Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jab ek insaan har baar pehle aage badhta hai, baaki peeche hat sakte hain, aur phir maanyata sahi saabit dikhti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye bahut pehle shuru hota hai: wo bachcha jo school ke form ka hisaab rakhta tha, sabke birthday yaad rakhta tha, chhote bhai-behenon ko sambhalta tha, ya wo utha leta tha jo vyast maa-baap se nahi ho paata.
Neeche aksar aisa niyam hota hai: “Cheezein tabhi mehfooz hain jab maine unhein thaam rakha hai,” ya “Maine chhoda aur bigda, to mere sar.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Kisi aur ko mauka milne se pehle khud aage badh jaana
- Doosron ka kiya kaam dobara karna, kyunki samjhane se wo jaldi hai
- Poora plan sar mein dhona aur shaam tak uska bojh mehsoos karna
- Kheej mehsoos karna, phir kheej mehsoos karne par bura lagna
- Kuch bhi adhoora rehte hue band karna mushkil lagna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Bartan, kooda, aur chalti film
Sunday ki shaam. Bhopal ke MP Nagar mein roommates ke saath kiraye ka flat phir bikhra hai: sink mein bartan, kooredaan bhare, darwaze par joote ka dher. Baaki log film dekh rahe hain. Aap aah bharte ho, aasteen chadhate ho, aur bartanon mein lag jaate ho. Kisi ne kaha nahi tha. Par khayal wahi rehta hai: “Mere kiye bina ye hoga hi nahi.”
Aap na karein to koi nahi karega
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere kiye bina ye hoga hi nahi.” Ye zimmedaari jaisa lagta hai, aur kabhi sach bhi hota hai, kam se kam kuch waqt tak. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapko wo bana deta hai jo har baar aage badhta hai. Aapka aaram ab is par tika hai ki sab ho chuka ho, aur kyunki baaki jaante hain ki aap aage aate ho, unhein kabhi aana hi nahi padta.
Aage badhna cheezein kyun chalata raha
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki aage badhne se kabhi cheezein chalti rahi. Shayad ghar mein aap wo the jisne chupchaap wo kiya jo sab bhool jaate the. Shayad ek baar aapke bina cheezein bikhar gayi aur wo ehsaas aap dobara nahi chahte. Jo bhi ho, ye niyam bewakoofi nahi hai. Ye parwah se aur cheezein theek chalne ki chaah se aata hai. Use daya chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Thakan aur chupchaap jamti kheej
Har kaam thodi aur thakan jodta hai. Karte hue kheej aati hai, phir kheej par bura lagta hai. Jo adhoora hai wo sab dikhta hai. Bikhre kamre mein aaram nahi milta. Dheere-dheere aap sab dhone wale ban jaate ho, aaspaas wale aadi ho jaate hain, aur har beette hafte ke saath bojh zyada bhaari aur akela lagta hai.
Kya sab karna keemat ke layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya hamesha khud kar dene se kabhi doosre zyada haath bantane lage? Ya zyadatar thakan aur kheej badhi? Jab ek insaan hamesha aage aata hai, baaki aksar isliye nahi seekhte ki unhein kabhi zaroorat hi nahi padti. Jo bhi ho, sink ke bartan aapki keemat ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar thaamne ki keemat uske faayde se zyada hai.
Apna hissa, aur aaram bhi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab bikhar jaane dein. Matlab ye ki aapka aaram is par na tike ki sab ho chuka hai. Aap apna hissa kar sakte ho, poora hone par aaram kar sakte ho, aur jahan surakshit lage, kuch chhoti cheezein hamesha se thodi der aur padi rehne de sakte ho. Yahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: aapko apni shaamein milti hain, aur baaki apna raasta nikal sakte hain.
