Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Sabse bhaari hissa kai baar “pata nahi kyun” hota hai.
Bahuton ne jaldi seekha ki chuna jaana kuch kehta hai.
Neeche-neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Agar mujhmein dam hota, to naam mera hota,” ya “Meri mehnat tabhi ginti jaati hai jab mujhe chuna jaye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Elaan ki mail baar-baar padhna, har line mein koi wajah dhoondhte hue
- Jise mila usse katrana, aur saath hi usse bahut shishtata se pesh aana
- Dugni mehnat karna, taaki aisa dobara na ho
- Chupchaap koshish chhod dena, kyunki koshish se farq padta nahi dikha
- “Koi baat nahi, itni badi baat bhi nahi thi” kehkar bojh akele ghar le jaana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Priya ko gaya role
Friday ki shaam, Hyderabad ke Gachibowli wale office mein. Mail aati hai: team lead ka role Priya ko gaya. Baad mein shaant cabin mein manager muskurakar kehte hain, “Kaam bahut achha raha. Agle cycle mein dekh lenge, theek hai?” Aap “zaroor” kehte ho, thoda mann se bhi. Lift mein seena kasa hua hai. Ghar par poora saal dimaag mein dohrate ho, dhoondhte hue ki kahan chook hui.
Dam hota to naam mera hota
Pehle seedhi baat: role na milna aapke saal ka faisla nahi hai, aur aapki qadr ki sachchai bhi nahi. Par aise dinon se ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo phir aapka ho jaata hai: “Agar mujhmein dam hota, to naam mera hota.” Ye sachchai jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ek faisla us poore saal ko chupchaap radd kar deta hai jis par aapko naaz tha.
Chuna jaana kyun maayne rakha
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki chuna jaana aksar mehnat ke dikhne ka tareeka raha hai. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai. Shayad EAMCET ki rank aur Reddy garu ke bete ke number har daawat mein goonjte the. Shayad aapne jee-jaan se kaam kiya aur chaha ki dikhe. Chuna jaana chaahna lalach nahi. Ye mehnat ke gine jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Ummeed na rakhna kya le jaata hai
Har yaad dilane wali baat kuch chhota le jaati hai. Itni chupke se ki pakadna mushkil hai. Priya ko dekhkar muskaan zara zyada sambhali hui. Aage kya chahiye, ye batana band. Jis kaam mein maza aata tha, wo bematlab lagne lage. Nayi position nikle aur aap scroll karke aage badh jaayein. Dheere-dheere bahut taakat ummeed na rakhne mein chali jaati hai, taaki dobara chubhe hi nahi.
Kya tulna karna iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se agla faisla kabhi aapke haq mein gaya? Ya zyadatar bas tulna aur thakaan mili? Ek role ka faisla kai cheezon se banta hai, aur unmein se kuch hi aapse judi hain. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal is par rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapki shaanti ki is keemat ke layak hai?
Na chuna jaana, kaafi na hona nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki faisla sahi tha, ya aap aur ki chaah chhod dein. Matlab ye ki ek faisla ab tay nahi karega ki aapke saal ki keemat kya thi. Mayoosi mehsoos karte hue bhi kaam par naaz ho sakta hai. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek pal mein: ek sachchi badhai. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapki mehnat phir se aapki lagne lagti hai.
If work ever comes with threats, being shouted at or frightened, or pay or papers held back, that is not okay and is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar mujhmein dam hota, to naam mera hota.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleIs baar chuna nahi gaya. Mera kaam phir bhi ginta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is saal ke kaam ka ek hissa chuniye jo rakhne layak hai
- Kadam 2
Tulna shuru ho to ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Aaj apne liye ek chhoti-si ummeed rakhne dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapne isse kya hone ki ummeed rakhi thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Teen shabd, poore saal ki ummeed ke baad #
Appraisal ke baad cabin mein manager muskurakar kehte hain: “Kaam bahut achha raha is saal. Agle cycle mein dekh lenge, theek hai?” Team lead ki mail mein naam kisi aur ka. Shabaashi ki baaton mein sabka zikr, aapka nahi. Shabd aksar naram hote hain, phir bhi darwaza band hone jaisa lagta hai.
Baat ek vaakya ki nahi hoti. Mahinon se chupchaap pali gayi ummeed hoti hai: der raat tak rukna, upar se liye gaye kaam, mann mein bani tasveer ki ye mila to kya badlega. Aur wo sab kuch second mein neeche rakh diya jaata hai, jabki baaki sab apni kursi par laut jaate hain.
