Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Bachchon ke beech barabari wo pehli cheezon mein hai jo log dekhte aur mehsoos karte hain, aksar shabd milne se bahut pehle.
Kuch maa-baap ke liye ye apne bachpan se shuru hua: aisi thaali ke paas jahan dhyaan sabse bade, sabse zor se bolne wale, ya us bachche ki or jaata tha jo dada-dadi jaisa dikhta tha.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo sach mein parwah karte, to sabke saath ek jaisa karte,” ya “Achha parivaar dhyaan barabar baantta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har mulaqaat mein chupchaap dhyaan rakhna ki kise kya mila
- Pehle se har bachche ke liye koi chhoti cheez lekar pahunchna
- Jamavdon mein bachchon ko apne paas hi rakhna
- Bachchon se keh dena ki koi baat nahi, aur ye sach mein maan bhi lena
- Us waqt kuch na kehna aur ghar lautte hue poore raaste sochte rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Kinare khade do bachche intezaar mein
Jaipur mein ek paarivaarik shaadi. Aapki behen ke bachchon ko godi mein uthaya ja raha hai, mithai se lada ja raha hai, sabse milwaya ja raha hai. Aapke apne dono bachche kinare par khade intezaar karte hain. Bua aapke chhote ke sir par haath pherkar baaqiyon ki taraf mud jaati hain. Chehre par muskaan rehti hai, baatein chalti rehti hain, par aankhein bachchon ka peechha karti hain aur seene mein kuch tez aur dukhta hua uthta hai.
Mere bachchon se bhi barabar bartaav
Iske neeche ek niyam hai: “Mere rishtedaaron ko mere bachchon ke saath bhi waise hi pesh aana chahiye jaise baaki bachchon ke saath.” Ye bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har jamavde mein aapko referee bana deta hai. Har mithai, har jhappi, har parichay gina jaata hai, aur aap din ka maza lene ki jagah bachchon ki pehredaari mein lage rehte ho.
Bachchon ke liye apnapan kyun chahiye
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki maa-baap chahte hain ki unke bachche pyaar aur apnapan paayein. Shayad aapko khud bachpan mein kinare rehne ka ehsaas yaad ho. Shayad bachchon ne farq bhaanpkar lautte raaste mein poochha ho. Jo bhi ho, unhein barabar chaahna zyada samvedansheel hona nahi hai. Ye bachchon se pyaar se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Oonch-neech wale palon ki ginti
Har ooncha-neecha pal ginti mein judta jaata hai. Aap dekhte ho kise bada tohfa mila. Bachchon ki taraf se dukh hota hai, kabhi unke kuch bhaanpne se pehle hi. Jamavdon se dar lagne lagta hai, ya parivaar ko unse door rakhne ke bahane soojhte hain. Jo samaroh sabko jodne ke the, wo aisi jagah lagne lagte hain jahan bachchon ko hisse ke liye hod karni padti hai.
Kya ginti din se badi hai?
Khud se sachchai se poochhiye: kya ginti rakhne se kabhi rishtedaar zyada nyaypriya hue? Ya zyadatar jamavde aapke liye bhaari ho gaye? Kisi rishtedaar ki aadaton ke peechhe kya hai, ye koi poora nahi dekh sakta, aur har mithai-jhappi par nazar rakhna kisi ke liye bhi bahut bhaari hai. Kisi rishtedaar ki aadatein aapke bachchon ki keemat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna uski keemat ke laayak hai?
Aapke pyaar mein bachche
Chhodne ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki sab sahi hai jab wo nahi hai. Matlab ye ki ab har jamavde mein referee nahi banna. Aap ye pakka kar sakte ho ki bachche aapke pyaar ko poori garmjoshi se mehsoos karein, chahe us din aaspaas kuch bhi ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: bachchon ke paas aap hain, unke paas hi, aur din phir se achha beet sakta hai.