Where someone really does react badly, with anger, threats or fear, when a task is left, that is worth taking seriously, and doing it can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere kiye bina ye hoga hi nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleApna hissa karna aur aaram karna, dono mere liye theek hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Apna hissa poora hone par das minute baith jaiye
- Din 2
Bartan karne se pehle sabke saath film dekhiye
- Din 3
Kisi ka bina kahe kiya hua ek kaam gaur kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun sa kaam aap hamesha kar baithte hain, bhale wo aapka na ho?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wo vaakya jo kaam karte-karte nikalta hai #
“Mere kiye bina ye hoga hi nahi.” Dheere se kahi jaati hai, jab phir sabke ticket book ho rahe hon, office ki kitchen mein chai-cheeni bhari ja rahi ho, ya Bhopal ke Arera Colony wale flat mein Sunday ki shaam saara sink bhara ho aur ghar ka saara kaagzi kaam saamne rakha ho.
Saath mein aksar ek aah aati hai aur kuch pal ki thakan ya kheej, aur phir kaam ho jaata hai. Bahar se ye saleeqa lagta hai, aur aksar hota bhi hai. Andar se aisa, jaise sab kuch akele thaame khade hon.
Aakhri baar kab kaha tha, chupke se hi sahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaam kya tha, aur chhod dete to aapko kya hota dikhta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kisi aur ke hilne se pehle ka khinchaav #
Kuch log ise shaant pal mein khinchaav ki tarah mehsoos karte hain: WhatsApp group weekend ke plan par chup ho jaata hai, sink bharne lagta hai, deadline paas aati hai aur koi kuch nahi bolta. Kandhe kas jaate hain, aur kisi aur ko mauka milne se pehle haath kaam ki taraf chala jaata hai.
Kuch ke liye kuch adhoora rehte hue intezaar karna bechain karta hai, ek bechaini ki bhanbhanahat. Kaam kar dene se wo jaldi ruk jaati hai, isliye aage badhna faisle se zyada aadat lag sakta hai.
Us thehrav mein jab koi aur aage aa sakta tha, aapke sharir mein kya hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use bharne se pehle wo thehrav aamtaur par kitni der rehta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye kuch had tak sach hai, isiliye tika rehta hai #
Ye maanyata isliye manwane wali hai ki aksar iske paas saboot hota hai: wo baar jab sachmuch baat bigdi, wo trip jiski booking kisi ne nahi ki, wo report jo padi rahi. Jinmein thoda sach hota hai, un maanyataon par sawaal uthana sabse mushkil hai.
Par saboot mein ek chakkar hai. Jab ek insaan har baar pehle aage badhta hai, baaki peeche hat sakte hain, aur phir maanyata sahi saabit dikhti hai. Ye jaanna mushkil hai ki baaki kya karte, jab unhein kabhi jagah hi nahi mili.
Jahan koi sachmuch buri pratikriya deta hai jab kaam chhoot jaye, wo gambhirta se lene layak baat hai, aur wo kaam kar dena surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Kitni baar aapne sachmuch intezaar karke dekha ki koi aur karta hai ya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Maanyata jo hua us par bani hai, ya us par jise kabhi hone hi nahi diya gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo list rakhti hai #
“Chhod diya to kisi ko pata bhi nahi chalega.” “Rehne do, khud hi kar lena aasaan hai.” “Hamesha main hi kyun?” Awaaz thaki aur kaam ki baat karne wali hai, aur bolte waqt aksar kaam aadha kar chuki hoti hai.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz din ke kinaron par sabse tez hoti hai: raat ko jagkar list dohrate hue, ya chhutti mein jab baaki sab aaram karte hain aur ye agla qadam soch rahi hoti hai. Sharir chhutti le le, tab bhi awaaz shayad hi leti hai.