Aakhri baar kab kisi aisi cheez mein peeche reh gaye, jiski aapne ummeed ki thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo kya thi, kitne samay se ummeed thi, aur kin shabdon se aapko pata chala?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle ki wo khamosh giraavat #
Pet mein kuch dhansta hai, muskaan zara der tak tiki rehti hai, “congrats” type karte haath akad jaate hain. Kisi ka chehra garam ho jaata hai, koi ekdam shaant aur sapaat ho jaata hai. Ismein ochhapan ya badtameezi jaisa kuch nahi.
Jab ummeed wali cheez kisi aur ko chali jaati hai, to body ise chhote nuksaan ki tarah leti hai, kyunki wo hai bhi. Wajah, timing aur aage kya jaise shaant sawaal aksar raat ko aate hain, mail padhne ke bahut baad.
Us pehli pratikriya se pata chalta hai ki ummeed kitni badi thi.
Jab wo naam dikha jo aapka nahi tha, tab body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Chuppi, kaam mein lag jaana, ya kamre se nikal jaane ka mann?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Saal bhar ki mehnat par faisle jaisa lagta hai #
Peeche reh jaana isliye chubhta hai kyunki lagta hai ki mehnat ginti hi nahi gayi. Poore saal ka jawab ek faisle mein, aksar bina saaf wajah ke. Kai log is chuppi ko aise sunte hain jaise kisi ne dheere se bata diya ho ki wo kahan khade hain.
Sabse bhaari hissa kai baar “pata nahi kyun” hota hai. Saaf wajah na ho to mann khaali jagah mein sabse kadi wajah bhar deta hai, aur wo andaaza kisi ke kahe hue se zyada pakka lagne lagta hai.
Isiliye ek naram-sa “agle cycle mein dekhenge” hafton goonjta rehta hai.
Abhi dekhein to zyada kis baat ka dukh hai: na milne ka, ya wajah na pata hone ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab faisla andar se bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno to peeche reh jaana andar aa baithta hai. “Shayad taiyaari utni nahi thi jitni sochi thi.” “Uske paas aisa kya tha jo mere paas nahi?” “Koshish karne ka faayda hi kya?” Ye tab chalu ho sakta hai jab kisi colleague ki taareef ho, nayi position nikle, ya aapka apna achha kaam poora ho.
Faisla lene walon ko shayad wo baat dobara yaad bhi na aaye, par awaaz tulna karti, rank lagati aur andaaze lagati rehti hai. Ise pakadna mushkil isiliye hai: ye ek faisle ki pratikriya nahi lagti, ye apne baare mein seedhi-sachchi baat lagti hai.
Jab ye dimaag mein “taiyaar nahi” kehti hai, to ye awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi result-list ya daawat ki mez se barson pehle mili hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai logon ke liye chuna jaana pehle se maayne rakhta tha #
Bahuton ne jaldi seekha ki chuna jaana kuch kehta hai. Class mein aage ki bench, EAMCET ki rank par poore mohalle ki nazar, daawat mein rishtedaar: “Reddy garu ke bete ka to rank mein naam aaya.” Kisi ne gaur kiya ki pehle kise chuna gaya, aur baaqiyon ke baare mein chupchaap kya matlab nikala.
Result ki list apni parat jodti hai: naam kram se, har naam ke aage rank, ek cut-off jo tay karta tha ki kaun kahan jayega. Kuch log chupchaap ye nateeja lekar nikle ki chuna jaana hi qabiliyat ka saboot hai aur na chuna jaana uska ulta.
Chuna jaana pehli baar kab aapka paimana lagne laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Zyadatar chunne wala kaun hota tha, aur aapke ghar mein uske na chunne ka kya matlab tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Agar mujhmein dam hota, to naam mera hota,” ya “Meri mehnat tabhi ginti jaati hai jab mujhe chuna jaye.” Kuch log iska halka roop dhote hain: “Ummeed hi na rakho, to chubhegi nahi.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo bas seedhi baat lagte hain, jaise result ki list sach lagti hai, aur isiliye inhein kisi aise din dheere se nikaalkar dekhna theek hai jab koi elaan nahi ho.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: chuna nahi gaya, to kaafi nahi tha.
Ye kin jagahon par ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Faisla dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki jis colleague ko mila, uske saath dosti mein akad aa jaye. Dil kam lagakar kiya kaam, kyunki faayda hi kya. Apply na karne, ummeed na rakhne aur haath na uthane ki aadat. Kuch log kisi ko batate hi nahi ki unhein kya chahiye, taaki peeche reh jaane ki koi wajah hi na bache.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab ek faisla aapki qadr ka paimana ban jaata hai, to aam taareef khokhli lagne lagti hai, aur doosron ki khushkhabri aisi lagti hai jaise aapse kuch chheena gaya ho, bhale aisa na hua ho.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Jo faisla kisi ne sunaya hi nahi, use dhona thaka deta hai.
