Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jab degree kaafi na lage, to aisa mehsoos ho sakta hai ki sauda toot gaya.
Kuch log ise un maa-baap tak le ja sakte hain jinhein padhne ka mauqa nahi mila aur jo kehte the “Degree le lo, use koi chheen nahi sakta.”
Is khayal ke peechhe aksar ek niyam hota hai: “Agar mere paas yogyata hai, to mujhe naukri milni chahiye,” ya “Mere number khud bolne chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Der raat tak aur, aur naukriyon ke liye apply karte jaana
- Ek aur course jodna, is ummeed mein ki ek aur certificate palda jhuka de
- Sawaalon se bachne ko rishtedaaron ko applications ke baare mein batana band karna
- Apne number ki tulna unse karna jinhein naukri mil gayi
- Barson ki padhai par hi shak karne lagna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek aur “We regret” email
Patna mein ek aur email: “Thank you for applying, we regret…” Aapke paas degree hai, masters hai, certificate hain, achhe number hain. Jo kaha gaya tha, wo sab kiya. Aap laptop band karke deewar par frame ki hui degree dekhte rehte ho, aur bhaari, uljha-sa ehsaas baith jaata hai, jaise jin niyamon par aap chale the wo bina bataye chupchaap badal gaye hon.
Meri degree kaafi honi chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Meri degree naukri ke liye kaafi honi chahiye.” Ye bilkul waajib lagta hai. Bahut se log bina soche is par chalte hain. Aapne mehnat ki hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har inkaar ko aapke barson ki padhai par faisla bana deta hai. Agar degree ko kaafi hona tha, to har “regret” lagta hai ki aapmein kuch gadbad bata raha hai.
Padhai se kaam ka vaada kyun laga
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki hamein bataya gaya ki padhai se kaam milta hai. Bahut se log is niyam ka koi roop lekar bade hote hain, aur us waqt uska matlab bhi banta tha. Shayad aapke parivar ne un degrees ke liye tyaag kiye. Shayad aap barson der raat tak padhte rahe. Degree ke gine jaane ki ummeed nasamjhi nahi. Ye apni mehnat ka kahin pahunchna chaahne se aati hai, aur narmi ka haqdaar hai.
Har inkaar ka wazan
Har inkaar ka email thoda wazan jodta hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere sab jama hota hai. Aap apni degrees par shak karne lagte ho. Unse tulna karte ho jinke paas kam yogyata thi aur naukri mil gayi. Paarivaarik jamavdon mein jhenp hoti hai. Padhai ka garv dheere-dheere kheej mein badalta hai, aur har subah inbox kholna daravna lagne lagta hai.
Kya ye purana vaada laayak hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya is niyam ko thaame rehne se inkaar kam chubhe? Ya zyadatar har inkaar nijee lagne laga? Bharti aksar waqt, kitno ne apply kiya, kiski jaan-pehchaan thi, ya sanyog par tiki hoti hai. Bahut se inkaar applicant ke baare mein kam kehte hain. Jo bhi ho, ek email aapki barson ki mehnat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske laayak hai?
Jo aapne seekha, wo aapka hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aapki yogyata maayne nahi rakhti. Rakhti hai. Matlab ye ki ek inkaar ab tay nahi karta ki aapki padhai ki keemat kya thi. Aapne asli cheezein seekhi hain, aur wo ab bhi aapki hain. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aap apply karte rah sakte ho, har “regret” ko apne baare mein faisla banaye bina.
If a rejection was about your name, accent, where you come from, caste, religion, gender, age or a disability, or anyone threatens you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri degree kaafi honi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleJo maine seekha wo mera hai, koi bhi email kuch bhi kahe.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Mann mein ek cheez ka naam lijiye jo seekhi aur ab bhi kaam aati hai
- Din 2
Email din mein ek baar dekhiye, ghante-ghante nahi
- Din 3
Inkaar ke baad koi ek pasandida kaam kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapne jo padha usmein aapko sabse zyada kya pasand tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Deewar par degree, screen par email #
Chaar saal ki padhai. Achhe number. Frame mein jadaa certificate, jise Papa ne ghar aaye har mehmaan ko dikhaya. Aur ab inbox mein gyarahvaan email: “Thank you for applying, we regret…” Tabhi chupchaap, ziddi-sa khayal aata hai: “Meri degree naukri ke liye kaafi honi chahiye.”
Ye koi naya graduate ho sakta hai, koi jiski masters ki degree hai aur shehar badal raha hai, ya koi trained professional jiske certificate nayi jagah maanya nahi. Kaagaz haan kehta hai. Duniya keh rahi hai, abhi nahi.