Jab ye kehti hai ki aapko hi karna hai, to awaaz kiski hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke apne soche-samjhe andaaz ki, ya bahut pehle thamayi gayi kisi bhumika ki?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye niyam aksar kahan se aata hai #
Kuch logon mein ye bahut pehle shuru hota hai: wo bachcha jo school ke form ka hisaab rakhta tha, sabke birthday yaad rakhta tha, chhote bhai-behenon ko sambhalta tha, ya wo utha leta tha jo vyast maa-baap se nahi ho paata. Bharose ka banna uske ghulne-milne ka tareeka ban gaya.
Kuch parivaron mein sachmuch cheezein tabhi hoti thi jab koi ek unhein uthata, aur wajahein alag-alag thi. Ek bachcha ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki ghar ki gaadi kheenchna uska kaam hai. Kuch log is niyam ko aise saalon tak le jaate hain; kuch nahi.
Sabse pehle kab aap wo bane jo pakka karta hai ki cheezein hon?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne gaur kiya, aur kya kabhi kisi ne wo aapke haath se wapas liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Sab kuch thaame rakhne wala chup-sa niyam #
Neeche aksar aisa niyam hota hai: “Cheezein tabhi mehfooz hain jab maine unhein thaam rakha hai,” ya “Maine chhoda aur bigda, to mere sar.” Aah wo hai jo log sunte hain; niyam wo hai jo haathon ko vyast rakhta hai.
Aise niyam tathya jaise lagte hain, gurutvakarshan ki tarah. Isiliye wo barson chalte rehte hain, aur isiliye ye gaur karna ki ye ek niyam hai, kahin seekha hua, kuch logon ke liye ise dekhne ki shuruaat hoti hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain; kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise aaj aaspaas ke logon ke saath dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye ab kin kamron mein fit baithta hai, kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Chupchaap sab dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai poore parivar, flat ya team ke liye planning, peecha karna aur yaad rakhna, aur uska thoda hi dekha jaana. Kuch log paate hain ki har jamavde mein wo sabse aakhir mein baithte hain aur subah sabse pehle uthte hain.
Ek chup-si keemat aur hai: ye logon ke aapsi ehsaas ghisa sakti hai. Kuch log unhin par dheere-dheere jamti kheej ki baat karte hain jinke liye ye kar rahe hain, aur akele list thaamne ke akelepan ki.
Kamzori se nahi. Ye us cheez ka bojh hai jo baanti ja sakti thi.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski kya keemat rahi: ek weekend, ek dosti, bas khud ki dekhbhal paane ka mauka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday #
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday sochiye, jis din “mere kiye bina ye hoga hi nahi” zor se chal raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad weekend ke plan ka group chat, bhejne wala ek form, peecha karne wala plumber, saajha kitchen ki safai, aisi meeting jiska follow-up kisi ne nahi liya. Shayad ek khaali jagah jahan koi aur aage aata hai, shayad nahi. Bas din, jaisa chalta hai.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur dekhne ko kuch sahi nahi hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, baatcheet, wo cheezein jo aazmayi nahi gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar aapko, agar kuch bhi, kya nazar aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Hoga hi nahi, ya aapke tareeke se nahi hoga? #
Kabhi “nahi hoga” ka matlab nikalta hai “mere tareeke se ya utni jaldi nahi hoga.” Ye alag baatein hain. Aur kuch logon ke paas sachmuch dheel nahi hoti, aur koi doosra aage aane wala bhi nahi.
Kuch cheezein sachmuch intezaar nahi kar sakti. Kuch kar sakti hain. Kuch log paate hain ki jab wo rukte hain to kaam alag dhang se ya der se hota hai; kabhi nahi hota, aur wo jaanna bhi kaam ka hai.
Is hafte jo cheezein aapne isliye kin ki koi aur nahi karta, unmein kaun si sachmuch ruk nahi sakti thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun si aakhir mein ho jaati, bas alag dhang se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Rukne par log kya dekhte hain #
Jab log kisi ek chhoti cheez par rukte hain, kuch dekhte hain ki koi aur aage aa jaata hai; kabhi koi nahi aata, aur darr us insaan ya us kamre ke baare mein sahi tha. Dono haal mein, ye kuch aisa hai jo maanyata ko pata nahi tha.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki list ka kitna hissa unse maanga hi nahi gaya tha. Wo isliye utha liya gaya ki sabse pehle unhein dikha, aur baar-baar uthaye jaane se unka ho gaya.