A child who seems uneasy or frightened around someone, or is treated as less for being a girl or a boy or for how they look, is not a fairness question to ease; it is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleWo mere bachchon se bhi baaqiyon jaisa bartaav karein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera pyaar bachchon tak pahunche, ye mere haath mein hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agle jamavde mein bachchon ke saath ek mazedaar pal baantiye
- Kadam 2
Jab ginti shuru ho, ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Apne har bachche ki ek baat jo aapko pasand hai, dekhiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kis rishtedaar ne aapke bachchon mein se kisi ka chehra khila diya, aur usne kya kiya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Darwaaze par kise badi jhappi mili #
“Mere bachchon se bhi waise hi pesh aana chahiye jaise baaki bachchon se.” Ye baat Jaipur ki kisi shaadi mein aa sakti hai, jab Bua mithai ka dibba pehle cousins ko thama deti hain. Ya Diwali ki dopahar mein, jab ek bachcha godi mein utha liya jaata hai aur doosre ke sir par bas haath pherkar baat khatam ho jaati hai.
Zubaan par ye aksar “Bachche hain, chalta hai” banakar nikalti hai. Andar se ye zyada teekhi aur zyada rakhwali wali hoti hai: apne bachchon ko bhi usi garmjoshi se apnaye jaate dekhne ki chaah, jo baaki poore kamre ko mil rahi hai.
Apne bachchon ke liye ye chaah aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi, aur usse theek pehle kaun sa chhota-sa pal aapki nazar mein chubha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kamre ke paar ek nazar #
Kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki jab koi tohfa ya taareef kisi aur bachche ki taraf chali jaati hai to unki aankhein seedhe apne bachche ke chehre par pahunch jaati hain. Chehre par muskaan sabke liye bani rehti hai, par body thodi-si bachche ki or jhuk jaati hai.
Kuch ko seene mein kasaav lagta hai, jhat se ye dekh lena ki aur kisne dekha, aur haath chhote-se kandhe ki taraf badh jaana. Ye sab us sawaal se pehle ho jaata hai ki ye chook thi, purani aadat thi, ya bheed mein bas hadbadi.
Pichhli baar jab kisi jamavde mein farq dikha, to pehle pal mein, matlab nikalne se pehle, aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bachchon ke liye apnapan chaahna samajh mein aata hai #
Is ummeed mein sachchi samajhdaari hai. Bachche kamre ka mahaul badon se jaldi padh lete hain, aur jo maa-baap unka chehra dekhte rehte hain wo aksar yahi dekh rahe hote hain ki bachche ko bhi is thaali, is dari par utni hi jagah mili hai jitni baaki sabko.
Bachchon ke beech barabari wo pehli cheezon mein hai jo log dekhte aur mehsoos karte hain, aksar shabd milne se bahut pehle. Maa-baap ki chaah ki ye barabar bante, asal mein bachche ke surakshit mehsoos karne ki chaah hai, sirf apne khush hone ki nahi.
Koi aisa pal yaad kijiye jab kisi rishtedaar ne aapke bachche ka chehra khila diya.
Unhone kya kiya tha, aur bachche ke chehre par aapne kya dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Kamre par nazar rakhne wali awaaz #
“Unhone dekha.” “Mere wale ko kyun nahi?” “Chhoti baat hai, phir chubh kyun rahi hai?” Ye awaaz bhare hue hall ke kisi kone mein bolti hai, ya raat ko jab bachche so chuke hon aur din dobara chalne lage.
Barabari wali is “chahiye” mein bahut hifaazat chhipi ho sakti hai. Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki ye rishtedaaron se shikayat kam, aur bachche ko ye sochne se bachane ki chaah zyada hai ki wo gina jaata hai ya nahi. Is chaah ko suna jaana chahiye.
Jab ye awaaz kamre par nazar rakhti hai, to asal mein kiski bhaavnaon ki pehredaari kar rahi hoti hai: aapki, ya aapke bachche ki?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye chaukas nazar kahan se aati hai #
Kuch maa-baap ke liye ye apne bachpan se shuru hua: aisi thaali ke paas jahan dhyaan sabse bade, sabse zor se bolne wale, ya us bachche ki or jaata tha jo dada-dadi jaisa dikhta tha. Kuch gharon mein pakshpaat bas ghar chalane ka hissa hota hai, aur uske doosre chhor par khada bachcha sab yaad rakhta hai.
Kuch ke liye ye kisi ek dopahar se uga: ek aisa tohfa jo baaqiyon se mel nahi khaya, group photo jismein ek bachcha kinare reh gaya, ek cousin bachche ka dulaar wala naam jo baaki ke liye nahi bana. Aisa ek drishya barson tak nazar ko paina rakh sakta hai.