Aapki padhai ne kab koi darwaaza khola, bhale chhota, aur us pal kaisa laga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Email khulne par chhoti-si dubki #
Kuch log ise email padhne se pehle hi mehsoos karte hain: pehla shabd “regret” chooke hue kadam ki tarah takrata hai. Kuch ko sapaat thakaan mehsoos hoti hai, phone chupchaap ulta rakh diya jaata hai.
Aise dher saare emails ke baad body kisi bhi ko kholne se pehle tan sakti hai. Inbox aisi jagah ban jaata hai jahan sambhalkar jaana padta hai, aur ye tanna apni taakat leta hai.
Jab inkaar ka email aata hai, to use poora padhne se pehle aapki body kya karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Padhai se darwaaza khulna tha #
Ye ummeed usi par bani hai jo bahuton ko bataya gaya. Mann lagakar padho, degree lo, darwaaza khul jayega. Is vaade mein barson ki mehnat, parivar ke tyaag aur baaki cheezon se door beeta waqt laga hai.
Jab degree kaafi na lage, to aisa mehsoos ho sakta hai ki sauda toot gaya. Inkaar poori padhai par faisla lagne lag sakte hain, jo dhone ke liye bhaari baat hai.
Aapki padhai ne aapko aisa kya diya jis par certificate ke alawa bhi khushi hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Inkaar padhne wali awaaz #
“Itne saal padhai ki, aur ab bhi ye?” “Experience maangte hain, milega kahan se?” “Sabko to naukri mil rahi hai.” Raat mein awaaz tez ho sakti hai, jab inbox aakhri baar dekha jaata hai.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz naukri se seedhe khud par bahut jaldi pahunch jaati hai, “ye post nahi, abhi nahi” ko apne baare mein ek kahani bana deti hai.
Jab inkaar aata hai aur awaaz shuru hoti hai, to wo kitni jaldi naukri se aap par pahunch jaati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Degree ke vaade ki shuruaat #
Kuch log ise un maa-baap tak le ja sakte hain jinhein padhne ka mauqa nahi mila aur jo kehte the “Degree le lo, use koi chheen nahi sakta.” Auron ke liye ye teacher the jo toppers aur unki achhi naukriyon ki taraf ishaara karte the.
Kuch parivaaron mein degree ko achhi zindagi ka sabse surakshit darwaaza bataya jaata hai. Ye pyaar aur tyaag se di gayi ummeed hai. Par naukri ka bazaar apne niyamon se chalta hai, aur salah se tez badalta hai.
Kisne aapse kaha ki aapki degree darwaaze kholegi, aur wo aapke liye kya chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Degree wala niyam #
Is khayal ke peechhe aksar ek niyam hota hai: “Agar mere paas yogyata hai, to mujhe naukri milni chahiye,” ya “Mere number khud bolne chahiye.” Ye waajib niyam hai. Par bharti shaayad hi kabhi ek niyam par chalti hai.
Kuch log is niyam ko school tak le jaate hain, jahan number hi faisla karte the; kuch us paarivaarik kahani tak ki degree sab badal deti hai. Jo bhi ho, degree ko bura kahe bina is niyam ko dekha ja sakta hai.
Degree wala niyam aapko kahan bharosa deta hai, aur kahan har inkaar ko un saare barson par faisla bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Degree ke kaam karne ke intezaar ki keemat #
Inbox refresh karte guzri shaamein. Paarivaarik jamavde jinse “Kuch khabar aayi?” ke sawaal ki wajah se dar lagta hai. Jo padha us par dheere-dheere ghatta garv. Ye keematein chupchaap jama hoti hain.
Kuch log intezaar mein wo cheezein bhi chhod dete hain jo unhein pasand hain, mano khushi naukri ka intezaar kare. Isse intezaar zaroorat se lamba aur bhaari ho sakta hai.
Naukri aane tak aapne kya rok rakha hai, aur uska thoda-sa abhi ho paye to kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Desk par ek aur “Regret” #
Ek aam shaam sochiye jab “Meri degree kaafi honi chahiye” zor se baj raha hai. Laptop, naukri ki sites, deewar par frame kiya certificate. Ye bas ek khaaka hai, dekhne ke liye.
Shayad deewar par degree ke saamne ek aur inkaar ka email padha jaata hai, phir ek aur application, phir bistar mein phone dekha jaata hai.
Ye ek shaam hai, koi poorvanumaan nahi, aur aap isse hat sakte ho.
Us shaam mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kuch dikhe to kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Bharti ka faisla kai cheezon se ek saath hota hai #
Bharti aksar waqt, kitno ne apply kiya, kiski jaan-pehchaan thi, ya sanyog par tiki hoti hai. Bahut se inkaar applicant ke baare mein kam kehte hain, siwaye tab jab wajah aapka naam, lehja, aap kahan se hain, jaati, dharm, gender, umar ya koi viklangta ho; wo alag hai, aur gambhirta se lene laayak.
