Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Khud par bharosa karna ek baat hai; sirf khud par karna doosri.
Kuch logon mein ye jaldi shuru hua: ek vaada jo toot gaya, bade jo bahut khinche hue the, wo bachcha jise pata hota tha ki school ke forms kahan rakhe hain.
“Mujhe bas khud par hi bharosa hai” ke neeche kuch logon ko doosra vaakya milta hai: “Agar logon par bharosa kiya, toh phir nirasha hi haath lagegi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Doosron ka kaam chupchaap dobara karna, taaki “theek se” ho
- Kisi ki baat khatam hone se pehle hi “rehne dijiye, ho jayega” keh dena
- Har baar yaad rakhna jab madad nahi aayi
- Har plan ka sabse mushkil hissa bina kahe khud le lena
- Koi aur zimmedar ho toh bechain rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Teen manzil, akele dibbe
Sunday, Indore, Vijay Nagar ke paas kiraye ka naya flat. Teesri manzil, lift nahi. Aap bhaari dibbe akele upar chadhate ho, peeth par paseena bahta hai. Padosi kehte hain, “Laiye, haath laga doon.” Aap muskurakar kehte ho, “Rehne dijiye, ho jayega.” Do ghante baad, dibbon se bhare kamre mein farsh par baithe ho, itne thake ki ketli tak dhoondhne ki himmat nahi.
Bharosa bas khud par hi
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mujhe bas khud par hi bharosa hai.” Ye mazboot aur aazad lagta hai, aur kai maynon mein hai bhi. Upar se seedhi samajhdari jaisa. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har bojh sirf aapke kandhon par rakh deta hai. Madad pesh hone se pehle hi thukra di jaati hai, aur aap aisi cheezein dhote ho jo ek insaan ke liye bani hi nahi thin.
Doosron par bharosa jokhim kyun laga
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki doosron par nirbhar hona kabhi jokhim bhara laga. Bahut se log kisi roop mein ye seekhte hain, aur us waqt iska matlab banta tha. Shayad kisi ne zaroorat ke waqt nirash kiya. Shayad jaldi bada hokar akele sambhalna seekhna pada. Aazadi ki qadr karna zid nahi hai. Ye surakshit aur qaboo mein mehsoos karne ki chaah se aata hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har “rehne dijiye” ka bojh
Har baar jab aap “rehne dijiye” kehkar akele dhote ho, bojh bhaari hota jaata hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Jo kaam baante ja sakte the, unhein karke thakaan chadhti hai. Logon ke beech bhi akelapan lagta hai. Jisne madad nahi ki, us par kheej aati hai, jabki aapne maangi hi nahi thi. Jo taakat bachati thi, wo dheere-dheere deewar jaisi lagne lagti hai, aur aap uske peeche thakaan mein rehte ho.
Kya sab khud dhona vajib hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya sirf khud par bharosa karne se kabhi bojh halka hua? Ya zyadatar thakaan aur akelapan aur badha? Chhoti madad lena sab par nirbhar hona nahi hai. Kai mazboot log kabhi-kabhi kisi ko dibba uthane dete hain. Haath ki zaroorat padna aapki taakat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai?
Mazboot, aur haath ke liye khula
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab par bharosa kiya jaye, ya apni aazadi chhodi jaye. Matlab ye ki har dibba khud dhona zaroori nahi. Ek chhoti peshkash maankar dekha ja sakta hai ki kya hota hai. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek pal se. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki taakat aapki rehti hai, aur bojh ka kuch hissa bant jaata hai.
If the people around you have hurt, threatened or frightened you, relying on yourself can be the safe choice there; that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe bas khud par hi bharosa hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhmein dam hai, aur chhoti-si madad lena bhi theek hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte madad ki ek chhoti peshkash ko haan kahiye
- Din 2
Us ek insaan ko notice kijiye jo aapke liye bharosemand raha
- Din 3
Ek bhaari kaam aaj shaam ke liye neeche rakh dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Khud karna aasaan hai, ye aapne pehli baar kab tay kiya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kuch shabd jo sab kuch dho lete hain #
“Mujhe bas khud par hi bharosa hai.” Mann hi mann kahi jaati hai, jab raat gyarah baje kisi aur ke hisse ki report dobara ban rahi ho. Ya poore parivaar ka trip phir se book ho raha ho. Ya saamaan ke thaile teen manzil upar chadh rahe hon, bina kisi se kahe.
Ye kadvi nahi lagti. Shaant aur sakshm lagti hai, jaise kisi sabaq ka nichod. Aur aksar sabaq sach mein mila hota hai: madad nahi aayi, ya aadhi-adhoori aayi, aur khud kar lena us waqt samajhdari thi.