Tab se kya gaya: koi mauka jiske liye koshish nahi ki, koi dosti jo thandi pad gayi, koi kaam jiski parwah chhoot gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, chune jaane ke intezaar mein #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “agar mujhmein dam hota, to naam mera hota” andar zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad koi position nikli aur apply nahi kiya, kisi colleague ki khushkhabri par kasi hui muskaan, badhiya khatam kiya kaam jo kisi ko dikhaya nahi. Shayad koi chaah jo ab khud se bhi zor se nahi kehte.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein neeche rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, colleague, chupchaap rakhi gayi ummeedein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Is baar nahi chuna gaya, apni wajahon se #
Kisi role ya project ka faisla kai cheezon se banta hai: budget, timing, kaun kise jaanta hai, us timahi team ko kya chahiye. Inmein se kai wajahon ka us insaan se kam hi lena-dena hota hai jo nahi chuna gaya, bhale hi baat nijee lage.
Aksar wo aisa kuch hota hai ki “ye role is baar kisi aur ko gaya.” Ye vaakya “main kaafi nahi hoon” se chhota aur sachcha hai, aur uthana kahin aasaan.
Poochiye: theek-theek kya tay hua, ek seedhe vaakya mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar kisi kareebi dost ka saal bhar ke achhe kaam ke baad number nahi aata, to uski mehnat ke baare mein aap kya sochte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ki uski ginti nahi hui, ya ki faisle mein usse zyada cheezein thin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log faisle ko dheere se dekhte hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki saal bhar ka unka kaam usse badla nahi. Jo project achha gaya, achha hi gaya. Jo colleague un par nirbhar tha, ab bhi hai. Kahani mein ek faisla juda hai; usmein se kuch ghata nahi.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo ek faisla sun rahe the aur baaki saare ishaare ansune kar rahe the: ek client jisne naam lekar manga, ek junior jisne inse seekha, ek manager jisne March mein mushkil kaam inhi ko saunpa.
Is saal ke in shaant ishaaron mein se pehle kaun sa yaad aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur agar har ek ki ginti hoti, sirf us faisle ki nahi, to aapke saal ka sahi hisaab kaisa dikhta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Tulna jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Peeche reh jaane se sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki faisla sahi tha, na ye dikhawa ki chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek faisle ka is par kam chale ki aap apne kaam ko kaise dekhein, aur kal subah office mein kaise kadam rakhein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo jise mila usse khud ki tulna band kar dete hain. Uski jeet aapki haar ka paimana nahi, aur tulna chalaye rakhna kai baar us faisle se zyada le leta hai.
Ise neeche rakh dena kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaisa lagega agar asli mayoosi rehne dein, jo jaayaz hai, aur apne baare mein wo faisla ankaha rehne dein, kyunki wo kisi ne sunaya hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar elaan ke baad se “mera kaam kaafi nahi nikla” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachchi line rakhte hain: “Is baar mujhe chuna nahi gaya. Mera kaam phir bhi ginta hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane vaakya se zyada sahi ho, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki tulna shuru hone par chupchaap dohrane se, faisle ne jitni jagah gheri thi usmein se thodi wapas milti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo mayoosi ke baare mein imaandaar ho par use apne upar faisla na banaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har mayoosi ko wajah, plan ya ye saboot nahi chahiye ki unhone galat kiya. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke baad laptop bag ghar pahunchkar farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye aur paane ki chaah chhodna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse us kaam ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo unhein pasand hai, aur un logon ke liye jo pehle se dekhte hain ki wo kya laate hain.
Aaj shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki faisla sahi tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki ise khaane, neend aur baaki sab mein saath nahi chalna padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Na chuna jaana ab bhi chubhta hai, par wo ek faisla hai, aapki qadr par muhar nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ek sachchi badhai jisme kuch kharch na ho, aisa kaam jo bas isliye kiya jaye ki karna achha lagta hai, ya koi ummeed jo phir se rakhne di jaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Faisle ko apne liye ek seedhe vaakya mein likh lijiye
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi na-chune-jaane wali awaaz”
- Is saal ke kaam ka ek hissa chuniye jis par aaj bhi khushi hoti hai
- Tulna shuru ho to ek dheemi saans lijiye aur pair zameen par mehsoos kijiye
- Koi ek waqt yaad kijiye jab kisi ne aapki mehnat sach mein dekhi, aur use ginne dijiye
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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