Isse inkaar aasaan nahi ho jaate, aur aapki ummeed galat nahi ho jaati. Bas itna ki email shayad bazaar ke baare mein bata raha ho, aapke ya aapki barson ki padhai ke baare mein nahi.
Agar koi ek inkaar sachmuch waqt ya sankhya ki wajah se tha, aapki wajah se nahi, to wo kaise alag padha jayega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapki padhai ne pehle hi kya diya hai #
Certificate ke alawa bhi kuch pehle se ho sakta hai: sochne ka ek tareeka, koi vishay jise ab bhi padhna achha lagta hai, un barson ke dost, aur ye seedhi baat ki aapne kuch mushkil poora kiya.
Akele ye us naukri ki jagah nahi le sakte jiski talaash hai. Par ye bhi wahan hain, aur bhool jaana aasaan hai jab kamre mein inbox sabse zor se bolta ho.
Aapki padhai ne aapko ab tak kya diya hai, sochne ke dhang mein ya jaan-pehchaan mein, jise koi inkaar ka email chheen nahi sakta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Aapki padhai aapki rehti hai, offer ho ya na ho #
Sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki yogyata maayne nahi rakhti. Chaahna ki degree gini jaye, waajib hai. Matlab ye ki ek email, ya gyarah, ye tay na karein ki aapki padhai ki keemat kya thi.
Insaaf aur izzat “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi, aapke liye aur har applicant ke liye. Aapke naam, lehje, aap kahan se hain, gender, jaati, dharm, umar ya viklangta ki wajah se lautaya jaana aisa inkaar nahi jisse sulah ki jaye; ise gambhirta se lena theek hai.
Agar talaash se din bahut waqt se bhaari lag rahe hain, to wo kisi application se zyada maayne rakhta hai, aur koi bharosemand vyakti use sun sakta hai.
Kal ki kalpana kijiye, ummeed is baar narmi se thaame: aisi kaun si ek cheez karte ho jismein aapki jaankari kaam aaye, bas apne liye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Inbox ke liye ek line #
“Meri degree naukri ke liye kaafi honi chahiye” ke bagal mein kuch log rakhte hain: “Mera seekha asli hai, aur bazaar dheema hai; ek doosre ko nahi kaatta.” Kisi line ko jeetna zaroori nahi.
Naye inkaar wale din ye bahut thehri hui lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko apne shabd behtar baithte hain.
Apne shabdon mein aap kya likhenge, aisi line jo apni padhai par garv rakhe aur har email ka wazan halka kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Inbox raat ke liye band ho sakta hai #
Har inkaar aaj raat do baar padhna zaroori nahi. Use dekha ja sakta hai aur darj kiya ja sakta hai, kisi chitthi ki tarah jise wapas lifaafe mein tah karke rakh diya jaye.
Degree ke gine jaane ki ummeed aapki reh sakti hai. Aap jo hain uski wajah se lautaya jaana doosri shreni hai, jo gambhirta se lene laayak hai.
Aaj raat inbox band karne ka matlab ye nahi ki inkaar sahi tha, ya kuch tay hai. Bas itna ki shaam kisi aur cheez ki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar aaj raat degree ko khud ko sabit na karna ho #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye, wahi email, ummeed thodi naram. Aap padhte ho, aur phir dekhte ho ki aur kya seekha hai: padhai mein, ghar par, chhote-mote kaamon mein, zindagi mein.
Yahan chhoti cheezein gini jaati hain: thodi shaant shaam, maze ke liye kholi purani copy, college ke kisi dost ko phone.
Ye nijee hai, aur ismein kuch bhi zor se kehna zaroori nahi. Agle cards is ummeed se sulah par aur us par hain jo pehle se yahan hai.
Pehla chhota farq kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kaun si chunenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Chhoti cheezein, apne taur par aazmane ko #
- Apne vishay par kuch aisa padhiye jo bas anand ke liye ho
- Inkaar ka email aaye to us ehsaas ko ek shabd mein naam dijiye
- Padhai ka wo ek hunar sochiye jo aap bina dhyaan diye istemaal karte ho
- Har shaam ek samay tay kijiye jiske baad inbox band rahe
- Dekhiye ki chubhan naukri ki hai ya barson ki padhai ki
Jo ho sake wahi aazmaiye. Yahan kuch bhi zaroori nahi.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapne jo padha usmein aapko sabse zyada kya pasand tha?
- Aapki padhai mein kisne saath diya, aur unhein usse kya milne ki aas thi?
- Aapke paas kaun sa hunar hai jo kisi certificate mein nahi dikhta?
- Agar inkaar kam chubhte, to aap apni shaamein kaise bitate?
- Aapki padhai ne aapko pehle hi kya diya hai, jiska aap aur maza lena chahenge?