Aakhri baar ye kab socha, chahe chupke se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Usse theek pehle kya hua tha, aur us pal akele aapke haath mein kya bacha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Koi kahe usse pehle jabda kas jaata hai #
Kuch logon mein ye halka-sa kasna hota hai: jabda kasta hai, kandhe thode uthte hain, haath kaam ki taraf badh jaata hai isse pehle ki koi kuch kahe. Ye taakat jaisa lag sakta hai, aur ek tarah se hai bhi.
Aksar body soch se pehle tay kar leti hai. Koi kahe “aap rehne dijiye, hum dekh lenge”, aur andar kuch chupchaap chaukanna ho jaata hai, unka kaam jaanchne ki taiyaari mein, aadha toh khud karne ko nikal chuka.
Jab koi madad ki peshkash kare, toh aapki body kya karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Dheela padkar lene deti hai, ya chupke se jaanchne ko taiyaar ho jaati hai, kahin kuch bigad na jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye samajhdari jaisa lagta hai #
Khud par bharosa karna aksar saraha jaata hai, aur vajib wajah se. Isse kaam hote hain. Isliye ye yaqeen ek asli taakat ke andar chhipa rehta hai, aur asli taakaton par koi sawaal nahi uthata, khaaskar wo jiske paas wo hai.
Par vaakya mein “bas” hai. Khud par bharosa karna ek baat hai; sirf khud par karna doosri. Pehli ek kaam ka auzaar deti hai. Doosri chupchaap baaki saare auzaar hata deti hai.
Bahut se log do-teen nirashaon ko sabke baare mein niyam bana lete hain.
Aapka niyam kin palon par tika hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur ab wo kitne logon ko gherta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo sab kuch dobara jaanchti hai #
“Theek se karwana hai toh khud karo.” “Kisi ke bharose mat rehna.” “Khud kar lena aasaan hai.” Ye awaaz tez aur vyavaharik hai, aur aksar tab bol padti hai jab kisi aur ne koshish bhi nahi ki hoti.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki ye sabse zyada tab zor pakadti hai jab wo sabse zyada thake hote hain, theek usi waqt jab madad sabse kaam ki hoti. Ye haath badhane ki peshkash ko theek us shaam thukra deti hai jab ek haath sabse zyada farq daalta.
Ye kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisi ek insaan ke baare mein aapki soch-samajhkar ki parakh, ya purana sabaq jo ab har milne wale par laagu ho gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ek niyam jo us waqt samajh mein aata tha #
Kuch logon mein ye jaldi shuru hua: ek vaada jo toot gaya, bade jo bahut khinche hue the, wo bachcha jise pata hota tha ki school ke forms kahan rakhe hain. Khud kar lena kaam poora hone ka sabse pakka tareeka tha.
Kuch mein ye baad mein aaya: ek group project jise ek aadmi ne uthaya, shared flat jahan bill hamesha ek hi jagah aate the, office ka handover jismein jagah-jagah khaali tha. Niyam bewaqoofi nahi tha. Wo ek asli haalat ka samajhdar jawab tha.
Khud karna surakshit hai, ye pehli baar kab thana tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Koi ek saaf pal jo aaj bhi yaad hai, ya kai chhote-chhote jo dheere-dheere jud gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Niyam kiski hifazat kar raha hai #
“Mujhe bas khud par hi bharosa hai” ke neeche kuch logon ko doosra vaakya milta hai: “Agar logon par bharosa kiya, toh phir nirasha hi haath lagegi.” Pehli line kahi jaati hai; doosri gaadi chalati hai.
Niyam ne ek asli kaam kiya. Jab madad nahi aayi, tab cheezein chalti rahin. Ye ek khaas waqt aur khaas logon ke liye bana tha, aur shayad aaj bhi aadat se sab par, har jagah chal raha hai.
Kya ye fit baithta hai, ya kuch aur hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aaj ki zindagi ke kin logon par ye sachmuch baithta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kuch aise hain kya jinke baare mein ye kabhi tha hi nahi, par wo bhi shamil kar liye gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Sab kuch dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai office mein teen logon ka hissa uthana, har parivaarik mel-milap ki planning, laptop theek karna, plumber ke peeche padna, aur kabhi aisa din na milna jab koi aur soochi sambhale.
Kuch log aisi thakaan batate hain jise ek raat ki neend nahi chhoti, aur bhare-poore dinon ke beech bhi ek akelapan. Kuch dekhte hain ki logon ne dheere-dheere poochhna band kar diya, kyunki jawab hamesha “nahi-nahi, ho jayega” hota tha.