Bachpan mein kaun sa rishtedaar aapke saath pyaar se pesh aata tha, aur usne aisa kya kiya jo aaj bhi yaad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Barabar bartaav wala niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo sach mein parwah karte, to sabke saath ek jaisa karte,” ya “Achha parivaar dhyaan barabar baantta hai.” Pehla vaakya wahi hai jo mann mein bola jaata hai; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har ishaara, har tohfa aur har jhappi kaise padhi jaye.
Andar se ye niyam jaisa lagta hi nahi. Ye seedhi-saadi barabari lagti hai, aur isme sach mein samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise apne bachpan ke saath nahi, is parivaar ke saath bhi rakhkar dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai, jaisa wo aaj hai.
Kuch maa-baap aise niyam ko kisi ek drishya se jod lete hain, kuch nahi.
Barabar bartaav wala ye niyam aaj ki zindagi mein kahan ab bhi theek baithta hai, aur kahan thoda purana pad gaya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nigraani saal bhar mein kya leti hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ek jamavda jo aadhe kaan se suna gaya, ek achhi dopahar jo ek chhote-se pal se feeki pad gayi, aur har ishaare mein koi sandesh khojne ki aadat. Keemat chhoti hai, par sabse pehle maa-baap ke dhyaan par padti hai.
Jab bachche nigraani bhaanp lete hain, to unke liye bhi din ki sahajta kam ho sakti hai. Bachche kamre ka mizaaj pakad lete hain, aur tyohaar dheere-dheere aisi cheez banne lagta hai jise bas nipatana hai.
Pichhle jamavde ko yaad kijiye jismein aapke bachche khush the: tab kya ho raha tha, aur aapka dhyaan kahan tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Tyohaar ke tohfe, paanch saal aur #
Ek aam tyohaar ka din sochiye jab “Mere bachchon se bhi waisa hi bartaav ho” zor se bol raha hai. Aapse wo bas ek nazar maangta hai.
Shayad tohfon ko ghoomte dekhna aur har ek par nazar rakhna, zor se ek “Wah, kitna sundar”, aur wrapping paper girte bachche ke chehre par ek chupchaap nazar.
Ye ek tasveer hai, bhavishyavaani nahi; jab chahein kinare rakh dijiye.
Usmein kya hai: pahunchna, namaste, tohfe bantna, ghar ki wapsi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya chhoot gaya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhte hue, agar kuch dikhe, to kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ek jaisa, ya har kisi se apne dhang ka apnapan? #
Ummeedein tab zyada nibhti hain jab wo asal mein ho sakne wali baat se mel khayein. “Inke saath bhi waisa hi karein” ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: wahi tohfa, wahi godi, wahi swagat, ya bas itna ki koi chhoote nahi.
Bachche alag-alag umar ke hote hain aur rishtedaaron se alag tarah se milte hain. Dadi chhote ke saath sahaj aur bade ke saath sankochi ho sakti hain, aur ye pakshpaat lag sakta hai jabki wo bas sahajta ka alag roop hai. Kuch logon ko isse chubhan kam lagti hai; kuch ko nahi, aur wo bhi sach hai.
Rishtedaar ke bachchon se sneh jatane ke jitne tareeke ho sakte hain, unmein kaun sa aapko theek lagega, aur kaun sa bahut zyada?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Jin palon ne chubhaya unke bagal mein ye bhi dekha ja sakta hai ki aapke bachchon ko pehle se kya mil raha hai: wo chachi jise unka pasandida biscuit yaad rehta hai, wo cousin jo unke liye khel mein jagah bachakar rakhta hai, wo chacha jo har baar wahi mazedaar kissa sunate hain.
Ye dekhne se oonch-neech wale pal theek nahi ho jaate, aur is par khush hona bhi zaroori nahi. Barabari ki fikar aur sachche apnepan ka pal, ek hi parivaar mein dono sach ho sakte hain, aur jab nazar kamre par tiki ho to apnapan aasaani se chhoot jaata hai.
Aaj kuch na soojhe to khaali chhod dijiye.
