ke jamaave ki baatein, do baar padhe sandesh, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko kya bharta hai, aur kya intezaar karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch bhi hai, to kya khaas lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath dena, magar kis tarah? #
Koi ummeed tab sabse achhi chalti hai jab wo us par tiki ho jo sachmuch kiya ja sakta hai. “Mera saath do” ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: aapke bachav mein ek shabd, baat badal dena, mez ke paar ek nazar, ya baad mein gaadi mein dheere se “Wo zyada ho gaya tha”.
Parivaron mein wafadaari alag-alag tarah se dikhti hai. Kuch ko lagta hai ki jo rishtedaar kamre mein chup raha, usne baad mein chupke se paksh liya; kuch ko ye bhi nahi milta. Inmein se koi bhi baat mez ki chubhan ko chhota ya bada nahi karti.
Saath diye jaane ke saare tareekon mein se, pichhle jamaave mein kaun-sa sabse zyada maayne rakhta, aur wahi kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Usi mez par jo pehle se hai #
Jis saath ki aapko aas thi, uske paas-paas gaur karna madad kar sakta hai ki parivar se pehle hi kya aa raha hai, apne aap aur barabar na sahi: ek cousin jisne aapke liye kursi roki, ek Bua jinhone aapke kaam ke baare mein dhang se poochha, ek bhai ki aankh ghumana jo kehta tha “Maine bhi dekha”.
Ye dekhna chot ko radd nahi karta, aur ise lautane ki zaroorat bhi nahi hai. Ek hi dopahar mein khatakne wala pal aur garmjoshi wala pal dono sach ho sakte hain, aur roz ki chhoti bhalaiyan aksar isliye andekhi reh jaati hain ki wo itni aam hain.
Aaj agar koi misaal na soojhe, to wo bhi theek hai.
Parivar mein kisi ki kaun-si chhoti, bin maangi bhalai aap agle jamaave mein zara aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Yahan sulah kaisi dikh sakti hai #
Is ummeed ko aaram dene ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki wafadaari chahna zyada tha, ya ki wo aapka haq tha. Matlab ye hai ki jis saath ki aapne aas ki thi aur jo hua, unke beech ka faasla shuru hone se pehle hi har jamaave ka mood tay karna band kar de.
Iska jaayaz hissa bana reh sakta hai: kamre mein barabari se khade hone ki chaah, apne logon ko apni taraf paas chahna. Buniyadi izzat aur hifazat ki maang kisi bhi mez par, aapke liye aur unke liye, kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti.
Agar mazaak aap kaun hain isi par hon, baar-baar neecha dikhane ko aayein, dhamkiyon ke saath aayein, aap par nazar rakhi jaye, ghar mein roka jaye ya logon se door rakha jaye, ya kisi se darr lage, to wo kuch aur hai aur gambhirta se lene layak hai; wahan haan mein haan milana hi surakshit ho sakta hai.
Jahan koi sachmuch bura bartaav kare, wo bhi maayne rakhta hai.
Sochiye ki is ummeed se sulah ke saath agla bada parivarik lunch kaisa hoga: kahan baithenge, aur dopahar kisse baat karke khushi hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle jamaave ke liye apna ek vaakya #
“Gharwalon ko sabke saamne mera saath dena chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah kuch log ek vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain, jaise: “Ummeed thi ki wo paas khade honge; apne saath main toh hoon hi.” Use jeetna zaroori nahi, bas pahunch mein rehna kaafi hai.
Kuch logon ko apna vaakya shuru ke kuch baar akda hua lagta hai, phir kam; kuch ko kabhi jachta nahi aur wo doosra aazmate hain. Dono haal mein purane vaakya ko mez par akela hona zaroori nahi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein, saath ki chaah ko rakhne wala aur phir bhi aapko apni taraf rakhne wala vaakya kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch dopaharein darwaaze par rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har jamaave ko poori tarah khangalna zaroori nahi. Uska kuch hissa dekha ja sakta hai, ek minute mehsoos kiya aur rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise darwaaze par utari hui chappalein.
Agar mazaak aap kaun hain isi par hon, dhamkiyon ke saath aayein, ya kisi ka darr lage, to wo kuch aur hai aur gambhirta se lene layak hai; wahan haan mein haan milana hi surakshit raasta ho sakta hai. Jahan koi sachmuch bura bartaav kare, wo bhi maayne rakhta hai.
Aaj shaam dopahar ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya ki mamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki agla jamaava tab tak intezaar kar sakta hai jab tak wo sachmuch aaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar wo ek paydaan dheela ho #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ke taur par, ki ummeed ek paydaan shaant hai. Wafadaari ki chaah ab bhi hai, par mez par ek mazaak bas ek mazaak hai, ye faisla nahi ki kaun kiski taraf hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise purana qissa sunna aur apni hasi ko apni pasand banne dena, jamaave ke baad ki ek shaam kisi pasandeeda kaam mein bitana, ya din ki mazedaar baatein dost ko apne shabdon mein sunana.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi se kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur dekhne layak hai. Aage, is par nazar ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab koi mazaak aap par gire, to gaur kijiye ki pehle kiska chehra dekhte ho
- Dhyan dijiye ki aapki hasi aapki apni hai, ya kamre ke liye udhaar li gayi
- Jamaave mein aap jo ek cheez chahte the, use note kijiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: abhi saath diye jaane ka matlab kya hota?
- Ghar lautte waqt dekhiye ki mann sabse pehle kis pal par jaata hai
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Parivar mein kisne sabke saamne aapka paksh liya, aur unhone kya kiya?
- Aapke baare mein parivar ka kaun-sa qissa sunna achha lagta hai, aur use kaun sabse achha sunata hai?
- Bade parivarik jamaave mein kise dekhkar aap hamesha khush hote ho, aur unke saath baithna aasaan kyun hai?
- Agar gharwale sabke saamne saath denge ye ummeed thodi naram pade, to sabse pehle kya badlega?
- Aapka parivar jamaavon mein pehle se kya laata hai jiska aap zara aur maza lena chahenge?