Ye kami nahi hai. Ye us niyam ka wazan hai jo kuch bhi neeche rakhne ki jagah nahi chhodta.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: ek shaam, ek dosti, madad paane ka ek mauka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday #
Ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye, bhavishyavani ki tarah nahi: kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday, jab “mujhe bas khud par hi bharosa hai” din chala rahi ho.
Shayad wahi der raat ki spreadsheet, parivaar ki wahi plan jo akele banayi gayi, kisi dost ki madad ki peshkash ka “sab sahi hai” jawab. Kuch naatkiya nahi. Bas ek bhara din, ek jodi haathon mein.
Yahan kuch sahi dekhna nahi hai, aur theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Soochi mein kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kiske haath mein kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday aur usmein sab kuch dekhkar, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Sirf khud par, ya zyadatar? #
“Bas” ki jagah “zyadatar” rakhkar dekhiye: “Zyadatar mujhe khud par bharosa hai.” Wahi taakat, wahi hunar. Par ab ek darwaza zara khula rehta hai, un ek-do logon ke liye jo pehle aaye hain.
Bharosa sab ya kuch nahi nahi hota. Kai log dost par airport chhodne ka bharosa karte hain, par bade faisle ka nahi; colleague par slides ka, par client call ka nahi. Sahi aakaar ka chhota bharosa bhi bharosa hai.
Kisne aapke liye, ek baar bhi, chhote dhang se bhi, kaam kiya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kis aakaar ki cheez unke haathon mein theek lagegi, agar kuch bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Gaur se dekhne par kuch ko lagta hai ki niyam kuch teekhi yaadon par tika hai aur shaant yaadon ko chhod deta hai: padosi jisne parcel rakh liya, dost jo hospital ke waiting room mein baitha, colleague jisne shift sambhali.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki sab kuch khud karne se wo kisi ko saath dene ka mauka hi nahi dete. Isliye niyam ki kabhi pariksha nahi hoti, aur wo bas isliye sach bana rehta hai.
Aakhri baar kisne aapko madad karke chaunkaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhle saal ki imaandaar ginti mein kya aayega, agar chhoti, bina maangi madad bhi ginti jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sab par bharosa karna zaroori nahi #
Is yaqeen se sulah ka matlab sab kuch thama dena nahi. Kuch logon ko sachmuch nirash kiya gaya hai, aur wahan saavdhani samajh mein aati hai. Maqsad andha bharosa nahi hai. Maqsad hai har maamle mein alag se chunna.
Saavdhan hissa reh sakta hai. Uske paas ek chhoti, nayi aadat ke liye jagah bhi ho sakti hai: ek insaan ke haath mein ek chhoti cheez ki kalpana, aur ye notice karna ki kalpana karte hue andar kya hota hai.
Aisi kaun-si ek chhoti cheez hai jo kisi aur ke haath mein reh sakti hai, jismein agar thoda bigad bhi jaye toh chalega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mujhe bas khud par hi bharosa hai” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Kuch baaton ke liye khud par bharosa kiya ja sakta hai, aur kuch logon par bhi.” Ye taakat rakhti hai aur thodi jagah jodti hai.
Shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas “bas” se zara zyada sateek hona kaafi hai. Kuch logon ke liye aisi line dheere-dheere us jagah ka thoda hissa le leti hai jo purani gherti thi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo kathin tareeke se seekha hua bhi rakhe aur darwaza zara-sa khula bhi chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Jab koi phir se chook jaata hai #
Kuch din purana niyam zor se lautta hai, aksar theek tab jab kisi ne phir nirash kiya ho. Ye samajh mein aata hai. Nirasha chubhti hai, aur purana sabaq wahin hai, “kaha tha na” kehne ko taiyaar.
Kuch logon ko naam dena madad karta hai: “Lo, phir wahi niyam.” Chubhan asli ho sakti hai, aur niyam ko turant maanne ki jagah notice bhi kiya ja sakta hai.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki jo hua wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki aaj raat ise baaki sab mein saath nahi chalna.
Aaj raat kaisi dikhegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheela hai. Zyadatar cheezein ab bhi aapke haathon par tiki hain, par har ek nahi.
Kai log pehle chhoti cheezein batate hain: koi aur jo dinner chune, report jo teen baar ki jagah ek baar jaanchi gayi, lift jo bina lambe bhashan ke le li gayi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #
- Jab khayal aaye, usse chupchaap poochhiye: sirf khud par, ya zyadatar?
- Wo pal notice kijiye jab “rehne dijiye, ho jayega” nikalta hai, aur usse pehle ka aadha second
- Mann mein ginye ki abhi aapki thaali mein kitni cheezein hain
- Ek chhota kaam kisi aur ke haath mein sochiye, aur ehsaas notice kijiye
- Ek baar yaad kijiye jab kisi ne saath diya, aur kuch pal uske saath rukiye
Sab chhote, sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.