Aapki list ke kaun se kaam kisi ne sachmuch aapko diye, aur kaun se aapne kisi ke pehle utha liye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar unmein se ek din bhar mez par pada rahe to kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sab kuch chhodne ki zaroorat nahi #
Is maanyata se sulah ka matlab madad se inkaar karna ya jaanbujhkar cheezein girne dena nahi. Bharosemand hona asli taaqat hai. Badalta bas ye hai ki aage badhna kai chunavon mein ek chunav banta hai, ikalauta raasta nahi.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo ek-do aisi cheezein chun lein jo unke liye sachmuch mayne rakhti hain aur baaki chhoti cheezein khaali jagah mein thodi der padi rehne dein. Har cheez pakadna zaroori nahi.
Jahan koi sachmuch buri pratikriya deta hai jab kaam chhoot jaye, wo gambhirta se lene layak baat hai, aur wo kaam kar dena surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Baaki jagah, kaun sa ek chhota kaam bina asli nuksaan ke ek din ruk sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne layak ek zyada sachcha vaakya #
“Mere kiye bina ye hoga hi nahi” ki jagah kuch log ek zyada sachchi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Kuch cheezon ko meri zaroorat hai, aur kuch kisi aur ke liye ruk sakti hain.” Purane vaakya se seedhi behas ki zaroorat nahi.
Shuru mein iska sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ise bas purani se zyada sateek hona hai, aur kuch paate hain ki baar-baar kehne par wo purani line ki jagah thodi gherne lagti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo imaandaar ho ki sachmuch kya aap par tika hai aur kya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Vyast dinon mein purana niyam laut aata hai #
Vyast dinon mein purana niyam phir haavi ho sakta hai, aur kisi aur ke hilne se pehle haath har khaali jagah bhar sakte hain. Ye purani aadat hai, waqt kam hone par laut aati hai, aur ise daante bina dekha ja sakta hai.
Kuch logon ko bas itna gaur karna madad karta hai: “Lo, list phir aa gayi.” Kabhi aage badhna ab bhi sahi faisla hota hai. Vyast din mein bhi ye jaanbujhkar kiya chunav reh sakta hai.
Shaam ke liye list rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki baat sahi thi, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ki raat ise dhote hue bitana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar maanyata zara-si dheeli pade #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek paayedaan dheema ho gaya. Kuch cheezon ko ab bhi aapki zaroorat hai, aur kuch ko shayad nahi, ya aaj nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise subah tak pada sink, aisi meeting jahan follow-up kisi aur ko jaye, ya shaam ka aadha ghanta sirf apne liye.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi ko batana zaroori nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #
- Jab khinchaav aaye, dekhiye kaun sa hissa zyada tez hai: kaam, ya uski fikr
- Chupchaap poochhiye: kya ye abhi hona zaroori hai, aur kya iske liye main hi chahiye?
- Ek chhota, kam-jokhim wala kaam (sehat ya suraksha ka nahi) ek din pada rehne dijiye
- Jab kuch aapke tareeke se alag hua ho, use bas ek baar waise hi rehne dijiye
- Aaj ki ek chaah par gaur kijiye, kitni bhi chhoti
Chhoti baatein hain, aur sab aapki marzi par. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun sa kaam aap hamesha kar baithte hain, bhale wo aapka na ho?
- Agar aap use kisi aur par chhod dein, to aapko kya hota dikhta hai?
- Iske neeche kaun sa ehsaas hai: thakan, kheej, fikr, ya kuch aur?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bolta hai, us din aap phir bhi kya taal rahe hote ho?
- Agar ye thoda dheela pade, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?