Aapka bachcha kisi rishtedaar se aam mulaqaat mein kya paata hai, jise aap aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Oonchi-neechi mehfil se sulah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki barabari maangna zyada hai. Matlab ye hai ki jo barabari aapne chahi aur jo kamra mila, unke beech ki doori jamavde ko chalana band kar de. Buniyaadi izzat aur hifaazat kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye.
Barabari ki asli baat bani reh sakti hai: bachchon ka swagat hona. Koi bachcha kisi ke paas dara hua lage to use gaur se dekhna theek hai. Agar bachche ko ladki-ladka hone, shakl-soorat ya parivaar mein aane ke dhang ki wajah se kamtar samjha jaye, to wo barabari ka sawaal nahi; use gambhirta se lein.
Agar koi rishtedaar aapko ya bachchon ko dhamkaye, peechha ya nigraani kare, ghar mein ya logon se door rakhe, paise se kaabu kare, ya dabaav daale ki aap jaise hain waise na rahein, to wo kuch aur hai; use gambhirta se lein. Aise mein chupchaap maan lena surakshit raasta ho sakta hai.
Sochiye, ek tyohaar is chaah se sulah kar chuka ho: apne bachchon ko kya karte dekhna aapko achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle jamavde ke liye ek pankti #
“Mere bachchon se bhi baaqiyon jaisa bartaav ho” se behas karne ki bajaay kuch maa-baap paas mein aisi pankti rakhte hain: “Meri chaah hai ki wo apnaye jayein, aur ek jamavde mein oonch-neech ke pal bhi ho sakte hain.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas pahunch mein rehna hai.
Aisi pankti shuru mein akdi hui lagti hai, jaise ek naap bada coat. Kuch logon ko istemaal se ye theek baithne lagti hai; kuch ko nahi, aur wo apni doosri pankti likh lete hain. Dono theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachchi pankti kya hogi, jo thaali mein aapke bachchon ki jagah bhi rakhe aur asli parivaaron ke liye gunjaish bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Tohfa thaile mein hi rehne dijiye #
Har oonch-neech wale pal ko taulna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko ek baar dekha, mann mein darj kiya aur thaile mein wrapping paper ke saath hi chhoda ja sakta hai.
Agar koi rishtedaar aapko ya aapke bachchon ko dhamkaye, peechha kare ya nigraani rakhe, aapko ghar mein ya logon se door rakhe, paise se kaabu kare, ya dabaav daale ki aap jaise hain waise na rahein, to wo kuch aur hai, aur gambhir hai; wahan maan lena surakshit raasta ho sakta hai. Bachche ki suraksha par dheel nahi.
Kisi pal ko aaj raat ke liye thaile mein chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya baat khatam hui. Bas itna ki shaam phir se aapki aur aapke bachchon ki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar barabari ki pakad zara dheeli pade #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed zara dheemi hai. Bachchon ko apnapan mile, ye chaah ab bhi hai, par ek oonch-neech wala pal bas ek pal hai, poori dopahar nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise tohfe dekhne ke baad bachchon ke chehre dekhna, ya bhare kamre ke kone mein kuch minute bas unhein khelte dekh lena.
Isme kisi ko kuch batane ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, wo aapka hai. Iske baad dekhenge ki is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka lagta hai, chahe zara-sa hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab koi farq aankh mein chubhe, to pehle ye dekhna ki wo kya mehsoos kara raha hai
- Agle jamavde mein wo ek pal dekhna jab aapka bachcha khil utha
- Ye dekhna ki kaun sa rishtedaar aapke bachchon ke saath sabse sahaj hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochhna: baat tohfe ki hai, ya mere bachche ko kaisa laga uski?
- Din mein ek aisi cheez dhoondhna jiska maza liya ja sake aur jiska barabari se koi vaasta na ho
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi ka. Jo ho sake, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kis rishtedaar ne aapke bachchon mein se kisi ka chehra khila diya, aur usne kya kiya?
- Jamavde mein bachchon ke saath kaun sa pal yaad karke aapko sabse achha lagta hai?
- Aapke bachche kya kahenge ki kisi ke ghar jaana kab achha lagta hai?
- Agar is chaah ki pakad zara dheeli pade, to agle jamavde mein aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?
- Aapke bachche ko kisi rishtedaar se pehle se kya milta hai, jise aap aur dekhna chahenge?